Broke Men Should NOT Date?! She HATES America?! Husband CRASHES Show! | Dating Talk #121
Date: 2023-11-27
Duration: 7h 17m
Guests
Brian AtlasIdentified Speakers
SPEAKER_02Kenderly Ryan(guest)
SPEAKER_03Abigail(guest)
SPEAKER_04Carla Elia (overlap)(guest)
SPEAKER_05Carla Elia(guest)
SPEAKER_06Monica (Swedish Bella)(guest)
SPEAKER_07Anna(guest)
SPEAKER_10Gloria Calderone(guest)
SPEAKER_11Mason Gregoire(guest)
SPEAKER_12Dustin (Carla's husband)(guest)
SPEAKER_13Brian Atlas(host)
SPEAKER_14Holly Treats(guest)
Key Moments
00:02:39
QuoteHolly Treats introduces herself as full-time content creator since 2015 including OnlyFans
“hi my name is Holly treats I'm 28 years old and I live in Los Angeles and I've been a full-time content creator since 2015”
00:03:02
QuoteCarla Elia introduces herself as relationship coach who went viral for controversial stance
“hello my name is Carla Eli I'm 23 years old and I'm a relationship coach and I live in San Diego”
00:03:38
QuoteKenderly Ryan introduces herself as adult film star of 14 years who now manages performers
“I'm kenderly Ryan um I am 32 years old I am from Los Angeles California and I I'm an adult film star of 14 years and I also now started managing lovely women”
01:45:10
QuoteMonica reveals her open marriage is only open for pegging
“the thing is he's not into it right into what the pegging part um wait is it you guys got an open marriage yes only for pegging”
03:59:00
ControversyKenderly's tweets read on air: 'white people don't have culture' and 'it's not racist for black women to humiliate white men'; she stands by both
“I still stand by that very strongly. It's not racist for black women to humiliate white men. That's how I feel. It's called reparations for your ancestors.”
04:48:12
QuoteHolly refuses to share body count saying she 'never reveals her secrets'
“Holly treats I've got I put a lot out there so there's plenty of find other than body count you should put a little more out there”
04:49:30
QuoteKenderly declines to give body count number but gives range: ~50 professional scenes + 50-100 private partners, sexually active since age 13
“I've done about 50 scenes and I've had about 50 to 100 private Partners okay I became sexually active at 13”
04:52:12
QuoteAbigail shares body count of ~14 and expresses regret about not respecting herself
“it's 28 I used to not have very good respect for myself when I was younger and I wish I would have gone back in Ma and hold my younger self respect yourself”
04:58:00
QuoteMonica shares body count of 25-30 and reveals it stemmed from seeking validation due to abusive mother
“probably between 25 and 30 like I'm 40 but also I was in a bad place when most of that happened I my mom was super abusive so I just tried to find love wherever I could”
04:59:00
QuoteKenderly says body count 8 then laughs it off
“eight I'm not so interesting okay”
04:59:42
QuoteMason (SPEAKER_11) reveals body count of zero as a 27-year-old virgin
“Mason oh yeah uh zero Z zero Z hand Z Henderson okay good for you”
05:05:06
QuoteCarla rates herself as 'average' to be relatable to her followers
“I was going to say that I was average too I think I'm I'm an average and just because if I'm average and I can get this life that I have then all the other ladies can have the same thing”
05:11:42
QuoteCarla states her position on broke men: absolute — broke men at 30+ should not be dating
“absolutely broke men like financially and mentally sure... if you're 31 40 and you're still broke there's something wrong with you”
05:14:42
QuoteCarla reveals she was a virgin before marriage, which explains her high standards stance
“she was a virgin before she met her husband so I think that's why they said it because they paid attention that she was a virgin before”
05:59:36
QuoteDustin (Carla's husband) introduces himself: ex-Navy, 25, aspiring police officer
“so tell us a little bit about yourself Dustin... I'm uh 25 uh just recently got out of the military... I've been in the process for going on to the police force for about a year now uh should be going in in January”
06:07:48
QuoteDustin describes household dynamic diplomatically when asked if he's under a dictatorship
“I do not think I'm under a dictatorship I I run my household okay uh she just makes the food and uh points me in the right direction”
06:10:30
QuoteDustin describes realizing Carla was different when she refused to hold his hand on first date
“I knew I knew this was a different breed of woman”
Topics Discussed
00:00:22
Introductions and relationship statuses
Guests introduce themselves: Holly Treats (28, LA, content creator/OnlyFans since 2015), Carla Elia (23, San Diego, relationship coach, viral for 'broke men' stance), Kenderly Ryan (32, LA, adult film star 14 years/manager), Abigail (22, Missouri, personal trainer), Monica Swedish Bella (40, Sweden/LA, bikini competitor/OnlyFans/former teacher), Anna (26, Ukraine, 4 years in USA, actress/ecommerce), Gloria Calderone (31, New York, real estate investor), Mason Gregoire (27, mech engineer/powerlifter/Christian). Relationship status round follows.
00:06:26
Relationship status and dating styles round
Holly: single, dating 3 men (2 long distance), recently had someone fall off her roster. Carla: married 1.5 years, virgin before marriage. Kenderly: single 5-6 months, female FWB situationship, also sleeping with 2 men currently. Abigail: single ~1 year, sees someone 6 months (on/off). Monica: married 6 years (slid into DMs). Anna: married, met 4 years ago, married 3 months after meeting. Gloria: married within 4 months of meeting. Mason: single, virgin saving for marriage.
00:27:00
Open relationships, polyamory, and Monica's pegging arrangement
Monica reveals her marriage has an open arrangement for pegging only. Discussion of what constitutes an open marriage and emotional vs physical boundaries.
03:59:00
Kenderly's controversial tweets about white people and America
Brian reads Kenderly's tweets: 'white people don't have culture' and 'it's not racist for black women to humiliate white men'. Kenderly stands by both statements. Group debate on cultural appropriation, double standards, and whether statements are racist. Kenderly says she's half-Mexican. Monica (Polish) and others push back.
04:24:00
Body count discussion and double standards
Brian asks everyone to share body count. Holly refuses. Kenderly gives range (~50 scenes + 50-100 private, sexually active since 13). Abigail: ~14 (by graduation, mostly from 2-month phase at 16-17; regrets it). Monica: 25-30 (most from period of seeking validation due to abusive mother). Gloria: declines (husband watching). Mason: 0. Anna: declines. Debate on double standards for male vs female body count, whether men with high counts can expect low counts, and whether hookup culture is harmful.
05:03:22
Self-ratings (looks 1-10)
Ratings round. Holly: 7 average, can dress to 10. Carla: average/5 (doesn't want to say 10 to be relatable to her followers). Kenderly: 5 appearance, 10 personality. Abigail: 6. Monica: 5 (self-described). Gloria: 8. Mason: 7.5-8. Brian: 5 (gained weight, downgraded from 6).
05:08:36
Carla's viral content reviewed — 'broke men shouldn't date'
Brian reviews Carla's news articles (New York Post, The Mirror, The Sun) and multiple TikTok videos. Carla explains her position: men with provider mindset should show their resources naturally; broke men at 30+ have limiting beliefs and should focus on finances first; women are precious investments. Discussion involves all guests on whether broke men should date/marry/have children. Carla advocates being a virgin and rotational dating without intimacy.
05:46:48
OKCupid attractiveness data and male/female rating disparities
Brian shows OKCupid chart: men rate women on a bell curve while women rate 80% of men as unattractive. Discussion of why women are harsher judges of male attractiveness and how this affects dating marketplace dynamics.
05:50:00
Dating logistics: men working 60-70 hours, submission, and love languages
Discussion of whether women can handle men working very long hours for high income. Monica says she needs her man at home. Carla says women should have their own life alongside a wealthy man. Love language discussion: Monica and Anna both say acts of service/cooking are how they express love to husbands. Brian and Mason discuss appreciating wives' cooking regardless of quality.
05:59:36
Husband Dustin crashes the show
Carla's husband Dustin (ex-Navy, 25, aspiring police officer) joins the panel mid-show. Describes meeting Carla on Bumble, first coffee date (she's allergic to alcohol), spontaneous Denny's and meeting her family. He showed her his finances/credit score/savings on third date. Says 'I knew this was a different breed of woman' when she refused to hold his hand on first date. Describes household as: 'I run it, she makes the food and points me in the right direction.'
06:08:00
Rotational dating debate
Brian and Carla debate rotational dating concept. Brian prefers undivided romantic attention immediately. Carla clarifies rotational dating means spending time with multiple men without intimacy or kissing. Dustin confirms he was fine with it because Carla was clearly not being promiscuous. Monica shares she had no idea how to date after an 11-year relationship ending and found long-distance courtship via Skype valuable.
06:39:00
Protective husband video (Carla's TikTok)
Brian plays Carla's TikTok about asking a man what he would do if a fight broke out — is he the type to pull out his phone or fix it? Dustin responds to the video about himself, saying he would assess the situation for his family's safety and take video evidence for police if appropriate. Carla says knowing her husband would protect the family is the most attractive thing.
Transcript
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04:45:32
Brian Atlasanswer the question that's totally fine but I don't need the corresponding attitude that comes with your refusal to answer the question if you don't want to answer the question now and I feel like why don't we just move on with this conversation yeah well
04:45:45
Brian AtlasI'm going to continue the conversation if you don't want to answer the actual question that's directed at you don't that's fine however I'm going to continue talking about super um hard for
04:45:56
Monica (Swedish Bella)us women to talk about this because we are shamed for it we are shamed for our sexuality I'm sorry but I'm going to put it not by you I'm not saying I'm not saying this is yes but
04:46:09
Brian Atlasmen are Discerning just as women are Discerning when it comes to who they choose to partner with so just women have preferences standards and stop interrupting just as women have plenty
04:46:20
Brian Atlasof Standards preferences and boundaries so too do men men are allowed to have preferences standards and boundaries when it comes to who they sleep with uh have long-term relationships with and marry and one of those factors that's
04:46:32
Monica (Swedish Bella)very important for men is past promise cuy current current promise cue and body count but there is a difference if you ask a man who's on here if she was a guy and you asked him and he said I had 100
04:46:44
Monica (Swedish Bella)dudes on here in the comment will be you're the king there differences there's differences yes they are but if a woman says she has a 200 she's a
04:46:54
Monica (Swedish Bella)so that's I can tell you why yes you don't have for so this is what I'm saying whatever it's she doesn't want to talk about it because she doesn't she doesn't want to and that's final that's
04:47:08
Brian Atlastotally cool I don't need the corresponding attitude in any case to answer your question why is there this supposed double standard and so I don't think that it's actually desirable for men to be particularly promiscuous and
04:47:21
Brian Atlassleep with a bunch of women my own personal standard is if I sleep with a girl I want there to be continuity I want to continue seeing her so I'm not interested in just going from chick to Chick to Chick just like one night stand
04:47:32
Brian Atlasone night stand one night stand sure but are but sure but um I don't think it's necessarily like it's not high value or Alpha like if you just sleep
04:47:44
Brian Atlaswith a bunch of women and get herpes and you're now bringing herpes to all your future Partners I'm not saying you are no no no okay so but I can I can explain why this double standard exists and it's primarily
04:47:56
Brian Atlasbecause getting sex for women is incredibly easy whereas it's I agree compar comparatively speaking it's much harder for men any woman if she was so inclined could be a not every guy can be a agreed there are men who
04:48:10
Brian Atlassignificantly strugg with dating getting laid any woman I she can be overweight she can be ugly if she wants to she can be a not every guy
04:48:19
Monica (Swedish Bella)can her male looks equivalent can not easily be a I I I don't disagree with you the the issue here is not all all men are respectful in the way you
04:48:29
Monica (Swedish Bella)are where you actually want to meet somebody and have a connection okay and that's the men that come at us with the attitude yeah but men get shamed for for all kinds of things they're not I'm not
04:48:41
Kenderly Ryansaying they're not I'm absolutely not saying but it's not affecting their Securities and their confidence the ways us question is hookup culture a bad thing yes terrible okay so you cannot
04:48:53
Brian Atlashave the corresponding belief that hookup culture is a bad thing but we can but but shaming the behavior that that facilitates hookup culture is
04:49:05
Brian Atlasundesirable shame is a very powerful tool and frankly I think we ought to shame let's say I I I'm trying to figure out how I best want to frame this uh we should bring back shaming yeah I'm in
04:49:16
Monica (Swedish Bella)favor of shaming I do I do agree with you the thing is what all women are different right all women have gone through different trauma when it comes to relationships and when it comes to
04:49:28
Monica (Swedish Bella)sexuality and I think well they have there as well as men have I'm not saying men are not without sexual trauma women and men men don't talk about it which is a shame because I think they should
04:49:41
Monica (Swedish Bella)because there is sexual trauma for men as well and it should be discussed but I'm not going any any bad way I'm just trying to say that we we want to discuss
04:49:51
TTS/Donationsdifferent things derpington 71 donated $100 Kendra this is Brian's podcast we understand you are triggered by the question you are the guest be respectful
04:50:04
Brian Atlasand don't give him the Sass while telling him what to do on his show it's called wait am I does he think I'm Kendra no it's me I popped off actually well it was you three and then you being
04:50:16
Kenderly Ryanlike the The Sisterhood when it came to this question but it's it's all we're here for a reason to have heated discussions and get there if you found it disrespectful I'm sorry I was just
04:50:25
Kenderly Ryangetting I and I'm apologizing to you not them because they're the ones paying to talk so go ahead keep paying to talk to us I appreciate it but Carla I mean or
04:50:36
Brian Atlasuh Kendra no no well you're Carla uh you objected to me asking the qu this question um perhaps you think it's rude to ask a woman's body count but I mean in one of your videos which we're going
04:50:47
Brian Atlasto get to here in a sec you say that within the my understanding you advise Women Within the first three dates to your husband if I recall you found out
04:50:57
Brian Atlashis credit score his bank statements hell yeah you found out um how much money he had saved yeah yeah okay so if women are able to ask that question I think men are just huh I didn't ask that
04:51:10
Carla Eliaquestion well he just shared it okay that's fine shared it he was proud he was proud he was confident sure that's fine do you advocate for women asking for that information so usually that's a great question I usually say no I say
04:51:23
Carla Eliathat a man who's like happy where he's at where like we want to meet men who are at their Peak I say they will naturally just show you and you'll if if you are like I'm not showing that
04:51:34
Carla Eliawell well no no no I know it depends right it depends it depends and I was in a and it depends what type of woman you have in front of you because you'd be surprised when you find that woman that in like truly like inspires you to be
04:51:46
Carla Eliathe best man you want to be like you do things that you never thought you would and that's a man in love so uh I actually tell my ladies to not ask to let him kind of like show you cuz I
04:51:57
Carla Eliathink it's a little rude and most of the time um provider mindset men or men who are at their Peak and extremely confident where they are and they want that woman they want to show them their resources this is what I got is this enough for you because that's what he's
04:52:10
Carla Eliasaying whenever a Man shows you everything he's like is this enough for you can you live within my means can you live within this okay we can come to that later um so I don't I going around
04:52:20
Brian Atlasthe table you said that there were 50 you did 50 scenes and 5200 in your private life that's people not men sure what about you okay I'm just going to say hell yeah let's go okay
04:52:33
TTS/Donationsthere I don't really care because I respect myself now I used to not really respect life donated 101 concerning the two 43s if body count is deemed
04:52:45
TTS/Donationsinsignificant discussions should be less sensitive true it's evident that the matter holds importance despite attempts to downplay it filthy filthy that's true that's true if it didn't matter when it
04:52:56
Abigailbe such a touchy subject go ahead anyway it's 28 I used to not have very good respect for myself when I was younger and I wish I would have gone back in Ma and hold my younger self respect yourself and it's going to be okay and
04:53:08
Brian Atlasyou'll find someone good so 28 okay well first off I just want to say I appreciate your honesty because uh and for being willing to answer the question because certainly you know there's some people have hesitation when it comes to answering that and I certainly
04:53:21
Brian Atlasappreciate your cander and forthcoming this with uh answering that question so um yeah yeah respect honesty always always respect on honesty so yeah it it
04:53:32
Brian Atlasseems like you've done a lot of like emotional work to work through that absolutely I have been I think that's it's important and I'm reading the chat here all the chat they're saying like respect
04:53:43
Brian Atlasyeah exactly respect for the honesty so thank you appreciate it yeah but one question you're currently saving yourself from Marriage yeah absolutely but do you think you'll like follow
04:53:53
Abigailthrough with that you think I would like to I mean if the PE string didn't happen you would have let's be real yeah I would have yeah I would really like to be led by a good man yeah okay I would I
04:54:06
Brian Atlashave faith in you you did it okay I mean I know how I have willpower to do it so and was this like was there a cuz we've heard you know there's these
04:54:15
Brian Atlasterms was there a phase that oh like a bulk of these yes was there certain like five years well
04:54:25
Brian Atlascuz you're you're 22 correct yeah so was there a phase like were you in college did you go to college no I actually went through firefighting school oh
04:54:33
Abigailfirefighting really it was it um I used to just do volunteering for about 4 years but um I went through firefighting school right after I got out of high
04:54:46
Abigailschool and it was awesome but the pay wasn't good enough so I decided to Branch out and do my own thing but I still go out and see the guys and say hi at the station and stuff so I'm still part of that Community okay all right um
04:54:59
Brian Atlasand uh so tell us about the fa was it was there a phase there was in high school oh this it was in high school it was like junior
04:55:09
Abigailyear wait okay you're 22 so junior year so you were what 17 uh yeah 16 17 right when I got a car pretty much okay yeah I want when you got the
04:55:20
Abigailcar Freedom it lasted about it lasted like a couple months it was like a party phase it wasn't all the it wasn't all the guys in a couple months but I wanted to have fun and see what was out there and I was like n this is not for me by
04:55:33
Brian Atlasthe time you graduated in high school by the time you were 18 if you had to put a number to it do you know how many I would say
04:55:42
Abigaillike 14 probably when I graduated 14 mhm okay 14 when you graduated it was really sporadic I really tried to date people and it's like they would just leave and
04:55:55
Brian AtlasI do believe like if you give it up quick a guy will almost not respect you and almost leave in a way not necessarily I some some guys some I think all my long-term relationships
04:56:07
Kenderly Ryanwell I had to learn special you're special it is true and I know coming from me it's a little ironic but since I got single I've been making everyone wait 2 to 3 months and it's worked pretty good well I mean it's for what I
04:56:20
Abigailneed out of it what I need out of it like if you respect respect yourself people will respect you MH and that's that's a big part of it and I did not respect myself back then think so I I
04:56:30
Brian Atlasthink some men use the whole if she sleeps with a guy too soon sleeps with me too soon I don't respect her thing I I don't really think that that's the
04:56:40
Brian Atlasbest metric for assessing somebody's long-term potential uh me personally I I think that there's much stronger indicators when it comes to long-term
04:56:51
Brian Atlascompatibility or values or you know potential promis cuty than the rapidity with which somebody sleeps with you because I mean there's my own personal
04:57:03
Brian Atlasexperience most of my long-term relationships um many of which were very healthy and fantastic yeah second date you know second time hanging
04:57:13
Brian Atlasout um so there's definitely much better metrics not metrics there's much better things that you can look at to assess for potential promiscuity for example agree I agree with that as well and also
04:57:25
Brian AtlasI'm just not a big fan of like arbitrarily waiting um so yeah just yeah yeah so well yeah it honestly I guess it
04:57:35
Abigailjust depends on like your partner and also their beliefs when you into a new relationship like you want to respect them so that they respect you as well I
04:57:46
Abigailmean obviously the last guy I was seeing we decided to have sex and do that as well because we were very we had a lot of strong feelings for each other and sometimes I can get overwhelming and you
04:57:57
Abigailjust you do it and it happens obviously but if I'm with someone that also would want to wait till marriage just like I do if I get into that relationship then
04:58:08
Monica (Swedish Bella)I will and I'll respect that okay what about you probably between 25 and 30 like I'm 40 respect the honesty thank you um but also I was in a bad
04:58:20
Monica (Swedish Bella)place when most of that happened I my mom was super abusive so I just tried to find love wherever I could and I thought that was the right way to do it because if guys want to have sex with me that
04:58:31
Monica (Swedish Bella)means I'm worth something you know MH because of my mom um but yeah I wish do I wish I didn't yeah of course but you you know you live and learn and yeah
04:58:42
Kenderly Ryanthat's the way it is eight I'm not so interesting okay you're still interesting of course I bet those are the best dat of your life baby um so
04:58:54
Gloria Calderonehuh H don't I know you're going to like hate me for this but I don't feel comfortable with talking about stuff like that because I know my husband's watching and I want to respect him that's fine
04:59:04
Brian Atlasum Mason oh yeah uh zero Z zero Z hand Z
04:59:13
Brian AtlasHenderson okay good for you okay um yeah all right I think we covered body count pretty much okay we have one thing and then that go that's going to lead us
04:59:24
Brian Atlasinto some of Carla's videos here and then we'll get try to get the husband up I reckon uh hold on let me get these let me get these chats in here um oh did I miss hold on I think I one of the chats fell off I'm gonna have to
04:59:37
Brian Atlasdouble check that while we're checking on that though still trying Abigail what's the word 65 Blue Collar 40 acres you can bring me Lemonade while I chop wood till the garden and build your home gym how do you feel about homeschooling
04:59:51
Abigailsix kids I'm here for it yay she said she do anything she's here for we have can we come to the wedding um as long as you don't make a
05:00:02
Brian Atlasscene be nice you can come to theed all right I'll bring my boots and my cowboy hat my guns do it then we have inton here that accidental button press was accurate though Brian definitely a mil
05:00:15
Brian Atlasand all of a sudden oh excuse me in all of the women in this panel she's the most wife material likely wait which likely oh okay I think the mil oh okay
05:00:25
Kenderly Ryanyeah okay thank you guys that's the nickname for the night the mil CH a
05:00:35
Brian Atlasmil oh Infantry formated I thought I don't know why that got triggered my bad my bad my bad okay I'm just double cheing cuz I feel like I
05:00:45
Holly Treatsmissed one of these hold on guys one sec well while I wait so 43 and 304 interchangeable like does it mean the same thing it's an insult term but does it mean the same thing if they're both
05:00:57
Holly Treatsif it's like not the right numbers but can somebody like fill me in yeah what is that it's like their way of basically just being like online troll wh or whatever they want like it's it's like their their version of like on the
05:01:09
Holly Treatsinternet so many comments that I just don't understand so did I pull up the I'm not totally sure the origination of it but it basically just means evil
05:01:18
Brian Atlaswitch on the internet wait guys Nick did I pull up the Pu the puffy Vegas one okay you know a lot so hold on guys stop it's a priscu
05:01:30
Brian Atlaswoman that's what three of four is sure okay uh puffy Vegas I'm sorry I'm not able to pull it up on screen but this is from puffy Vegas thank you man that every woman on the face of the Earth
05:01:42
Brian Atlasreferring to the Asian video no man will ever get tired of that the reason why you believe that is because you're female friends are lying to you in reference to the Bowing video I believe thank you puffy Vegas I wouldn't I
05:01:55
Kenderly Ryanwouldn't get bored she says I'd get bored I wouldn't get bored never get bored every one of my friends that are married have yeah no you're wrong sorry they all get bored they all get over it
05:02:06
Kenderly Ryanthe husbands they all get over it get over bowing the yeah so that's when the dynamic changes in their relationship and they end up becoming Partners they stop being submissive in Domination or
05:02:16
Brian Atlassubmissive and dominant are you saying that you have like a SW swas of married friends two that bow close they did and
05:02:26
Kenderly Ryanthen they literally bowed I mean no no they weren't like no but they would do the cooking the cleaning the shoes oh no everything down to a te we're talking about literally bowing I'm talking I'm
05:02:37
Brian Atlastalking like actually like sorry I thought it was the figurative of can I see a bow a little a bow check let's do a bow check bow check just stand up can you no you got to stand up and do let me
05:02:49
Background voicelet me see a bow all right let's see let's see the bow check oh my legs I'm cramping up me too
05:02:59
Brian Atlasaall beautiful that's pretty good I give it like a B minus it was it's good EG please oh okay you know practice makes perfect practice
05:03:10
Brian Atlaspractice okay um oh Nick can you pull up that one from Stiffler this is going to lead into our Carla videos finally here at the end of the show ask everyone to rate their
05:03:22
Holly Treatslooks on a scale of 1 to 10 we're going to go around the table on this starting with you go ahead like me rate my own looks yeah your own physical appearance oh I mean in my mind I'm like an 11 but
05:03:35
Holly Treatsin these guys minds they're going to be like that 304 is like a two so it's let's say average five what what no I like Z nobody here thinks
05:03:45
Holly Treatsthat I I don't I don't even know what to answer anymore I I'm probably like I'm probably like seven on on like an average day like I feel like I average
05:03:55
Carla Eliaseven then I can dress myself up to 10 all right okay okay all right I was going to say that I was average too I think I'm I'm an average and just because if I'm average and I can get
05:04:07
Carla Eliathis life that I have then all the other ladies can have have the same thing can they though they can well the women that do work with me and the women that follow me there's so many women who feel
05:04:18
Carla Elialess than and I don't want more women to feel less than if I say like I'm an 11 out of 10 I'm a 10 out of 10 I'll just say that I'm average okay what about you it's just appearance just looks just appearance
05:04:30
Kenderly RyanI'm a five for just appearance I'm a five for my personality so I'm a 10 I think that's how math work heard it here first it is it's called girl math girl math girl math Abigail what about you I'm going to go
05:04:42
Abigailsix okay I still have room to improve everybody does all right okay I'm Sol five oh into the mic I'm a Sol of five okay all right I would say six okay we got a humble group here I guess yeah
05:04:54
Gloria Calderonegoodness I was going to say eight oh my God these alarms I'm sorry guys I live off and it's not birth control cuz I'm not on it um uh I would say I'm
05:05:04
Mason Gregoireany any yeah Mason what about you H I say probably seven and a half eight on a good day okay all right good pump going good pump can we see the double buys
05:05:16
Kenderly Ryanagain yeah the double buy 12 it's a 12 it's a 12 you're a virgin it's now a 15 you just the mark value the PQ wait do we
05:05:29
Monica (Swedish Bella)get to rate if we have a pump as well because def are you saying are you trying to dou a leg pump a leg pum oh I'm all about leg pump have a butt pump
05:05:38
Holly Treatsoh I but my legs my wait what is a butt pump it's like muscles when you so it pumps your muscles it's not like
05:05:51
Monica (Swedish Bella)go you're having a GL day and you're like looking okay you're pumping your butt or my abs are popping then I feel like I give uh I give I used to give
05:06:02
Brian Atlasmyself a six but I've gained a little bit of weight so I've downgraded myself to a five no getting a little chubby my face is getting a little chubby I need to lose a bit of weight I'm working on
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Brian Atlasit though I'm working on it you know it's stressful life I'm a personal trainer I can help if okay we could talk after the show okay we'll talk we'll talk I might be in Missouri but I do online as well all
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Brian Atlasright okay all right um okay so uh wait hold on uh let me just double check we could just pull up the video but I had some actually prenotes before
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Carla Eliathat um what who why you rolling your eyes the video Are you ashamed of your own videos the hot no no it's not that it's not that I'm ashamed I just think I've done a lot
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Carla Eliaof growing since that video cuz I rewatched and I was like oh my gosh I had a Pik Misha moment that was like my pck Misha moment from the video that you're about to pull up well I have a lot I we have like 15 videos from you
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Brian Atlasgood line up I'm not going to lie we so the uh we we went through like you have like hundreds of Tik toks I do yeah but I've done a lot of growing since yeah
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Carla EliaI've done so much you can't walk back you can't walk back your positions I'm not I'm not going to walk back my positions but I definitely i' I mean I've been a year and a half married now like I've definitely there there's been
05:07:24
Brian Atlasa lot of maturity and a lot of well I've got a ton of notes on all of this so actually wait wait sorry before I'm sorry before we do the video keep um let's look at the news articles because there's some news articles we'll
05:07:37
Brian Atlasjust glance over those really quick Nick start with the New York post one I think um just just for some context here for everybody I'm a dating coach there's one thing you must say on the first date uh there's nothing too interesting in this
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Brian Atlasarticle but scroll down Nick can you hit that X on the Cox internet yep that yep was engaged to the love of her life in just 6 months now
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Brian Atlasshe wants to help other eligible bachelor ATS find their perfect matches the 24-year-old internet sensation who boasts 1 million followers on Tik Tok advises all the single ladies talk about
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Brian Atlasone crucial thing on their first dates their goals but never their past never their past that's a good one yeah okay like maybe body count would be good the I'll explain I'll I'll well
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Brian Atlasthat's not the most important thing so okay we can next article these are the more the prince of excuse me the price of Romance I'm a 23-year-old relationship coach women are precious
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Brian AtlasInvestments men who can't afford to pay shouldn't be dating oh yes yes now did they misquote you or is this kind of would you consider this like your position yeah that's definitely my
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Brian Atlasposition okay well there's one other article Nick and then we'll go back to the sun okay so this is the mirror I'm a relationship oh my God jesz I can't speak tonight I'm a relationship expert
05:08:56
Brian Atlasguys on low salaries shouldn't bother dating and these are pretty uh go back to the sun though we'll pull from that one okay scroll down relationship Coast wait wait up you missed I'm I'm going to
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Brian Atlasread scroll up a relationship coach insists that women are precious and men who can't afford to pay shouldn't be going on dates Carla ellia 23 earns her living earns her living teaching women how to
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Brian Atlasfind the right man for the life they want she believes being treated right is the bare minimum okay next go down uh keep scrolling okay there's some photos some pretty flowers she said women's
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Brian Atlastime is more precious than men's and they should be treated accordingly lives in San Diego um believes women's time is more precious so they should be looking for RO romantic partners of provider claims
05:09:46
Brian Atlasthat many clients struggle to find the perfect man insists the right man to date is one with a provider mindset because they will give their partner the best treatment this includes paying for all their dates before they've entered into a formal relationship and buying
05:09:59
Brian Atlasthem gifts and flowers uh controversially she said men who can't afford a woman shouldn't be dating in the first place because they must add value to a woman's life to be worthy in my experience women are scared of speaking their standards they think
05:10:12
Brian Atlasthere are no men like this out there scroll down a little bit more um to find these men you have to step into the energy of I'm worthy I'm healing and I'm not making decisions from a place of insecurity we shouldn't
05:10:25
Brian Atlasbe treated equal to men we should be treated as women and we're special we should be treated as precious a man needs to understand he has to be in a financial place to invest in a woman we are investments I know I can afford my
05:10:36
Brian Atlaslifestyle and if someone can can afford and add value to that I would say thank you next um scroll to the very top Nick just the very top so just the tile of the article um
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Brian Atlaswomen are precious Investments men who can't afford to Patient be dating um sometimes with these like tabloid websites they can misrepresent or try to paint it in a certain way that isn't
05:11:02
Carla Eliatotally accurate so I just want to get it from you like do you cosign that do you is that your position or is Nuance or what what yeah I mean I think that that's why my content kind of goes
05:11:14
Carla Eliaviral because it's very controversial to say like if you can't afford a woman like don't date in the first place but I think that if we stepped into this mindset of like I'm not going to be with a man that can't afford it I think it'll protect us as women and I think that
05:11:27
Carla Eliathat's the way that we should be doing it and it also forces men to like get up and do something get up and work it it en forces them in a way to like because if we set the bar of like if you can't afford me you can't be with me
05:11:40
Carla Eliamen would get the like the initiative to want to work and to want to perform the best of their abilities too sure and also I think women just
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Carla EliaI um there's a lot of women who just think that what you feel is enough and the matter of fact is I'm I don't agree I think that in the beginning of a relationship you should be very logical and think with your head instead of your
05:12:01
Carla Eliaheart as a relationship matures you can think with both but in the beginning you have to be wise and that's why I always say ladies be wise and I'm not saying that I didn't love my husband when I married him I loved my husband because
05:12:14
Carla Eliaof the way that he loved me and I think that if we have that standard as like the bare minimum a lot of more women would be happy and a lot of more men would be happy because it would they would feel accomplished they would feel worthy of
05:12:27
Carla Eliaand they would be able to attain the women that they so call high value and so do you think that broke men should not date absolutely broke men like
05:12:37
Brian Atlasfinancially and mentally sure let's go it's not just sure well let's let's say it's just financially they're otherwise good men but they're not in a good
05:12:48
Brian AtlasFinancial Place let's say well a good man is going to be in a in a I don't think if you're poor that that makes you a bad person
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Carla Eliaso it it depends like if you're 30 and you're saying that I don't agree with that but if you're 21 I think a man if you're 218 and you're poor I get it but if you're 31 40 and you're still broke
05:13:10
Carla Eliathere's something wrong with you I I don't necessarily no I I mean look uh I don't think you're a bad person though I'm not saying you're a bad person but I think that there's something there's some like limiting
05:13:23
Brian Atlasbeliefs and some issues there well I mean some people happen to you know there can be Financial ruin that you know some things are out of your control for examp you know but again we were we were just saying a little bit ago that
05:13:36
Brian AtlasAmerica is the best country to live in and like we have lot with that well yeah but like you know you could be on well I think most people perhaps hold I'll let
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TTS/Donationsthis come in derington 7001 donated $100 you're supposed to have that mindset when you're a virgin and not run through in Carla's defense she's a virgin I didn't know this but she is she
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Carla Eliawas a virgin before she met her husband so I think that's why they said it because they paid attention that she was a virgin before yeah so like that and that's that's another reason why I had these standards I was like if I'm if I'm going to date I'm going to put myself in the dating Market you know considering
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Carla Eliathat I've done all the and put in the hard work just as yourself you know I I'm expected to be taken care of because I also come from a household where I was nurtured taken care of and I lived in a certain tax bracket you know and I want the same thing I'm not going to
05:14:24
Brian Atlasdisappoint my parents by them sacrificing you know the life of coming to United States and marrying into someone that can't give me that right and at least to address derpington thing and the whole ver virginity thing I would certainly argue that women who are
05:14:35
Brian Atlasvirgins are in a much stronger say uh negotiating position and have much more leverage to be demanding certain kinds of treatment so um but to bring it back
05:14:47
Brian Atlasto the whole broke thing like for example a guy what if he has some sort of uh he's in his 30s and he has some catastrophic medical thing that just
05:14:58
Kenderly Ryanwipes out his all his financial savings because of health reasons that's what happened with my ex that's what happened so to me I would love to hear okay so there's so there's different
05:15:10
Carla Eliaperspectives like if I was married to a man that already like if my husband if that happen to my husband I'm going to fight for my husband but if I was like a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship and that happened to him that is not my
05:15:21
Carla Elialike that is it's unfortunate to say but that's not my burden to bear everybody has different standards of course and it's very unfortunate that that happens but like I said it depends on what the woman you know on what the woman wants
05:15:33
Carla Eliaand everything's okay within a marriage but marriage protects you everything outside of that for me personally it wouldn't be a a good investment well so
05:15:44
Brian Atlasokay so you think so oh did we go around the table fully oh so do you think broke men should not date I think you did you get we gave you
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Kenderly Ryanyou said they should not I don't think they should you should focus on your other stuff and then dating will be easier and it's just a timing thing um kind of like what you were saying short answers if you can guys um even if
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Kenderly Ryanyou're Rich before no if you're broke now you should not you can't shouldn't be dating you can't are you investing that at least any of your money into you that's the main thing that I think about I think that if they have something
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Abigaillined up to provide like in the soon future then it's fine to date if you're broke cuz like college students they date all the time and they're broke but they have something lined up I've dated one and I mean it is what it is yeah
05:16:32
Abigailmost people in college they don't have money you know I mean I had to provide for a little bit and then and then it was fine after that I mean they provide after that you do what you have to do if you really love someone um I don't know
05:16:45
Brian AtlasI don't care that much you don't care okay okay so you'd be fine with Brokey dating uh I mean yeah like I would be fine as well if I'm looking for dating if I'm looking for transaction that's
05:16:57
Annalike we talked about like sugar Dees before and if it's like relationship lined up in the transaction that's one thing but if you're looking for connection this way little and dating that's a different thing hband was broke
05:17:09
Gloria Calderonecan you scoot your mic this way go ahead go ahead yeah when like when we started dating my husband was broke okay so um I mean I don't think they can't they shouldn't be dating I think that wait are you married or in a
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Background voicerelationship I'm married oh you're married wait hold on oh wait I thought okay cuz you said you were in a relationship if no I said I'm married no she said she was married
05:17:33
Brian Atlasreally years I I wrote that down wrong I just I knew I heard relationship four years but I you're married okay so we got married married married wow okay
05:17:43
Gloria Calderonethat's new for the whatever whatever podcast we have chronically single people mostly okay uh I feel Rush okay I I get like the point I think that um in
05:17:55
Gloria Calderonethe best case scenario men maybe should focus um on their finances before they um pick like their life Partners but I don't think it necessarily has to like
05:18:05
Gloria Calderoneyou know I mean I do believe in Building Together with your partner too so I mean I should broke men date should broke men date it's just the thing is like how broke though like are they like broke
05:18:17
Gloria Calderonejust whatever your sense of broke is oh it's just it's such a weird like like would you accept an ice cream date for the first date I totally would no I would accept an ice cream
05:18:28
Holly Treatsbest oh Carla they're turning on you they're turning on Ice the type of date does not mean whether or not he's broke it's more so kind of like hey do you need me to pay every time we go out hey are we limited
05:18:40
Brian Atlason what we can do because of your Inc your financial situation and do I have to cover your back so question for Carla um what about getting married so broke men shouldn't date should I assume definitely shouldn't get married right
05:18:52
Holly TreatsGod no in their what yeah no wait question what about what about having kids should broke men have kids no there no that's a tough one you can't I will
05:19:03
Holly Treatssay there are broke there are men who do the same thing right where it's like they have women taking care of them so I I do think that if there's someone out there that will love you and you guys
05:19:15
Monica (Swedish Bella)can help each other then do it cuz there are broke men getting married to rich women but like quick quick points quick points my my stepdad made $1600 a month
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Carla Eliabut he was the best dad I could ever ask for a that's beautiful awesome yeah so I mean it really depends if cuz my parents I come from a combined like I'm adopted I have uh my stepdad adopted me my dad
05:19:38
Carla Eliaand my mom my mom was a single mother of two and my dad was a single father of one so like it really just depends like if I'm and I've said this before in my videos like if I'm coming into relationship childless I'm expecting for my partner to come into the relationship
05:19:51
Brian Atlaschildless as well yeah oh yeah but but are you saying like should broke people not why I don't know if it's should say broke men or broke people perhaps could be the case of both but do you think broke men should not have
05:20:02
Carla Eliakids maybe I should yeah they should I mean they I mean they shouldn't like what shouldn't yeah they shouldn't that po baby like poor kids what typee of Life do you want them to be raised out like broke men shouldn't have a lineage
05:20:14
Kenderly Ryanperiod yeah broke men shouldn't have a lineage they shouldn't that's no they shouldn't my dad's a broke man yeah my dad's a broke man and he has four kids
05:20:24
Carla Eliafrom four broke men should not have a ly with you it's tough to listen to it's tough but think about it but poor does not
05:20:35
Carla Eliamean they wouldn't take care of their kids okay the way you do one thing is the way that you do everything I'm not saying like again going back to like if you're 40 and you're 45 and you're broke
05:20:46
Carla Elialike hello it's a very fine and thin line that we're we're crossing here but I think from all the things that we've seen time and time again single mothers like I just want that suffering to stop and it comes and it stems from broke men
05:20:58
Brian Atlaswell they're single well not again not just financially but I want to point out like you guys are both both from Orange County right which is a fairly wealthy very affluent area it sounded like what
05:21:09
Brian Atlasyou guys admit uh said earlier was that a lot of these parents are kind of out of the picture a little bit even though they're very wealthy yeah depending on who you are in Orange County not everybody I'm not saying all wealthy
05:21:22
Brian Atlaspeople are just totally checked out but even being having wealthy parents doesn't mean that they're going to necessarily be good parents Mone is not medicine like money is not
05:21:32
Kenderly Ryanmediciney before my mom died she was the best mother she was able to be but she had no money I mean I was cooking potatoes for two weeks on my own right like she was broke but she was the best
05:21:43
Carla EliaM but you saying broke people should not have a broke I'm not saying broke people oh you said broke men you said broke men should not have a lineage and and listen and listen I know that's aot it is it's a very hot take but listen again even if
05:21:57
Brian Atlasyou're wealthy or even if you're rich with money doesn't mean that you're really rich wa I have a followup question let's say you were the dictator of America would you
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Brian Atlasban poor men like would you would you ban yes poor men from having
05:22:16
Brian Atlaschildren yes yes I love you here's question wait wait I got hold on I'll let you guys come in but I have quite a few followup questions here so
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Brian Atlasum so do you think do you think if anybody is on any sort of I'm going to shout out uh Andrew Wilson from The Crucible here because he helped he helped me a little bit with this but do
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Brian Atlasyou think if the let's say the man or perhaps even the woman if they're on any sort of government or state assistance that they should not date or have
05:22:48
Brian Atlaschildren cuz they're they're poor and the veterans get help sure I'm saying like perhaps just someone who's not I mean I feel like I'm almost it's
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Carla Eliaalmost a redundant to be asking this question because you've already said that um well no I think okay well first of all I I know that this is going to sound very awful because of the current economy and with inflation I understand
05:23:11
Carla Eliaall those points and I get it don't walk back no I'm not no no no I'm not but the thing is like I also don't want to ignore the fact that what we just stated that America is the best country in the world hold on just a Jackson donated
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TTS/Donations$100 the one that was lucky enough to be adopted into a wealthy family telling broke men specifically they shouldn't procreate is the irony I needed today who is adopted aded I was
05:23:34
Carla Eliaadopted well you said you were adopted by your no but I he wasn't wealthy okay so here no but your mom your your mom is your my biological mother but my stepdad adopted me yeah I think but he's just
05:23:47
Brian Atlasfor clarification I don't think you adopted in the sense that you were an orphan no no no wasn't an orphan no no no okay and was your family uh your stepdad and your mom were they they weren't wealthy they they grew up to be
05:23:58
Brian Atlasbut again that's why I'm saying like but you turned out exactly yeah absolutely despite the fact that it sounds like perhaps your parents weren't like the most financi Wen they but so why B no no
05:24:09
Carla Eliano how old was were you when your stepdad came into your life I was that's not particularly relevance God so uh when my first my when my parents met again going to the building thing they
05:24:22
Carla Eliaweren't making a lot of money like they my mom was on welfare I've lived that life with my mom and then my dad came into the picture two incomes and my dad worked him his way up his way up because
05:24:34
Carla Eliamy mom was like uh I'm not working I'm staying with the kids wait your parents were on welfare no no my parents wer my parents weren't on welfare my mom was on welfare when my dad came into the picture he made life wait it's okay for
05:24:46
Carla Eliawomen to be on welfare but not for men to be on welfare so listen but the matter listen the matter of fact is that a lot of men step out of the children's life my mom had to do what she needed to do and that's why I'm saying broke men shouldn't be dating because you you end
05:24:59
Brian Atlasup with situation like I see what you're saying I I do see what you're saying 100% but if you're saying so you said broke men should not have a lineage I feel like if we follow that and again shout out to Andrew Wilson here from The
05:25:09
Brian AtlasCrucible if we follow that to its logical conclusion um you would eliminate most African-American families and most African-American children and other racial minority groups as they are
05:25:21
Brian Atlasthe ones who are most heavily dependent upon government assistance demographically to help I'm literally fortim I I want to give full credit to Andrew Wilson here giving full credit totally agree I'm not I'm not saying
05:25:33
Carla Eliathat this isn't this isn't a a matter of fact but again I I blame the public education system I'm not blaming men at all I don't think it's the man's fault I think that it's the blame is on the public education system and the way that
05:25:44
Carla Eliaour culture is set up so I and and I do have a lot of compassion again I'm a PC I'm a person of color and if it wasn't for the decisions and the discernment that my mom made for her lineage to be with a man who was a good man he might
05:25:57
Carla Eliahave been I I don't want to say he was broke at the time but he might have not been making as much money as he is now but he you know he was a wealthy man with his character they got to the point where they were able to raise a family
05:26:09
Brian Atlassure but like I and again full credit to Andrew Wilson here um saying that you would broke men should not have a lineage broke people should not have children I mean
05:26:20
Carla Eliayou've full credit Andrew Wilson here you've just outlined a Eugenics program you're a eugenicist well well I think they just set me up on a on a trap here
05:26:31
Carla Eliaand I wanted to take a moment to like gather up my thoughts I'm not saying that bro well I know that I said that broke men shouldn't have a lineage but
05:26:42
Carla Eliawhat I'm saying based off of you know my experience The Limited experiences that I had is that if we were more accountable with men to have and to
05:26:53
Carla Eliabuild a life of like success and instead of focusing on dating so early on and they focus on working hard getting good jobs I think that we would have a very different society today so when I say
05:27:04
Carla Eliabro broke men shouldn't have lineage I'm just saying I think that no you well you did say that they shouldn't have children yes I said that but wait but is
05:27:15
Carla Eliait would it be okay for poor men to date poor women I I don't know why you're I mean no I'm just like they could do they could do whatever they could do whatever they want but what I'm what I'm saying
05:27:28
Carla Eliais like I don't see the benefit I I don't I need to gather up my thoughts I'm sorry I'm sorry no that's fine but okay so um
05:27:38
Monica (Swedish Bella)it sounds like it's not okay for a poor man to date a poor woman correct it's not I supp it's not can I just step in here I don't I don't think she means hold on just a second
05:27:51
TTS/Donationsundated $100 should fat stupid and mentally ill women not be allowed children either some rich people are the worst morally some broke people are the most giving
05:28:04
Carla Eliakind people what is wrong with you no one said does that mean all does that mean all I think the terms that you use were maybe not the worst I mean not the
05:28:15
Carla Eliabest I think let me let me go ahead and rephrase this when I say like broke people I'm not just speaking about financially I'm also speaking about morally and values and character well you're sh the goal post no no no no I've
05:28:28
Carla Eliasaid this since the beginning because you said because you said because you said let's just focus financially and I said okay but what I'm saying here just because you are broke that doesn't necessarily mean you are broken
05:28:40
Brian Atlascharacter and also if you're wealthy that also doesn't mean that you're broke that that you're wealthy with but when you say the term broke most people are taking they're not I I you're now adding Nuance to it but most people are going
05:28:52
Mason Gregoireto take that from a financial frame yeah I I would say a more apt term to use be like degenerate
05:29:01
Carla Eliaor something that has to do with you're shifting okay well yeah well but but I want stay true to my message because I actually promotee a lot of like two women who come up to me they're like hey he's not he's not that rich but like
05:29:14
Carla Eliahe's such an amazing man and he treats me well and so that to them I I say you can pill together there's no problem there cuz character is always going to override you know money and we have some experiences here where I had the best
05:29:26
Brian Atlasmom I had the best dad and that's what I'm that's what I'm saying is it okay so let me ask is it okay for a poor woman to date a rich man I I mean
05:29:36
Kenderly RyanI why not I mean different tra what is being asked is different and if she can provide for him what he's looking for to a tea if he's like I want you to be at home cooking
05:29:48
Kenderly Ryanlooking nice get your nails done I want you to be the perfect woman for me why not I think that your message is more of like in the ideal World men should be financially stable before they start a
05:30:01
Gloria Calderonefamily right but I think that the words that you chose are a little bit poor and that's why like people are starting to like attack you nobody's attacking her no's attacking on there they like
05:30:12
Gloria Calderonesaying don't listen to The Peanut so I think I get I get your point I really do because as a parent I know that I would have loved to give my
05:30:22
Gloria Calderonedaughter a much um better life um if I was like financially stable when I had her so I get what you're saying so but okay what about a poor man dating a rich woman is that cool I mean I mean if the
05:30:35
Carla Eliawoman is you know accepting of that and she wants that why not like I I'm not saying that but you said broke men shouldn't yeah well I think that that's taken out I don't think that that applies here with the question that
05:30:45
Carla Eliayou're asking oh so so broke men just shouldn't date other broke women I know well I think broke broke men shouldn't they should be focused on other things not just like procreating they should be
05:30:57
Carla Eliafocus on their goals and like maturing and working up the corporate ladder trying to find jobs their attention yeah couldn't the same thing be said about women absolutely and I say that actually I say that all the time focus on yourself first to find the good partner
05:31:10
Carla Eliabecause a lot of the times we see that women date when they're at a very low VI and you guys have said it here low vibration when you're like still working on things and then finally when you're at your Peak when you feel confident
05:31:22
Carla Eliabecause you work through you know all of your traumas uh you know creating your business whatever the case may be once you step into the dating stage again you realize that you have better options because you're happy you're confident
05:31:32
Carla Eliaand you're in a way like you know you're set free you set yourself free yeah absolutely clar is important sorry so okay
05:31:44
Kenderly Ryanum I just don't you feel it's like a little elitist to say that broke men should not date okay well why or have kids okay but why should they be having kids if they can't financially support
05:31:55
Kenderly Ryanthem the way a woman can so why should a man be broke and a woman not when she's the one that has the kid for 9 months can breastfeed them can literally keep them alive for free but then also has to
05:32:07
Kenderly Ryango on welfare because her man can't step up and take care of the food and can't take care of the diapers and can't take care of the clothes how is that fair why should he be having a baby he can't
05:32:16
Monica (Swedish Bella)support I mean I think it's more about broken men yeah um so talk about Mone the I'm just talking about from my perspective or is it m and Bailey no but
05:32:28
Carla Eliaalso also I I also want to be accountable for the women too because I tell that's this is what this is like a protection for them right so they don't have to go through the welfare system so they don't have to go through these I say don't date broke men so it's in a
05:32:40
Carla Eliaway it's a protection so we can avoid this from occurring again and again and again and I put more accountability on the women rather than the men I say you need to BU you need to have built enough discernment that's why a lot of women attack me sometimes and I tell them you
05:32:54
Carla Elianeed to have discernment you need to know your standards your boundaries and you need to be at a at a good place so you can decide with Clarity it's very balanced I don't just keep it just one-sided for men or women it might be a
05:33:05
Carla Eliaeugenicist position though to say that brok men shouldn't have a lineage I I'm just done sing Single Moms on welfare it is a very I live that life all right I won't I won't linger too
05:33:17
Brian Atlaslong on on on this topic but we let's get into the videos we got to get into the videos finally let's there's some good we got good ones here oh here's the one okay uh go ahead the one I'm going to be honest with you you're not a 10 all
05:33:30
Carla Eliaright I'm not saying that to be mean but you're not a 10 okay the only way for you to be able to avoid these types of situations in these types of men and these types of conversations is when you recognize your and you work on your character because let me ask you something do you think they would dare
05:33:42
Carla Eliato ask me something like that do you think would dare to try to include me in a conversation that is so immature and medre they wouldn't maybe they would because they have no self- awareness but I need to pay attention to the type of they're invited to the shows they're not
05:33:55
Carla Eliainviting women that are walking aligned with purpose a lot of the women that they're inviting are still in their self-discovery phase AKA trying to find their place pause really quick well I just want to say first off we've had plenty of high value women on the show
05:34:07
Brian Atlascan that was that this was recorded in August sure sure sure plenty of other we've had wonderful women on the show so okay continue Nick world because when they talk about their ideal woman they're speaking about a high Valley
05:34:19
Carla Eliawoman but notice they can't have High Valley woman in their show because high do not entertain those conversations I'm not saying that the ladies that they invited on High Valley women I'm simply saying they're still in their self-discovery Journey So to avoid all of these bad low effort low class men I
05:34:32
Kenderly Ryanneed you to armor up with character and worth you help me when I got through my breakup I need you yeah you helped me wait what I just realized I've seen her she helped me in
05:34:42
Brian AtlasJuly wait go ahead it just stopped uh the reason why these men go ahead do
05:34:52
Brian Atlasyou have to reload it is it that's weird uh awkward it's not working it's not
05:35:03
Holly Treatsloading oh man what a cliffhanger that was good there's so many videos what about uh no just try to reload it I
05:35:12
Carla Elia (overlap)guess um I'm in so P my back oh wait the husband yeah he's still
05:35:22
Carla Eliawaiting on yeah when are we chilling outside got you got it okay avoid all of these bad low effort low class men I
05:35:34
Carla Elianeed you to armor up with character and worth I need you to armor up by by being in your discernment and truly living a life with intention and purpose the reason why these men want you to feel less than is because they want access to you they want access to us because we
05:35:45
Carla Eliahave something that they don't pause it pause it erroneous
05:35:52
Carla Eliaerroneous keep going don't have and if you as a woman have not yet recognized how much worth you have baby girl it's time to do the inner work be such a lady that men would never dare to speak to you in that way because they respect you so much that they know that those
05:36:05
Carla Eliaconversations are not interesting to you they are not simulating to you on the contrary they are annoying andm ochre conversations to have the only way you can elevate your experiences is by elevating your standards ladies be wise oh Sor sorry I didn't mean to press
05:36:18
Brian Atlasthat again okay okay okay so that's in relation to the whole are you a 10 conversation well and you said you said earlier that you kind of change your
05:36:27
Brian Atlasview on it a little bit but um so I I don't like ask the r10 question to like
05:36:37
Brian AtlasI didn't to be fair I know what you're going to say iead sorry it's not to make women feel like less than what I want for both men and women is to operate not from delusion but from being realistic
05:36:50
Brian Atlasand I would say for example confidence right because sometimes people come on the show granted I think everybody here was fairly modest in their answers to the the uh rate yourself on a scale of one to 10 question my view with with
05:37:03
Brian Atlasconfidence is and we have women who come on say they're 10 and oh I'm just being confident confidence is not thinking you're a 10 when you're not confidence is being fully aware and okay with the fact that
05:37:15
Brian Atlaswhoever the person may be who's on the show that or whoever it is that you're a six I'm not saying you or anybody else here at the table I'm just saying you're just cool like oh yeah I'm a six cool
05:37:26
Brian Atlaslike I'm happy with myself you know um and one of the major issues that I see in the dating world is you have you have average women do not want
05:37:38
Brian Atlasaverage men and you have women who will spend their 20s chasing Chad racking up high body counts passing on good men who are actually on their level um and I think a lot of average women would
05:37:48
Brian Atlasrather be a side chick or casual only with like a really attractive guy than a relationship with an average guy so seems to me that average women want
05:37:59
Brian Atlasabove average men average women don't want to date average men so uh if you have women like that woman in the video who thinks she's a 10 in Beauty she thinks she's on par with the most
05:38:12
Brian Atlasbeautiful women in the world and I'm not saying she's ugly but she's certainly not a 10 which is what I was trying to say in the video um one of the things that I try to emphasize for both men and women is I
05:38:24
Brian Atlasalready said this you need to be realistic with your own self assessment of your physical attractiveness physical attractiveness is very important when it comes to dating so if you're dulu if
05:38:35
Brian Atlasyou're delusional and you're oh I'm hot I'm going to be chasing after all these dudes who if you are not chasing
05:38:46
Brian Atlasafter if you're not interested or pursuing people whether you're a man or a woman that are on a commensurate level to you in terms of your say value on The Dating Marketplace whether you're a man
05:38:59
Brian Atlasor a woman you're going to be disappointed and you're not going to find that person for women the way that's for men the way that's going to manifest is they're not going to get any attention from women at all if they're shoot they're constantly trying to shoot
05:39:11
Brian Atlasway too outside their league and for women the way that's going to look is they're going to be a ton of men that will sleep with you but never give you commitment and that's when women start racking up high body counts and when these men are just using them because I
05:39:24
Brian Atlasthink because the difference between men and women is men will sleep with women of a certain physical attractiveness that they'd never commit to men welcome
05:39:34
Brian Atlasthe easy access to sex so like girl who a girl who's say like a five she could sleep with a guy who's an eight he's never going to commit to her he might keep her around for a little bit just
05:39:46
Brian Atlaswelcomes the easy access to sex he'll never commit to her though so that's where women can get into trouble if they have a unrealistic self- assessment of
05:39:55
Brian Atlastheir own uh attractiveness yep that was long-winded go that's actually that was actually a really good point I just have to say no no I completely agree just to add just to add one one thing to it is
05:40:07
Brian Atlasso my view is that typically for a woman to sleep with a man that man has to be at least physically attractive enough for her to be in a relationship with
05:40:18
Brian Atlasthat guy typically women will typically break the rule like let's say a woman doesn't typically have one night stands or casual sex she might break that rule if the guy is like exceptionally
05:40:30
TTS/Donationsphysically attractive whereas it tends to be almost the reverse with men so for a man to sleep with a woman she need not be $99 to be honest I would never date any
05:40:41
Holly Treatsof you you are a shallow as a person we would never date you either half of us are married can you give me another chance grams I'm like really desperate for your approval can you please like
05:40:52
Brian Atlasslide into my DMs try again we're so sad yeah oh our lost so so with men like men will sleep with women that they would never be in a relationship with so
05:41:04
Brian Atlasthat's where women and you say women need to be discerned women need to be Discerning in terms of am I like shooting a little bit out of my league here because dudes will sleep
05:41:15
Brian Atlaswith women that they would never be in a relation just just off of the looks metric Alone Men will sleep with women that again they would never consider for a relationship and that's where women can
05:41:27
Brian Atlasget into trouble where they can get used by men for purely sex so that's I I'm not trying to like dunk on women like oh
05:41:36
Brian Atlasyou're not a 10 I'm like no like have have a realistic self assessment of your own physical attractiveness that way you can maneuver in the dating Marketplace without
05:41:48
Brian Atlaspotentially like chasing after these guys who are just using you just want to use you for sex that's where it at the end of the day for the guys sure um is
05:41:58
Holly Treatsthe is this a female perception or is this a real thing wait what do you mean I'm I'm going to yeah um do do men is
05:42:09
Holly Treatssleeping with women to increase your your street value right so like having sex with one of those hot girls that you would never commit to in your mind whatever it is is the purpose of that to
05:42:20
Holly Treatsraise self-esteem and then your own street value or is that is that not real is that something that women just think men do wait so you said sleep with the hot girls no no no point the point I was making no like is the purpose of
05:42:33
Holly Treatssleeping with those girl that you don't commit to sex aside right like the sex is a given right you want it because of the sex but in addition to the sex is that like a oh this raises my street
05:42:43
Mason Gregoirevalue cool checked off like so Brian's point is that you you you tend to sleep or guys will sleep with women who are not as attractive as them like if say
05:42:54
Mason GregoireI'm a seven and I'll go and sleep with someone who's a five men will typically do that but women will not do the opposite way if she is a women won't do