She SLASHED His Tires But HOOKED UP After?! | Dating Talk #110

Date: 2023-10-18

Duration: 5h 42m

Guests

Brian Atlas

EEllie (DT110)>

SSophie (DT110)>

JJulia (DT110)>

SSasha (DT110)>

JJessica (DT110)>

PPortia (DT110)>

Identified Speakers

SPEAKER_00TTS Reader(audience)

SPEAKER_01Ryan (Rhino)(guest)

SPEAKER_02Sasha(guest)

SPEAKER_04Sophie(guest)

SPEAKER_05Jessica(guest)

SPEAKER_06Ellie(guest)

SPEAKER_07Brian Atlas(host)

SPEAKER_11Julia(guest)

SPEAKER_12Portia(guest)

SPEAKER_13Maia(guest)

SPEAKER_14Ana Godina(guest)

Key Moments

RelationshipEllie reveals her 3-year NC long-distance boyfriend did not visit or get her anything for her 21st birthday.

“He like for the past like month beforehand was like oh I am going to come visit... nothing”

QuoteTikTok reaction: woman lost all interest when boyfriend started crying after opening up about vulnerability. Brian and Ryan discuss reality vs stated desire for male vulnerability.

“I wanted this man to be vulnerable with me for so long he finally called me yesterday and opened up but the second he started crying I lost all interest in him”

Key MomentJulia reveals she was in a situationship with a meth addict who had her steal bikes and break into an unlocked stranger house in IV. Two weeks later she discovered it was her friend house.

“We go into the bathroom... we hear people in a bedroom... we start freaking out so we just run out... two weeks later it is the house”

Key MomentSasha reveals her previous boyfriend (11-year age gap) was engaging in emotional cheating via Snapchat messages to a girl younger than Sasha.

“It was emotional cheating it was saying about how like you know maybe we could have worked I miss you I do not know if I am happy”

Key MomentSasha reveals she slashed 3 tires on her cheating boyfriend truck, then both slashed the 4th together so he could file an insurance claim -- the title story.

“I slashed his tires on his new truck... we both walked outside and finished off the job so that he could follow the insurance claim”

Key MomentAna reveals she lost her virginity at age 25 with the person she thought she would marry, surprising given her OnlyFans and nightlife image.

“I lost my virginity at 25 with the person who I thought I was going to end up with”

ControversyBrian confronts Portia after her three friends came to his studio building and buzzed all tenants on the call box looking for her during the live show.

“Your friends came to our studio... they called everybody all the residents here on the call box wondering about you... your friends are really immature”

OtherPortia apologizes at end of show for the disruption caused by her friends showing up at the studio.

“I am really sorry about interrupting a podcast I feel really bad I am sorry”

Key MomentVoluntary body count disclosures: numbers 5, 5, 3, 9 shared around table (attribution unclear). Ryan Rhino claims 100+ jokingly.

“anybody here want to share body five five three um nine... Rhino 100 plus”

Topics Discussed

Guest Introductions

Each guest introduces name, age, and occupation. Guests: Ana (28, cocktail server/OF, Vegas), Ellie (21, SBCC poli sci, NC), Sophie (20, barista/tattoo artist), Julia (~21, barista/nanny), Sasha (27, bottle girl/photographer, married, from Brazil/Vegas), Jessica (19, student/Sacramento), Maia (21, CSUN), Portia (20, UCSB feminist studies, Guam), Ryan "Rhino" (26, YouTuber, LA).

Relationship Status Round

Each guest describes current relationship status. Key stories: Ellie's 3-yr long-distance on-and-off NC boyfriend who didn't visit for her 21st birthday. Sophie's ended open situationship. Julia's recently ended 2-yr on-off semi-open relationship. Sasha is married 3 yrs (husband had 3 brain surgeries). Jessica's situationship after being cheated on badly. Maia: single 2 yrs after 5-yr HS relationship. Portia: just ended talking stage. Ryan: single since early 2023.

Dating Apps and Hinge Profiles

Discussion of dating apps. Sophie's Hinge profile reviewed by chat. Guests discuss match volumes, motivations for using apps. Ellie met one sneaky link on Hinge.

Feminism Debate

Round-table on whether guests identify as feminists. Portia identifies as feminist (nuanced). Others mixed. Ryan and Brian critique feminism as women's advocacy rather than true equality, pointing to military conscription and custody law reform.

Going Out / Partying While in a Relationship

Debate on whether it's insecurity or reasonable concern for men to not want their girlfriends going out to clubs and bars. Both Vegas nightlife workers (Ana, Sasha) weigh in on cheating they witness. Discussion of alcohol, lowered inhibitions, and situational infidelity.

Marriage, Kids, and Relationship Goals

Round-the-table discussion on wanting marriage and kids, desired timelines. Sasha married 3 yrs. Others want marriage by late 20s or 30s. Taking husband's last name debated.

Traditional Roles / What Partners Expect from Each Other

Guests discuss expectations from a partner in a relationship. Ana and Sasha favor traditional roles (man provides/protects, woman cares for home and family). Ellie and Portia push back on financial expectations.

Male Vulnerability

Discussion triggered by TikTok clip of woman losing attraction after boyfriend opened up and cried. Debate on whether men should be emotionally vulnerable with partners, and how women actually react vs what they claim. TikTok reaction: "I wanted him to be vulnerable but the second he started crying I lost interest." Brian and Ryan share personal experiences where vulnerability led to relationship deterioration.

Men Losing Fights / Attraction and Male Strength

Discussion of a viral clip of a female MMA fighter's boyfriend getting knocked out in a professional fight. She lost attraction and broke up with him. Panel reacts. Discussion of whether women lose attraction when men lose fights or appear weak.

Political Views and Deal Breakers

Round-table: guests share political leanings (conservative, liberal, moderate, apolitical). Discussion of whether opposite political views are a deal-breaker when dating.

Julia's Meth-Addict Situationship

Julia describes a situationship with a man she later discovered was addicted to meth (thought it was just coke). He would spam-call her at 3-4am, have her steal and return bikes, and once led her to break into an unlocked IV house to hook up while residents were home. Two weeks later she accidentally discovered it was her friend's house.

Sasha's Tire Slashing Story

Sasha recounts discovering emotional cheating (Snapchat messages to younger ex) on her then-boyfriend (11-yr age gap). Drove to his place, slashed 3 of 4 tires on his new truck. Went inside, confronted him. They made up the same night. Then both went outside and slashed the 4th tire together so he could file an insurance claim for all 4.

Partner Type / Physical Preferences

Round-table on physical and personality type preferences. Sophie likes skater-boy aesthetic. Ellie prefers 6' minimum. Sasha: dad bods okay, tattoos a turn-on, gravitates toward white men. Jessica: blonde hair, blue eyes, ~6'4" (wants to pass on genes to kids). Portia: no race preference, personality-focused.

Portia's Friends Showing Up at the Studio

Three of Portia's friends came to Brian's studio building and buzzed all residents on the call box trying to locate her. Brian learns from property manager Nick. Becomes frustrated that strangers are harassing tenants and threatening his tenancy. Portia apologizes; Brian remains annoyed. Portia apologizes again at end of show.

Feminism and Bodily Autonomy / Military Conscription

Brian argues male bodily autonomy concerns (military conscription, circumcision) are stronger than the abortion debate talking point. Portia (feminist studies) pushes back against direct comparison. Extended debate on reproductive rights, Ukraine war, and feminist organizational hypocrisy on equality.

Body Count Discussion

Final segment. Round-table on whether body count matters. Ana and Sasha say women's body count is more important than men's. Sophie indifferent. Ellie disagrees. Voluntary sharing: some guests volunteer numbers (5, 5, 3, 9 — speaker attribution unclear due to diarization). Ryan jokes about 100+.

Transcript

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Ana Godinaoccupation go ahead I'm Ana godina I'm 28 and I'm a cocktail server in Las Vegas 28 cocktail server do you do anything else do you do content creation

Ana Godinayeah we do the content creation yeah Social Media stuff yeah okay no o though yes o yes is up and running yes just posted on my story about today cocktail

Brian Atlaswaitress and also okay um and uh how long have you been doing o for like a month yeah oh just one month this is this is new this is fresh how did you

Brian Atlasget dragged into the depths of hell just kidding just kidding to the dark side to the dark side I guess you could say um I was just seeing how like well other girls were doing yeah I was really

Ana Godinaagainst it for a while just cuz like My Views and how I see things but um I do do you mean uh I think I'm a little red pill yeah so like I get it I get the only fan thing it has a really negative

Ana Godinastigma for sure but I know I can't do only fans forever I can't be a bottle girl forever so I want to you know make some money and only fans you want to get the bag you want to get the bag I want to get the bag yes okay gotcha can I

Elliejust have you push those cups into the table a little more thank you uh what about you hi I'm Ellie um I'm 21 I'm a student right now at Santa Barbara City yeah I mean I'm from North Carolina but

EllieI live in IV so North Carolina do they have accents do people oh my God yeah the worst cuz you don't I don't detect an accent from I don't really have one only if like I go back home for a little bit I do but their accents are like do

Brian Atlasdoes your accent kick in when you're intoxicated oh yeah I've heard that oh yeah I sound real Southern okay got it got it y'all don't know what you what are you studying at Santa Barbara City

EllieCollege political science political science okay there you go do you uh what do you want to do with that you want to maybe get into politics kind of I kind of more towards like the like international relations like side of it

Sophieso I want to like definitely like go travel and like do maybe like work in a different country okay but I do love politics okay what about you hi I'm Sophie and I'm 20 and I'm currently

Brian Atlasworking as a barista as a barista yes okay welcome are you in school right now or no not at the moment you were in school previously though yes what do you know what you were what were you

Brian Atlasstudying uh I was an art major art major yeah okay and you do tattoos right yes and are you working on becoming a professional tattoo artist is that kind of the direction yeah that's the goal I

Sophiemean I've been wanting to do that since I was like 12 so since you were 12 when did you get your first tattoo um I mean I started doing my own when I was like I

Brian Atlasdon't 14 you you were doing your own like sh sticking pokes yeah but um yeah I got I got my like first rail on when I was 18 so okay any face tattoos coming

Brian Atlasin the near future no face tat is there anywhere you won't tattoo face I don't really know if I'd go for my neck but I that's it but I'm not I'm not sure about that how many tattoos do you

Brian Atlashave I honestly have no clue no clue a lot okay got it um and do you have to go to school to uh become a or you need to be licensed to become a tattoo artist

Sophiebut so do you need to do an apprenticeship how does that work um usually yeah you try to get an apprenticeship I know some people that are just self-taught and made their way into a shop but I mean I mean the you

Sophieknow traditional way to go is getting an apprenticeship and like studying under a mentor for a year or two years and then okay going from there got it what about

Juliayou I'm Julia and um I am also Barista we work together um and I'm also a nanny and I go to Santa Barbara City College

Sashagotcha age I'm 21 21 uh what do you study at Santa Barbara City College communication calm okay what about you hi my name is is tus um some of you

Sashawatching this might know me as Sasha my Alter Ego I'm 27 I work as a bottle girl I'm also a photographer and I do social media as well and I'm from well I live

Brian Atlasin Vegas but I'm from Brazil and then lived in Boston as well you speak Portuguese I do speak Portuguese very cool very cool fluently or fluently yeah okay and you said you also do social

Sashamedia do you also do only fans uh no I don't um not yet or so I actually um quit only fans oh so

Sashaokay you used to do only fans yes so back in um 2021 my husband had brain surgery and pandemic was happening sure he was in the hospital I was out of work

Sashataking care of him I did only fans for maybe 6 months back in 2021 and then earlier this year I did only fans for just a couple months to see what I could

Sashaget back on to it but I don't know I didn't like it that much so okay yeah but it was mostly when he had brain surgery and we couldn't really be doing anything so I was just at home and

Brian Atlascouldn't you know work has he um has he recovered from the yeah he's like 90% better yeah wow that's brain surgery that's very uh he had three of them

Sashathree wow yeah three you have a cancer aneurysm so he had a cystic tumor in his I guess the canal that drains spinal fluid um so they had to take that out and then the first surgery didn't go too

Brian Atlaswell so they had to do two more wow yeah well glad to hear that he's recovered thank you did you get into only fans partly because maybe things were difficult financially when he was um no

Sashanot necessarily um when I was a little bit younger I did social media like modeling and stuff um and I knew a lot of girls that did do like Snapchat

Sashathings and only fans and I just remember that they were making really good money and I remember I had made some good money back then um being a photographer I

Sashashot a lot of girls for only fans and I was like damn like this could be this could be fun this could be easy so yeah got it okay cool what about you um my name is Jessica I go to school fully

Jessicaonline at Sierra College back in my hometown in Sacramento and I said I'm studying interior design there and I am a babysitter and I also work at a

Brian Atlasrestaurant oh wow okay full plate there uh age I'm 19 19 and why did and you live in IV you live in Santa Barbara I do live in IV I but you don't go to

Jessicaschool here you do online class for Sierra yes I hated my life back home because it was just like no one's there like everyone graduated yeah like there's nothing there for me so I came out here and I'm transforming to Arizona

Brian AtlasState next year so it's just like a fun little two years here okay yeah Arizona ASU right yes or ASU yeah Arizona State University pretty big party school mhm is that kind of one of the reasons why

Maiayou they have a really good interior design program yeah got it what about you um my name is MAA I'm 21 and I go to Cal State University Northridge and I'm

Portiamajoring in Communications okay welcome hi my name's rtia I'm 20 I'm from Guam and I go to UCSB and I study feminist

Brian Atlasstudies okay all right feminist studies we'll get in we can get into that later um okay are you a second year or a third year I'm a second year second year um

Brian Atlashow many feminist Studies classes have you taken so far this is technically my first year I was a polyi major last year oh you switched yeah I switched polyi feminist studies and the program is is it it's feminist studies right it's not

Brian Atlaslike women's studies or gender studies it's it's a feminist feminist studies okay that thank you Rhino um so so uh how many classes so far have you uh

Portiataken in in that uh discipline I'm in one right now it's mainly what's it called it's like film like it's like film comparative like we we're just basically

Portialooking at how like feminist feminism is like portrayed in film okay yeah that's it there's not like a feminism 101 Workshop type thing or no there is that's just the class I have taking in

Portiathis quarter okay and you didn't take any of your freshman year um I think I did like a GE it was just like about like feminism like International feminism just like looking at like

Portiamovement movements like comparative movements in like the United States versus in India versus in like different places gotcha why did you want to switch from uh polit political science you said

PortiaYeah from uh from that to feminist studies I really enjoyed that first class I took and I felt like I applied myself more like I was more interested in it got it okay um yeah uh what about

Ryan (Rhino)you um my name is Ryan I also go by Rhino on my YouTube channel I'm a I would say I'm a YouTuber that would be my title and I am 26 and I live in LA yeah all

Brian Atlasright welcome back welcome back thank you for having me yeah man thank you for coming Okay cool so we're going to go around the table one more time so what is your current relationship status are you single talking stage situationship

Brian AtlasFriends with Benefits relationship married polyol sex cult harm if you're single how long have you been single and what's your longest relationship go ahead I'm currently

Ana Godinasingle I've been single for for a year and a half a little over a year and a half maybe two years yeah two years okay a longest

Ellierelationship about two years two years okay all right what about you so I guess like I'm kind of like in a complicated place but pretty much not I don't know but it's been complicated yeah it's been

Brian Atlaslike three years it's he he's in North Carolina and it's just kind of oh so it's been complicated for 3 years yeah you've been seeing this guy for 3 years um and any point in the 3 years what

Brian Atlaslike is it an on again off again type thing that's why it's complicated yeah right now it's kind of just like that off again like okay yeah um so right now it's off I think that's what I'm like to

Brian AtlasWho who how many deciding this how many times has it been on again off again like how many times have you broken up got back

Ellietogether 10 20 30 40 more say like maybe like four or five oh okay four or five which honestly I guess that's not as bad now that I'm thinking about it we were

Ellielike dating situationship dating not talking dating I don't really know what we are right now so it's like a gray area but I don't think anything of all the the uh not

Ellietalking was it him initiating it or was it you honestly it's kind of 50/50 at first I would like inherently say me just

Elliebecause like I'm not good at communicating but at the same time I try but like the whole like time zone thing like he usually doesn't talk to me as much as I like try and talk to him

Ellieokay in my opinion oh so this is long distance yeah he lives in North Carolina I'm from Raleigh he lives in oh right and how long has it been long distance the entire relationship pretty much we

Ellielike met my like damn that's great wait three year long distance kind yeah so so we met my

Ellielike literally 2 days after I graduated high school and he kind of just we just started talking and I was like hey by the way I'm just going to point this out there I'm moving to Santa Barbara in like a month and he was like no it's

Brian Atlasfine it's fine you we'll be fine and I guess it's been three years so wait okay so a month before a month before you

Brian Atlaswere moving to Santa Barbara um you met this guy and Okay so

Brian Atlaswait okay when's the last time you guys broke up like broke up or

Elliewhatever good question are you guys currently in an off stage we're like in a huge argument so I'm considering it off I'm pretty sure like I don't know it's kind of like I like love and care

Ellieabout him a lot yeah I don't know but at the same time it's like I live here he lives there it's not working we've probably like broken up like just too many times how and do you go back to North Carolina

Ellielike in the during the summer Christmas break type thing I go home for the entire Christmas break and the entire like summer break but that's the only time I go home I don't go home like Thanksgiving like nothing it's like too far so just two times a year basically

Elliebut he he used to come and visit me this year not really but um usually he comes and visits me and we'll stay for like a month like yeah for like a minute but

Ellielike not recently he doesn't have a job where does he work he does kind of he's a student too but like I don't know I think he does like instacart on the side but he goes to like School in North Carolina it goes to UNC Charlotte so can

SashaI ask you a question about it do you feel like the past 3 years have been a waste no I don't think so cuz I do like have like a really like deep love for

Elliehim but okay I don't know it's just like I don't know I don't regret any of it because I don't know he kind of did make me a little bit more of an independent person and who I am but at

Brian Atlasthe same time I feel like it's almost like an outgrown thing is where I'm like what what's your current you said you're currently arguing what are you guys currently arguing about did he cheat on you

Ellieoh SP say this is like a very public place but like whatever it's a good story I'm prefacing this I don't know who's watching but like just a little posture check PO good pot is that how

Brian Atlastall are you by the way I'm 5 foot okay we got her two boost I'm trying I know I'm on two BO right now actually

Ellieyeah so what what's what's going on right now so just prefacing this I do love and care about you just in case he's watching but so my birthday was two

Ellieweekends ago it was my 21st birthday by the way so it was like a big birthday he like for the past like month beforehand was like oh I'm going to come visit I'm going to come visit and I was like oh

Ellieokay like cool that's great nothing and then it got like two days before my birthday I was like you're not coming like obviously like it's two days before and you're not going to buy a ticket for like $600 and then he was just like yeah

Elliesorry so I at least like expected like maybe a card in the mail maybe a gift maybe a phone call no girl no sh no girl literally

Elliewe've been in the argument about it he sounds kind of like a legend not going to lie good for no I'm kiding I'm kidding I'm kiding kind of is girl 21st

Sashabirthday that's wild no it was that is wild right I was oh my God it was just so frustrating done don't let your boyfriend keep you from your husband okay do not let your boyfriend keep you

Elliefrom your husband I'm just I'm just saying you're not wrong girl he's like it's just so what did you tell him when he didn't get you for your 21st birthday oh I gave him so much for it I was like no like this is like the biggest most important birthday like yes

EllieI was hung over half the day but like still could have made an effort to like call or like do something and then we like got in this whole argument about it and he was like well you don't talk to me anymore it's not like we communicate

EllieI was like that's not a valid argument compared to forgetting my birthday okay you were you were in an off so we were like kind of fine before that and then just like complicated as he said yeah like

Brian Atlaslike maybe like a couple weeks after I moved here it was kind of like a we were fine and wait wait wait I just had a realization what okay so you guys have had these what's the longest off period you've

Brian Atlashad a month two months three months three months four months four months okay so have you been for the three year it's complicated have you been faithful to him yeah you haven't

Ellielike dat other guys no when we're like in our like when we're together like we're together if we're not but I mean when you're off oh when we're off have there been other guys in the picture yeah yeah when he's like when we're

Elliecompletely like not there yeah for both of you that's case with him too I feel like he does too like he sees other he sees other wom for real oh yeah 100% like I feel like he definitely has to be like not that there's that much to

Elliedo in North Carolina but like he's got to there's got to be somewh there's a lot to do in North Carolina oh no God no like nothing well okay who okay uh so

Brian Atlasprobably a lot of women so but let's say okay you're in one of your off stages and you're dating another guy and you like the guy who lives here which I assume is more

Brian Atlasconvenient and he reaches back out and wants to reconcile do you drop have you ever dropped a guy that you're seeing here because he wants to reconcile yeah

EllieI have but I don't know like How likely I would be to do that like now now after the birthday fiasa yeah that was just kind of like messed up like have you ever did what did you get him for his

Elliebirthday he literally we were at like my I went home for the summer we were at my like parents house and my parents bought him a cake I gave him like a gas like gift card cuz he has like a like he uses

Elliegas like crazy cuz he's always driving so I gave him like gas money gave him a gift card and then the like I think like the year before that I gave him like a hat and like more money and like gas and I always do like the most like cute like

Sashahandwritten card because I feel like that's just super sentimental yeah I feel like I I kind of like do good on them but like okay did he send you anything after the whole Fiasco of you

Sashaguys getting mad did he send you any flowers like afterwards no anything no when was your birthday he feels no remor 30th September 30th have you had sex with him since then I haven't seen him since August you see him again you going

Ana Godinato have sex with him don't do it don't do it come girl no why would he give you a birthday gift if you're literally going to him after he like doesn't get you a birthday present yeah honestly kind of facts maybe not men that know

Sashathey up will get you a gift and they will go the extra mile I I don't want to be mean like cuz I don't know you like that but like the fact that he didn't even try to like be like oh here's some like flowers or maybe send

Sashayou like an Amazon gift card or something or even a card girl leave this man leave this man okay my goodness you deserve better you're beautiful like cards are free and you're young

Brian AtlasHe's Just Not That Into You He's Just Not That Into Me I guess I mean I don't know I don't know him but I mean it it occurs to me that it's very it's it's very possible

Brian Atlasit occurs to me that it's very possible that he's probably just even what when you've been in an on stage he's probably seeing other women yeah yeah kind of I don't know I think okay I don't know he just does so much like he either does

Brian Atlaslike a lot during his day or nothing and it's just like no no he doesn't have that busy like as wait question when you guys are on how often do you guys like

Ellieyou guys will do phone calls you guys call it every day every night type yeah that's an L for both of you you're not no it really is it really is what a waste of time I'm not going to lie no

Brian Atlasnow that I'm like older I realize I'm like that is so stupid like yeah this is this is okay this these are your college Years and you're you're in a long

Brian Atlasdistance it's it's not even it's not even that you're in a longdistance good relationship you're in a long distance it's complicated relationship it's not that compc you can solve it in 3 years

Brian Atlasyou know it's not that hard in person if it's complicated at least you're still kind of having sex but now it's just a

Brian Atlassexless long distance complicated I don't know that's just and you're you guys are hooking up with other people when you're in your off stage I just

SashaDr I don't know has he been the only one that you've been intimate with the past 3 years no oh okay not if we're like consistently dating then it's just him

Elliebut if it's like um just the audio Little Nick check what's what it's how old is he okay never mind he's 20 he's a year younger than me oh my God

Ana Godinagirl always you're ring your youth with this nice no it's not just him is he an athlete no is he again bye is he he's a he's insta

EllieCarter his family kind of loaded though and he uses her car to instacart huh oh when he's here when he's here when he's here he uses my cart at instacart

Ellieand like that's a lot of gas do you get anything from that no maybe like this is looking like a liability what are you doing like he'll buy me food and stuff to like compensate you can buy your own F I mean like bare minimum bare minimum

Ellieand he's saying your parents house with you I mean my parents do everything for him too which is crazy my parents to this day love that man they shouldn't do you have R Ryo do you have a diagnosis

Ryan (Rhino)here yeah it's actually pretty funny um I mean obviously it's not really a real relationship but I always from like the longdistance thing isn't really a thing it's not real um but obviously I can

Ryan (Rhino)understand having that deep emotional attachment for someone you've been like been close to for 3 years so I completely understand that but like he's smashing other girls you're smashing

Ryan (Rhino)it's just like you might just have to Let It Rock and just let it go its own separate ways cuz then it's like oh he didn't see you on your birthday but then a few Maybe a month before you were smashing someone else so it's like I'm

Ellienot catching a flight for a girl getting her cheeks clapped but yeah exactly I mean but like y'all can still love each other and care about each other like that's cool no 100% and like he cares

Ellielike just way too much about like stuff in IV specifically that I like it's like the breaking point honestly it's like all you do is like party you're always with your friends I'm like it's College

Ellieyou're a college girl exactly that's what you should care about yeah like I'm sorry I'm not going to just sit at home every single day not leave like it's like I hate it I mean that's definitely another conversation we can get into

Brian Atlaslike when you're in a relationship should you be going out partying should you be going to bars and clubs we can definitely have uh that convo um so was he trying just really quick on that but

Brian Atlaswe'll come back to it later so when you guys were good would he be like hey I'm not comfortable with you like going out partying with your friends that type of yeah cuz you are at like a competitive I think at a competitive advant

Brian Atlasagainst him on that realm because here in s Barbara UCSB number one party school I Vista huge party scene versus North Carolina yeah where are you in the capital I'm in Raleigh yeah

Brian AtlasRaleigh okay I mean there's a night life I guess but he's not he's 20 right yeah so he can't really unless he has a fake ID he can't really go to bars and we've like never really been I've never

Brian Atlasbeen is there a what's the UNC yeah is that what it's called un wait no you got it UNC Raleigh there's UNC Chapel Hill

Brian Atlasokay uh NC State is also in Raleigh and Duke is in like is there a big party soon for those College yeah okay not those colleges I think there's just too many smart people that go there uh well we'll maybe we'll come back to that a

Sophielittle bit later what about you Sophie um I've been single for like I think two months now two months okay yeah why did he dump

Sophieyou um it was kind of a mutual thing okay we were just no it really was but I know I'm just I'm roasting okay um how how

Sophielong were you guys dating less than a year less than a year what was your longest was that your longest relationship so it was 9 months 10 months I don't even think I mean we were seeing each other for around that time

Sophiebut we weren't like official for it only I don't know I want to say like five months honestly okay got it so it was a situationship kind of to start and then

Sophieit became yeah Rel and then it became a relationship and then we broke up um and then we got into and we were in a monogamous relationship and then we got

Brian Atlasinto an open relationship after that so during your situationship was it monogamous then or was kind of open then you closed it then you opened it again

Sophieyeah exactly who wanted to open it um we were kind of just hanging out as like exes you know like friends or whatever and um wait what do you mean like like

Brian AtlasCU cuz you said during the relationship it was monogamous but then during the relationship you opened it up no no we broke up oh you broke up but you

Sophiecontinued having sex um after some time yeah but cuz you said you opened up the relationship but you broke up so you so we broke up and

Sophiethen we stopped talking for a little bit like went no contact and then we kind of started seeing each other again and then became in an open relationship oh so now you're wait cuz you said it

Sophieended two months ago that ended too so the open relationship ended two months ago yes have you seen him more recently yes how recently did you see him like

Sophietwo weeks ago or no yesterday last night she's over here laughing it wasn't supposed to happen snitch snitch on her um wait so you did you you hung out with him yesterday last

Sophienight uh no no no no not yesterday there you go there were your [Music] no I didn't hang out with him yesterday um this is the safe space yeah we were completely no contact for over a month

Sophieand I actually bumped into him at the tattoo shop bumped into him yeah when you say we were both getting a tattoo at the same time you say bump coincidence it was a it was a coincidence you didn't know that he had a tattoo app or

Sophieanything if you can just straight straighten to the mic um so just and they kind of reopened things up a a little bit a month ago you said no this happened like 3 weeks ago oh 3

Sophieweeks ago yeah saw each other again and then kind of started talking so when's the last time you talked to him like an hour ago oh like you you saw him in person or just oh no no I saw him in

Sophieperson like 3 days ago but we were briefly hanging out it wasn't okay so okay broke up so it was monogamous you broke up but then you

Sophiecontinued so what's the status now uh we're broken up but we're talking so it's you're gonna maybe no no get back into an open relationship absolutely not

Sophiebut you're talking right but just as like F I would never go back into an open relationship again no I know I'm do you think he wants more uh probably not

Sophieno no no honestly no then wait do you want to get back together with him um no I he doesn't want to be in like a monogamous relationship and I'm not willing to be in an open relationship

Sophiewith him at all well you were for a period of time right but I ended that because I hated it you were not happy with it why did you hate it um because I was not able to um build

Sophielike emotional connections with other people and he was so I honestly just felt like I was being like I was consenting to being openly cheated on cuz I wasn't really like interested in hanging out with other people and he was

Sophieso okay oh so you were not seeing other people I was but I wasn't like feeling it you know I just don't I only saw other people cuz he was pretty much okay

Brian AtlasI see and you knew you knew he was seeing other people okay okay but so you didn't even want to see other people but you did it

Sophiebecause Revenge not revenge like CU I just kind of yeah yeah you could say that like if you're going to see other people then yeah then I'm going I'm not going to it would be like embarrassing if he was just like know these other

Brian Atlasgirls and I was just like waiting around for him to okay you know so do you think this is there's going to be a re conciliation in this relationship or it's just done um you know we're talking

Brian Atlasin a a little bit more does it not bother you that he's he's other girls like does that not bother you um

Sophiewell I mean I have you other girls too no other other guys okay uh not like a lot but just a little bit just a little bit a little bit AIT yeah but I

Brian Atlasmean it it doesn't how many tattoos does he have a lot does he do tattoos tattoo artist okay does he

Sashahave a neck tat no face tat no does he have a tattoo on his no any like weird tattoos any weird tattoos like on his butt or something yeah like the octopus

Brian Atlasone that crawls out of his butthole I want to see that wait he does no no no wait you have a t you have

Brian Atlasa uh I thought this fell out out of fashion you have a lower back tattoo right I do oh retro can we see

Brian Atlasit stand up because I have not seen a lower back tattoo since 2007 I don't know where to like face oh just if you want to stand and then uh maybe face

Sashathis camera oh and she got a booty on her r godamn Wait pull it down a little bit yeah we must stay focused Brothers the mic is the mic is kind of

Brian Atlasblocking it oh wait well actually scoot it that way yeah okay one more time that's that's like a that's A9

Brian Atlasthat's a 90 that's like a '90s lower again I'm 20 she's retro she's retro with she was born in the wrong

Brian Atlasera live in like the Britney Spears at I wish I was I really Blink 182 um what else uh My Chemical Romance

Brian Atlasdidn't you have one of those escaped the Fate oh see that's like all the stuff I like listen to now oh wow okay yeah you're cultured yeah cuz I feel like the

Brian Atlasthe the equivalent tattoo like the Stamp was very popular like what uh oh excuse me lower back to too uh I go Dre

Brian Atlasto oh okay all right fine yeah was what very popular like 90s early 2000s now the one that I think is the equivalent is the sternum tattoo and it's like a chandelier thing yeah you see you know

TTS Readerwhat I mean I see that a lot that is oh hey zenti Zen donated 99 these 304s offer V ansers for plausible deniability and the illusion

TTS Readerof Purity they're all lying they're all single even if talking with someone they're 1,000 stairs B their lack

TTS Readerof morals telling all as they can't keep their mouths SL legs closed what's a 304 it's I don't know what wait to where he is

Sashaspeaking in Tong I don't know what he is saying I kind of got say that again in English in modern terms yeah we can we can this say with your chest say with your

TTS Readerchest oh we got another one here Denver Danny donated $100 hey Brian I saw the clip of you rejecting Lea okay stay strong I saw

TTS Readerthat you've said that you like women who initiate SL dmu so shooting my shot I'm 23 and I live in Colorado can I fly you

Brian Atlasout for a date I'm short five feet and # bigl matter what's up Mom # bigl uh thank you yeah I guess you could just if you want DM me personally but um I

Brian Atlaswouldn't I wouldn't fly out to Colorado you'd have to come here so um you're getting flown out that's like flown out n I'm to too busy to to to be flown out you must fly out to be flued out has to

Brian Atlaspay for the flight out right yeah you're not going to yeah right yeah whatever of course um wait okay so the there's the has there been um you said you've been single for two months mhm are you

Sophiecurrently like in a talking stage with anybody right now or um I'm like casually seeing other people but I'm not really like talking talking to anybody

Sophieelse when you say casually seeing other people what do you mean um you know safe space safe space yeah just like you know sneaky links

Sophiesneaky LS sneaky LS nothing more than that but it's not often okay do you just date guys just guys uh yeah okay um how

Sophiemany sneaky links are we talking here um two oh I mean like Julia Julie sorry wait Julie it's Julie right Julia Julia

Sophieis she lying it's it's two guys but like multiple times more than more than Julia plead the fth no she she's telling the truth okay two so two two sneaky links is there

Brian Atlasany talking stage so we got two sneaky links are there any sneaky no uh situation no no not at all okay no all right okay do you have a roster like a

Brian Atlaswhat's that I think that's what it's called do you have a roster where there's there's not guys like guys that you're considering that aren't the two sneaky links for like some something

Brian Atlasmore than it could be it could be adding to the sneaky links it could be maybe longterm uh possibly not like a lot okay you're currently on a dating app right should we pull up the dating app profile

Brian Atlasright okay we'll do it really quick we're going to do it really quick so chat Sophie was so kind to provide us with her hinge profile

Brian Atlasso whoa holy that's not that's not the first one but okay can you go to the first one up now the is is there a first one I did in the

Brian Atlasorder that was sent oh do it well like go to the just find the first photo no you can okay all

Brian Atlasright uh no there's a top I think there should be a top one there's like an order to it just find the top one nope nope

Brian Atlasnope that's it oh this one okay so this is Sophie's this is Sophie's hinge profile so chat do you swipe yes do you swipe no

Brian Atlaslet us know her most irrational fear is paper cuts she's 20 she's 5'2 next she likes hanging out at night on lifeguard towers for some reason I don't

Brian Atlasknow what's going on there um next Barista okay there you go next to me relaxation is Guitar Hero

Brian Atlasyeah with him okay there you go are you good I'm okay it's been a minute do you actually play guitar uh I'm not very good actual guitar do you slap the bass

Brian Atlasmom slap at the base man okay next she Geeks out on Minecraft so that could be for some of you that might be a very

Brian Atlasstrong plus uh okay next and I think that's it okay um is this a this is like an older photo do you have more tattoos than this right now uh yeah do you have

Brian Atlasthe double stars on the no but I've I've have tattoo though tatto that okay got it so chat do you yes no okay there you have it I don't know I would like right yeah there you go all right what are you

Sophielooking for what are you looking for right now what you put photos up like that like what are you honestly I kind of stopped going on it cuz I like swipe on a bunch of people but I never like respond to anybody anymore because I just don't have the energy and I don't care enough what how long have you had

Sophiehinge um o maybe like a year maybe like almost 2 years I don't know I I delete it and then get it back like it just depends on oh but like while you were in

Brian Atlasyour relationship no no not at all um but so you redownloaded I assume after your break up um how many if you had to guess how many

Brian Atlasmatches do you think you get in a day well I like don't um well I guess cuz not CU in order match you have to like on the

Ana Godinaperson on hinge so I don't know I think there's a way to tell like how many people like like a number right it's like 9 like over yeah but I have to like

Sophielike them back for it to be a match okay got it okay but you are you currently on it not really not really no okay when you were on it was it just for something casual yeah no it was

Brian Atlasyeah yeah I mean I'd go on it when I was like drunk or something you're your two sneaky your two sneaky links did you meet them from hinge or just I met one of them on hinge one of them on hinge the other one I knew from back home

Brian Atlasgotcha who who here has been on a dating app like at not currently but just at any point it's pretty much everybody oh

Sashathere she no never no dating no she has no well we can talk about that later what well it's not my turn yet we can talk about it or if you want to talk about it now talk about it now I was just asking who's been on the dating app

Brian Atlasoh yeah no but you're like you haven't I thought you were going to ask me why I have't no no no I was just perf I thought you were you were on a dating app but you didn't raise your hand no no no no I wasn't okay we can come to that

Brian Atlaslater okay got it so those of you who have been on a dating app when you first downloaded it how many matches do you think that you got within the first 24 hours like

Ana Godinahundreds lots of matches maybe I think I mean I live in Vegas and you know if you're just like swiping and probably I don't remember I had a few matches though like I mean I don't know the most I've seen at like

Portiaonce was like the 99 plus button yeah that's usually I feel like what a lot of girls probably see okay got it I would say not that many just because I feel like I live in IA Vista

Portiaand I feel like you kind of know a lot of people that you see on dating apps so like it's not like I'm swiping yeah that makes sense everyone sure all right uh Julia what about you your relationship

Juliasituations yeah um well I kind of just ended a 2-year relationship um and we finally and like

Juliawe're not talking anymore as of a couple days ago um okay but it's also been very on and off for two years okay so you

Brian Atlassaid it was how long was it five or what was the length of the relationship two two years excuse me but it's been on and off for how long the whole relationship oh the whole relationship's been on and

Brian Atlasoff yeah I kind of okay and you just ended it you just ended it was it Mutual he ended it yeah I just ended it like you ended it dayso a couple days ago but it's been on and off mhm so okay if like

Brian Atlas90% chance you guys get back together whoops didn't mean to press that um I think this time it's for real it's it's done yeah you sure yes have you said that before though yeah no this time's

TTS Readerdifferent I've said that before yeah what did he like hold on the three years donated here's zentience again he's our resent say anything with my chess stand

TTS Readeron my principles whereas they kneel in front their's like the comping 304s h they are 304 is I think Zen's had a bad day definitely call in one day to

Brian Atlasroast them but for now back to the hospital he's a doctor and he's an OBGYN so he oh this is who's looking at our vagina this guy he's had a rough

Brian Atlasday he had he he he had a rough day looking at come on now he works oh god there was a uh there was actually a train accident recently and some

Brian Atlaswomen lost their in a train accident I don't know what happened but you being he's so so I ask he's he's being a little toxic so I ask that you

Brian Atlasguys you know take it with a grain of Sal we love you thanks for yeah thank you uh thank you zenan it's good to see you in the chat man appreciate it an actual train accident or like somebody

Brian Atlasran a train on some girls and then they lost like amra oh I'm just kidding about okay yeah okay so Julia Julia um your guy you've been you were seeing him

Brian Atlasfor 2 years is on again off again the entire relationship how many times was it on again off again how many times did you guys break up I can't even count

Brian Atlasmore than 10 probably more than 20 a lot yeah probably between 10 and 20 between 10 and 20 got it and more often

Brian Atlasthan not who was the one who was saying we need to take a break I'm breaking up with you him you it was always me always

Juliaalways you yeah it kind of felt like I was trapped a little bit um but there was one time where it was him one time where it was him mhm what happened in

Juliathat situation um cuz we we broke up and then we we were not together for a while and he moved back home um and then once

Juliahe was back home he started seeing someone else um and then he just kind of ghosted me and I was a little confused and then I found out and then things

Juliadidn't work out with her so then he came back to me and then I was like no is this the most recent what caused

Juliathe most recent split no okay so is this a long-distance relationship um we both were living here for most of it and then

Juliahe moved back home yeah is that in California or um yeah he he actually got fired because um he was really heartbroken broken um and just like

Juliastopped showing up to work so he had to move back home and like live with his parents oh God wait heartbroken over the breakup with you yeah but I mean this you said you broke it off just a couple

Juliadays ago yeah and then we like started talking again and then we just kind of have been like it's been so confusing um so you're oh you're currently wait hold

Brian Atlason you said that this is the final breakup yeah but you're still talking no we're not talking talking now oh as of a couple days ago you've so you've had

Brian Atlaszero communication with him for what 3 or 4 days yeah nothing yeah okay so on again off again 10 10 to 20 times you'd mostly break up with him

Juliawhy would you generally speaking would he'd piss you off he'd get with another girl what um he was just really jealous

Juliaand um like every time I went out on the weekends um he would have like breakdowns interesting okay yeah and I

Juliajust kind of felt like I don't know I just felt like I am in college I'm young like I need to I don't want someone holding me back from having a bunch of experiences and opportunities this

Brian Atlassounds a little similar to uh to her thing so we can definitely we'll we'll touch on that a bit later it sounds like but he lived in Santa Barbara too though yeah would would he so you would go out

Juliaand party and he would be he wouldn't want you to yeah would he go out and party too or he more introverted stay-at home type um he went out with me a

Juliacouple of times and he hated it um Bas and so he kind of I mean he'll do things with his friends like small parties and stuff like that but um he didn't like

Brian Atlaswant to go the ragers or whatever in I Vista yeah okay I guess gotcha um okay and so that was a big conflict point in your relationship that he didn't did not

Brian Atlashe did not like that you were going out all the time and it made him uh was it he was jealous I think you said was the word or MH okay um how often were you

Brian Atlasgoing out every weekend or yeah I'd say every weekend cuz like Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday type schedule some people party that much so more like Thursday Friday Saturday Thursday Friday

Brian AtlasSaturday gotcha and you said was he also a college student mhm did he work full-time too you said he had a job so yeah he was working too okay gotcha is

Brian Atlasit and you do you think it was unfair that he wanted to spend his weekends with you instead of you going out partying um I didn't mind spending the weekends with him yeah um but he always

Juliaended up doing something lowkey with his friends anyways oh um and I didn't really want to be a part of that so oh you didn't want to hang out with his

Brian Atlasfriend group doing their lowkey Hood ratchet yeah I mean I I would a lot too okay got it um going back to you really quick how

Brian Atlasfrequent you you said that in your relationship your boyfriend he had kind of issues with you going out and partying how frequently would you go out do you go out I go out a lot I would say

EllieI go out typically like three to four nights a week yeah three four nights so Wednesday what are the typical nights like some of you guys are Thursday Friday Saturday yeah typically I go out

Brian AtlasThursday Friday Saturday once in a while sometimes is there Wednesday sometimes D on the Wednesdays or Wednesday okay so three so you were going out like three to four nights a week what what about

Sophieyou do you party much or um you guys are friends right so were you guys partying together I used to not um until recent yeah well until I got out of a relationship oh okay got it okay

Brian Atlasokay but yeah sure our friend works at like a little dive bar so we're always hanging out there okay gotcha in the periods when it was on again off again would you see other guys mhm okay we

Brian Atlaswere open the whole time oh it was an open relationship the entire time mhm because you wanted it because he want he wanted it both of you um we both wanted

Brian Atlasit you both wanted it really mhm I mean it's I Vista yeah who well typically in most conversations somebody broaches a topic first right so was I mean did you

Juliaguys have a early on a conversation about that yeah um it was before we started dating um I mentioned it cuz I said I wasn't really like ready for something really serious okay um and so

Sashawe were like we'll just start open and then we kind of just stayed that way how does an open relationship like work though as far as like well you know

Sashayou started open meaning you would see other people but then come back back home and cuddle at night together or or like no like like like how does that like for 2 years like an open

Juliarelationship like how did that work out yeah so we didn't live with each other um but I obviously like we wouldn't hook up with each other's friends or anyone

Juliathat like we felt we like I don't know and so um and we also weren't like going out on dates or anything it was just like if we're at a party and um one of

Juliaus wants to make out with someone like something like that like never um anything serious with anyone else gotcha okay so you never slep with anyone else

Juliawhen you were with him um maybe maybe a little bit when we were off a little bit of sex okay gotta but not when we were on just yeah just a

Sashatiny bit of Dick yeah do you feel like if it wasn't an open relationship it would have worked out um I think we would have definitely just for a second just to how it feels just a second just a

Sashanever sorry what was the question no that if it wasn't an open relationship do you feel like it would have worked out for you guys I think he would definitely be happier but I don't think I would have

Ana Godinabeen do you think you wanted an open relationship because he just wasn't the guy for you I think I didn't know that at the time but now I do know that that was why did because he's not the guy for

Juliayou okay did at any point he want to the relationship yeah the whole time and when he suggested closing it um we that's when we broke up cuz I told him

Brian Atlasthat that's not what I wanted but I didn't want him to stay like miserable um if that's not what he wanted wait qu question when you say that's when we broke up was it the mo this most recent

Brian Atlasbreakup or was it all the first the very first break first break up yeah okay so he wanted to close it you didn't um

Brian Atlasand so he would so you would end things you'd be like okay I don't want to be in a closed relationship this is what I can offer I want to be in an open relationship

Brian Atlasum he you would break up with him and then he would be like okay and then he would miss you and then ask to get back with you mhm and then would he accept he

Brian Atlaswould get back with you I assume and be like I guess I'm okay with the open relationship and then a month later he'd be like I'm not okay with the open relationship can we close it and yet

Brian Atlaswould you end it again yeah it it was definitely like that for sure so for the entire time were you pretty clear you you were clear with your intentions about hey I like you we can

Brian Atlashang out but I want to keep the relationship open so there's never a point where you were not like you were deceptive in any way you were clear like hey I want this to be an open relationship yeah and I that's why I

Juliaended things a lot because I could tell he was uncomfortable and he was just like lying to me um because obviously if he's having breakdowns every weekend um

Juliathere's something wrong why why would you keep getting back with him um I don't know I think it was really comforting and we we got along really

Brian Atlaswell um okay minus the constant emotional breakdowns on the weekends while you were out partying yeah okay yeah I mean I I actually was in a

Brian Atlassimilar situation a long time ago where although the rules were reversed I was I told the girl pretty early up front I said hey I'm don't want to commit to you I like spending time with you hanging

Brian Atlasout with you but I don't see this being like a ever committed relationship and she would accept it but then she would constantly be upset with the situation

Brian Atlasshe she obviously wanted it to be closed but she it was more preferable for her to just continue you being able to see me than just not having me in her life I guess yeah but so it's just always a

Brian Atlasconstant source of conflict even though I was always open with her and I said hey here's what I'm not looking for anything serious and she would rather have been with me than not have been with me and but it

Brian Atlaswas always a source of conflict and she'd constantly start arguments and even though I was always it wasn't I wasn't cheating on her I was just like here's what so I kind of empathized a little bit with your situation

Brian Atlasand she would always say I'm okay with the situation and then two weeks later get all butt hurt about said situation which she accepted so yeah I also understand her point of view too I feel like who which Girl's point of view um

Juliathe girl that you were talking to what do you mean cuz I feel like we've all been there where we we do kind of hope that maybe they'll change their mind um

Brian Atlasso I do get that for sure it's hard okay but that's the situation that your boyfriend is or ex-boyfriend is in okay

Brian Atlasgot it okay I mean the the solution to these people is to just not continue going back to exactly

Brian Atlasbecause you tried to break up with she was very persistent in my defense she would like I'd break up with her be like okay you're clearly upset with the situation let's stop and then

Sashashe'd long story okay never mind um what about you so I'm married we just celebrated our 3year anniversary

Brian Atlaslast month um we've been together for 5 years yeah five years okay five years married for three married for three all right is I assume this is your longest

Sasharelationship um it just surpassed being my longest just surpassed yeah because when I was with my ex we were together for about 5 years as well yeah okay so

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