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00:03:07Lily Phillipsage location so where are you from and occupation go ahead hello my name is Lillian Phillips I'm 22 I'm from
00:03:15Lily Phillipsdarbishire England and I am an online slack otherwise known as porn star or only fans ho whatever you want to call it that's me thank you uh thank you flan
00:03:28Brian Atlaslife for the 10 gifted membership um what is a a slag what is that slag slag ho wh it's all same thing so you self
00:03:38Brian Atlasidentify as those yes what do they call them here 304s there's a bunch of names we got we got there's a lot of names that that can be used but uh okay all
00:03:49Andrearight she's self-aware all right what about you my name is Andrea I am 25 years old I'm from Arizona and I do only fans all right welcome
00:04:02Hazelmy name is Hazel I'm 30 years old I do only fans my name is were you from and I am from Northern California and I live in LA all right welcome my name is Jade um
00:04:14Natalie WintersI'm 23 years old I'm from Las Vegas Nevada and I work in finance and solar sales all right welcome I'm Natalie I'm 22 years old I live between Los Angeles
00:04:24Natalie Wintersand Washington DC I am the co-host of Steve bannon's War Room podcast TV show an investigative reporter and I have a lifestyle and clothing brand rock and
00:04:34Atlantisroll welcome my name is Atlantis and I am 19 years old and I am from California Riverside and I'm currently a nursing student okay great I'm Becca I'm 29
00:04:46Beccayears old I'm from Arizona I am the co-founder of a nonprofit called team vulnerable and I spend most of my time as a stay-at-home
00:04:56Emanuelmom my name is Emanuel 31 wow I sound old at this table right now um 31 I live in Arizona and I'm the other co-founder of Team vulnerable where we help individuals overcome porns and can you
00:05:09Emanueltell us a bit more like about the organization what's the Genesis of the start of it like yeah so um long story short uh was addicted to porn for 15 years and had everything the world could
00:05:21Emanueltell you that would make you happy uh money drugs alcohol um I was married and 3 years into our marriage it was just starting to destroy our marriage and I asked Becca for help in overcoming it and luckily she showed me love grace and
00:05:33Emanuelmercy and was just there for me and I was able to overcome it and then we felt the Lord calling us to help others overcome it so we started off with a married course for couples to go through together then we had single people reaching out to us we won a course and we made one for people were single and
00:05:46Brian Atlaseven one for kids and for parents to go through and um it's been amazing so and you said you were addicted personally is that correct is this something that this
00:05:56Emanuelmanifested during your marriage with Becca or something that pre 15 years um I was watching so well before we were married and started with a low self-esteem bullied in school um not
00:06:08Brian Atlasdoing well in school all that stuff and um yeah got it well guys you can uh we have their link for their course in the uh description of the YouTube video if you guys want to go ahead and check it
00:06:20Brian Atlasout we're going to go around and we'll have some opportunity to uh talk about that more a little later on but we're going to go around the table once more so what is everybody's current relationship status so are you single
00:06:32Brian Atlastalking stage situationship Friends with Benefits relationship married polyle sex cold you know people are in all kinds of Arrangements if you're single how long have you been single and what's the
00:06:43Lily Phillipslongest relationship you've ever been in go ahead I am single and ready to um and I have been
00:06:52Lily Phillipssingle for about um I don't even know what date is it it's 2024 for I
00:07:00Lily Phillipsthink I last had a relationship maybe just like 2 years ago 3 years ago how long was the relationship um like 6
00:07:10Brian Atlasmonths but the one I had before that was 2 years sorry if you wanted one so your most recent one was 6 months your longest was two years yes 6 months two years okay and so um were you uh
00:07:22Lily Phillipsmonogamous during those two relationships yes yes okay believe it or not you know I am all right us okay we I we we'll come back to that
00:07:32Andreain a little bit I'm not a cheater and so remind me how long have you been single uh two years oh two years okay what about you I'm single I've been
00:07:44Andreasingle for about 3 years and then the relationship that I was just last in uh was about 3 years God and that was your longest relationship yes got it what
00:07:54Hazelabout you I am in several relationships um my longest relationship uh was 6 years so yeah so you're you're currently
00:08:04TTS Readerhold on we'll get back donated $100 I chag the slag ly bloody hell all right um there there you have
00:08:12Lily Phillipsitd you whatever as long as you got a big Co oh God okay all right uh welcome to the whatever podcast My Links down
00:08:24Brian Atlasbelow it's going to be a interesting show tonight guys all right you're currently in multiple relationships yes what so how many relationships are you currently involved in well all my fans
00:08:34Hazelare my boyfriend so I oh and and then I have people that help me do content so I'm in relationships with them too you're all your fans are your so you're
00:08:45Brian Atlasselling like the girlfriend experience oh yes I connect with my fans and how many fans do you have I have over 5K fans um I have boyfriend yeah how do you
00:08:57Brian Atlasmanage 5,000 let's change the title of the video to she has 5,000 boyfriends um well I have a good following so I talk to the people that
00:09:09Hazelfollow me on Instagram as well as the people that follow me on my spicy site so obviously the ones on my spicy site get the girlfriend experience um so yeah
00:09:18Brian AtlasI feel like I have a lot of boyfriends they take my time I send them nudes so yeah but you're not you're not you're siphoning money from them you're
00:09:30Hazelnot in actual romantic relationships with them I'm not siphoning money they're willingly they're willingly having their money siphoned but um well yeah they're
00:09:41Hazelmy boyfriend you're not in no you're not in romantic relationships with them I am H they say they send me good morning messages um good night you get 5,000 good morning messages no well some of
00:09:53Hazelthem on Instagram but we talking about my my private site so yeah so the ones that are more invested than others obviously um and they're on there longer than others have you met any of them in person oh no they're just virtual
00:10:06Brian Atlasboyfriends virtual I only class people that I'm intimate with as boyfriends AKA what what do we call that s simps basically yeah pretty much Sims um so do
00:10:18Hazelyou have any actually in-person relationships um I have someone that helps me with content um that's always there so are you so I have relationships no I'm not single I'm
00:10:30Brian Atlastaken by who by you don't need to name his name but what what is your relationship status by the World by my fans I'm in a relationship
00:10:39Brian Atlaswith my fans no can you actually give me a good faith answer to the question I'm in a relationship with your fans or with like a specific individual are you polyamorous do you have multiple
00:10:52Brian Atlasin-person boyfriends what are we talking about I have virtual boyfriends and I have someone that let's remove your only fans and I'm using very big Aires so if you don't count my virtual boyfriend and
00:11:02Brian Atlasthe person that helps me make content then we can count him perhaps I'm single you online so you have one person who helps you make content so I'm assuming like yeah you're having sexual
00:11:15Brian Atlasintercourse with this person correct are you having sexual intercourse with any other person I collab with other female okay so you content yeah female Talent
00:11:24Brian Atlaswhat about any male Talent or no okay so uh do you have a you have a professional relationship with this man who does content with you but do you have a romantic relationship with him I care
00:11:37Brian Atlasfor him yes I've known him since high SCH do you have a romantic relationship with him yeah I guess you could say that I'm just going to say you have a boyfriend here because I mean yeah we're not
00:11:49Hazelofficial we don't have the title but I know I can count on him do you well you you sleep with other men no for work no does he sleep with other women no
00:11:59TTS Readerwell not that I know not that I know one Motorsports donated $100 I'm say she's got a point if you were getting paid for a GF you are not in a relationship you
00:12:09TTS Readerare a hooker a harlot and a drain upon Society may God have mercy on your soul me please yeah the girlfriend
00:12:20Brian Atlasexperience uh what's a GF I think the that stands for the girlfriend experience um so like
00:12:29Hazeldoes it cost money to get the girlfriend experience um not necessarily I give the people that are subscribed to my VIP site the girlfriend experience and like I message them I what what is the
00:12:42Hazelgirlfriend experience I don't know what that means like if you have a girlfriend that you talk to long distance you could video chat you could but they have to pay for it that sounds like prostitution not a girl they pay for it once they
00:12:53Hazelsubscribe to your to your page so once they subscribe to my page they they're able to talk to me and I'll give them the girlfriend experience but it's is it really the girlfriend experience it sounds more like the It doesn't sound
00:13:05Hazellike a very good prostitute experience to some degree right I mean well if that's what you want to look at it like then that could be a I'm not
00:13:14Hazelthem virtually you are right virtually I'm them virtually yeah she's them virtually yeah you want to get
00:13:24Hazelvirtually virtually morally okay all right so did you put me um down as single I have you as or prostitute I have you down as in a
00:13:37Brian Atlasrelationship because it sounds like the guy you make content with you're in a relationship sort of with him okay kind of anyways it it's not super important
00:13:46Jadebut okay go ahead um I guess I'm talking to somebody uh last yeah guess you're talking I guess yeah I guess we are talking we are talking I'm going to say that more sternly we are talking yes what does that mean to be talking I
00:13:59Jadedon't know I just find the difference between single talking dating in a relationship so stupid I think you're either single or in a relationship at least me personally so you're not in either not in either it's not thein yet okay so you're in the
00:14:12Jadestupid situation it's talking stage talking stage what I consider to be a little bit more how long have you been talking um I it's it's honestly like January so
00:14:25Jadebeginning of January and then before that I was in a relationship for years and then I was single for a month and then I was in another relationship for 2 years two years is your longest relationship so would you say you're
00:14:35Jadecurrently in the situationship see I find I I think that's so I I just think it's so dumb to be like Oh I'm talking to someone oh I'm
00:14:46Jadedating someone I'm the kind of person where if I go on a date with you I'm committed fully on the first date that's at least just how I am and so just because it's not defined yet I just I
00:14:58Jadewant to say single you're courting I I'm single simple is is he uh doing the same thing as you probably not um however I'm aware that not everyone nowadays is like
00:15:10Brian Atlasthat and that's normal um but he has your undivided attention yeah romantic attention okay yes uh so you say but have you had a conversation with him because you've been dating like talking for a month right about a month I mean
00:15:24Jadehave you had a conversation with him about is it long distance no not at all um he He Knows My Views he knows my values and he understands it and I guess he's just deciding whether or not he wants to commit I'm okay to waiting
00:15:35Brian Atlasbecause if I like you I understand that and so I'm just do you guys hooked up no okay um do you think he's entertaining other
00:15:46Jadewomen probably however um I don't really mind whether he is or not cuz in his head we aren't committed and that's okay okay in my head it's different though and he knows
00:15:57Jadethat not necessarily like oh in my head we're in a relationship however he does know that in my head he is the only man who has my undivided romantic attention how long have you been talking just
00:16:08Jadesince January one minute okay sorry yeah okay wait so you've broached the I want to be in a relationship with you conversation he not necessarily like I want to be in a relationship with you
00:16:19Jadehowever it's I've made my values very clear to him and he understands okay if you're going to continue talking to me this is what I'm going to want if you don't want it stop wasting my time and go away how long are you willing to wait
00:16:31Jadeum you know what it's at least with me specifically it's it's not necessarily you have to sit me down and be like oh my gosh here's the date I'm going to be please be my girlfriend blah blah blah blah it's just necessary it just happens
00:16:43Jadeat least for me that's what I've noticed um it's you you get with someone you like them and then if you start loving them love is an action once you start showing that love as an action then it's
00:16:54Brian Atlasbasically okay we're together at this point how did you meet him at work work what do you do for work again I'm in finance and solar okay so you're like out in the
00:17:05Jadestreets selling door too some solar not not necessarily so with my finance job I work in loans so things like car loans and things like that okay and then I also work as a little bit of
00:17:19Jadean investment broker on the side so that's my finance side got it and then with solar um my company calls me up and it's like hey Jade can you come out here and close this deal and then I go and close the deal super simple super easy
00:17:30Natalie Wintersgot it okay what about you I've been single for probably a little north of a year and my longest relationship was probably around a year one year got it
00:17:40Brian Atlasokay uh so you've been single for one year any any dates in in that time period any prospects or is it looking kind of Bleak I would say Bleak feel
00:17:51Natalie Winterslike there has a negative conation um no I have a very demanding job even though I hate feminism and I don't think women should be working nonetheless that is my current reality um so I've been really
00:18:03Natalie Wintersbeen focused on that um and I also think it's kind of hard to even really determine what it means when you're dating someone's situationship stages no offense but when you consider yourself to have 5,000 boyfriends and there's
00:18:15Natalie Wintersplatforms like only fans I think that really degrades how you term relationships so I've kind of had struggles with that I quite like the T McCoy donated
00:18:26Natalie Winters$100 how can I find the girl in the orange on leans uh it's Dr Drea if I if I could say I think I
00:18:38Natalie Winterssounds like you are a fellow maybe anxious attachment person in terms of like when I go on a date with someone I kind of immediately like to attach or at least give them my full undivided attention and I think with that comes
00:18:50TTS Readerthe ability for women to set boundaries with guys I don't mean that hold on Mike Davis donated hey look who it is haven't been here in a while but why you hating Brian you know how
00:19:01TTS Readermany sex deprived bums are shooting the place up she's saving lives with the girlriend experience sign of course you know what I was I let
00:19:12Brian Atlasme walk it back I was wrong she is saving lives out here um just saving lives you know so uh good to see you in the chat Mike Davis it's uh it's been a
00:19:24Natalie Winterswhile welcome man good to good to see you um go ahead with your um no I was just saying that I think setting boundaries like you are in terms of I personally think you should wait till marriage um I think that it's fine to
00:19:36Natalie Winterstell a guy that you that you want to do that and when I think platforms like only fans really commodify women's bodies and normalize the idea that if men just pay you like $5 a month they can get whatever they want out of you
00:19:48Natalie Wintersyou can laugh but the average only fans Creator makes about $150 a month that's not even the minimum wage in like Kenya um but I think that you set a very dangerous precedent that that makes it very hard for women to stand up for themselves in normal relationships and
00:20:01Natalie Winterstell guys that they can't just get whatever they want out of you and that you're you you can set boundaries and standards oh would would the you guys care to respond to her well personally I
00:20:13Lily PhillipsI don't mind yeah I don't mind selling myself for $5 a month honestly ain't nobody making $150 a month want the guys paying for porn anyway right no exactly
00:20:25Natalie Wintersso we're not harming you in any way you could find your fish yeah I would Happily Never marry someone who pays money for porn but I just think it's sad that you guys reduce your value
00:20:35Natalie Wintersand self worth to5 a month and that's your perspective well what I'm and my perspective is that I think you guys are worth so much more I think God andou and who said we're not well I think when your enti in your eyes we're not well
00:20:48Natalie WintersI'm trying to say I think when you debase yourself to make your entire livelihood dependent on basically the lowest common denominator which is the fact that you guys have boobs a vagina and an app I think that you're selling yourselves
00:21:00Brian Atlasextremely short I have a quick question for you guys well hold on okay please allow them an opportunity to respond I get like my mind is so fast no we can come back to you but allow them
00:21:13Lily Phillipsto respond good I personally really enjoy my lifestyle I love what only fans and porn gives me like it gives me Freedom um and I I really enjoy being
00:21:23Natalie Winterssexualized like I get off to it um and I don't think that's affecting you so I don't think it's any of your business personally not well it's not affecting me personally but I think you guys are
00:21:34Natalie Winterssort of one of the many I would say arrows in the quiver that are being used to destroy western civilization and Traditional Values and family values and I think as I'm sure you can attest to you guys are creating the content that
00:21:46Natalie Wintersis lowering the threshold significantly to make it much easier for men to want to drop out of relationships with women it's all your fault yeah not saying it's all your fault but you guys are are supplying and frankly I think
00:21:58Natalie Winterswhen you guys again I'm not attacking you guys as individual people I'm attacking the well I mean I think you guys can also take ownership for the kind of content that you're creating um but I think you guys are contributing to it right are you not you're saying
00:22:11Natalie Wintersyou're sitting there laughing saying that you like being objectified and and commodified so you're obviously embracing it and you're going down the path of trying to normalize the behavior this is just my person it is normalize
00:22:22Andreaand you know ain't nobody here making 150 a month we eny the average only fans Creator makes average as you can see yeah we got thousands of followers on Instagram we got like and to be honest I think that this is one of the most
00:22:34Natalie Wintersdangerous narratives that only fans spins and frankly I hope you guys like the the only fans PR team is paying you a bunch of money because I think the worst part of only fans is that it sells the lie to girls that if you just start posting pictures on the internet of
00:22:46Natalie Winterswhatever one of your body parts that you will become like a millionaire overnight and you're basically having these girls tank their reputations for what is on average again you can't argue with the facts $150 a month you can become a
00:22:58Natalie Wintersmillionaire overnight though I literally but the platform of only fans was not crean people not every people who already had followings to then leverage it to show you it started out with
00:23:10Natalie Wintersnonsexual content then it became into into more sexual content and what you guys do but it wasn't really designed for you and to be honest I even take issue with the term only fans because I don't really think that these people are your fans I don't think you guys are
00:23:23Natalie Winterscelebrities I think it really is devaluing the term fans just because you take pictures of yourself doing weird things with guys doesn't really make you a celebrity I didn't make myself as a celebrity at all but you're calling
00:23:33Hazelthese people your fans I feel like you're threatened and you're scared we're taking your for the content notat you get to make sure that
00:23:43Andreathe actors are over 18 the actors in the videos are paid fairly if you look at only fans ter if you look at only fans
00:23:52Andreaterms they are very vanilla if you go on porn you can find some dirty ass on their only fans some dirty yeah they are very strict you can't do stuff
00:24:02Andreain public you can't do a lot of certain things so I honestly think that it is a very safe site for people to go on there and show that and you know you do you see that people are over 18 they're
00:24:14Andreaencouraged to you know everybody has to sign a release form everybody is consenting if you go on porn I have seen stuff where these girls are looking very uncomfortable only fans you know it's
00:24:27Andreavery safe and like for people like us it is possible to make a million dollars overnight because you have to have that X Factor it's not for everybody that's what I'm going to say Manny go ahead
00:24:38Emanuelyeah um so one of the to your point Natalie the $150 a month you know the 1% rule so you got black China making $90 million a year and then you know 50 million 40 million 30 million and then everyone else is 000000 z which brings
00:24:50Emanuelthat average amount down there so I think one of the big challenges is when you get on to an only fans and then you put up some posts and you're like I'm going to to be rich and then it doesn't happen and then it's like oh shoot now someone has these photos I think that's one of the the biggest challenges with
00:25:03Emanuelit but one of the things that was really interesting is back and I were researching coming on we're like why does somebody watch only fans versus porn because I was never watching uh only fans and what's the big difference because it's free right so what are they looking for the boyfriend experience
00:25:16Emanuellove connection they want get to know you so here's what was really crazy as we start going through the facts and the numbers and we find 90% of the people are married who are a subbing and we're
00:25:28Emanuelgoing whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa and so one of the big challenges I think of what we're trying to stand up for is just the idea of someone is coming here and they're looking for the virtual girlfriend experience but I think about
00:25:39Emanuela child walking down and seeing you know that's not I sorry no no no you're fine okay I apologize so that kid coming down and seeing you know their dad on there and the divorce and how they could break
00:25:51Emanuelup a family and it's just it's very very sad so one of the things I like to just bring up is just you know you say they love you which I I think you would say they love you your fans I don't think
00:26:02Lily Phillipsthey love me I would no no no I wouldn't say would you well I'm not like I'm not a celebrity I love they love watching us yeah I think I would put back you know with that whole concept of if they are
00:26:14Emanuelmarried men you know with a family and they're running from an issue with their with their spouse and they're saying I don't want to stand up to this I don't want to have that hard conversation just like the hardest conversation I ever had in my life was I'm addicted to porn I
00:26:26Emanuelcan't stop this on my own I need help um you know when you say they love you if you say that if you don't say that but do you want to show love to them not in a sexual way but caring about them
00:26:36Lily Phillipsenough to say you know what I don't want your family to be broken I I care about them but don't get me wrong I'm not in a relationship with
00:26:46Lily Phillipsthem it's not my duty to you know make sure everyone doesn't have a girlfriend and everyone doesn't have a wife and they've not got families cuz like it's
00:26:57EmanuelI'm not trying to be like Pastor the blame but it's not my problem like I'm not the one in a family and if I can just really quick on that one you know one of the things was I was just some guy jerking off in his bathroom for 15 years at 2 a.m. you know and I was like
00:27:09EmanuelI never can make a difference i i a l i was going I can't make a difference I can't do anything I'm just some guy and what was crazy about it is when we stood up and we just said you
00:27:21Emanuelknow what let's create this course as a team and we were helping couples do it we said if we can help 10 to 20 couples with their course that we made that'd be great and in the first year 450 people got the course in over 25 different countries I was literally on the phone with someone in Denmark the other day
00:27:34Emanuelit's like 4 days in the future over there but just that idea of we're just no buies from Arizona with no following and just if this could save one marriage if it could prevent one sa from happening if it could help one self-d
00:27:47Andreadeltion trying to use all your words would it be worth it to stand up and just say you know what that would be worth it just one of those things I mean it's not really like I like she said too it's it's not really my issue you know like most people who go on there have
00:28:00Andreafake names and everything they don't want to go on there and like talk about their issu it's a lot Anonymous people we don't know who they are and it's not my problem cuz at the end of the day I mean hold on one second grid One
00:28:10TTS ReaderMotorsports donated $100 y thank you man Ryan won't be on long tonight fly day tomorrow just a reminder that the owner of pays himself 1.3 mil a day these of
00:28:22Brian Atlasgirls work for the world's biggest pimp feminism for the L fism for the L let's go thank you G Juan appreciate it enjoy your fly day tomorrow um but yeah honestly I think if
00:28:34Andreaa guy is buying only fans it's probably because the girl isn't satisfying her man so he has to go out and get that somewhere else so you know like it's both of their problems it's not my issue all I cared about is getting paid I
00:28:46Brian Atlasactually don't even think it has anything to do with most if a man's in a relationship well I mean that could be wrong on this I don't think he's it's probably men who don't have any dating prospects at all who are the pro
00:28:57Emanuelprobably the primary customers of uh I give great relationship advice on my class can we add to that I wouldn't say can we add to that for a second though because one of the big things when I was
00:29:09Emanueladdicted to uh porn was I just felt I would tell myself you know what Becca just can't handle me because I just need it all I'm just such a manly man with so much testosterone I can't and what
00:29:21Emanuelhappened was once I stopped watching porn it was like oh I don't need I'm not addicted to sex I'm addicted to to porn and when we have sex once or twice a week or three times if it's Valentine's weekend or whatever but you know when we
00:29:34Emanuelhave these things it's just incredible because it's no longer about uh Power or domination or anything that's getting off it's about love connection and intimacy it's just a beautiful thing seeing it and I would say Becca is the last person who it's theault because one
00:29:47Emanuelof the things it's interesting like I said this was 15 years in the making she was only with me for six of those years and I wanted to quit I said once I get married I'm done with this 3 months before the wedding I'm done then I said 2 months one week one day and it's the
00:30:00Emanuelnight of a wedding and I can't have sex and I'm going I'm so sorry I love you I love you but I have this problem and I'm struggling and I didn't say even in that night I want to quit I just said I I have this problem and it wasn't until I
00:30:12Emanuelcame to her 3 years later and I just said I can't beat this thing on my own will you be there for me that I was able to finally overcome this thing and and really overdo here we can come back to the only no it's fine uh we can come
00:30:24Brian Atlasback to the only fans conversation and I know you guys want to continue going at it but we will come back let's get through this the relationship status
00:30:32Atlantisstuff first go ahead uh I'm single okay um I think the last time I've been in a relationship was probably December
00:30:42Atlantis2022 the 20 year 202 I was like that's very precise so you've been single for two years about or two okay uh longest relationship that what uh that
00:30:55Brian Atlasrelationship was is like a year and a half got it okay uh Becca what about you married for almost seven years all right
00:31:05EmanuelI assume the answer is the same for you Manny but uh same same seven years feels like it's been like 3 minutes though underwater no I'm just joking that was a joke please that was a joke there is a
00:31:18Lily PhillipsMitch Hedberg joke that goes something along the lines of uh I'm trying to remember what it was there's a girl oh my God I'll have to think what all these
00:31:30Brian Atlasreferences I can't remember any of them just terrible um amen something wait Mitch Hedberg something about like how's
00:31:39TTS Readerit go I know a girl who sorry I'm sorry I'm butchering it uh wait let me Google it while this comes donated
00:31:50TTS Reader$100 also the Discord spice tell me that the big GF Latina has her type as hard at work even as she sits in front of you laughing GF indeed sounds like a scammer
00:32:02Brian Atlasto me thank you grid One Motorsports are the Discord spies are saying that this you're selling the girlfriend experience but you have uh typers or Chatters as
00:32:12Hazelthere I actually don't know okay how can you talk to fing yeah 5,000 people well I cons I'm not talking to everyone every day like I spread my love a little more
00:32:24Hazelspecific how do you spread your love well make time for a few one day the next day I'll make time for the others and then I have like a a schedule A lot of them don't want sorry A lot of them wants chat yeah a lot of them don't want
00:32:36Natalie Wintersto chat but a lot of them do just depend I'm just curious would you guys like say looking down range want these guys to be in healthy relationships where they no longer need to come to you or do you want to always have them perpetually in a state where they either are single or
00:32:50Hazelthey have these broken relationships where they always need to come to you guys I don't believe that people that watch porn necessarily have an unhealthy relationship I had I know a lot of couples that watch porn together so I'm
00:33:02Natalie Winterstalking specifically though on the only fans like the girlfriend experience angle of it a lot of the people that I do give the girlfriend experience to really don't have a chance finding a real girlfriend in the real world so do
00:33:15Hazelyou think that them watching only fans is helping helping them get a relationship in the real world honesty honestly I feel like I do practice yeah I yeah I
00:33:25Lily Phillipsgive them advice practice for something that they'll never really need game time I'm happy for mine to get into relationships cuz that you know what like there's obviously always going to be single man so do you guys think that what you do helps them get into
00:33:37Natalie Wintersrelationships or keeps them want you I don't involve myself in their personal life like that much I think it's probably pretty fair to say that what you guys are doing is probably I would say it's making them stray away towards getting into relationships so if you
00:33:50Lily Phillipsreally want them to get into relationships then why wouldn't you I'm not saying I want them to get into relationships I'm not saying I'm not I'm just saying no I'm just saying so they keep paying you whoa whoa whoa I'm just saying go you do your thing like if he
00:34:02Natalie Winterswants to get in relationship he wants all smoke tonight I want them all to be single I want them all to single I always have to do shows with other conservative media people and I always just have to talk about like the Chinese Communist party and all that stuff we
00:34:14Brian Atlasabout this is so fun cuz I get to be on with people who I disagree with so I'm very excited well Natalie can do you think though I mean my view on this is
00:34:25Brian Atlasdo you think that that men ought to take accountability on this I don't really blame so much so the women for making this stuff available I mean look there's
00:34:36Brian Atlasperhaps some degree of culpability but I think men absolutely have agency and they should take it upon themselves to not there always going to be poor 100% And I think it's a testament to how
00:34:48Natalie Wintersmasculinity really has been watered down nowadays but I'm just saying I think where I take not even personal offense to it but where I put more of the onus on on the women for it is when and I mean this with all due respect but when
00:35:01Natalie Wintersyou guys sort of have this flippant laughing attitude where you guys are joking about like oh hahaa I want to be commodified I want to be objectified I want to just make money oh it's all about making money I think that just sort of really works to normalize the
00:35:13Natalie Wintersbehavior which a takes the stigma off the guys getting involved in it but more importantly I think it sends the very very very wrong and very dangerous not just I mean for physical reasons but I think for reputational reasons message
00:35:25Lily Phillipsto other young girls that oh it's so easy I just turn on only fans and I make a million dollars and it's not that's not true no I I agree I agree that people really need to think about it because obviously it affects every
00:35:37Lily Phillipsaspect of their life I totally agree with that but I mean personally I do it cuz I enjoy it Freedom like and also only fans is not for everybody people people are always going to watch porn
00:35:50Emanuellike if I sto doing only fans and porn like they' only you know wank off to another girl so like and may add you were talking about making money and let's not lie you can make money doing only fans somebody's making money
00:36:02Emanuelotherwise nobody would be doing it right so making money getting the attention literally a bigger philosophical question of just like what is the purpose of this life for you would you say yeah and I honestly one of my Kinks
00:36:14Lily Phillipsis like really getting off to like guys getting off to me like I I like being sexualized I don't know sound SD but it's just one of my Kinks what can I say
00:36:23Lily Phillipsum and so I I love my job I get good money from it I get all the freedom but at the end of the day when you're 80 and you know you're passing away right what is what are you going to
00:36:35Beccasay my I I invest my money well and stuff like that what type of relationship do you want to have so I haven't really figured this out yet but I I'd be happy
00:36:48Lily Phillipsto date someone like in the porn industry as well with me and stuff like that like I don't mind not having a non monogamous relationship ship is that correct that would be um yeah um but
00:37:00Lily Phillipshonestly like I'm not looking for anything for another like 10 years like I am very very happy in myself I really enjoy my own company so for now you just said that your biggest Kink is watching other people get off to you and that you
00:37:13Natalie Wintersbasically crave the validation of other people so how can you say that you're just content like living by yourself it sounds like you you do want someone to I no I I don't want a boyfriend
00:37:23Lily Phillipsbut I I I I get off to guys blanking off to me yes that's two different things word can I get some more water is that
00:37:34Andreaokay my loud sorry I'm a thirsty girl I squir a lot so I need to hydrate yeah honestly though I like the attention on only fans like and anyone who's ever known me since like I don't
00:37:45Andreaknow seventh grade I've just had this flirty like sex appeal to me I love you know I've always like twerked at the dances and so I don't know like I've always just kind of been like super
00:37:56Andreahorny and stuff and like if you like to have sex and record it then I mean why notze make money off of it and it's like not anyone can make money off of it like you have to be that kind of girl you
00:38:09Andreaknow put yourself out there you got to know how to Market things correctly that's what a lot of people don't do they don't know how to Market it and stuff so that's another thing but honestly I like the attention and I like
00:38:20Andreamaying money off of it and even if I do know somebody who bought my only fans and they have a wife I'm not going to say anything about it because I'm it's not my position he's probably buying 10 other girls only fans too so it's like
00:38:32Natalie Wintersyou know it's like what can I do it's his issue not mine and like she said I'm not invested in their personal lives I'm not sure if that was a rhetorical question as to why one would not participate on the only fans platform
00:38:44Natalie Wintersbut assuming it wasn't just hypothetically say you have children not sure if that's something that you want but how do you think that plays out with you having kids or maybe getting married do you think that that affects them do you think that's a potential reason not
00:38:54Andreato do only fans no I don't really plan on having kids either so I don't think that'd be a thing but even like Kim Kardashian with her video with Ray J and stuff you know like she's one of the
00:39:04Andrearichest women out here and like her kids you know North probably knows about it it it really doesn't matter you know like people she she's spent millions and millions and millions of dollars to get
00:39:16Brian Atlasthat video off the internet for a reason so she said no it's she has she she leaked it herself here let's uh we'll come back to the of discussion a little
00:39:26Brian Atlasbit later on in the show I want to get into uh some dating topics first though well actually before that really quick just going around the table this is a question we've been starting to ask um are your parents still together starting
00:39:38Atlantiswith you go ahead yes my parents are happily married 20 years actually okay yep they are still together my parents are divorced 40 years this year together
00:39:48Brian Atlasno my dad's dead sorry to hear that Yes mine are together uh they were together my father just past two years ago sorry to hear that okay uh so we have Valentine's Day
00:40:01Brian Atlastomorrow this is our first topic of the show valentine's day it's tomorrow a holiday that is commercialized and encourages you to buy greeting cards
00:40:10Brian Atlaschocolate flowers expensive dinners expensive gifts um so a couple of you wait let's see there's wait you're kind
00:40:20Brian Atlasof in a relationship you're in a situationship single the but all of you have been in a Rel ship at one point um who here has been in a relationship
00:40:30Brian Atlasduring Valentine's Day everybody okay um did you get your boyfriend for the ladies here did you get your boyfriend anything on
00:40:42AndreaValentine's Day yes uh yes I did a bottle of honey and a blunt and I did not no uh we were going on a trip the new
00:40:53Brian Atlassuitcase okay no you didn't get him anything no did he get you anything no oh okay then I got him
00:41:04Brian Atlasanal uh that's why I stick to anal sex okay oh boy all right these girls are are loose with it tonight okay um would you guys be upset if your boyfriend I
00:41:17Brian Atlasknow some of you are single but let's assume like you get into a relationship didn't get you anything on Valentine's Day I'd be hurt you'd be hurt yes you're you're supposed to give a woman flowers and chocolate that's it I mean it's not
00:41:30Andreathat hard but what are you supposed to give the man you know a bottle and a BL an anal whatever he want too I I would buy him flowers too and you know what's
00:41:40Andreacrazy I actually um heard that guys don't get flowers until their funeral what the Y it's true so I get them flowers no I I I like a nice
00:41:49Lily Phillipswell-written card and maybe some quality time so like a dinner as long as he me good that'll be fine all
00:42:00Brian Atlasright uh well I did read something uh that men will spend nearly double what women plan to spend and there's varying
00:42:07Brian Atlassources on this $190 versus $96 on average um so uh yeah honestly they need to be spoiling you like throughout the whole year not just on Valentine's Day I
00:42:19Hazellike to spoil my guy though like the the men need to be spoiling the women yeah and vice versa vice versa if you're in a relationship and you love the person you should spoil each other are you
00:42:29Brian Atlascurrently being spoiled by I am being not your 5,000 you're you're in person he's spoiling you you guys have anything planned for Valentine's not yet no I'm probably going to be really tired if
00:42:42Hazelspoils how does he spoil you uh he gets me flowers we'll go to dinner we'll go on trips and does he always pay for that yes and how do you spoil him um I give
00:42:52Brian Atlashim head that's how it should be you pay wait you agree you agree with of course I agree I think a man should be a provider the man just and the woman just
00:43:04Jadeprovides sexual no not necessarily sex um I feel like it depends on the woman but a man should be a provider a woman should bring morals woman should bring kindness genuine being a person person
00:43:16Jadenot necessarily um anal or head but I feel like it the way that a woman thinks the way her mindset is I think the way that she talks she dresses say she acts I think that is enough for a man to be a in a provider role and
00:43:30Jadethen on top of that as well if you're not willing to pay a trip for me how are you going to pay for me to raise your kids at home I don't get it word Amen period how many um let me ask you a
00:43:40Brian Atlasquestion though on that how many uh like guys have you dated have I dated yeah how many boyfriends have you had how many guys have you dated just the
00:43:51Jadetwo yeah only two yeah so the current guy and well that too but like I said before I'm still single two and then a potential a potential dates I've gone on dates with
00:44:03Brian Atlasthree different dudes yes you've so you've only had three First Dates yeah W hold on okay all right well you're really young aren't you I'm 23 yeah yeah cuz I
00:44:16Brian Atlasmean the push back I was going to give there is you're saying well men should do XYZ because at some future point you will bear him children but I think the reality is when it comes to dating
00:44:28Brian Atlasnowadays like if you and perhaps you're an outlier in this regard uh you know most women who've had like a string of relationships didn't end up procreating with any of those men and it's plausible
00:44:41Brian Atlasthat those men provided for that provided for that women woman excuse me but did not receive the benefit that you are suggesting is a prerequisite prerequisite and requirement for a man's
00:44:53Brian Atlasprovision so you're saying well men should provide because I will bear him children one day but you've dated men who you did not procreate with so the men the men did not reap the supposed benefits of the provisioning which W
00:45:06Jadewith which he provided well you also have to remember I'm I'm 23 years old so the man that I met at 18 there's it's a very rare chance that I'm going to end up procreating with him um versus the last one yah was actually planning on we
00:45:19Brian Atlaswere planning on getting married we were talking about it even had our marriage license filled out but I mean he I I don't think you're to wrong like yes there is something to be said for well if like this is going to be the mother
00:45:29Brian Atlasof your children and you know perhaps if she's going to be a stay-at-home uh wife whatever uh certainly there could be an expectation of providing but it occurs
00:45:39Brian Atlasto me that in most modern uh for most modern relationships for most people they have strings of relationships before they ever get married or have
00:45:49Brian Atlaskids so it makes me question whether men ought to be providing if your if your argument is men should provide because one day I'll give them kids but how many people are in relationships that don't
00:46:00Jadeever result in uh CH children I mean of course there's many however that's not my that's not my goal if I go on a date with somebody as I said earlier um if I go on a date with someone automatically
00:46:13Brian Atlasyou're going to be the only person I'm talking to that's just how I work um emotionally I'm not you're dating intentionally I get it intentionally get okay so Valentine's Day uh what were we talking about here we were talking about
00:46:24BeccaValentine's Day uh I think we pretty much got through everyone on that right anybody would you be upset anybody else would be upset I personally hate flowers I think they're stupid they die I I
00:46:36Beccadon't like them I like chocolate but I think it's like your Valentine's Day is going to look different based on like you need to know your partner what do they want you know some people want quality time some people want flowers
00:46:48Beccasome people want chocolates so if you're just like this guy who's out there like oh I got to get chocolates and flowers to check off the Box in this big old teddy bear like lame more old why would I want a freaking teddy bear I did have someone give that to me when I was in
00:47:02Beccahigh school and I was like I'm throwing this away so I think know the person it should be something specific to what they want and it shouldn't be this requirement I think um just spending
00:47:14Beccamoney on each other being more superficial can be you know pretty prevalent in today's society and I think having quality time having you know I think it would be a lot more romantic or
00:47:26Beccasexy to have a vulnerable conversation filled with hey what are you looking for in this life what are your goals I think that's a lot sexier of a thing to do on
00:47:34BeccaValentine's Day than to uh get somebody just an know aside what have you given me as some presents on I don't even know
00:47:45BeccaI don't even know I know what you give me handwritten letters that incredible yes handwritten letters I think I think but that's our love language you know so I think it really depends on what does
00:47:57Beccathat person want and if you don't know what that person wants I would say you're not in a very close relationship if you like you need to have those conversations to get to know that person
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00:48:28Brian Atlaschoppy TRW thank you man appreciate it uh wait what are they saying you understand what's that we love you too baby what what are they saying yeah what
00:48:39Emanueldo they mean I think what what it's trying to say is um it may feel or be coming off as a bit more of an advertisement it's not a real conversation this is what I'm here for
00:48:50Emanuelit and it absolutely can be an advertisement but it also can be a real conversation where we're diving a little bit deeper and and find out what's going it's both yeah Best of Both World both
00:49:00Lily Phillipsbut why do you have o signing fans girls on it's to like get the clicks and get them titles of it's controversial it's very
00:49:09Brian Atlascontroversial truth be told truth be told I mean I'll I'll answer this um if recruitment for this show was more simplified and I mean Madison can attest
00:49:21Brian Atlasto this it's it's uh Talent recruitment is rather difficult uh if it was up to me I would not invite no offense to you guys I would not invite people no I just wouldn't invite women
00:49:32Brian Atlaswho do only fans or porn on the show I'd much rather invite quote unquote normal women they can be left leaning they can be feminists they can be Progressive so we're not
00:49:42Brian Atlasnormal well there's a difference in so far as you're engaged in sex work so what I'm trying to say is I would have no issue uh if we were capable of more
00:49:55Brian AtlasEAS eily procuring guests to totally phase out women who do sex work but because the just and look it's a criticism that the show has received that I've received the reality is and
00:50:08Brian Atlasfor those watching who might be curious why why do you bring the uh you know why don't you just bring on normal women cuz sex no you get sex no we would actually actually some of our most viral moments
00:50:20Brian Atlaswere with women who were not involved in sex work uh in any case the reality is what does a
00:50:28Brian Atlasuh woman who's has a professional career who's like a nurse or a uh nut no listen we do get some of those women but
00:50:38Brian Atlastypically we mostly get content creators and women who are involved uh doing only fans wanting to be on the show and again if it was easy for us to get like liberal or PR for okay there's there's a
00:50:51Brian Atlasthis is a very nuanced topic for one we've had a multitude of big name conservative guests on the show and we live in California that immediately turns off like the vast majority of
00:51:03Brian Atlaspeople who are left leaning or liberal who aren't involved in content creation coming on the show they see that most no offense to people who are liberal most people who are liberal are not prepared
00:51:13Brian Atlasto have their views uh debated or challenged so they're not the one where like which one's liberal is that liberal like Democrats
00:51:24Brian Atlasit's Democrats so people who are left leaning liberal typically are not really willing to engage in conversations with people who disagree with them they're not really open to debate because they
00:51:34Brian Atlastend to operate not not everybody but often times they will sort of have a pretty strong animosity towards people who are more conservative or even
00:51:44Brian Atlasmoderate whereas I think and perhaps you you're conservative I think conserv conservatives seem much more willing to engage in conversation with people who
00:51:53Brian Atlasare uh liberal conservatives seem to view people who are liberal as um you just you just see it as like an ideological difference whereas liberals will view conservatives as like evil
00:52:04Brian Atlaslike they'll pass like a very strong moral judgment like you're evil whereas conservatives it's like H just we disagree you know ideolog name in the book because we do you consider yourself
00:52:16Brian Atlaswell hold on let me uh let me finish my thing so because we live in California which in Santa Barbara it's an incredibly left-leaning liberal area it's very difficult for us to to get
00:52:25Brian Atlasguests on um and we fre not on top of that we have a lot of people who flake last minute who cancel we had I have to overbook so I'll I'll book 20 people to
00:52:37Brian Atlascome be on the show 10 half of them flake and so it's it's all most of the time that's dedicated outside of the podcast is actually dedicated to guest procurement Talent recruitment it's
00:52:49Brian Atlasincredibly difficult um no I can imagine the behind the scenes is but if we just we're we're happy to we're happy to bring on feminists liberals who have normal jobs I would actually prefer that
00:53:02Hazelno offense to you guys if I could phase it out I absolutely would well we make our own hours so we're we're most available so well I guess also to make it we're able to make it we
00:53:14Brian Atlasdon't have and also this podcast this podcast does have a reputation for being um a little I don't know if confrontational is the right word but I'm not just going to sit here
00:53:26Brian Atlasand like I I challenge people this isn't going to be like let me just agree with everything you say and we're just going to sing Kumbaya no I'm going to challenge people I'm going to have debates I'm going to disag agree with
00:53:37Brian Atlaspeople and I think a lot of people are not prepared to have those conversations um and then really it just comes down to like what is the incentive for like a 23-year-old
00:53:49Brian Atlas29-year-old liberal Progressive feminist woman who's got a normal job to come on the show there there's really no incentive they don't give a they don't care about Instagram
00:53:59Brian Atlasfollowers so um I would actually make the argument even if we had like a perfectly non-political strictly dating related like super tame dating show that
00:54:12Brian Atlasnever ventured into culture War stuff never ventured into Political conversations was was totally like never devolved into like heated exchanges or debates I still think it would be very
00:54:23Brian Atlasdifficult to procure quote unquote normal people to come talk about even PG related dating subjects because people just don't want to be out there uh on the internet so anyways that was a bit
00:54:36Emanuelof a ramble there but uh I was going to point out how you know the Liberals don't want to talk um not to make it Ultra political but just you know this is going on YouTube and that's
00:54:48Emanuelin Northern California and I have a a list of words I was given that's like 25 long before the show started of what I can and can't say and being afraid of free speech you know and so I I say to all of you thank you for coming and this
00:55:00Brian Atlasis really cool to be able to be here and get the talk be open have these comos aome yeah I agree but I mean just to answer the I address the initial thing
00:55:09Brian Atlaslike if we had like okay if I had a flow of like people who could commit to being on the show and I had like a bucket of like 10 o girls and 10 like liberal
00:55:22Brian Atlasfeminist leading leading women who didn't do sex work I would always pull from the nonsex workers yeah but unfortunately the circumstances are that
00:55:32Lily Phillipsthis is a somewhat controversial show and and only fans is very controversial yeah yeah and before this I mean you did ask us to like post on your social media and so obviously people who work on
00:55:44Brian Atlassocial media usually have a few more followers than people who don't I mean so that helps truth we don't really factor in people's followings at all at all I have like 100 she's got 100
00:55:55Brian Atlasfollowers like we'll bring on like if you have as long as you're ready to come have a good conversation and if you I actually really want to bring on if there's anybody watching who disagrees with me and this is going to get into
00:56:06Brian Atlasour next thing I'm very open to Bringing on people who disagree with me um but yeah you have I have like you don't do you have a couple hundred followers
00:56:16Brian Atlasmaybe so the someone's follower account does not uh you know as far as the girls we're bringing on is really kind of irrelevant so it's it's a added bonus if they have a big following and maybe they
00:56:28Andreacan push a couple people to our live shows but I I don't really care all that much so I feel like of girls you know with like the whole dating stuff too we probably
00:56:39Andreahave like a bit more stories you know with like you know experiences with men and stuff so you know I feel like it's more fun bringing us on cuz we exchange stories and stuff as well sure but one
00:56:50Brian Atlasof the cons of that that does concern me is uh there's definitely only fans Wom women who essentially lie about these their so-called dating experiences and stories
00:57:01Brian Atlasjust to create a story about them like there's some girl there's some girls in Australia who like I'm pretty sure will like intentionally lie and say oh yeah there's some girl recently who went viral who said oh I slept with like 20