Single Mom With Neck Tattoo Wants TOP 1% MAN?! | Dating Talk #67

Date: 2023-03-29
Duration: 4h 08m

Identified Speakers

SPEAKER_00TTS Reader(audience)
SPEAKER_01TTS Reader(audience)
SPEAKER_02Alicia Waldner(guest)
SPEAKER_04Grady(guest)
SPEAKER_05Ben Samuels(guest)
SPEAKER_06Arlen Moore(guest)
SPEAKER_07Elo Musk(guest)
SPEAKER_08Brett Sanchez Smith(guest)
SPEAKER_09Brian Atlas(host)
SPEAKER_11Ellis(guest)
SPEAKER_12Soul(guest)
SPEAKER_13Lexi Pantera(guest)
SPEAKER_14Ivy Wolf(guest)

Key Moments

00:05:09
QuoteLexi Pantera introduces herself claiming to be 21, declares herself "the baddest bitch alive", and says she will "forever and always" be 21.

My name is Lexi Pantera I'm a singer songwriter actress dancer and an entrepreneur and the baddest bitch alive... I am proudly 21 years old and wherever and forever will be here

00:12:35
OtherBrian recognizes Lexi Pantera from a 52 million view twerking in public video they collaborated on 7 years ago; Lexi initially does not remember him.

that's wild I didn't recognize... do you remember this video twerking in public 52 million views wait seven years ago

00:23:03
OtherSoul reveals she accepted men paying for babysitters (10-12 times) so she could go on dates after recently immigrating to America.

I don't remember actually because I don't count and it was like oh I get money okay

00:28:49
ControversySoul tells Brian he does not understand her experience because he is a white man; Brian pushes back saying bringing up skin color is racist.

you was not uh moving to another country like when you was an adult and you're not a woman if what is what does my skin color have to do with this privilege

01:39:59
QuoteElo Musk tells Brian he is close-minded because he only wants to date a narrow group of women.

I think you're close-minded because you only want to date oh my god

02:13:05
QuoteLexi runs the delusional calculator for her partner requirements: Black man age 28-42, minimum income $500k (she says it is too low), resulting in 0.011% of men.

500 500k is too low it's laughable the highest you might as well keep that find out... 0.011

02:19:55
QuoteSoul concedes her future husband is in the bottom 9% because he does not yet make enough money, but says he will.

Ryan my husband's just not in nine percent because he's still not making that money right now but he will so

03:43:53
Key MomentPatrice O'Neal clip played at end of show; Brian asks what guests would do if they lost their genitals in a train accident to keep their man.

what that mouth do so look around the table we're bringing a girlfriend in

03:57:25
OtherLexi responds to super chat insult about her mom by saying she beat up the last person who talked about her mom.

the last person that talked about my mom I beat his ass by the way so you better watch your goddamn mouth

Topics Discussed

00:00:00
Introductions & relationship statuses

Guests introduce name, age, occupation, and current relationship status. Brian mentions neck injury and upcoming 2-3 week break.

00:00:00
Introductions & relationship statuses

Guests introduce name, age, occupation, and current relationship status. Brian mentions neck injury and upcoming 2-3 week break.

00:15:00
Single mom dating challenges — Soul

Discussion of Soul's situation as a single mom recently immigrated from France. Topics include men paying for babysitters, wifey material, child support, ambition.

00:15:00
Single mom dating challenges — Soul

Discussion of Soul's situation as a single mom recently immigrated from France. Topics include men paying for babysitters, wifey material, child support, ambition.

00:45:00
Body count and loyalty debate

Extended debate on whether loyalty is common, body count significance, and promiscuity. Lexi argues all men are the same; Brian counters with data on promiscuity correlating with relationship outcomes.

00:45:00
Body count and loyalty debate

Extended debate on whether loyalty is common, body count significance, and promiscuity. Lexi argues all men are the same; Brian counters with data on promiscuity correlating with relationship outcomes.

01:10:00
High-value men and women's standards

Delusional calculator used on Soul and Lexi to illustrate how few men meet their stated requirements. Soul wants top-1% Black man; Lexi needs a man matching ~$200k/month income.

01:10:00
High-value men and women's standards

Delusional calculator used on Soul and Lexi to illustrate how few men meet their stated requirements. Soul wants top-1% Black man; Lexi needs a man matching ~$200k/month income.

01:55:00
Polyamory and dating multiple people

Ivy discusses her polyamorous lifestyle; others weigh in on monogamy vs. open relationships.

01:55:00
Polyamory and dating multiple people

Ivy discusses her polyamorous lifestyle; others weigh in on monogamy vs. open relationships.

01:58:59
Self-ratings round (Stifler super chat)

Guests rate their own looks on a 1-10 scale. Most women rate 10; men are more modest (6-8).

01:58:59
Self-ratings round (Stifler super chat)

Guests rate their own looks on a 1-10 scale. Most women rate 10; men are more modest (6-8).

02:05:00
OnlyFans economics and career vs. family

Discussion of why women create OnlyFans, whether men should provide while women earn on OF, and whether career or family takes priority.

02:05:00
OnlyFans economics and career vs. family

Discussion of why women create OnlyFans, whether men should provide while women earn on OF, and whether career or family takes priority.

02:13:20
Manifesting and spiritual beliefs

Soul advocates for manifesting healing of any disease through mindset. Brian challenges with specific fatal conditions (brain-eating amoeba, prions). References Joe Dispenza.

02:13:20
Manifesting and spiritual beliefs

Soul advocates for manifesting healing of any disease through mindset. Brian challenges with specific fatal conditions (brain-eating amoeba, prions). References Joe Dispenza.

02:40:00
Would you give up Instagram for marriage?

Question posed whether women would delete social media/career for a marriageable man. All women say no.

02:40:00
Would you give up Instagram for marriage?

Question posed whether women would delete social media/career for a marriageable man. All women say no.

03:24:00
Boundaries and who should set them in relationships

Debate between Grady and Brian about whether to tell a partner your boundaries or find someone who naturally shares your values. Brett and others weigh in.

03:24:00
Boundaries and who should set them in relationships

Debate between Grady and Brian about whether to tell a partner your boundaries or find someone who naturally shares your values. Brett and others weigh in.

03:43:53
Patrice O'Neal clip — if you lost your vagina

Classic Patrice O'Neal clip played; guests respond to how they would keep a man without sex. Lexi: bring another woman. Ivy: polyamory. Soul: asexual partner.

03:43:53
Patrice O'Neal clip — if you lost your vagina

Classic Patrice O'Neal clip played; guests respond to how they would keep a man without sex. Lexi: bring another woman. Ivy: polyamory. Soul: asexual partner.

Transcript

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02:52:06
Ivy Wolfand I feel like as somebody who's chosen to be polyamorous or also been monogamous and for my career choice a lot of people will apply what they think
02:52:17
Ivy Wolfis the right way to be unto me not taking into consideration maybe I'm an authentic honest communicative straightforward person who's just my own
02:52:27
Ivy Wolfperson and just different and I think that it's really just about finding what's good for you and making sure you're respecting yourself and you're respecting other people that
02:52:39
Ivy Wolfyou're clean that you're kind and that you're communicative I really think at that at the end of the day we're all going to have our own idea of what's right for us and what's right in our own
02:52:49
Brian Atlaspart and our other partner well I mean this is just marquavis's comment here is in response to why body count talking about the entire conversation yeah he's
02:52:59
Brian Atlassaying uh in terms of why body count matters so and one thing that he uh I mean opinion some people date porn stars and they're fine with it with it yeah I've had a lot of Partners
02:53:10
Ivy Wolfeveryone's different individual yeah I personally don't understand it I have met guys how often have you guys been tested here how often do you get STD tests I mean I see where you're going with this but like usually after
02:53:23
Ivy Wolfevery relationship that's beautiful beautiful that's really amazing I go at least once a month two two times a month if every seven to fourteen but a lot of people so you do traditional adult contents correct yes
02:53:35
Brian Atlashow many scenes do you do per month or week like one two a week if I feel like it okay with new individuals correct yes and you're also tested seven
02:53:46
Brian Atlasto fourteen days yeah but I mean the STD rate in the for example like HPV and herpes in the porn community in the adult content Community is far higher than the general public correct like
02:53:57
Ivy Wolfthat's why there are plenty of things and ways that you can prevent that
02:54:06
Ivy Wolfif you study the statistics of herpes most people have it in their body but because they never get tested for it because they're like oh my body count is low they actually have in their body and
02:54:18
Ivy Wolfmost people that have it they just don't have them those they never know you don't even get tested for it well if you think about the way they're recording the information they're okay you're but you're being a little misleading because there's two forms of herpes there's hsv1
02:54:31
Ivy Wolfand hsv2 I'm talking about both of them you can have both in both places yes most people have at least one form what's common but they just don't have that right genital herpes yeah that's what I've
02:54:44
Ellisheard I don't have it but I heard that it's very common now one we're talking about right well there's cold sores but your partner could have a cold sore and then give you head or whatever and then you get it there even though it's type one so are you not gonna date anybody
02:54:57
Ellisbecause they have a cold sore when it's like 90 of the population if your mom because they could eat you out and give you like yeah but if you have to say I don't know which if it's hsv1 or hsv2 but
02:55:08
Brian Atlaslike that I'm just saying most people sorry most people don't have genitals look at this you don't have a SIM you can sometimes you can't see this you guys really defending herpes like I'm just like what the [ __ ] no they
02:55:21
Ellisdon't even test for it anymore when you get sitting defending whatever yeah they don't because everyone has it's some form of it for the most part I think that's right I'm good on that one
02:55:31
Ivy Wolfall I was saying is everybody has their own perspective on the right way to live and the wrong way to live and we're all allowed that sure and I think respect communication integrity that's all that
02:55:43
Ivy Wolfreally matters yeah but I look women are free if you want to have numerous that man is allowed to have his perspective you're allowed to have yours and we're allowed to have Arts absolutely however
02:55:53
Brian Atlashowever we are having a conversation and the fact of the matter is most men don't want to have long-term relationships or marry women who were promiscuous or are promiscuous or
02:56:05
Ivy Wolfhave a high body count I have experienced a lot of men who are okay with it simply because there are some to be communicative respectful and authentic and I think that a lot of the
02:56:16
Ivy Wolftimes girls will lie or be kind of like hide things won't be straight up about things and that causes a lot of distrust and honestly that's dirty to just
02:56:27
Soul[ __ ] lie that's dirty that's gross 100 so you can date a girl basically and she said like oh my body count is five but it's not true so how you know I mean there's sure when a woman could lie
02:56:40
Brian Atlasabout her body count but there's certainly you know we as men we can look at a girl and sort of get a sense of you know not always but you can look at their behavior and kind of get a sense of for promiscuity
02:56:57
Brian Atlasit's pretty true not like [ __ ] science like sure could a girl partake in certain behaviors and have a low body count yes but you can like look at someone's character you can
02:57:08
Soullook at certain things and kind of determine is she for the streets age we're talking about like 22 years or a year old who's like just it just
02:57:20
Elo Muskfinished the college no that doesn't matter because nowadays we can be 30 and we can still be uh you can be for the streets how about you tell us what you think each of our body counts is like
02:57:31
Elo Musklet's give it let's play this game let's go sure all at least you're all at least double digit for sure guaranteed
02:57:46
Elo Muskyou're all
02:57:51
Gradyyou're all wrong how about that what about you guys okay what do we think just want to say it but you're right I think I'll put this down I've got I've seen a lot of comments about me picking this thing up
02:58:04
Gradyso we'll keep that keep it on the table I mean if you've been sexually active for like 10 years and you've had 10 sexual partners that's like an average of one a year so I don't really get the the upset even if it's 20 that's that's
02:58:16
Gradytwo people if you're if you're concerned about a girl having sex with with 20 people if you've been sexually active for 10 years you're concerned about someone sleeping with two people a year which just to me is like I mean listen like we're we're different
02:58:30
Arlen Moorepeople but that that just like isn't that's just not crazy I know what Brian's suggesting is that that might be normal that might be normal right now but I think that's maybe not good for society
02:58:41
Elo Muskhe's saying that he can basically stereotype a Woman based on her behavior how she's dressed or how what her Instagram pictures are that oh she definitely has everyone loves so many
02:58:53
Elo Muskguys and that's what that's where you're wrong because that's where you stereotype people without getting to know them once you know somebody then then how would you say well you just sat here and told told me that all of us
02:59:04
Brian Atlashave had double digits well you asked me to guess so I entertained right like I entertained your requests Instagram or whatever again okay so without you guys revealing your body counts show of hands
02:59:15
Brian Atlaswas I at least correct in my range assessment oh for sure okay so I wasn't
02:59:24
Elo MuskI'm just saying I don't I hate when when certain women get and I get it maybe here these maybe you guys have had more sexual partners cool I'm not saying it's a bad thing it's not a good thing I'm just saying I don't like that you sit
02:59:38
Elo Muskhere and basically stereotype women based on where based on their behavior or or what they dress women women make all kinds of judgment calls about men's basketball
02:59:52
Brian Atlasyeah well women are much more pickier than men and you guys have higher standards than men you guys have laundry lists of things that you need in the man so heaven forbid men really don't ask for much but one thing men do value
03:00:04
Lexi Panteraagain not all men but you don't ask for much let's go back on that one yeah men really don't ask for a lot more than women does you think men ask for more you want us to give up our careers you
03:00:16
Lexi Panterawant us to have children stay home cook clean support you [ __ ] I don't know nails done hair done with a lot of men
03:00:28
Brian AtlasI actually prefer girls that don't wear any makeup what do we expect I don't know you guys but to support us be the provider and not protect us that's about it be your provider be the protector and then you guys have laundry
03:00:39
Lexi Panteralists of things that you like what Lexie you said you want a guy who's at least six feet and makes 500 000 a year 200 000 excuse me which is like 2.4 million
03:00:51
Brian Atlasto be a man you guys want way more from us than we want now women want more than women no that's not true women need need and want way more from them I don't believe that
03:01:01
Lexi Panteramen really don't need a lot okay we we really don't sit there with that one tonight because that's not true write a list of what you think a man wants and a woman wants and I guarantee you it's really it's it's pretty simple
03:01:13
Elo Muskour list is bigger it's really simple bring us peace be pleasant be feminine don't be a [ __ ] I agree with Brian on that one low-key like I I agree with him I don't agree yeah
03:01:23
Brian Atlaswe don't we don't really care like your money is not a huge Factor like it you don't need to be like a lot of girls need a guy who's charismatic funny you see this all this time on dating
03:01:35
Brian Atlasapps almost every single girl on the dating app says make me laugh be funny there's so many personality traits that you guys are desirous of in men that are quite frankly you gotta make us laugh you can get a real hot girl if you're
03:01:48
Brian Atlasugly as [ __ ] if you can make it you have a great personality I just like can I get an amen to make her laugh I mean you honestly in today's day and age you need you need a lot more than
03:01:59
Ivy Wolfthat I've never not really not really I don't know men are like widely known as simple creatures so I think yeah like pretty active he's absolutely right bro we really don't need like if you can just honestly you just bring us peace
03:02:12
Elo Muskand calm and don't be promiscuous children and stay home and what about attractiveness level sexy shut the [ __ ] up what about attractiveness but go ahead you are attracting and
03:02:24
Elo Muskthose are the bad guys not every guy is like that yo let's go let's go everybody's like that I think they want peace the man who loves you
03:02:35
Elo Muskhe he can tell you okay you can work good for you you don't have to though so that's already security and he just wants peace like Brian said manner like that my boyfriend most men how many most
03:02:47
Elo Muskmen women want to support your women what do you but those are the wrong guys those are the wrong guys Lexi you you want a guy who makes two million dollars a year I don't care how much money but
03:03:00
Lexi Panteraif you can't support me if you can't support me that's a problem and a lot of men won't just support you everybody go home and pray man
03:03:13
Lexi Panterawe're going to get nowhere with this but would you be okay with 50 50. I've done 50 50 million times but she said 100 .50 but here's the thing but you don't you don't need a guy to support you you make
03:03:26
Ellisso much money you're good but you want somebody with drive and ambition right sure which absolutely comes with success often do men care about that in women no are they totally the people I think it depends on the guy some guys just want a
03:03:39
Brian Atlaspretty girl some guys find that we need a different emotion relationship that's pretty normal here well here's the thing when it comes to relationships so a guy who because of the sort because of the
03:03:50
Brian Atlascurrent economic landscape most people will need it will have to be a dual income household so I suppose yes men who are lower earners for example they
03:04:01
Brian Atlasmight look to a woman to bolster the household finances but for the guy that Lexi is looking for which is kind of a high-earning man most men who the more
03:04:13
Brian Atlasmoney a man makes the less he is going to care about a woman's money right whereas the more money a woman makes the more she cares about a man's money because most women don't want to
03:04:23
Brian Atlashold down the guy yeah makes sense so but so a guy who has his money right he doesn't really care what you're bringing financially to the table obviously don't be in debt and
03:04:35
Elo Muskdon't know don't be a bomb and don't do [ __ ] and like be a negative too you know of course but like for example I would I would date a girl who works at Chick-fil-A don't
03:04:47
Lexi Panteragive a [ __ ] Mo like Lexi I don't think you're about to date a dude who works at Chick-fil-A I just said I dated what a couple years ago when I had only fans a guy that did shows at Universal he didn't have anything sounds like a [ __ ] Legend what are you talking
03:04:58
Lexi Panteraabout he was a psycho and I was afraid for my life eventually yes but I think that I updated that before I think it seems so [ __ ] nice in the beginning so gentlemen so caring so loving so like
03:05:10
Brian Atlaseverything I thought I wanted and then literally became psycho I it seems to be the case that you're constantly finding yourself attracted to men who are Psychopaths and sociopaths but go ahead
03:05:21
Arlen Mooreyeah I think potentially Lexi one of your issues that you're finding and a lot of high achieving women is that they want a guy who's High achieving of
03:05:31
Arlen Moorecourse and you know a guy like Brian for example very high achieving guy he wants a woman who gives him peace but a career building a successful business building
03:05:42
Arlen Mooresuccessful careers oh my God thank you building a successful career is a stressful thing whether you're a man or a woman so for Brian you know he wants a woman to give him peace most
03:05:54
Arlen Mooresuccessful man want a woman to give him peace and if she's got a very difficult career she probably doesn't have a time I would imagine and I don't know but the music industry is probably extremely stressful are you coming home you know like ready
03:06:07
Lexi Panterato give your man a massage or are you coming home like you needing a massage I think that's what brought my issues so I've never had a man to do any of that so I'd be more for the guy yeah but does your career not stress you out whatsoever
03:06:22
Elo Muskwhy you
03:06:29
Lexi Panteraoh my God babe I can't pay my bills oh my God babe I need this oh my God I need help I've never been the guy the girl would do that but that has been the problem as well too overpowered
03:06:43
Elo Muskenergy for you and you being the female the feminine energy that's where the problem lies right right that's all it is but it's really it is within you within all of us it's just it's learning
03:06:54
Lexi Panterayour feminine and owning your feminine because men want that yeah and how to attract that oh like my girl she gets everything from because she has money she's like [ __ ] I will call him on the phone like oh my
03:07:06
Lexi PanteraGod I can't [Music]
03:07:23
Lexi Panterathe guy is more on yeah but like you're feminine too you want to take care of you I've always wanted wanted to do myself yeah well so
03:07:34
Brian Atlaswhat what he was saying like a really successful ambitious high-ending man the guy that you're chasing after someone to be someone who's making that amount of money is likely to be living a stressful
03:07:47
Brian Atlaslife people who make a lot of money typically well I mean it depends there could be some crypto pump you know made up a ton of money on crypto whatever but um most men who are making a lot of
03:07:58
Brian Atlasmoney live stressful lives and the last thing that a man who's successful wants to do is not only have to not only go out in the world and contend with the world and you know business being cut
03:08:09
Brian Atlasthrough you're you're in business same I want him to be there for me as I am for him but it's because of I perhaps I mean you're an incredibly successful because of the
03:08:21
Brian AtlasCutthroat and you said you're in the music industry which is well known for being quite Cutthroat um you know you have perhaps developed a
03:08:32
Brian Atlasyou've developed more masculine traits um and I'm not saying this to attack you but my impression of you is your uh you're very strong individual uh but I
03:08:44
Brian Atlasdo think you're pretty in your masculine I would say you're pretty combative yeah I have a boyfriend it's a little bit different sure and and to to give you credit you know I've invited you you've
03:08:57
Brian Atlasbeen invited on the podcast to have a conversation and and to have a debate to some degree so I suspect the way that you might conduct yourself when you've been invited to have a debate with someone yeah when you've invited to debate with someone is perhaps not how
03:09:10
Brian Atlasyou're going to conduct yourself when you're one-on-one in an intimate setting with with a partner so um in the same way that we're all actors in a way that the way we conduct ourselves for example
03:09:20
Brian Atlasuh with in the classroom or with a teacher is much different than how we might conduct ourselves when we're with our friends or with a girlfriend so obviously I I don't suspect the way that
03:09:31
Brian Atlasyou know we're in interacting now is how you you're going to interact with with a partner although I imagine to some degree you do have you're very fiery you
03:09:41
Brian Atlasknow and I you know uh so I I I would be fiery but I am very like submissive with a guy yeah
03:09:51
Lexi Panteraabsolutely not today for you to find out but how but how submissive submit it I want to submit I like that [ __ ] like I want a man to do that I think you're just in a person
03:10:03
Lexi Panterabut how submissive because you're not willing to I mean think about my career no I'm not going to give up my passions and my singing and my stuff no I have a
03:10:12
Soulquestion what if what if you can still have a passion do wherever you want but it's just not about money so you don't have to like rush and build in career so
03:10:23
Soulit still it still is okay so it's like right now uh if no one paying me for what I'm doing I'm still gonna do that without money because it's my passion
03:10:35
Lexi Panterayes um Eric let's make a million dollars off my singing honey and I make it off my only fans I do my singing and all the other [ __ ] because I love it yeah okay um Eric let's do a shout out to
03:10:46
Brian AtlasTwitch people and then we have a couple Super Chat okay uh yo mad thank you for the uh Prime man appreciate it guys go over to twitch.tv slash whatever mods if you could drop the link for that in the
03:10:57
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03:11:07
Brian Atlaseasy way to support the show every month hey thank you guys so much for all the follows really appreciate it okay so um let me get these soup chats here we have
03:11:19
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03:11:28
Brian Atlasuh Speedy the unsilence 100 the excuse they do it as well it's not a good excuse just because someone else is doing it does not make it right I do not sleep around and I do not want a woman
03:11:40
Brian Atlaswith that history yeah same here I mean I'm not like trying to run through chicks it just doesn't interest me um not interested in one night stand but uh yeah um all right we have uh marquavius
03:11:51
Brian AtlasMartin hundred dollar soup chat do you have a test for your soul wait what's this in reference
03:12:01
Brian AtlasI I don't think he's a soul test
03:12:09
Brian Atlasoh my God okay yo marquavius thank you man appreciate it hope the Quiznos is wait is it is it Mark wave is the one with the quiznosis wait Lexi can you scoot into the table a
03:12:21
Brian Atlaslittle bit you're just popping down [ __ ] you don't have a soul yeah just on the center cam you're kind of cut off there a little bit okay and let me just check here all right um so
03:12:32
Brian Atlasoh we had one other hold on let me let me pull it up Cappadocia this is a Miss super chat from my last stream uh this is a little lighter question um favorite drink favorite King favorite
03:12:43
Lexi Panterasmoke go ahead Lexi favorite drink favorite Kink favorite smoke I don't drink okay it's a psycho like this no based me too pink yeah
03:12:58
Lexi Panteraum it's probably some weird balloon [ __ ] or something no I feel like it's a little normal I just like being like um balloon Kings degraded in bed you like to be degraded in bed a little choking and
03:13:11
Lexi Panterasmacking I like all that [ __ ] so so that's my Kink what was the other question so she likes being called favorite smoke
03:13:20
Lexi Panterathere's the dirty talk see I can submit she likes it keep it up the comments are turning me on why do you think oh my God you dirty Hurry Up This STD
03:13:32
Lexi Panteratest I love the dirty horse
03:13:52
Lexi Panterasomeone's getting a little Rosy in the cheeks why you got are you guys are you okay is that I think Brian is a little cries that you say what that I said that
03:14:04
Brian Atlasthat's my Kink was that yours no I mean I'm familiar no I'm familiar with that just um I don't know I I don't really want it speak your mind I've been speaking I
03:14:15
Brian Atlasdon't know this whole like rough sex meta with the [ __ ] BDSM 50 Shades of Gray no it's not weird like I don't have anything wrong with it just it's not really some people don't like it some people feel really awkward doing it I mean yeah and they're like I'm not
03:14:29
Brian Atlascomfortable when you're like hit me and they're like I'm like okay yeah I'm not I'm not like trying to like [ __ ] hit a chick or some [ __ ]
03:14:38
Lexi Panteralike that during sex that's not really why if she tells you she likes that you I'm trying to catch a case for some places a lot of people bro I'm not gonna put marks on them that
03:14:51
Lexi Panterasucks if you do that in bed and then they want to be like damn like I'm coming after your money after that that sucks I would never do that to you Brian
03:14:59
Lexi Panteraokay you can smack me if you'd like wow okay I will not go for your money
03:15:12
Arlen Moorein the Bible he has one on hand
03:15:22
Brian AtlasJesus all right God's name in vain over here in town okay um go ahead favorite favorite drink favorite King favorite smoke
03:15:42
Ivy Wolfbondage wait sweet love making yeah like really sweet I feel like I don't get a lot of that as much so in my life it's been like oh
03:15:56
Souloh um what was the last one smoke pivot smoke they would smoke obviously the gunge what about you I don't drink
03:16:05
Soulalcohol based I don't smoke too um favorite King I love when guy lick my feet
03:16:20
Soulyou guys figured out that last year because I even didn't know that people like selling the feed stuff it was like not just popular in Russia so
03:16:29
Soulso I did when like Bill last year when I figured out the feet fetish I'm like oh okay the guy's paying for that and then like the guy just sir like my feet and
03:16:41
EllisI'm like oh I like that I took some milk like it okay I think we all like that so the area in your brain that like controls the feet and that sends its pleasure are right next to each other so sometimes the wires get crossed and
03:16:54
Soulthat's why how people foot fetishes are so common yeah it's actually science yeah it like turns on many people Palms feet
03:17:05
Arlen Mooreso it's like so many it's it's reflexology right it's like the areas of your palm and feet are connected to every Meridian or uh organ in your body
03:17:16
Souluh it's not just about that it's like just sense um I even don't know how to explain it in English so never mind I just I could do it in Russian
03:17:25
Ellisokay favorite favorite drink my favorite drink is probably a start with espresso martini move on to Moscow Mule in a vodka soda with five lemons
03:17:38
Ellisum okay my favorite smoke sativa my favorite Kink probably public sex or getting choked
03:17:49
Elo Musk[Music] earlier what you doing later you want a sleepover I'll make sweet love to you let's go
03:17:59
Elo Muskum favorite drink tequila uh kink um between the public sex or um like sweet love in bed and favorite smoke obviously hookah
03:18:11
Alicia Waldnernice um my I I don't smoke I'm sorry I don't smoke my favorite drink is Tequila Ranch Water and what is this yeah yeah it's like my new thing what is Ranch Water
03:18:23
Alicia Waldnerit's basically like seltzer water and then lime juice so it's literally like a clean version of a margarita yeah but it's like yeah so anyway Branch water and
03:18:33
Alicia Waldnerum my favorite Kink is like I like a passionate daddy like I I can't have I can't have sex with someone else I like emotionally connect to them and
03:18:44
Alicia Waldnermentally so like that needs to be there so like I like the rough sex thing could be really hot but like I need to connect with them emotionally so because of that is usually very passionate so I do like being choked I do like those things but
03:18:57
Brian Atlasit needs to come from Love and not too intense I have a question for you guys on the kind of the rough sex stuff was it something that you kind of came to on your own or was there one
03:19:08
Ellisspecific guide that kind of introduced it into you into your life I had a girlfriend I had a girlfriend tell me that she liked being choked and so I was like let me try it out and it honestly feels good because you when you cut off that oxygen to your brain it forces like
03:19:21
Soulyou have more sensation to other areas of your body so it's like just a physical thing it makes you feel without the pressure in a certain point here it just feels good so it's not about like the action it's like the action like you
03:19:32
Soulfeel or the guys like dominate like they're mentally but there's like specific things like yeah and you have to choke carefully yes you don't go in like this
03:19:44
Lexi Panterayeah that's about oxygen yeah Google it before you do it make sure yeah don't kill them yeah I don't know when mine started I've almost [ __ ] died oh she does it on all the shows
03:19:57
Brian Atlasokay sorry Brian you thought you felt special yeah I thought I felt special we have uh Mr scumbag here 100 soup chat Brian every time you bring a giga chat on the show simp presses his delete
03:20:08
Brian Atlasbutton where is below average Joe the display's point of view perspective for the education of these three foes not that they will ever listen or see it Joe
03:20:17
Gradyneeds your help not Chad I just want to say thank you Mr Junior scumbag I've never been called a Chad I know it's not a compliment but I just love new
03:20:27
Elo Muskexperiences so thank you for that you guys went to 304. area code probably I don't think so but yeah [Music]
03:20:47
Soulis that what that means yeah yeah kind of like that 304 because I remember I Saw The Tick Tock with these hashtags and the girls like talking about shout out Dark Knight gaming Squad
03:20:59
Brian Atlasall the way from New Zealand these guys going crazy let's go let's go okay
03:21:08
Brian Atlasum let's see here we have uh we had one come through I think on uh nope okay uh so there was a lot we touched on oh there's
03:21:19
Brian Atlasthe last thing uh Eric can you pull up the Twitter thing sexually drained that's section hello Haram Eric is the audio at 70. it seems a
03:21:31
Brian Atlaslittle low Oh weird all right um can you zoom it in one more good sir
03:21:42
Brian Atlasokay uh so this is from at little dick game on Twitter and he had this interesting thread when it comes to perhaps this is
03:21:54
Brian Atlasa double standard maybe not but he says and Eric scroll down as I start reading it I told my ex for every guy that approaches you I'll approach one girl for every guy that messages you on
03:22:05
Brian AtlasInstagram I'll message one girl she stopped going out to clubs and made her Instagram account private low IQ individuals will say these are false equivalences hold on there's a thread
03:22:16
Brian AtlasI'll read more so he's he continues by saying women run passive game they don't approach men but they put themselves in positions where they could be approached
03:22:27
Brian Atlasby men clubs they won't DM a man but they'll post pictures to lure him into dming them Instagram mainstream media doesn't want you to know this scroll
03:22:38
Brian Atlasdown uh up Eric uh men are salesmen we women are marketers but most guys are too naive and lack the capacity for nuanced thinking to be able to identify
03:22:49
Brian Atlasthis distinction in a committed relationship a man should stop pitching and a woman should stop advertising Fair proposition but most men are fooled into believing that just because their woman isn't also
03:23:02
Brian Atlasinitiating conversations with other men then everything is good she was never initiating conversations that's not how she operates we utilize different strategies to get similar outcomes
03:23:14
Brian Atlasyou stopped talking to women and gave up your Edge but she never stopped putting herself out there that's why she already had a replacement for you after the breakup because she never stopped marketing she was generating leads the
03:23:27
Brian Atlaswhole time a lion and a rhino are about to fight and the Lino tells the and the lion tells the Rhino take off your horn so that we can have a fair fight since I don't have a horn the Rhino foolishly
03:23:39
Brian Atlasagrees fight begins and he gets torn to shreds by the line because the lion used his teeth and claws you're the foolish Rhino women are the Lion a lion and a rhino are not the same
03:23:50
Brian Atlasso they can't play by the same rules if the Rhino takes off his horn then the line will need to remove its teeth and Claws you both have to give up your Edge
03:24:00
Brian Atlasto even the playing field in regards to the situation with my ex I know you may thinking so what if she was at the grocery store and a guy approached her that's normal she didn't put herself in
03:24:12
Brian Atlasthat position it's totally different from her intentionally walking into the lion's den the club um well that that anyways that's pretty much pretty much it but I think he has too much time on his hands to be honest
03:24:24
Lexi PanteraI think that's [ __ ] true and super profound girls do it for the girls some girls don't do it for the man yeah I post [ __ ] for myself yeah I go to the club for dance and I'm professional dancers yeah some girls don't like to go to the club to get hit on by men it's
03:24:36
Arlen Moorelike almost the opposite wait was I yelling in the microphone someone says I think it on this topic like I definitely didn't when I was looking for a girlfriend I didn't want
03:24:48
Arlen Mooreher to go to the club um and actually when I first met her I invited her to a club and she said no and that's kind of that was like an indicator that that would be a good girl for me
03:24:59
Arlen Mooreum I don't know I I don't think it's necessarily a lot to ask because this thread is suggesting to have to to want your girl to give up going to Club if she enjoys it but also at the same time
03:25:11
Soulyou should also just be not looking for girls in clubs if if you want a girlfriend 100 good at the same with a man like I'm I'm not looking for a man or in a club like and if I know then the
03:25:22
Soulman go to the club like every weekend oh that's not my type like I don't date but you don't know that when you just go to a club you don't know anything about it go to the clubs I work there so I don't well you know that that's their app work at the clubs that's worse
03:25:37
Brian Atlasin China huh yeah colorful in China for three years and I worked in a girl who works at the club is almost worse than a girl who goes to the club huh why you're getting paid a
03:25:50
Lexi Panterabartender brother um a professional dancer some dancers like to go to clubs just to shake a little ass maybe they don't want to be in their home maybe they want to go out to the club and do it with their girlfriend but it doesn't mean that they're looking
03:26:01
Gradyfor a guy go to a gay club and do that to be honest I also assistant breakup in the club with my girls I don't think this guy I mean obviously this guy wasn't dating like a a model or like a
03:26:13
Elo Musksinger or someone that like their career is literally based on them presenting themselves this guy's girl is an ex so who even gives a [ __ ] so I'm just I'm
03:26:25
Elo Muskjust saying I'm just saying that like he talks he talks a lot about it probably dump him too hold on yeah
03:26:36
Elo Musksorry I know I I cut your hair
03:26:43
Gradywell I mean just like anything else I think it's just nuanced you know I've I've dated plenty of people that their their models then their their careers based on them being able to present themselves looking attractive and I
03:26:56
Gradythink that it goes with the territory that if you're dating an attractive desirable girl the world is also going to recognize it and and pine for it but like just like with anything else I
03:27:07
Gradythink it's a matter of of self-control and accountability and just because and just because someone is is dming like your girl doesn't mean that she's going through these DMs I mean you
03:27:18
Gradyshould go that's crazy it's crazy the notion of like unwarranted security like messages that aren't even being checked in a folder being compared to like a dude being like
03:27:31
Arlen Mooreall right well then I get to pick out any chick that I want and just flirt with her like that's absurd that there's a reason I think it's insecurity there's a reason that threads
03:27:41
Arlen Mooreit was a metaphor no I'm I'm more on your side probably I think little dick game I don't know I get it's kind of a joke but I mean like if you're like I haven't talked a lot
03:27:53
Arlen Mooreabout myself but like I have pretty successful business I have a social media following I get direct messages from girls all the time as well you know I I think that was kind of a cope thread for a guy that just isn't
03:28:04
Arlen Moorehighly successful and if if that's your problem if you're going to spend a lot of time tweeting about that maybe just go build yourself to the point where girls are dming you or or are a pro like I get approached sometimes in the grocery store you know I work out I take
03:28:17
Arlen Moorecare of myself um I I'm yeah I'm I think that threat was a little bit cope from from that guy yeah I think I mean that go ahead um in regards to women that don't have to
03:28:30
Brett Sanchez Smithshow face like models and things like that um going to the club you're purposefully putting yourself in a position to get hit on men knowingly going to those clubs knowing that that is a possibility
03:28:42
Brett Sanchez Smithum in regards to the Instagram thing yeah it can be an insecurity and insecurities work both ways totally but um you're also still having those
03:28:54
Brett Sanchez Smithoptions that are there where they can reply at any given time and that's not something that happens to men that often where they have the ability to just you know what I'm gonna go back to this girl
03:29:05
Brett Sanchez Smithand reply to her now and she's still there because men are gonna stick around forever um I mean you've I'm sure all of you have seen it where they reply like a year later I don't know to nothingness
03:29:17
Brett Sanchez Smithand they're in your DM still like women have those opportunities all the time and men don't really have those opportunities yeah most like yeah don't
03:29:26
Brett Sanchez Smithworry about this guy Mr Universe or Mr California has those you come on yes okay so to be honest the vast majority of my followers actually that I got were
03:29:37
Brett Sanchez Smithall gay dudes to be honest um and it was because like I had like frustrations on my glutes and I posted this video of me just like flexing and like all you can see literally every muscle fiber on my ass um
03:29:54
Brett Sanchez Smithso you can show yourself but a girl can't show there so the intent is different though for me I'm looking for you guys to be like I'm looking for the guys to be like yo you're [ __ ] shredded dude like nice like I'm looking
03:30:05
Brett Sanchez Smithfor like I'm not posting this just to be like oh I look hot here I'm just like my body looks [ __ ] nuts right now
03:30:14
Brett Sanchez Smithbecause girls girls are purposefully showing their buttholes on Instagram
03:30:26
Lexi Panterafrom my perspective I am building art and so like yeah
03:30:36
Brett Sanchez SmithI don't care I I literally I literally pay and to and get paid to step on stage to get judged for how I look don't leave the podcast
03:30:49
Brian Atlassponsorships literally but what kind of talk sponsorships
03:30:59
Brett Sanchez Smithfood sponsorships or sponsorships that help you obtain that goal of getting that art that you're trying to work for you're gonna be surprised but I I I'm like toward for many years third teacher
03:31:12
SoulI'm a dance teacher in many different ways so and I remember I posted and most of my um followers are girls so when I post
03:31:21
Soullike a twerk video sometimes which is not even sexual like I'm fully closed I got a lot of messages like oh I wish from a woman I wish I have this level of
03:31:32
Soulconfidence like teach me please you inspires me a lot with your feminine energy the way you express yourself okay this is so like okay I gotta interrupt you because we're moving away from the original Point kind of the original
03:31:43
Brian Atlaspoint that you were trying to make is is that as a guy we don't have like chicks just ruthlessly sliding into our DMS yeah like again okay without working
03:31:55
Brian Atlas[ __ ] six five I think six five [ __ ] blue check mark athletes on Instagram girls are dming them that's fine however average girls a thousand followers 2 000 followers just average
03:32:07
Brian Atlasdick that goes to college is getting dozens of DMS a week
03:32:21
Brian Atlasthe point is is that there's a difference there between the attention that men and women receive an average girl an average girl has dudes sliding
03:32:31
Brian Atlasinto her DMS hold on an average dude an average girl has average well average girl has dudes sliding into her DM average dudes ain't getting a DM in
03:32:41
Brian Atlastheir entire [ __ ] life so but men need to stop it relationship it's not your problem but part of being in a monogamous relationship means limiting your options
03:32:57
Lexi Pantera[Music] you're living in this world you shouldn't say that but you want the girl to give up her Instagram if if you're what what relationship can you elaborate just general for what what is she giving it up she
03:33:10
Brett Sanchez Smithwants to be with you what does the whole Twitter feed that your your question is still very vague Instagram is a dating app you're saying yeah so here's the thing I have
03:33:25
Brian Atlasso fun but for example let's say an average you guys are all content creators whatever most girls are not content creators they're average chicks but they have Instagram dudes are sliding into their DMS it would in that
03:33:37
Soulsituation where finances are not a component it's like I wouldn't have it it would not be unreasonable for a guy to be like yo you're getting dm'd by a bunch of games I'm just hungry okay
03:33:49
Lexi PanteraI would give up my Instagram and not give a damn about it for sure if my livelihood didn't depend on it I wouldn't care oh and I wouldn't have one but the fact that ours does yes it's different for us and women are not the same go ahead
03:34:02
Alicia Waldnerum I'll let they used to go real quick okay thank you um I was just gonna say if you're in like a secure if you're secure with yourself both partners and you guys
03:34:13
Alicia Waldnerum our security each other and have that Foundation you can get hit on anywhere this could happen at work this could happen um at the grocery store however however
03:34:24
Alicia Waldnerif you're secure with yourself in your relationship you know that even if she's getting dm'd this amount of DMS she's not going to do anything with it and why does that bother you if it bothers you then that's something deep that you need
03:34:35
Alicia Waldnerto go searching within yourself security it's your own institution oh guys with check marks clearly you have something about guys with check marks and you're worried about it because you've been attacking Lexi all
03:34:47
Alicia Waldnernight it's it's an insecurity with yourself I hate to say it but it is and if you were with somebody if you were with somebody that like you you felt good about and you knew you knew is all about you and you guys of trust and
03:34:59
Elo Muskeverything it doesn't [ __ ] matter because this can happen anywhere I think a man should be proud if anything like yeah there's my there's my woman and she's doing whatever the [ __ ] she needs to do she looks good and people are
03:35:11
Brian Atlasloving her especially women and of course men are gonna look at her be proud of you sorry but she's with me she's like like every day so excuse me that's fine that's fine but one of the things you guys were talking about well what makes a traditional woman one of
03:35:24
Elo Muskthose things is Modesty posting photos of your ass on Instagram is not being mine that's cool then enjoy your 50 50
03:35:37
Brian Atlasthen you guys then when someone breaks into your house you guys can defend it uh well done but I'm a boxer so yeah see here's the thing this is this is one of
03:35:47
Brian Atlasthe primary issues in modern dating non-traditional women want men to adhere to their traditional gender roles you want men to be men but you want to go post your [ __ ] on Instagram you want to
03:35:58
Lexi Pantera[ __ ] [ __ ] around and be loose and be promiscuously everything together I want to love you guys we do love you guys we're all for you guys but we can do that because you're not insecure and
03:36:10
Elo Muskyou'll let us do this yo because you know that we're not doing it for men but wait I'm not saying I would be proud of somebody that's putting like her ass out like half naked to that comment that's not what I'm talking about I'm talking
03:36:20
Elo Muskabout yeah I can be sexy even if I'm wearing I'm fully clothes that's not my fault
03:36:30
Elo Muskfeminine woman and I'm just posting like my [ __ ] it's just my passion like I'm like sexy and beautiful like it that's what it is not even like it's a job like
03:36:40
Soulit's just a regular photo just like a heaven Ryan needs a regular girl yeah
03:36:47
Brian AtlasI date regular women yeah that's and one of the reasons why and I mean a lot of you guys live in LA I mean this is why I've refused even though despite having
03:37:00
Brian Atlasbeen doing content creation for 10 years I've refused to live or move to LA I feel like it's just toxic is fine but that's that's a whole other conversation I date regular chicks I'm not dating
03:37:12
Brian Atlascontent creators I don't think I've actually ever dated a girl who does content or who does only fans ever when you say content is like 100 like adult content or YouTube like any kind of
03:37:23
Lexi Panteracontent I'm dating like PhD students and like corporate chicks like nurses strong jobs that are like very stressful they come home and they're like oh my God my job's so stressful like you deal with
03:37:35
Brian Atlasthat stuff for sure with those girls um yeah I have I have dated more than the content creators that's doubtful but uh I I've I've dated women who have stressful jobs I've dated the doctor I've dated pharmacists I've dated a
03:37:47
Brian Atlasphysician assistant how much time do they have sure yeah and nurses honestly a little red do they have time for you in a relationship why these were more short-term relationships but I mean most of the women that date I'd say are I
03:38:00
Elo Muskmean first of all nurses are freaking crazy I've dated way too many numbers but okay what you call insecurity I just call having a boundary And in regards to
03:38:12
Brett Sanchez Smiththe insecurities and we're talking about the DMS and if there's like a bunch of guys can you guys get off your phones please sorry yeah um just 11 p.m we're gonna wrap in 10 minutes okay okay I do
03:38:23
Brett Sanchez Smithget messages from men and women and then men obviously I don't entertain but even the women like I've had people offer to fly me to New York and like pay for all this [ __ ] and and I'd like delete that stuff I don't even reply I don't open it I delete it because why would I want
03:38:36
Brett Sanchez Smiththat sitting there like I kind of hold myself to a little bit of a higher standard to be honest um to even have that in my DMs just because like I'm single too I'm single and I deleted like five messages this
03:38:48
Brett Sanchez Smithmorning oh maybe why would I want to entertainment because I have values and morals that I want value is my woman can't take me on a trip some random woman wants to pay for me to go
03:38:59
Soulsomewhere you're psycho for that how am I cycling everything no no I understand him yeah
03:39:11
Brett Sanchez Smithmaybe I'm acting the same Indiana because I I consider Instagram if I don't want if I don't want a girl that I want a date to be doing this stuff I I'm not going to do it either so I want to have the I want to date someone that's like similar to me but that could be the
03:39:27
Soulbe there no like don't don't like have a certain reply and that could be the boundary because it's not my responsibility someone texts me like I can't control
03:39:36
Brian Atlasthat yo Bye Felicia thank you for the 100 Super Chat hey Mom look I'm on TV okay um I love that move let's move that specific
03:39:48
Alicia Waldnerthing away from Instagram and let's just say a man doesn't want his girlfriend going to the club do you object to that controlling totally control it's controlling because I would never I would never want to restrict my guy from going to the club
03:40:01
Alicia Waldnerthe strip club any of that I don't believe in restriction at all I I believe in letting people do what they want to do um so they can always tell me their authentic truth they never have to hold back and if it's something like you said
03:40:12
Alicia WaldnerI think you don't want them to you know respond to these DMS or whatever then that's the boundary and you just are able to create those boundaries but if you don't have that safe space it's never going to happen and things will
03:40:22
Gradyhappen behind people's backs I guess I guess like a good analogy for me is like they're not not that in a relationship there should be a dog but like like a dog that wants to be around you you
03:40:34
Gradydon't have to have a leash on it right like I don't want to have to like lease somebody and like tell them what they can and can't do if if someone wants to be with me I want
03:40:45
Gradythem to naturally do that without like me telling them like valid what what like I think I think you lay out your needs you tell you tell people what what it is that you're looking for and if they don't naturally have that like
03:40:57
Gradydon't expect people to change for you literally there's some there's just so many people on this planet I just I don't yes I just don't get consumed by like if something works 95 just don't compromise and don't expect someone else
03:41:09
Gradyto compromise like every everybody at least in my in my opinion I think everybody deserves to be with someone that gives them the type of love that they need um obviously as I've already said that starts with you being able to love
03:41:21
Gradyyourself first and knowing who you are it's the only way that you'll ever be able to be you know loved appropriately but once you do that I think you just gotta know what it is you're looking for and then
03:41:32
Gradyand then be uncompromising like don't don't falter and don't don't try to make someone something that they're not because you're going to end up getting upset at them and and think and making them feel
03:41:45
Gradylike a piece of [ __ ] for just being in a different phase in their life and like verbatim like the reality is like you don't Brian you don't want to be with someone that you have to tell that they have to like stop posting certain types
03:41:57
Gradyof pics or like going to places that you don't want them going like that just isn't your dating pool so it should never be your concern it's not it's not the time like the way the way I'm putting it is like it's not like you're gonna meet a
03:42:10
Gradygirl that was going out to a club and then be like stop going out to a club you don't want a girl that's going out to a club that's that's the the main point you're not you're not the end line of her Club going you know she was never
03:42:21
Gradya person that was a girl that wanted to be going out to a club are you wearing my ring by the way I am all right we're married
03:42:32
Brian AtlasI guess uh yeah so so your fair point is that I agree with you ideally the girl just from the get-go already has these things
03:42:43
Brian Atlasthat I'm looking for I don't it's not like I have to coach or try to change bad habits for example however I mean the thing is is that the way Society is hookup culture all this stuff there is
03:42:55
Brian AtlasI think there's a lot of bad programming and I think some girls can be unprogrammed in other words like a girl you guys are like what the [ __ ] but like don't try to change it I just don't want to be I just want to be someone's knight
03:43:07
Elo Muskin shining armor and I don't I don't want to be
03:43:15
Gradywant to be at clubs but like are you getting free are you like trying to pick up like a dog from an adoption center do you want like the Thoroughbred that you were looking for what I mean is like Grady I
03:43:26
Arlen Moorethink it's rarely gonna exist if I talk about with my girlfriend all the time and judging from experiences looking at the people that we know that have been really in relationships the longest
03:43:39
Arlen Mooreum you know our parents or grandparents or other you know adult figures still in relationships they all say that they had to compromise they don't love everything about their partner if you want
03:43:51
Gradylong-term relations well that's not that's not what I'm saying I'm saying I'm saying if if a core value for you is I don't want other men being able to approach I want you un approachable
03:44:03
Gradyyeah yeah then you should find a girl that's not going out to clubs I'm not saying like well I prefer that you have blonde hair or I wish she was a little bit funnier like those those are those are nuanced things I'm talking about like core value
03:44:18
Soulis what I'm saying and so like me coming up like oh I I want kids and a guy doesn't want kids and I'm trying to you can't change his mind you can't change someone in the minute you think that you can change someone you're gonna get as
03:44:30
Gradyfar as the whole club thing man these people these people in the I just I just wonder how like a lot of these dudes that are that are in the comments live because all of them are saying like it's
03:44:40
Gradyso cringe and say oh I'm like I did I just I wonder what happened in our world that like led to people thinking that they needed to be so harsh
03:44:51
Gradyyeah it's insane to me that you think that you need to be like this this toxic person in order to to maintain something that is inherently volatile if you have to like be trying to make someone
03:45:03
Brian Atlassomething they're not you're you yourself have insecurities that you have to be doing um look for example for example so when you first meet someone for example
03:45:13
Brian Atlasthere's no expectation on immediately of commitment or loyalty so perhaps they're sleeping with other people me personally that's just a no-go from the get-go but for some people they acknowledge hey
03:45:26
Brian Atlaswhen I'm first meeting someone there's no expectation of exclusivity so I'm not exclusive they're not exclusive so however once you have the conversation and say and this is a negotiation that
03:45:38
Brian Atlasthat can be initiated by either party of we want to now be monogamous you can't you're both putting up a boundary which is I'm not going to sleep with anybody you're not going to sleep
03:45:50
Brian Atlaswith anybody my view of nightclubs and bars is these are singles of venues hold on these are very specific social Gatherings these are for single people I
03:46:02
Brian Atlasdon't know so that's that's the framework with which I view these videos but I guess I guess it is different between men and women because as a guy if you go to a club all alone without
03:46:13
Brian Atlasany intention of talking to anybody nobody's going to talk to you the entire night however take two people an average girl an average guy average guy goes to a
03:46:23
Brian Atlasnightclub or bar he goes into the corner he goes hold on nobody's no girls coming to hit on the average dude however that average chick is probably going to get approached
03:46:34
Brian Atlasmultiple times yeah but it's about if you respect your partner you just don't know hold on if you respect your partner you just don't engage in activities designed for single
03:46:46
Ivy Wolfpeople I won't do it literally all he was saying is yeah core values if you have certain core values then you look for those core values that's it yeah sure yes and don't go for the girl that doesn't and you can't change them I
03:46:58
Brian Atlaschange them because it's terrible I don't drink I don't go to the bars I don't go to clubs I don't party so I'm looking for a girl who's online level yeah
03:47:09
SoulI don't know to the clubs like really but what if we're like one month one time in a year I want to go to their Africa I love afro clubs I dance afro and dancehall so you said you tell me my
03:47:21
Brian Atlasmy point of I already have my standards so my my standard is I'm not interested in the girl that's going to the club every night of the week I guess I'm more so coming at it from the angle of almost like warning dudes don't get involved
03:47:33
Gradywith chicks that are clubbing all the time because a good girlfriend that does not make okay wait can I can I just say I think I think a lot of people are
03:47:43
Gradymisunderstanding me I'm not I'm not saying that like if I'm seeing someone they they can do whatever they want of course they can do whatever they want but if they're doing something that they
03:47:54
Gradywant to be doing that I don't want my partner doing end of the relationship and that's okay I'll respect all love like that that's what you have to understand is if you're having to tell your partner like what you need after
03:48:08
Brian Atlasyou guys have already had that discussion you're you're in the wrong game let me ask you this so let's say you you met let's say your girl was on hinge on a dating app on Tinder sure and then that
03:48:19
Brian Atlaswas a behavior that she was engaging in prior to meeting you however now you guys are thinking about getting into a relationship committed monogamous relationship I assume you'd
03:48:30
Brian Atlaswant her maybe this would not be controlling it would not be controlling to say hey we're both going to delete our dating apps in the same way like hey
03:48:40
Gradyand it I think I think for me for me it just it just sort of feels maybe this is specific to me but it just sort of feels like a beta move to like have to even have that discussion any girl that I've been
03:48:52
Gradygenuinely interested in gave up everything immediately like didn't even want to look at other people I didn't have to ask them and that and that's that's because the energy that I bring is is powerful enough I feel that I
03:49:05
Gradydon't have to ask a girl or tell a girl what she can and can't do she naturally wants to be exactly with someone that's right for them right like if you have to ask it's not the right person that's personally how I feel and if I do if I
03:49:17
Gradyhave to overextend myself in any sort of way I don't want it you know what I mean yeah so so that's that's what it comes down to like I'm not I'm not out here saying like am I gonna do whatever she wants if she's doing something I don't want in
03:49:29
Gradyin a relationship all love you you guys all have your own paths like live your life do your thing I'm I'm just I just I know myself I respect myself and and I and I know that I don't have to ask like
03:49:41
GradyI I bring that energy you know I bring an energy that that if if I start seeing someone like I I know that they're they're gonna you know cut things off without without me even having to talk about it yeah I
03:49:54
Alicia Waldneralways want people to make their own decisions
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Gradyyou have to try to make someone's decision for them it's never you know what you know and I didn't mean that one-sided the same goes for me is is from the jump if I if I rock with
03:50:10
Gradysomeone it's like I I get tunnel vision and I'm like this is amazing as long as it's amazing for you it's amazing for me and if it's not amazing for you we'll talk about it or we'll exit it that's okay I agree with you about dating like