33 First Dates In 3 MONTHS?! ft. Think Before You Sleep | Dating Talk #84

Date: 2023-07-17

Duration: 5h 12m

Guests

Brian Atlas

BBrittany Venti >

SSean (Think Before You Sleep)>

JJasmine Jafar >

JJosie (DT84-Montreal)>

VVeronica (DT84)>

MMadison (SBCC)>

SSophia (DT84)>

Identified Speakers

SPEAKER_00TTS Reader(audience)

SPEAKER_01Byronique(guest)

SPEAKER_02Veronica(guest)

SPEAKER_03Sean (Think Before You Sleep)(guest)

SPEAKER_04Brian Atlas(host)

SPEAKER_05Josie(guest)

SPEAKER_06Jasmine Jafar(guest)

SPEAKER_07Brittany Venti(guest)

SPEAKER_08Madison(guest)

SPEAKER_09Sophia(guest)

SPEAKER_10Anna(guest)

SPEAKER_11Lana(guest)

Key Moments

IntroGuest introductions — Brittany Venti through Madison in seating order

“"hi I'm Brittany venti I'm a YouTuber... I'm Sean I run a YouTube channel called think before you sleep... my name's Anna... I'm Lana I'm 39... my name is Jasmine Jafar I am 28 and I am an only fans Creator as well as a licensed attorney... 33 for about two more months I am a stand-up comedian I am a social media content creator... I'm Josie I'm 27... my name is Veronica I'm 35 years old... my name is Madison I'm 18 years old"”

QuoteLana introduces herself and reveals partner died; she is essentially widowed with a 5yo daughter

“"hi I'm Lana I'm 39... I am an accountant I am also a mom and last but not least I do only fans... I'm currently single my longest relationship was seven years... not legally [married]... he passed away... last year"”

RelationshipJosie reveals she is going through a divorce while in a new 2-year relationship

“"I don't know if I'm divorced yet but uh divorce... was married longest relationship uh six seven years currently in a relationship yeah taken for two years"”

QuoteBrian reads from Jasmine's pre-show form: she went on 33 first dates in ~2.5 months, all on Hinge

“"so starting with Jasmine who uh is an attorney uh in your Instagram you describe yourself as a lawyer and hoe... you ended up going on 33 dates in around 2.5 months... just a point of clarification are these 33 dates all first dates with different guys? yes"”

QuoteJasmine reveals she slept with only 1 of 33 dates and has a total body count of 7

“"of the 33 guys how many did you hook up with... just one... I've only slept with seven people"”

QuoteSophia arrives late (from Bakersfield) and her first words introduce her relationship reconciliation

“"okay well welcome by the way my boyfriend and I we did have sex and we've been in a in a relationship for a year now"”

QuoteJasmine reveals she makes the guy she likes wait 2-6 months for sex but slept with BG content partner same day

“"two to six months... I like making them wait... I like making them control themselves... the guy I do BG content with now we hooked up the same day we met but that was an anomaly for sure"”

Key MomentBrian challenges Jasmine on her different sexual standards for different men — waiting vs. fast hookup

“"the guy who you are now currently [sleeping with] who you do porn with... you slept with him like the first time you met... however the guy who you [want a relationship from] you make them wait for sex"”

QuoteLana self-rates approximately 9 for being almost 40 with a kid

“"looks wise I'd say for being almost 40 and being a mom I'm probably like a nine"”

QuoteByronique tells story of friend's baby daddy who quit firefighter school to avoid child support

“"she got pregnant by the guy that guy didn't want the baby... when he found out she was pregnant... he stopped going to school to be a fireman because he knew they would be taking so much of that damn fireman check"”

QuoteJasmine self-rates as 9.22735 (joke precise answer)

“"I changed my answer 9.22735 beautiful okay let's move on"”

QuoteAnna self-rates 4-5 based on self-perception (Goblin mode) but 7-8 based on male feedback

“"I think I'm probably because I see myself in Goblin mode every day so I would say natural state I'm like a four or five but my personality I found is what people at least you know guys find attractive about me So based on my perception of myself four or five and based on guys like a seven"”

QuoteSean deflects self-rating with "I'm a 10"

“"uh I'm just gonna say I'm a 10"”

QuoteBrian tells story of Japanese woman who said his anatomy was too large — "the furthest I've ever gone" — punchline

“"I had a girl I dated who said that she saw me as a boyfriend but after having sex three days later she said that she changed her mind because my schlong was too big for her... this is in Japan FYI with a Japanese woman"”

Topics Discussed

Introductions & Announcements

Brian introduces show. Co-host Kiki mentioned as shy. Guests introduce in order: Brittany Venti (YouTuber, 30, NY/Texas, in relationship with Sean), Sean/Think Before You Sleep (32, YouTuber, in relationship with Brittany), Anna (20s, AAA gaming freelancer/cosplayer, engaged), Lana (39, accountant/OnlyFans, single mom, partner died), Jasmine Jafar (28, OnlyFans/attorney), Byronique (33, comedian/content creator, Compton, single), Josie (27, cyclist/content creator/cyber security, Montreal, in relationship/divorcing), Veronica (35, OT student/model, single), Madison (18, SBCC student/Whatever co-host). Sophia expected but late — show proceeds without her.

Relationship Status Round

Brittany & Sean: in relationship ~1 year, met via Patreon/online. Anna: engaged (1 month engagement, 7-year relationship; July 3 anniversary). Lana: single (partner of ~7 years died last year; 5yo daughter). Jasmine: FWB situation (BG content partner). Byronique: single, just met a French/Mexican man. Josie: in 2-year relationship, going through divorce (husband initiated, mediation). Veronica: single (recently ghosted, relationships only last ~3 months due to clinginess). Madison: in relationship. Sophia allowed in via chat donation; sits in back without mic.

Only Fans Ethics — Ghostwriting DMs

Jasmine raises whether it's ethical to have someone else manage your OnlyFans DMs and pretend to be you. Brittany argues it's not ethical — parasocial deception. Jasmine says she does all her own DMs for ethical reasons and limits purchases. Josie reveals she works as an OF DM ghostwriter (and Tinder/dating app opener writer for men). Discussion of men who spend kids' college funds on OF, manipulation dynamics on both sides, and whether OF facilitates relationship infidelity.

Romance vs. Transactionalism in Modern Dating

Brittany argues men vs. women war has sucked romance out of relationships. Brian asks her to define romance. She describes it as genuine mutual interest and commitment, not just romantic gestures. Discussion of how dating has become transactional (money, resources, body counts as metrics). Panel discusses how unclear relationship labels have proliferated; Brittany argues clearer commitment structures (boyfriend/girlfriend, marriage) reduce the need for OF-type parasocial relationships.

Jasmine's 33 First Dates in 2.5 Months

Main episode topic: Jasmine Jafar went on 33 first dates in approximately 2.5 months, all via Hinge, during law school bar exam prep period. Kept a phone list. 4 of 33 became repeat dates (saw them more than once). Slept with only 1 of the 33 (the one she does BG content with). Once had 2 dates in a single day. Brian argues top 1% of men could do this; top 50% of women could. Discussion of whether this indicates abundance or desperation on men's part. Panel debates whether 33 dates is impressive or exhausting. Josie notes social anxiety would prevent her from doing the same.

First Date / Early Sex and Relationship Outcomes

Brian asks panel about relationships where sex happened early (first 1-3 dates). Sophia shares she had sex with current boyfriend ~a month after meeting (friends first). Veronica: hooked up around 2 weeks / 3rd meetup. Josie: alcohol involved. Jasmine: usual wait is 2-6 months; one exception was BG content partner (same day, anomaly). Brittany: anti-hookup culture; argues early sex is promiscuous behavior by definition. Brian: disputes that early sex equals promiscuity if low partner count. Sean: pattern behavior is key indicator. Discussion of whether "first night sex" is necessarily a bad sign for relationship quality.

Who Has It Harder in Dating — Men vs Women

Brian argues top 50% of women could secure 33 dates in 3 months; top 1% of men could. Jasmine's 33-date experiment cited as evidence of asymmetric dating market access. Discussion of whether quality relationships are harder for women (emotional availability, commitment-seeking) while quantity (dates, sex) is easier. Brittany argues it's hard for both in different ways. Sean notes that women complaining about dating apps often means they reject a lot of men; men complain about no matches.

Dating App Debate — Pros and Cons

Anna credits dating apps with boosting her confidence during college. Josie argues men should delete apps and meet people in real life through hobbies. Brittany agrees apps are less effective but useful for connection. Discussion of how apps have reduced men's in-person approach confidence. Jasmine notes social skills are worse without apps. Sean argues that heavy app users likely have other social deficits. Brian and panel discuss stigma shift: meeting online was weird 10-20 years ago, approaching in person is increasingly frowned upon now.

Baby Mama / Baby Daddy Terminology Debate

Discussion of whether "baby mama" and "baby daddy" are derogatory or neutral. Josie argues the terms imply the parents aren't together. Brittany argues they signal lower commitment level. Jasmine (as attorney) says the terms are never used in legal contexts when parents are married. Lana defends her own situation — was committed with child but never legally married, did not consider herself a baby mama because they were planning to marry. Byronique offers hood perspective: terms are used differently in that context and are sometimes neutral. Sean gives analytical framework: level of commitment matters more than label.

Dating Culture — Racial & Regional Differences

Byronique brings perspective from Compton/South Central LA on how dating, baby mama dynamics, and relationships differ in the hood. Josie discusses Quebec independence and Canadian vs. Quebec identity. Brian asks about dating meta in South Central. Byronique tells story of friend whose baby daddy dropped out of firefighter school to avoid child support payments. Discussion of how hood street-smart approaches differ from mainstream dating discourse.

Single Mothers and Dating

Brian explains he tried dating a single mother once — she canceled 10 minutes before they were to meet. Confirmed he would not pursue single mothers. Argues single mothers expect provision without corresponding parental authority for the new partner. Lana pushes back: she is financially independent and would not expect a new partner to provide for her daughter. Brian grants her situation is different; many single moms do expect immediate provision. Byronique says she doesn't date men from the hood anymore. Discussion of men who give up career goals to avoid child support obligations.

Self-Rating Round

Chat/TTS donations prompted self-rating round (looks on 1-10 scale and overall value). Jasmine: "9.22735" (precise/joke answer after initially deflecting). Lana: ~9 ("for being almost 40 and being a mom"). Anna: 4-5 (self-perception Goblin mode) / 7-8 (based on male feedback). Sean: "I'm a 10" (deflecting/troll). Byronique: "10" (everyone should love themselves). Others largely deflected or gave non-committal answers. Brian notes it's "not quantifiable" and moves on.

Approach / Pickup Roleplay

Panel does in-person approach roleplay exercise. Scenarios: street, elevator, Starbucks line. Madison (18, SBCC) plays the male approaching. Sophia plays the approachee. Sophia demonstrates how she would approach a man. Brittany demonstrates her approach (brief and direct). Panel discussion: men overcomplicate approaches; a simple compliment and asking for a number is sufficient. Brian notes men are afraid of rejection.

Transcript

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Brittany Ventiage occupation and where you're from go ahead hi I'm Brittany venti I'm a YouTuber and

Brittany Ventium I make content that sometimes makes people mad at me but that's okay and yeah and I have the only fans where you

Brian Atlascan see pictures of my cats like literally I made in the top 10 doing that nice nice okay I the whatever actually has and only fans two only fans.com whatever and it features Kiki

Brian Atlasso maybe we could get a collaboration going with with Kiki and your cats do a little only chance collaboration yeah yeah way so just be oh rip okay Rip's in

Brian Atlasthe chat for uh Britney's cat yeah all right he's in the chat um and age please um I'm in my 20s

Brittany Ventiso 30. I'm 37. you're not 37 come on okay 38.

Brian Atlasbut what's your actual age I'm in my 20s well 20 20 21 29. 20 enough isn't it hold on is it can I Google this

Brian Atlaslet me see Brittany Bentley Brittany fancy age 26 years old oh you're born on Valentine's Day apparently according to the internet it could be wrong the internet's always 26

Brian Atlasand board amount okay I like that new ID okay so uh Brittany venti is 30 years old uh

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)36 37 what about you uh I'm Sean I run a YouTube channel called think before you sleep uh I am in my 30s 32.

Brittany VentiI think everything um oh and just where did you guys say where you're from location oh I'm from New York but um I'm in Texas now okay so Britney is

Brian Atlasin her 20s dating a 32 year old so uh oh no but actually no you said you were 38. so she's actually older than me yeah

Brian Atlasit's like uh cougar kind of yeah it's 30 Mi is late 30s cougar territory are you a cougar confirm or deny um hold on a bug here nice that was like

Brian Atlassome karate kid let me give you some Chopsticks that was some karate kid [ __ ] it was annoying did you actually get it yeah that was [ __ ] good [ __ ] reflexes okay good [ __ ] um okay I won't grow you guys too much on that

Annago ahead is it my time yes okay can you hear me is that working bro hello okay hello hello okay my name's Anna uh I do YouTube I am a freelance artist for AAA

Annagaming and I own my own business uh and I do uh cosplay and sell calendars on Indiegogo age I am in my 20s I do not give out information why don't you guys share your age

Brian Atlasbecause I don't give out information that'll get me doxed why why would your age get you birth certificates birth certificate what there's all kinds of ways yeah please so yeah how about

Annabut on my channel I say I'm nine that's it ongoing joke weird okay it's okay um I've never heard I don't think giving your age would it does because then they would know

Annawhat year you're born and then they can verify information on you everyone's birth certificate is public so if anyone just pays the fee they can look it up so this is now an Internet safety guy I know so yeah just stuff like that don't

Brian Atlasgive out but I mean couldn't couldn't you argue for example like uh like A-list celebrities are very much uh could potentially be subject to doxing

Brittany Ventiyet it's public information they have security though I swear to God JLo turned 35 like three years in a row so it seems like some of them are like 36

Brian Atlasnow yeah 37. but isn't some of the stuff public information it is right well no I mean your birthdays is

Brittany Ventin't it like out there it might be a lot of things are out there are you talk to us live on air how is it doxing if it's screen share okay all right we're on

Brian AtlasI mean it's already publicly available isn't it I don't think so no one's gotten it right yet you said Your name's Anne no Anna

Brian AtlasI mean the 14. 28 no the reason I pushed back on the reason I push back on the age refusal is is you

Brian Atlasneed to know how many eggs we have left oh that thing no no I'm in my 20s but it's just like okay if you're not prepared to share your age what well I mean I'll share other things but I just

Brian Atlasdon't want something get me doxed but I mean wouldn't wouldn't I've never heard of someone getting doxed because you know

Josietheir age it's a thing just stay off okay wait didn't Destiny's wife not say her age though when she was on here I don't recall I'm pretty sure maybe someone could like

Josiebut she's in isn't she under immigration process or something because I know that it can if it gets out there if what gets out there that if that

Josieinformation gets out there you're undergoing immigration let's say somebody decides to like still that identity somehow is just because you're going through the immigration like you're getting dogs

Josieour our identity stolen for immigration purposes yeah I mean getting your information out there always has that risk in general too I know because I immigrated here so that's that was my main concern was that oh like if

Annasomebody would steal that um that's an expensive green card you know so I don't mean to sound stupid but what is docs what is this like somebody gives out all your personal information so it's like

Annayou're social where you live your phone number everything about you oh yeah so if you know what like swatting is so like somebody will call the cops and they'll be like oh this person at this

Annaaddress is going to do this thing and the cops show up and yeah no like so it's people's dogs have gotten killed because the cops think that something's going so they'll just break into your

Annahouse and try to stop whatever is bad happening people do bad things so I just try to have a second amendment I'm sorry did I irritate you depending on the status a little bit but if I'm sorry I

Brian Atlasam just letting you guys know if like there's any like it is a little one I'm not sure if I buy the I don't want to be doxxed thing

Brian Atlasbecause I I I don't think I don't think simply by virtue of stating an age not not you know I I don't think because

Brian Atlasyou know you just go 91 92 93 94 95 96 it's such a small metric that someone could just like yeah but like using that logic we shouldn't put locks on our doors because they could just be broken right

Brittany Ventiwhat it's like a deterrent it makes it harder it doesn't mean it'll stop people but yeah it's more about making things harder I I suppose but

AnnaI I question if if that's the genuine reason no no it is so I already had to move because of problems so I just don't want to go through all that again

Brian Atlasokay fair enough I I'll let it slide but it my my hesitation with this is because when when people are so unwilling to share such a basic biographical well you saw information

TTS Reader[Music] very Chan donated 99 these no age beaches are annoying as hell P.S Maddie is bae always have her

Brian Atlason Brian my my yo uh Benny Chan thank you man my concern is just if you're so unprepared to just provide like a basic biographical information a piece of

Brian Atlasinformation about you are you going to be like having a good faith conversation with us and like being willing to share other you know engage in I will just don't ask me like my address you sell our IDs before the show though well you

Annaguys showed me your Costco cards or whatever okay here I'll do something ask me a very personal question I'll answer it no we're going to move on go ahead what

Lanaabout you hi I'm Lana I'm 39. and thank you very much for disclosing your age much appreciated you're welcome

LanaI am an accountant I am also a mom and last but not least I do only fans okay so an accountant as an accountant both types of

Jasmine Jafaraccountants go ahead what about you my name is Jasmine Jafar I am 28 and I am an only fans Creator as well as a licensed attorney

Brian Atlaslicensed attorney okay rock and roll thank you for uh sharing Ridge what about you guess who's back in the [ __ ] house

Byronique[Applause] I'm uh blessed to be in my dirty 30s I am 33 for about two more months okay uh

ByroniqueI am a stand-up comedian I am a social media content creator and I am possibly in training to be a school bus driver with the little badass kid so what's up

Brian Atlas[Laughter] let's [ __ ] go okay all right uh and you said you're two weeks away from 34. oh the two months oh two months I got two more months yeah it's all downhill

Josieat 34. okay what about you I'm Josie I'm 27. I'm unprofessional cyclist I'm content creator digital Creator I do um computer stuff on the side cyber

Brian Atlassecurity yeah stuff like that yeah in your pre-show messages to us you told us that you do some work for your social media only fans assistant and the it girl and

Josiethat you answer DMS on behalf of only fans girls is that correct yeah and I also for guys who have a Tinder that kind of have a hard time to hit checks I've done that for like a few

Josieguys and uh you get paid for that yeah and I answer like uh DMS on only fans for girls because they don't have time to do it so like I keep it interesting

Brian Atlasyou know but I don't really feel like being in the in the front on my little to uh I'm a woman of God as you see so yeah okay uh and you two have only fans do you have only fans do you have only

Brian Atlasfans oh no no no no okay uh so question for you guys do you guys have someone who messages on your behalf no I actually don't so I actually do all you do it all I'm not kidding because but

Jasmine Jafarwould you admit it if you did have somebody that messages on your behalf would you admit to that probably not but I for me it's really important to run my patient away I feel good about and that I feel is ethical so I forego probably a

Brian Atlaslot of income by going through it myself sure enough what about you no I definitely don't I do it myself okay yeah I've definitely heard that there's a lot of girls who have only fans who they have their own management and

Brian Atlasthey'll have somebody typing messages it'll be a dude even a guy will be messaging with a dude did that exactly so um yeah I'm a musician as well I've done a lot of

Josiecomputer work because I was immigrating here so from where Montreal real can can we hear the Canadian national

Veronicaanthem no this is America Brian okay okay thank you yeah cool um what about you my name is Veronica

VeronicaI'm 35 years old I'm a student and um my major is occupational therapist and I do modeling like photo shoots

Madisonokay and I helped take care of my mom all right got it and what about you Madison my name is Madison I'm 18 years old I'm from San Diego California I'm a student at Santa

Brian AtlasBarbara City College studying econ and accounting and I do the whatever podcast and I'm a host at a bar and roll okay cool um by the way we were gonna have Sophia

Brian Atlaswho was on the show about two weeks ago uh she at 6 50 we aim to go live at seven she said she was going to be here soon she's

Brian Atlasmessage it chat so I'm leaving this up to chat uh she messaged me just now at 7 15 saying she was here keep in mind we asked people to be here at 6 pm the show we tried to start the show at

Brian Atlasseven uh do we do we go get her chat or is it I mean because the table's full we sat Madison down

Brian Atlasso chat oh Nick is there can you pull up the uh by the way we are going to do a burping contest later on be sure to stay tuned for that um yeah I'm absolutely I'm not

Brian Atlasdoing that okay this is going to be them too she wins by default I guess um okay Eric or excuse me Nick can you pull up the papa chat do you know how to do

Brian Atlasthat you can get back on uh while we wait for that uh to see what the chat is saying some people are saying yes it looks like uh let me see

Brian Atlaslet's go around the table once more so if you can please tell us what your current relationship status is are you single are you in a relationship uh

Brian Atlasfriends with benefits talking stage situationship relationship married uh if you are single how long have you been single also what's your longest relationship go ahead it's so complicated yeah I know there's a lot

Brittany Ventireally shouldn't be um we're in a relationship okay

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)um how did you guys meet by the way on the internet with everybody else what's that on the internet like everybody else was it like did you slide into the DMS or so one of

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)her viewers was a was a fan of mine oh sorry about that you're fine you're fine yeah send her a message and then she sent me a message on patreon and then we ignored each other for months

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)okay

Brittany Ventishe invited me onto a show and then two years later we went out yeah I didn't know what he looked like for like I think like a year and a half so I just

Brian Atlasliked his content and messaged him and he came on my Show Gotcha okay how long have you guys been together almost a year yeah okay congrats oh almost anniversary

Brian Atlascoming up good times good times and by the way guys uh think before you sleep it's a uh very good very good Channel recommend you go check it out the link for that is in the description hopefully he doesn't do a hit piece on this after his

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)appearance here but um yeah what huh I've already people think I haven't faced off so I've done like a bunch of times now as long as you just don't do it on your main Channel everything well yeah no we've you've done some live streams I think on on

Brian Atlasyour channel yeah like a lot yeah yeah but uh very cool okay so uh you guys met online was it uh well you already went into it so let's move on uh what about you I'm engaged

Annayeah it's been like a month now of the engagement but we were uh and we just had our seven year anniversary on July 3rd oh congrats okay thank you okay

Lanaum I'm currently single my longest relationship was seven years were you married um not legally not legally so basically

Brian Atlaslike he's a common law marriage or we had a child together hmm okay so you have just one kid mm-hmm yeah so when did you guys split up or

Lanayesterday uh no no no so um I'm basically like widowed like he passed away oh [ __ ] sorry to hear that yeah last year yeah okay

Brian Atlasum and you how old's your kid uh she's five five years old okay cool cool uh and then have you been dating at all since he

Lanapassed or not still kind of getting over things or not really like I I recently tried and um I don't know like

Lanayou know make a little content with an old you know friend of mine but other than that um okay what about you I am single in my

Brian Atlaslongest relationship is about four years okay four years how long have you been single two and a half years two and a half years you when did you start your only fans

Jasmine Jafar20 21 I want to say like June or July probably June so it's been about two years were you still dating the guy when you had started your no we broke up like November of 2020

Brian Atlasso and then when and you started your only fans in December no June of 2021. uh okay yeah so sure before I took the bar exam before you talk and you passed

Brian Atlasthe bar yeah okay here in California no I don't want to say what state just for privacy reasons but sure um okay and so do you think has having

Brian Atlasstarted only fans is that that has that had any negative impacts when it comes to finding a potential partner not at all not nothing nothing no negative because yeah just the kind of guys I like wouldn't have a problem

Jasmine Jafarwith it the kind of guys you like wouldn't have a problem no any guy that I would have dated before so two years ago I didn't even have an Instagram nothing and I wouldn't have dated any guy at that point that would have had a

Byroniqueproblem with me having an only fan so okay got it what about you well y'all I'm still single as a [ __ ] Pringle but

Byroniqueyou know what I just met a real sexy sexy French last Mexican [ __ ] this past week you tell me so I'm hoping now to go

Madisonsomewhere baby y'all pray for me you guys are talking yeah wait how long how long well we just met on Tuesday oh

Byroniquenice well I hope it goes well supposed to have our first little date on Friday but he gonna come to my comedy show this Wednesday and then we're gonna go on a date Friday so I'm looking forward to

Byroniquethis week y'all best of luck thank you what kind of date yeah where are you going well of course we gotta eat cause y'all see a [ __ ] I love to eat so uh we definitely going to eat and then after

Byroniquethat um you know I don't know it's a surprise I told him I like spontaneous [ __ ] spontaneous so surprise me but we gonna eat that's first on the

Josielist you better believe it please surprise me but don't f up you know yeah

Josieall right yeah you um oh my God I I don't know if I'm divorced yet but uh divorce was married longest relationship

Josieuh six seven years currently in a relationship yeah taken for two years was your marriage your longest relationship

Josieum yeah divorce is um not fun for both parties Brian what yeah you say you say all the time that women have everything to gain out of a

Josiedivorce but if you want to talk about it after a weekend I can share my experience she thinks she's getting divorced okay well I kind of missed sorry I was just dealing with him no I just I said

Josiethat um I'm divorced I've just gone through a divorce I don't even know if it's final or finalized or not but but okay you brought up that

Brian AtlasI've kind of not been in favor of marriage and one of the reasons one of the reasons I think that is because uh generally speaking uh the

Brian Atlasnegative consequences of divorce tend to disproportionately impact men but uh so in your case it negatively impacted you and so far as I just want to say I I

Josieagree I agree I agree with you with the marriage that it's the worst that can happen to

Josieyou between a divorce or having a child by accident I would say you should be a lot more afraid of having a chick pregnant by accident and there are chicks out there that will

Josietell you I'm on birth control just to have a baby because the biological clock is it's true it happened to two of my friends so and trust me uh between all the people that I know that I've gone

Josiethrough the divorce versus the people that have to pay child support out of nowhere without being ready for it the ones who have had children are a lot in

Josiethe hot water compared to the ones that are just divorced without children my God sorry I stutter so you're current but you said you're currently going through divorce correct I don't even know if I'm divorced yet I just didn't really look into it like I'm

Brian Atlasin a new relationship right now it's doing really good who initiated divorce you were the guy him so you were served divorce papers yes okay who's the bread Breadwinner in

Josiethat relationship him okay did he pay for your attorney's fees we just had one attorneys we just did a mediation with on a journey I I'm not my environment

Brian Atlasmy parents didn't raise me to be a [ __ ] your parents so you mean like to go after how long were you married again seven okay I don't do stuff like that I

Josiedon't I don't I don't like um how a woman kind of try to destroy guys going through a divorce like where I'm from it's more um in Canada it's brutal in

Brian AtlasCanada now Montreal is the Quebec Quebec is not Canada Brian it literally is Canada but I'm not aware of this I'm waiting for

Brian Atlasthe chat right now I'm not aware of like the beef that Montreal or whatever is there like a what is it secession what is it are they trying to secede are

Josieyou sure you want to go down yes [ __ ] it let's talk about secession [Applause] the independence of Quebec versus the ones that want to be like Canada there's

Brian Atlasteam Quebec and there's Team Canada okay then I'm not impressed by your performance okay um this is America like why are we talking about no but you you mentioned that well okay

Brian Atlasin any case so you're in a two-year relationship correct yeah okay two years all right got it uh cool what about you

Veronicaum I'm single I was dating someone but they recently stopped talking to me um and yeah my relationships never really last they only last like three months

Byroniqueand that's it home I'm sorry sorry oh yeah I don't know you too 90 day that 90 day probation period

Brian Atlasbabies like a job they came back that's why they have 90 Day Fiance probably right right all right got it sorry guys I'm trying to [ __ ] we got a person who's late

Brian Atlaswho wants to still come be on the show so I'm texting on my phone trying to coordinate with that I mean I don't know what is that what the chat saying I think we're talking about her

Brian Atlasat least earlier um I might I might send uh I might send Nick if you want let me let me just see if she's still [ __ ] here actually yeah Maddie if you can go do you have the access thing I'll

Brittany Ventiget it see if you wanted to maximize your craft you would have had chat donate for her to right yeah they would I don't know if they want her that bad they would oh yeah they would have I feel

Brian Atlasuh yeah if you want to she she's gonna have to sit in the back though no Mike I mean you want you could so she can just stop her with the doll huh no she'll be in this she'll be [ __ ] just sitting behind us like I don't know if it's even

Byroniqueworth it didn't she drive from Bakersfield oh yeah oh and see that depends where she came from out here

Brittany Ventioutside just let her sit it's a long time she came yeah so we came for what's the equivalent Bakersfield because I keep hearing Californian [ __ ] on it so like is that like the Bronx in New York

Madisonor basically okay it's just like a nowhere there's nothing in Bakersfield yeah there's just like a size like middle of nowhere jack [ __ ] to do

Brian Atlaskeep in mind she she's been on the show before she's late for that show what was she six was she good yeah people like her well we don't we don't have a microphone to give her really and

Brian Atlasum trying to think you have a dunce hat to sit on the floor well yeah I think we she faces into the corner or something but look we told her hey be here at 6 p.m she texts me at 7 15 saying she's here

Jasmine Jafarlike that's that's on you she didn't warn you she told me at 6 50. I'm almost there oh okay all of you showed up at like six pretty much except for you

Annaknow but uh um let me I'll I'll see uh wait for Chad to donate then yeah let a super attempt decide yeah I mean that wouldn't be the deciding

Brian Atlasfactor but what is the deciding factor the whatever verse they bring Sophia yo James would you date uh where's my hug son also think before you sleep I binged

Brian Atlasyour content a while back it's fantastic thanks uh hey James thanks for the uh donation there uh yeah glad you enjoy his content um sorry guys I'm trying to get this figured out um Madison why don't you ask the panel question because

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)I know you're dying too uh um I wanted to know what kind of content you made or like what do you I started out with manosphere content that I changed to anti-will content

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)did you used to consider yourself mgtow yeah okay not like anymore or I mean looking at facts data and stuff like that seems like a lot of it as pretty was saying it but

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)divorce seems to suck for both sides it seems like vet your partners properly um things like covid like kind of say like well if

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)that's all I'm saying the podcast let me just say like there were a lot of laws that were ignored after a certain time period And so it's like if laws can be ignored there then laws don't really matter it's really just culture that

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)matters so that changed my perspective on that quite a bit and so I started moving away from that and just focusing on culture and so that basically was that

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)okay gotcha but yes yeah I mean it was a technically the shorter part of my time as a content creator that was like three years ago and did you previously consider yourself as a mgtow yeah okay

Brian Atlasand but I I know that that can range in terms of how that sort of manifests itself that could be anywhere from someone who's like completely just will not even like be friends with women

Brian Atlasall the way to not that bad a guy a guy who will like hook up with women but you know they won't cohabitate and they won't have like long-term relationships or get married to women so like where would you say when you were mgtow where

Brian Atlasdid you fall I kind of just focused on my career and just focus on myself okay so you weren't really like dating or anything not really now gotcha okay um cool anything else Madison for the table

Madisonwhile I deal with this Sofia situation yeah um how many of you are single well I feel like you don't really count you're like you're like you're like

Josietalking to someone oh okay yeah I mean she said single single me single yeah I guess Madison can you go grab her yeah

Brian AtlasI'll be back and then if you could set her set up a chair for um yeah she's gonna be in the back I guess you can kick it silently that's what it's gonna be that's what if she

Brian Atlaswants to leave she can but we can't it's hard for us to accommodate somebody that's in almost an hour and a half late yeah you know why do you let

TTS Readerher in because they want abandonmental donated 100 Lord Brandon decides that she should join in on the podcast also hi Madison and Brian yo Brandon good to

Brian Atlassee you in the chat man much appreciated thank you um hey Nick can you boost the Audio I think it's a bit low can you make sure it's at 80. do you know how to do that yeah yeah perfect thank you man sorry guys a little [ __ ] here because [ __ ]

Brittany Ventithis question has been looming over my head can I ask it sure so our topic of only fans came up and I think you said that um you wanted it to be ethical is

Jasmine Jafarthat what you meant that somebody else managing it in your opinion wouldn't be ethical if somebody is speaking to people as you I don't think that's ethical I think why because somebody's pretending to be you and someone's paying to talk to you and they're

Jasmine Jafartalking to someone else and as somebody who like does that I would also agree that it's not ethical but I don't care I like money so you're lying you're having someone else pretend to be you and this person thinks they're talking to you you

Brittany Ventithink that's ethical they donate with the Assumption of like um that they will be able to talk to you get with you things like that because that's how a lot of guys are like even

Jasmine Jafarif you give a hundred disclaimers right I I make sure not to facilitate parasocial relationships so I don't offer a girlfriend experience I don't do any of that I have a limit on how much content you can buy if somebody messages

Josieme multiple times I'm like hey this is unhealthy this is erratic and I they do it anyway to be honest I don't have a lot of that and I have a lot of fans the DMS can get pretty toxic but that's what I'm here for so I think I weed them out what is it like what do you what what

Josieare you seeing as someone who manages that uh my God okay let's say um sorry I'm not thinking thinking TOS right now so like I don't even know if

Josieuh okay like the amount of guys that cheat on their wife like that it's sad

Josiethey have kids or like I'm spending like my kids Christmas gifts on on you right now what the are you not answering stuff

Josielike that it's like I can see that somebody who hasn't been used to see comments like that on social media or like just started on only fans it's it's hard right like reading that

Josieand seeing like husbands cheating and everything I would say most of them don't really have like a father figure around so I would say that it's pretty traumatizing to think that there are men like that in the world to me like I have

Josietwo amazing parents that are still together good father figure like my mom she was in California like she stayed at my house like last month so it's for me

JosieI know they're just jerks like sorry like I know and I'm just like what the heck but you know for for

Josiepeople who don't have a father figure it hits harder um psychologically are you talking about the women on only fans yeah that to have like men say certain

Josiethings and they just don't necessarily some of them just don't um how could I explain that seriously it just hits them different I don't know I don't really know how to explain it it's just

Jasmine Jafarit's sad so you're saying that's where you come in to talk to those men on their behalf because they don't feel comfortable not because they want to save time let's be honest yeah yeah no I understand that but that's I didn't know the relevance so because I'm I'm I guess

JosieI'm good at handling it like back and forth I just run into the same Circle they're happy she's happy I'm happy so like yeah do they ever just reject their purchases if

Josiethey're like I'm spending my kids uh College fun on this or 401ks wives savings mom's savings college kids

Josiesavings yeah I've seen it meet me or my kids life is in jail party that's super unethical overall they do a lot of mental manipulation to try to get

Lanastuff and I'm just like yeah do you see that I don't I would say it's the other way around I would say the the people who are chatting to these men they're manipulating the men yeah

Josiepretending oh yeah it's totally Mutual I mean I wouldn't say that there is no like manipulation coming from the women's side I mean if anything it's a lot coming from the women's line that's the whole business model you know

JosieI'm just saying it's not it's not very and there are a lot of guys that aren't doing that oh yeah the great people on there yeah it's hard to have like a healthy

Brittany Ventirelationship and then also um like pursue that sort of girlfriend simulator relationship with someone for the men that do do that some of the girlfriends find out for their

Jasmine Jafarboyfriends like some girls are like into it so I have a lot of couples that watch me together or like a guy whose girlfriend oh yeah there's definitely some cut Queens out there and such all right were you asking I don't know what

Brittany Ventia hot Queen is compromising my relationship because okay I'm just asking I was uh saying rather the the people that are purchasing it

Brittany Ventiit must be hard for them to maintain a happy relationship

Lanaare gonna find a way to do it without only fans ever existing I mean the boundaries of a relationship should be easier but yeah determined by the two people in the relationship anything

Lanaonline makes it easier yeah I think it makes it easier if a man provides enough he can get away with a lot maybe not for you but that's true that's right I've seen that happen I've seen

Lanarelationships where the man is married and the wife knows that he has like another mistress that he fully takes care of something if she knows in relationships it's 2023 relationships are coming all different if she knows

JosieI'm sorry it's wrong if she knows it's wrong that's just at least don't ask don't tell you know you think if the girl knows it's not a toxic no I

Josiemean personally like if my boyfriend was to just go and like okay you know get with some random chick he doesn't even remember her name I'm like you know what that's on you I don't want to know don't

Josietell me it's gonna hurt me and at the end of the day I know I I grew up around guys I kind of understand how them a man's man's brain is wired um it's not like women cheating women

Brittany Venticheating versus men cheating it's two completely different two completely different things I think that's used too much as a past though because what if women were like yeah sorry babe I cheated on you

Brittany Ventium why did you say sorry I cheated on you hold on but babe I cheated on you he had more money and you know as a woman I biologically have to go for resources so well go ahead bye bye [ __ ] but it doesn't get something it doesn't get a

Brittany Ventipass in the same way I don't think either or acceptable I'm a little bit of a romantic I wish that we could bring back more romance honestly honestly if you would just not tell you and you

Josiewould not find out somehow I guess I don't want to know and I don't want to find out like that I don't want to find out part that's what's important make sure I don't find out means make sure you don't get her

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)pregnant make sure you don't come back with an STI stuff like that you know but sure a little manifest in some other way if you're an addict to one thing you're probably gonna add to multiple things and things like so it's like it's you may be thinking it's like this there's

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)this direction over here where this person's going that you don't want to know about but it's probably manifesting other ways that are affecting you the person I would certainly want to know I I honestly I I don't know I'm not a guy

Brian AtlasI haven't been one in a while so I I couldn't say but you used to be a man that's a joke Brian oh okay sorry

Brian Atlascareful these days it's not a given anymore um well let's uh let's move on uh Brittany just one thing you said you mentioned that you think uh people should try to reintroduce some romance

Brittany Ventiinto yeah I think it's been brought out of the life of everyone this whole thing of the uh terminal men versus women War has just sucked the romance at everything and everyone's just very low

Brittany Ventitrust and it's very sad to see and I really wish that romance is brought back because as we've taken it out we have all these very undefined relationships and people are unhappy about it and having to and everyone's just having to

Brian Atlassettle for so little because the bar is just so low and it's really sad for both genders can you clarify or maybe expand on what you mean though by by romance what what does that look like like two

Brian Atlaspeople who genuinely like each other and want to commit to each other and are only into each other okay okay cause when I think of romance I tend to think of perhaps like romantic overtures

Brittany Ventisuch as for example buying girl flowers and trees I suppose but it's the foundation that really matters too okay those are symptoms that comes after you have a good foundation right okay so

Brian Atlasmore like actual genuine liking of the person versus perhaps the transaction the you know how I think things tend to be looked at almost in a transactional way where it's like what can this person

Brittany Ventiprovides whether it's finances whether it's you know whatever it may be and that's not to say that men should therefore date ugly unattractive women that they're not attracted to and women should date men that they're not

Brittany Ventiattracted to obviously for example if you want children there needs to be money there in order for you to raise the children so like looks and uh being able to provide for a family certainly

Brittany Ventido matter but it has become a lot more transactional and I think that's what's given to the rise to things like only fans and why so many uh guys and girls are buying into it and sort of like this

Brittany Ventiparasocial thing do you think people have only fans because there's not enough Romance I think that I think that um with the rise of relationships becoming more and more vague like at the beginning of the show

Brittany Ventifor example he was like whether in your situation this or that it's like 10 different labels instead of just like dating or a committal boyfriend girlfriend Etc so if you think that was more clear people wouldn't get on only fans and

Brittany Ventimake money I think that only fans is happening due to the fact that for example because most of the customers are guys even though there are some girls and so I think that they're using

Brittany Ventithat as a replacement for sex in the same vein as porn and I don't think it's good for either party overall like Japan and it affects children too yeah Japan too what do you mean like porn effect

Brian Atlaschildren are only fans well you you could also make the argument if men were getting Rum uh getting romance or getting sex from women that there would not be such a market for pornography I

Jasmine Jafarmean like upwards of 90 of men watch porn upwards of 90 of men are single I mean a lot of normal people with relationships or jobs like normal people are on but that might become people watch porn but that might be contributing to why they're single

Jasmine Jafarwhy would you work out why would you work on your career why would you draw that stuff as you can just well the majority of people that watch porn like that workout also they're not not working out because they're on only fantastic I don't think that's just because that one person like there's people that do it doesn't mean that

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)they're also aren't like a lot of people who don't because pornography exists because it's there and so easily available so are you just saying that or is there some like statistical evidence for this is this just what you feel like I said you can look at societies

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)like Japan where they have this this massive price there's a huge Point industry in Japan like every single part of the relationship is compartmentalized where people are going to like uh men can go script strip clubs women can go to like host clubs just like the male

Jasmine Jafarversion of that um it just doesn't seem to be I think that's the reason that Japan is like that because I mean like Europe is super open with sex we're kind of uptight here in the US and like there's also seeing that countries that watch more porn

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)you're seeing more of this is that mixed in with a lack of connection especially things like um without violating TOS people being less connected because of covet people getting on Discord conversations and having friends do that versus having actual real friends and okay people kind

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)of compartmentalize so social media in general yeah okay so if you mix that in with lack of social skills which is kind of a pretty prevalent problem in Japan like you're getting a lot of that here so but do you think that like are you saying that you think the majority of

Jasmine Jafarmen on only fans don't have social skills like are you saying that porn in particular only fans in particular is different than all these other forms of social media that's making people less connected you think only fans in porn in

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)particular is I'm thinking it's all kind of mixed together as like maybe people should move a little bit more away from it you know Vlog maybe like if you if all of your friends are on Discord maybe check your life a little bit yeah okay I agree with you all your presence if

Brittany Ventiyou're on the computer all of them if you're not a content creator and you're on the computer all day maybe maybe check yourself a little bit Yeah I have something to add on to that so I think that it's um all of it as well but it's

Brittany Ventispecifically with only fans um as as the nature of any other pornography it's a replacement for sex so I think in that specific area is what it's replacing so instead of like maybe

Brittany Ventigoing and trying to get a girlfriend or committal relationship uh they might turn to only fans and I think that's why it's become so popular too and versus other social media let's say Discord

Jasmine Jafarthat would be more like a way of um replacing friendship I don't I don't know why people think it's like a replacement for sex I don't think if you if people watch and they're like oh I don't ever want to see a real woman

Jasmine Jafarnaked I don't think well men get I don't know from it though yeah that can happen but like porn addiction in general is so misunderstood it's such a it's not even recognized by the ps15 the APA like it's

Jasmine Jafarnot recognized for a reason and a lot of it also has to do they've done studies with moral and congruence so they've looked at men who've watched porn and they've compared men who think they have because a lot of it is just what you think you have a problem like do you

Jasmine Jafarfeel like this is interfering with your daily activities Etc even unless you stopped for a long period of time no but they find that the men that think it does they also have negative attitudes towards porn they have some like moral opposition to it they're extra religious

Jasmine Jafarthey find that those men don't actually even watch more porn than normal men who are living normal healthy lives but they have a like they are like sex is normal right and they're like oh my God I have an addiction because I'm not supposed to be doing this God is mad at me whatever

Josieand then they because they're normal they turn to it again and again and again and they think that's an addiction when it's not some people are uncomfortable comfortable with social

Josieinteractions in general where as corn and only fans kind of gives you that opportunity to have that fantasy without having to overcome that social anxiety

Brittany Ventito go and talk to a woman go on a date and everything it's definitely easier I mean think about what's easier to hang out with a friend or messaging on Discord right so in that same sentiment um I think you have voice that you don't

Brittany Ventithink that it's a replacement but if that's not the case then why when someone's horny they turn to porn otherwise what would they have to turn there's a lot of bad relationships that turn to porn like if your girlfriend

Brittany Ventiisn't there with you in the moment a lot of like that night upwards of 90 of men watch porn and not 90 of men are single and also but that could also reflect on their relationship it could mean that they're not satisfied to some degree or

Brittany Ventinot even that but you're making that up like you don't know not even that the woman's not good enough but like that maybe they're so used to porn that they need those options because that's one of the most common things you hear from guys when you ask them why do they even when I'm in relationships and I'm having

Jasmine Jafara ton of sex I masturbate like I don't like sometimes you want your little alone time and it's in moderation I'm not saying it can't be a problem but I mean anything drinking in moderation moderation porn in moderation what do

Lanayou guys think about do you think that if a guy is horny and he goes out and tries to find a woman in public that that's better than going online to go meet a woman for the first time and go out to just talk whatever yeah you're

Lanajust going out to I think culture is just as terrible right so it's like what what is worse go online and beat it both are back a random person both are

Jasmine Jafarbad but I mean some people benefit from it it's an industry so this is a free country you know why is it bad psychologically it's not bad for you why is it bad for like if people like what's wrong with hookup culture I don't

Jasmine Jafarengage in it personally because I'm boring but I'm sexual diseases inability to hold a long-term relationship why would we it's a robin for everybody else like we don't want to do it why don't we don't we can just not

Lanawe didn't say where to stop and just say we don't like it um it doesn't mean you can't do it is everybody or you don't like it for yourself if you stay home you're not going to get someone pregnant you're not going to get an STI there we go you're

Brian Atlaseating you're just masturbating at home I mean as um he was saying kind of skirting TOS here I mean couldn't you say that we as a society in order to stop the spread of a certain disease we

Brian Atlasactually enacted laws to prevent certain activities certain and mandates uh and you could I mean I'm not trying to [ __ ] compare hookups but but you could argue like for example

Brian Atlaslike there there's an there's a rise in STDs okay what kind of STDs syphilis gonorrhea um I think something actually recently

Brian Atlasin Texas uh women in Texas I forgot which city but uh in the past three or four years there's been like a hundred fifty percent fold increase in

Jasmine Jafarsyphilis in women in some like Texas city or some [ __ ] so like STDs educate people on safe sex but at the end of the day it's their decision I have no interest in telling people yeah

Jasmine Jafarthat's not kid like people be [ __ ] without condoms and [ __ ] yeah and that's their decision I'm not gonna sit here and be like stop the education on safe sex is not going to get someone to change that behavior so what is using like oh this is so wrong well also even

Jasmine Jafarif you wear a condom you can still get herpes yeah you can but I'm saying these are we should tell people about the risk but if they want to engage in it I don't care enough to tell them just like what is on our business what about drug like

Brian Atlaswhat about drug use what do you mean what about drug use well I mean you know we can in our personal lives we can say okay well drug use is bad but you can also say hmm maybe society-wide this isn't like the best thing maybe we

Brian Atlasshould I'm not saying we should [ __ ] like pass laws to like bam hookup culture but like we could say we could say like okay this is not this is not good so you and you're doing this because you

Jasmine Jafardon't want people to get more STDs and you feel like this is like a pertinent issue in society right now the rise of STDs and like we should just be really pushing well there's other factors why I think hookup culture is not great okay

Brian Atlaswhy do you want the other factors well I mean because if it's just the rise I don't think men or women are happy with hookup culture who are you to say that they're not happy with other culture

Brian Atlasthough how often do you hear it's either men who are incapable of finding a relationship or women who you'll hear from women I'm tired of these [ __ ] boys these guys they just want to [ __ ] like I think both men and women are desirous of

Brian Atlaslong-term relationships and hook up culture is Contra uh it doesn't coincide with building long-term relationships for some people it does like I mean there are people who complain like that but there are a lot of people who don't

Brian Atlaslike we're in a bubble there's a lot of online communities they're like this is terrible but I feel like average girls who go to college average guys who go to college will are just as likely to say oh hookup culture sucks

Jasmine Jafarif everyone thinks that why why are we why do some people still choose to engage because everybody's so horny we need sex

Josiey'all don't know that that's a part of being a healthy human you have to [ __ ] yeah but hello are you willing to die in order to achieve well obviously everybody

Josieand they know the risk you're dying who's dying you're in a very vulnerable position when you open up your body like that to a stranger somebody like you

Byroniquejust met I don't know I don't understand strangers though in the beginning

Lanaare you saying you've never had a one-night stand no oh [ __ ] you missing out girl do you drink I haven't stopped the cat so well no they always come back sorry what

Lanado you think the one I think like one of the main ingredients in a hookup is alcohol so what are they gonna do should we ban alcohol I don't know Brian what do you think I mean you could actually

Josiemake an argument but go back the orange don't you

Josiethat he could do things that you're not comfortable with or hurt you it's You're such in a vulnerable position with somebody you don't really know I don't know it freak it would freak me

Josieout okay I can be comfortable like that like exactly or keep rolling girl I guess when I'm in the bathroom before that instant kicks and so yeah take a look

Brittany Ventiwell you're funny single single men are one of the main money makers for only fans so there's that aspect too right yeah they're one of them but they're also but it's it's like obviously there

Jasmine Jafarare some couples but it's a lot of a much a mass probably 80 I think you'd be surprised about the amount of women who don't care if their man watches porn or not only fans yeah and like I said

Jasmine Jafarthere's definitely cut Queens there's people of every I don't think they're cut Queens I just think that they don't care like I wouldn't care if my boyfriend watched porn some people are neutral some people I'm not a cut question are against it well don't search for

Jasmine Jafarstuff but you won't find anything if you don't know you don't know how clean you're saying they enjoy it or yeah the women that enjoy their men looking I don't think some women just women don't care like if you're allowed to look at women

Brittany Ventionline I don't have to be the only woman you ever see ever I mean that's how you facilitate your relationships but the thing is I think that affects how committal a relationship is depending to what degree especially

Brittany Ventiso how so because wouldn't it be more romantic if a guy only has eyes for you and only sees you and vice versa the girl only well you can be romantic yourself why do I have to I don't want to be romantic why do you have to be

Brittany Ventiromantic because we all have to live in this culture so we should not be romantic and commit to each other so you feel better no romance facilitates really healthy relationships and happy families and not having you know for

Brittany Ventiexample single mothers having to struggle and raise their kid it's hard my single mother raised me it's not easy can I ask you do you go through his phone no well there you go oh [ __ ] what because

Brittany Ventiwhy do you not go through this film because you don't want to know because I want to go through her phone there you go based on trust exactly well I wouldn't date somebody that um consumes porn because I also don't so

Brittany VentiI hold someone else to the same standards his phone and found a whole bunch of porno girls this happened like any other relationship

Josieum you don't want to know no like anything yeah

Brittany Ventioh no I'm pretty I'm pretty confident and that's one of the first things I find out when I date someone so I'm actually pretty confident I wouldn't find anything yeah when you first date someone yeah I know you ask them and you trust you just

Brittany Ventiask for their laptop right away so if you guys were dating someone on the first date and you had some sort of requirement and deal breaker and you voiced that and they lie to you I'm pretty sure if you found out they lied that you would probably break up with

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)them too how are you finding out or not finding out are you checking what are you doing are you with them 24 7. there's no Chris Rock show people don't like if you're trying to hide your porn from your girls they don't find it in

Sean (Think Before You Sleep)Fort Knox they find it in the BCR so if anybody's lying in a relationship

LanaI don't think porn is responsible for single mothers I don't got so at all just um what I'm trying to say it's the lack of commitment and therefore the lack of romance that's really prevalent nowadays

Josiewhich is why we have all these vague relationships honestly I wouldn't like to find out if my boyfriend was watching corn I I wouldn't like it so I don't go through his phone because I don't want to know but you know it probably is okay with it like what's stopping you from like just saying hey I'm not comfortable

Byroniquewith this this is my relationship boundary that's fine but you can't make it all of our relationships no I do get where you come from because if all of us women would just keep our [ __ ] last clothes you know what I'm

Byroniquesaying and wait till marriage we wouldn't be in this whole [ __ ] [ __ ] show of a you didn't feel me every the romance would have stayed and everything but we horny I keep telling y'all we need sex so we can't just wait for somebody to marry us to give it up [ __ ]

Brittany Ventitake forever you beating [ __ ] around and died you know some women really are tanking the Fuji stock though like and it's making harder for all of us

Josiehappy relationship congrats very romantic I mean I'd be terribly hurt if I would find out that my boyfriend like had a one night stand with one chick but for me I'm just but then why accept it I

Josiedon't want to know honestly I'd rather not know because it's gonna hurt me it's gonna hurt my feelings yeah you're okay with not knowing even though like it could possibly be true

Josiewouldn't you want to break up I mean I don't think he does so if I have any reason to believe then that means I would find out that means you left up

Josieyou know it's like don't make sure I don't find out that's it you know I don't know I know it's weird but that's that's just me you just rather not know I know it's weird in all this

Brittany Ventiwork in this relationship and you know just don't find out because guys hookup guys hook up women are emotional most of the time but then would you get a pass if you cheated up because the guy

Brittany Ventihad more money and you're a woman therefore you need resources would that get a path no because it's totally different men and women are different but women according to biology using the same logic women go for the resources for their children everything so if a

Josiewoman cheated for the same reason of resources it wouldn't get that passed so of course not because you go further resources therefore you go for their relationship not for the one night stand

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