Obese Girl Would NOT Date Obese Man?! PLUS SIZE BBW PANEL! | Dating Talk #103
Date: 2023-09-25
Duration: 5h 25m
Brian AtlasIdentified Speakers
SPEAKER_01Brian Atlas(host)
SPEAKER_02TTS Reader(audience)
SPEAKER_03Music/SFX(audience)
SPEAKER_04Madison(guest)
SPEAKER_06Jasmine(guest)
SPEAKER_07Misty(guest)
SPEAKER_08Marshall(audience)
SPEAKER_09Gabby(guest)
Key Moments
00:29:09
QuoteGabby declares 'I am the table' — refuses to explain what she brings to a relationship beyond her presence.
“I am the table. I show up. I be me. That's what I offer. I'm there.”
01:24:24
QuoteGabby says the only guys who ask 'what do you bring to the table' are broke men who can't afford her.
“The only guys who have ever asked me what I bring to the table are guys who cannot afford me.”
02:05:00
QuoteBrian addresses accusation that he charges $9,500 for male panel spots; explains sponsorship tiers are for brands not individuals.
“We haven't had any guy on the panel paid to be on the panel so far. Every guy that's been on the panel it's either just somebody I know.”
04:12:06
OtherGabby texts all 5 men on her roster asking to be exclusive during the live show.
“I texted four, I'm on the fifth one... I said: do you want to be exclusive with me, boyfriend and girlfriend.”
04:39:00
OtherBrian runs 'delusion calculator' on all guests; all results show <1% of men meet their combined criteria.
“Each of you are under one percent in terms of the men that you're looking for.”
04:39:39
QuoteMisty rates herself 10/10, loudly and confidently.
“I'm a 10. Say louder for the people. I'm a 10.”
04:40:26
QuoteJasmine rates herself 3/10 by European beauty standards — unusually low self-rating.
“If you're judging by beauty standards I am definitely a three.”
05:24:51
OtherBrian asks for body counts at the very end; Gabby says 'zero' then walks it back saying she's not going to say it.
“Body count zero zero... I mean I just mean that I'm not gonna say it.”
Topics Discussed
00:02:48
Guest introductions — plus-size panel
Gabby, Misty, Jasmine, and Madison introduce themselves. Relationship statuses, dating histories discussed.
00:20:00
Dating rosters and modern dating behavior
Gabby's 5-man roster. Frequency of dates per week (~5-10). Jasmine's philosophy on exclusive dating. Gabby texts all 5 roster men asking to be exclusive during the live show.
00:37:00
Obese women dating preferences — would plus-size women date plus-size men?
Discussion of whisper.com article: plus-size women who won't date plus-size men. Jasmine says she wants a fit partner she can admire. Gabby says she's attracted to what she likes. Discussion of feederism phenomenon.
01:24:00
Income and financial requirements in a partner
Brian runs 'delusion calculator' for all guests. Gabby: $300K preferred, $100K minimum. Misty: $200K+ in LA. Jasmine: ~$80K. Discussion of stay-at-home motherhood and financial dependency.
01:32:40
Patriarchy and gender equality debate
Women discuss patriarchy, wage gap, male leadership, power dynamics. Disagreements on whether patriarchy constitutes oppression. Intersectionality: race + gender + size discussed by Gabby and Misty.
02:05:50
Sponsorship allegation and podcast operations
Brian reads DMs from person who accused him of charging $9,500 for male panel spots. Brian explains format (primarily female guests), rejection process, and sponsorship tiers. Stresses importance of not insulting the host when requesting to appear.
02:08:00
Body positivity and fat acceptance movement
Reaction to viewer chat criticizing obesity. Debate on fat phobia vs. genuine health concerns. Jasmine discusses both obesity and anorexia health risks. Adele weight loss discussed. Fat liberation vs. body positivity distinction.
02:50:00
Gabby TikTok video reactions
Multiple Gabby TikTok videos reacted to: 'broke boy anthem' (I am the table), 'train the man from the beginning' (don't split bills), dating men in LA, dating app behaviors. Brian and guests debate each video's premises.
04:39:00
Attractiveness ratings and aging
All guests rate their own attractiveness (1-10 scale). Brian rates himself 6. Gabby: 10. Misty: 10. Jasmine: 3. Brian argues men find women more attractive at 21 vs 31. Discussion of Kristin Kreuk as Brian's celebrity 9/10.
05:18:00
Dating app profiles reviewed
Brian and Misty's Bumble profiles shown and reacted to on-stream. Misty's profile notes she has video of her body for transparency. Brian's profile shows age as 28 (set to match Misty's claimed age).
Transcript
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02:56:01
Brian Atlasyou'll marry will you marry me everybody we'll keep it any color uh minimum Heights six minimum height six feet gosh I really want to say well you're tall right you're talking I'm five ten you're
02:56:13
Brian Atlasin heels I'm six in heels she's six in heels I'm six three really yeah do you have a nice pair of pumps at home I got some Jimmy choos and some do you red bottoms
02:56:25
Brian Atlason your feet I got some Steve Madden can we see what I actually fit for them okay cool I'm totally joking but uh should we exclude obese no you I mean what's considered obese
02:56:38
Gabbybecause some people would consider me obese so like what does obese mean like I know the baby it depends on how you look do you look good can you get up a flight of stairs yeah can you are you bread written like I can't do a better
02:56:49
Brian Atlaswritten like can you can you walk can you you know what I mean I'm gonna say that's a no to ex exclude you're fine with obese yes I think she's the the the
02:56:58
GabbyAmerican version of a beach shirt okay yeah uh minimum income well I would say 150 can I do 150 yeah okay we'll do 150. we'll do yeah
02:57:10
Brian Atlasyeah all right let's find out what uh my ideal man uh probability
02:57:18
Gabbyunicorns three percent of men we want unicorns excuse me but we're not asking for anything I didn't even go that strict on this calculator and it's point three how accurate is this calculator yeah I
02:57:30
Brian Atlasquestion that so I would say uh when it comes to just height so granted you are a tall woman but if you six feet in the above that's only 15 minutes so immediately just if you need a guy who's
02:57:41
Brian Atlassix feet you've immediately excluded like 85 of men and then you factor in the income which is fairly High yeah you're looking at a very small proportion if I was a short woman I wouldn't mind a guy who was shorter but
02:57:52
Gabbylike if I'm dunking on you bros like I don't know how you know I already came over the threshold when you're married I would just feel like oh like let me carry you and that could be romantic it could be it could be if you I mean I
02:58:05
Gabbyonce dated a guy who was five eight and he literally swept me off my feet not not physically but like sure he has charms like short guys have charm and they're funny and they so you can get a you know because they have to work a
02:58:18
Gabbylittle bit harder on their personality because you know a lot of women like talking yeah so when you're shorter you get to work a little harder I feel like on personality so there are some great shortcuts but I can't deal with little man syndrome you know like the Napoleon
02:58:30
Gabbycomplex because I I feel like a lot of the times when I've tried to date shorter men they get so angry and bitter when we're out and like people and I guess other guys are trying to talk to me other guys are trying to like say
02:58:43
Gabbysomething to me and then they feel inferior because of that and then also like they're like if I'm wearing a little bit of a heel like this much they'll be like why are you wearing heels why don't you just wear flats and they get all angry about it I'm just
02:58:55
Gabbylike you're gonna be short regardless if I'm Barefoot or in heel so what do you care you know and then I see cute like celebrity couples that are like the guy shorter like John Legend and then his wife is like six three or something like they're cute you know so I guess it just
02:59:08
Brian Atlasdepends you have to have confidence in yourself you can't be insecure so besides all the things that we listed there in the calculator uh do you have like I know you said you'd date anybody but do you have like a type
02:59:18
Gabbydo you like white boys I say I I typically date black and Caribbean okay men okay yeah because that's more of my culture am I kind of your type you're my sister's type
02:59:29
Gabbyoh not a close-up one well actually her fiance and you I feel like are similar There's Hope for Brian yeah I feel like my sister's fiance kind of like favors you a little oh so I feel like yeah
02:59:44
Brian Atlasall right um how many of my percentage is better I don't know if I can compete with the five other men on the roster though it might be are you like putting your application in
02:59:55
Gabbyuh just a little banter yeah I don't know I have to get to know the thing is I feel like my um if we go on a date though you have to pay for it oh god well then we've already noticed it
03:00:05
Gabbyyou've already been bumped off the Rocks didn't even when I say white boys they take extra care of me okay like so wait let me paint the scenario here gosh I
03:00:18
Brian Atlastake you to Red Lobster why I'm allergic I can't
03:00:23
GabbyI take you to Benihana I love Benihana they cracked a little oh
03:00:35
Gabby[Music] and then they throw the food in your mouth Yes but you're paying for your girl so well here's what the check comes the waiter comes and I
03:00:47
Gabbysay two checks why like two chains I would do this oh my okay sweetie I'm just gonna go to the restroom I'll be right back oh you dip you'd run out on me you could pay it absolutely especially if you ask me on a date like you were gonna
03:01:00
Brian Atlasask me uh how am I paying it you asked me out that's crazy why am I out on this day could we you know it actually be fun what if we filmed a date we went on a date You're Gonna Lose though you're told he's not paying but
03:01:12
Brian AtlasI'm gonna be the most obnoxious I'm not gonna pull your seat back for you I'm gonna tell you to take the bus so average I'm gonna yeah
03:01:24
Brian Atlasa guy like that it was bad they don't need to use bicycle don't you think though it would kind of like because you'd say most of the guys who you deal with like they they do all the things you want right like they pay for you
03:01:36
Gabbythey get you your Uber so I would almost be coming in like who's this mysterious guy who's or not am I totally off base here wow I mean what it's not a mystery when you
03:01:47
Gabbydate me because I bet you before I let you take me out okay so I feel like we're on we're on the same page unless like unless I happen to like meet you out somewhere that's different if I met you online I'm betting you a little bit more if I met you at us a little bit
03:01:59
Gabbymore relaxed yeah um but I feel like before even the first day I kind of know the vibe and I've been thrown for a loop a couple times I'm just like wow I really thought you were different you know so I've been throwing for a loop okay you know so so if if I were to like
03:02:12
Brian Atlastake you to Benihana but I didn't pay for the check you'd it's done no second date what if afterwards like were to take you to uh you're not getting a second date
03:02:23
Brian Atlasalready it's like a nice restaurant oh God I mean we'd split for that no too we'd still uh I I would uh Five Guys oh my God if you took me to
03:02:35
GabbyFive Guys after Benihanas I'd be stuffed from Benny Pond is giving you a lot of no no like a second Five Guys what else are we doing for it we'd split too why am I splitting at
03:02:46
Brian AtlasFive Guys you don't have ten minutes you want to know me for my personality
03:02:54
Gabbyyou don't want to invest on a first date because you don't know if it's going to go sideways that's fine let's talk about soul mates though
03:03:10
GabbyI was actually hoping that like I you could continue modeling and I'm kind of like the stay-at-home dad do you think that could work can you also carry the baby I I you know a couple of guys have approached me in
03:03:22
Gabbythat manner and you know I'm not hating because I know some women prefer that I'm just not that woman I do best at home me too I feel like yeah and you just need a career everyone who's gonna
03:03:34
Gabbywhip you into shape a woman who wears the pants who controls the the you know the finances and all that like a boss ass babe and I am a boss ass babe but I can be very soft and feminine with the right man I prefer that role but some
03:03:47
Madisonwomen yeah they want to stay at home Dad they want you okay I'm just not her okay oh just a random question if a guy like came up to you and or if you were talking in this man for a while and he
03:03:58
Madisonwas like I'm going to fully financially support you would you like quit your work and everything for that or would you continue to work are we married
03:04:09
Gabbylet's just say dating but marriage possibly in the future um like you really yeah it's a serious relationship I I feel like I wouldn't feel secure enough to kind of quit my
03:04:22
Gabbyjob unless I was married because I'm guaranteed your money half of everything you own and things like that so I feel like I would feel more secure if we were married so that I know I'm protected and I'm safe in case you want to leave or
03:04:35
Gabbywhatever um so I would I would yeah I would like I would be comfortable letting go of a job being a stay-at-home mom stay-at-home wife if I knew that I was married and I was guaranteed you know
03:04:46
Brian Atlassome help if things go awry I kind of think women should pay for the first date why like not just split but I think the women should pay for this okay why
03:04:57
Brian Atlaswell obviously it's very nice as a to be wined and dined as a man you know and I think the way you know I just have to show up
03:05:08
Brian Atlas[Laughter] I just I just what I bring to the table like I am the table what do you bring to the table I am the table listen listen Okay can I get you pregnant
03:05:25
Brian Atlasexactly my point exactly listen listen it's 2023 men can get pregnant no they cannot oh my God you guys don't have the uterus
03:05:37
Mistyexcuse not you guys cannot you guys cannot contain the chemical you're going to take to feed the baby while it's in your desk I'm offended that's science you could be offended all you want I'm offended okay offended I'm offended
03:05:47
Brian Atlasoffended awesome men can get pregnant okay in 2023. oh my gosh are you talking about transgender men there's X and there's X there's xx and
03:05:59
Mistythere's X Y okay unless you are the kind that is a that can get the pregnant then I don't want to talk are you assuming no I'm just I'm saying unless you are I'm I'll know where I'm going this conversation you wanna at this point you
03:06:11
Marshallwant to carry her baby that's all I'm here I will carry I will carry our child in fact oh God don't grab the brown one black baby [Laughter]
03:06:27
Jasminethis could be our child okay the computer why are you treating like that I'm sorry so sorry
03:06:40
Mistyyeah Jesus child abuse that's why you don't carry your baby we're not getting that's a newborn look out shape it's really cute it's newborn it's like a health class baby here can I tell you
03:06:50
Brian Atlaswhat I would consider paying for you on the first date but I'd like to see you nurture this okay baby let's see let's see your motherly instincts here okay Junior
03:07:04
Gabbyhis breasts you can't hold my baby respectfully that is not in the J let's just put it up okay you know like so Jay Junior because he's a junior who's the guy who was with the
03:07:14
Brian AtlasKardashian woman Ray J does that is he kind of like 10 years ago yeah after he made the song I Hit It First it's fixed I don't know how that happened
03:07:26
Brian Atlasno I don't all right that's very motherly okay I love babies oh give me a milk okay I don't know where that okay um yeah you do just pay for the day but
03:07:38
Gabbyin any case here I'll take it I'll take that back just not by the heck oh my God I have a habit of throwing infants um okay so are you paying for the date was that nurturing enough like what's going
03:07:50
Jasmineon you did say it wasn't sure we're gonna have to say Brian if you're not willing to invest in your love life just don't even yeah don't even men are too broke to date these days that's what's happening you're too broke today and dating is an investment yeah you don't
03:08:03
Mistyhave the funds stay single stay at your mama's house or stay in your lane you can date a girl who doesn't care that's fine everyone's and they're getting where you fit in you know what's interesting though when it comes I feel like it's a we're shaming
03:08:15
Brian Atlasmen when it comes to this money thing you know we do the same for women everyone's gonna do we do we though how is it shaming though you just prefer smoking let my friends let me uh bust out a couple musical bits and maybe I
03:08:27
Brian Atlascould you have a very lovely voice maybe you you're familiar with a few of these songs let's go back to the 90s we have TLC no scratch yep they had no chicken heads they had no 400 million views on YouTube
03:08:39
Mistyit was a good song what's the lyrics go it's like I don't want no scrubs guys oh scrubs scrubs no scrubs hang another passenger side of his best friend's ride trying to holler at me but his game is kind of weak and you
03:08:53
Gabbyknow that he cannot approach me hanging on that passenger side of his best friends I try to holla at me I love TLC great yeah I know all the words of that song that was a hit
03:09:06
Marshallum so you have that song you have Destiny's Child Bill's bills can you pay my bills can you pay my telephone bills can you pay my automobiles
03:09:16
MarshallI don't think you could so you you and me are through them she got in the bills they had they
03:09:27
Brian Atlashad male songs too we have cardi B up she says broke boys broke boys don't deserve no I know that's right I don't feel that way with all these anthems well I didn't know if he's broke
03:09:39
Gabbyaway I'm about to come out with a broke boy Anthem catch me on Spotify I'm gonna have a broke boy Anthem come out let me rap on it C broke boy and then but see we got we got uh what what would be the
03:09:51
Brian Atlasequivalent chicken head there literally was an equivalent what would be the equivalent like the male version of chicken head they came out with the exact same song
03:10:01
Mistyhold on just a second I have on Cleveland Brown from Family Guy okay [Music] you're a really good one oh my goodness is that all you guys got can I get an
03:10:15
Brian Atlasinsult but for a little bit more money hey Bender the fender she wants the heat she wants but I want more money than 99 if you're gonna insult me I want like 150. oh she wants a champagne Pop I think pop that bottle baby send me the funds
03:10:26
Brian Atlasum okay wow all right all right there you have it um let's do the calculator for uh let's do it okay yeah go for it
03:10:35
Mistyall right it's okay uh um I would also say 30 to probably 54. okay all right um I don't care about the color however
03:10:47
Mistythey need to be able to understand my what I go through daily I don't want to be arguing with you about things height I'll go um a cool five ten five ten I have been known to do shorter but okay
03:10:58
Misty510 is like if ideal if I could pick yeah yeah exclude obese um yes exclude obese yes um even no I'm
03:11:10
Mistyum plus size and teach their own I'm normally generally attracted to me being the soft one and then being the hard one that's just like sexy to me what it feels like muscular a little bit
03:11:20
Mistyunderneath the yeah so that's like a football player like like linebacker I like the ones that run or our basketball player you prefer basketball player are the ones that run really like the ones
03:11:31
Brian Atlasthe sprinters quarterbacks oh Court oh okay yeah receiversification minimum income um um ideal like if I'm just picking
03:11:42
Mistyyeah I don't know I want like this super nerdy like Google guy like 200 200 okay it's like 200. but yeah we'll say 200. okay all right
03:11:55
Brian Atlasso 0.18 percent that's less than Gabby that's the
03:12:04
Mistyprobability of a guy in that pop of that age especially in California that meets your standards even worse yeah but to be fair I'm not
03:12:14
MistyI'm not asking for anything that I'm not giving like like I'm not I've I've got things to that I that I that comes with me and so I'm not asking for anything then I'm not giving like sometimes I'll do the speed dating thing on Tick Tock and I'll be like they'll be like what's
03:12:28
Mistyyour type and I'm like well I want someone educated I want someone enjoys their career I want someone who's stable in their career I want some like I'm listening to things I want he made this face like oh my God what really but I also am educated I'm also cultured I've
03:12:41
Mistyalso I bring these kinds of things to the table I just want someone to match me or be a little bit better because at the end of the day with the kind of man that I want I'll end up emasculating them they will feel emasculated if I present more than they have so I'd
03:12:53
Brian Atlasprefer them to have more than me that's a fair point but you mentioned like ideal type would be like a NFL player no no no I'm talking about body statues
03:13:03
MistyI mean I I my ideal type is going to be a surgeon is going to be super nerdy an engineer of some type something in cyber security just super nerdy like that's my
03:13:15
Brian Atlasideal type I want someone really intelligent okay all right because if you're intelligent what can stop you you know what I mean sure but don't you think that those kind of men have like a lot
03:13:27
Mistyof optionality that's so funny someone else presented that to me and sauna they were like well this you want this kind of man aren't you going to want a man who's want this here's the thing at the end of the day you're there's still going to be a niche right there's going to be the men who make a lot of money who want a woman who is maybe very
03:13:40
Mistypetite she's not very smart she doesn't talk a lot and she's just kind of pretty right so there's also right but there's also those men who have a lot of money who want a woman who's equally a leader and has all this and that and those kind
03:13:52
Mistyof things so I just feel like yes just the same way that people have these things who ends up wanting me is going to be the person that I want as well and even if it is a 13 listen I've known to
03:14:03
Mistywin smaller lotteries so I'm I'm with the and like I said when you were had gone to the bathroom my life right now I've I've accumulated and done everything from myself I'm living and I'm happy living I've literally found a place where I really genuinely love
03:14:16
Mistymyself and I'm working on myself to be better I don't want anything that's going to take away from that so if you're coming to my life I need you to be adding to that stacking up on that or don't come otherwise you know what I mean because what's the point of even
03:14:28
Mistygoing into it and bringing a life into a family and doing all this stuff with a man who then at the end of the day is not that thing yeah I just I mean I I I'm literally giving up everything I got everything tight everything's good everything's up
03:14:40
Mistynow I give all that away for you I need to make sure that that's worth it and if it's not then I'm gonna keep being tight and doing what I got to do wait what do you mean by tight what are we talking about I'm just I'm talking about just
03:14:50
Mistythe whole body the body I'm chubby I'm chubby right but like I'm I'm I I'm I just know I'm tight I'm tight I'm just I'm sucked in oh I'm I'm of course I'm
03:15:02
Mistychubby but I'm I'm I'm untouched I'm not I don't haven't had any sex I didn't say sex but like has it been a minute has it been a minute celibacy I've reserved the
03:15:12
Mistyright to sustain from that but um yeah I mean like I just I haven't had any sort of babies and I feel like okay sure at the end of the day like and I don't feel like that makes any woman less than a woman but I know that when
03:15:25
Mistyyou're talking about what if a man sometimes that's something they also don't white so I'd be literally giving my all yeah got it sacrifice okay all right uh we're doing we'll do the calculator
03:15:36
Brian Atlasfor you and then a better odd than all of us go ahead I don't know uh okay age range so let's do 25 to 35 okay
03:15:48
Jasmineexclude married I'm assuming absolutely yep and then raise I prefer chocolate black black men yes okay and then so you
03:16:00
Brian Atlasjust you don't have Hispanic up there yeah yeah there's like just white black I guess they gotta they gotta rework it but okay you you your future husband you'd like him to be a black man well um
03:16:11
Jasmineyeah I find them attractive and also people who have like fair skin but dark eyes and dark hair okay yeah those two
03:16:20
Gabbyokay what about white guys you any interest in light men no I work with a lot of them I just know not you working with a lot of them my
03:16:31
Gabbyonly issue is can the white man that I'm dating handle being in a society being married to a black woman because we're gonna a Kenny handle having black children yeah those are in really
03:16:42
Gabbyimportant information and there's not many white guys who can or even have thought of all the societal things you have to deal with yeah
03:16:52
Brian Atlascan a black woman handle having a white child 100 we've been doing it for 300 plus years respectfully and I'm half I'm mixed I was raised by my white side
03:17:03
Brian Atlasbut it is interesting like when if you're mixed right like it's very confusing over here if like you're white but you're also black or you know what I mean yes I know exactly I was afforded a lot of luxuries
03:17:15
Mistygrowing up with my white family moving out I was like oh I'm black
03:17:22
Mistypeople started like parents would I'm wearing sweatpants like it was just a little small or like I can't even go to a mall if I'm going to a restaurant and I order a steak let's say I want it medium rare like with my grandpa if it's overcooked they're taking it out of his
03:17:35
Mistyface immediately he can't even my mistakes are cooked it's gone me they're cute all right no actually it's not okay because it was 60 steak uh let's continue with the uh the thing remember
03:17:46
Jasmineyeah I would say I would a bonus would be if they can speak Spanish but okay after Latina yeah Guatemalan half Mexican beautiful so
03:17:55
Jasmineheight let's do I'm five one so five two two really five okay all right smaller than us uh five five two is fine okay well it's just minimum height yeah just just higher than really just a
03:18:07
Brian Atlaslittle bit be real be real though five five two I am five one right but even you guys are hung sometimes yeah okay I don't really wear heels but yeah I'm
03:18:19
Jasminecoming okay all right all right exclude obese excluded yes [Laughter]
03:18:28
Jasmineokay let's do 95.95 clearly yeah but I didn't think about taxes
03:18:41
Mistyokay oh we're just gonna stay single forever
03:18:49
Jasmineone colored is there anything else oh it's black men oh okay that makes sense oh it's because six of all black men in that age range is scroll up
03:19:09
Brian Atlasthat's plenty of percentage for me to get one I just need one right yeah that's but okay so each of you are less are under one percent in terms of the men that you're looking for so we're
03:19:21
Brian Atlasalso very special people we're not average I'm not running the mill so they say delulu but I don't care you're saying that you're special I am
03:19:32
Brian Atlasspecial what what makes me special well no I mean like I mean this is a pretty average table myself included you might be average I'm
03:19:43
Mistynot average oh I'm not even worried I mean how many how many figure skaters do you know how many people do you know just no just come with me figure skater that's a huge priority yeah it doesn't matter think about that that's I mean
03:19:55
Mistythat's a that's that's original that's a very unique talent how many people have you known that lived in France or studied abroad in France I was born in France okay you might have been but how many people do you know with that kind of do you know how to sing the
03:20:06
MistyMarseilles which one I know um
03:20:21
Brian Atlasyou know what's you know what's dope about the French national anthem the lyrics if you translate them why or if you just speak French is we will oh
03:20:33
Brian AtlasHow does it go we will fertilize the our fields with the Bloods of blood of our enemies I think that's in the the French national romantic hold on let me let me just make sure I'm true they will
03:20:45
Brian Atlasdo is build a wall for you to walk around national anthem that's pretty badass you know what I'm saying Marsha is I can't pronounce it marsai no no that's Versailles I I moved from France when I was five so unfortunately
03:20:58
MistyI lost most of mine but that's unique you know what I mean like that doesn't make someone average a lot of people in America haven't even gone out to the country and I've been to like seven countries same I know how to set a table a lot of women don't know how to settle table
03:21:10
Jasminerespectfully like I think if you want to find something unique right individuals get to know each other yeah that would kind of we'll find something so yeah we're average and I'm not average
03:21:20
Jasminerespectfully uh and like you know if someone was to see it as strangers right but we aren't I don't even look averages when I'm in Seattle no one assumes that
03:21:31
MistyI'm average like I already like hold myself in a way that's not average and you do too thank you yeah there's no averageness going on here I mean unless you accept that right because that's
03:21:41
Brian Atlasyour own perception the doctor's back here I'll read that chat really quick I care about I don't Society normalizing obesity you're so entitled you want the
03:21:54
Brian Atlasworld adjusting to your condition and make seats bigger when you choose to be fat also my don't shoot the messenger here I'm just reading also are you sure you can get pregnant with that wow I know a 500 pound woman who got got
03:22:06
Jasminepregnant and I had a healthy birth to find out and I'm nowhere near five so that might be the exception though here's the thing it goes back to it might be the exception but yeah here's the thing with pregnant you know like
03:22:18
Jasminemen if there are bigger they have less testosterone right and then women when they are bigger and and bigger it tricks it affects our estrogen and it can trick
03:22:30
Jasmineour body into thinking that we are taking birth control with estrogen so it's harder for us to get pregnant and it's the same thing in the other Spectrum when someone is very very underweight they're not producing that
03:22:39
Gabbymuch estrogen so in both both you know extremes yeah but it goes back a few problems to that it goes back to this person who's looking at me through a screen just determining that I'm too fat
03:22:51
Gabbyfor to get pregnant or whatever but it's like you don't know my body you don't you're just looking at me and just assuming because I'm bigger than what you would perceive as a normal size or whatever then you're turning it into oh
03:23:04
Gabbyit's a health issue and you can't do this and that and the other but it's like it's really perspective uh when when you're talking about that because to some people I'm not that big to some people I'm really big so it's really
03:23:15
Gabbyjust you justifying your prejudice against me as a person and you don't know my health medical history nothing about me you're just looking at me so that's really just oh what you look like
03:23:27
Mistybecause you don't know me I once heard a story there was a woman who didn't even know she was pregnant yeah yeah because she was chubby because she was I've heard that too but you know skinny girls can do that too
03:23:40
Brian Atlasthey can do that too they can be pregnant not know I mean body's amazing but I'm saying like they not just early on I'm saying full terms
03:23:50
Brian Atlasand the baby came out and she's like I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant it's very common for them to be preemies yeah but it also happens with it that's not a size thing that happens also good times
03:24:00
Brian Atlasyeah we have some more videos from our lovely guests Gabby here oh yay uh Nick if you're able to pull up the
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Brian Atlassubsequence Gabby video oh do we have we can play this wait uh play really quick but I don't know if yeah we'll just play it
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Unknownhi Jessica I don't know if that's your name but you seem like a Jessica uh nobody cares who you're dating I know that's a really hard pill to swallow but genuinely nobody cares who you're dating thank you except maybe somebody else who
03:24:37
Unknownwants to date you thank you so when fat people are talking about societal fat phobia and the way in which it informs beauty standards and then informs desirability and partners we are simply saying that those preferences Are Not Innocent none of them are so continue
03:24:51
Unknownabout your day and love your boyfriend girlfriend who the ever in all their skinny Glory but when your preferences are negative they are very clearly not preferences when your preferences reject entire classes of people they are not preferences but most
03:25:05
Unknownimportantly the question I have for you at the end of the day is why do you hate fat people so much that you needed to come on an app and scream so loudly I hate and would never date a fat person when literally no one cares no
03:25:16
Brian Atlasone gives a who you're dating never have oh yeah so I mean I feel like we've already kind of covered that with the previous video but um
03:25:28
Gabbyshe said what did she say she was saying that uh it's it kind of reminds me of of what if you flip the script when uh there's a group of uh black men who only date what they
03:25:40
Gabbycall snow bunnies which is white women um and when and I when they say like when you ask them okay why are you with your girlfriend instead of saying oh she's pretty she's intelligent she's
03:25:52
Gabbysuccessful they'll say because black women are too aggressive black women are to this that and the other so they're dating these snow bunnies I'm using their term because they hate black women it has nothing to do with the white
03:26:05
Gabbywoman that they're just dating and at the end of the day I don't care who you date but why do you get to put me down just to make yourself feel better in your relationship I don't understand that yeah I mean yeah that to that that's what
03:26:16
Mistythat I think that's what she's saying you're like you when that's what they're saying when they're saying a preference is I don't prefer fat people but you're assuming that all fat people are just the women same thing where we're all different sizes but we're all considered to be fat and so you're basically just
03:26:29
Mistysaying all fat people know when in reality push came to shove if Chief met the right guy and he became or was overweight chances are she wouldn't say no it's when you're just blindly saying no to everybody and not thinking about
03:26:41
Brian Atlasany personality or anything I mean I get what they're saying when they say that well I think it just ultimately comes down back again to preferences I mean uh but you can't prefer I feel like you could have a preference but don't put
03:26:53
Mistyother people down for your preference go ahead what's your point you can't just prefer like a physique like that just like when she says like for instance if I'm like oh I don't date white guys it's like you're
03:27:05
Mistythen not even giving you're just grouping everyone in one thing when in actuality it's like there might be you know exceptions to the rule and when you say when you group at all you're not
03:27:16
Mistyallowing for any exception and maybe it's maybe it's you know I don't know because you're not giving you're not leaving any room for exception I gotta say I don't know if this is gonna be offensive but
03:27:30
Brian AtlasI think just for me blanket I wouldn't date an obese woman but you just said you like chubby Asian there's a difference between obese
03:27:39
Mistywhen I'm talking chubby I mean like you know there's a little little a little belly do you have the picture that's that's because I don't know if we can need to be chubby but then some people will consider me to be fat and
03:27:53
Brian Atlassome people consider me not even to be big at all but that's because hold on let me just respond to her that is because chubby has been appropriated I'm chubby
03:28:04
Brian Atlasand I like it I'm just saying chubby I feel like there's degrees you know yeah but that's all perception when I think chubby I think like a
03:28:15
Brian Atlaslittle bit overweight you know what's a little bit like a little belly like a little bit of a belly like chubby a little chubby like a little she's 411 with a belly she's looking like an Oompa Loompa looking just a little chubby let me get a little chubby tummy I'm gonna
03:28:27
Brian Atlasgoogle chubby right now chubby but to be fair your algorithm is going to be well what you usually look like it could be you know if we're going according to the dictionary definition of the dictionary
03:28:39
Brian Atlasthat's consistently changing we have again this is a bit vague so I could be wrong here plump and rounded that's me so maybe chubby isn't the right word
03:28:51
MadisonI don't know what the right word is depends on like your age what's the difference between chubby and thick well I feel like thick is its own thing and soft it's all very it's all very confusing but then that's the same thing
03:29:03
Mistypeople call me red bone or yellow bone like at the same time like I thought it was dark level of light skin so like it's usually they're undertone so like some people call me Yellow Bones some people call me red bone at the end of the day it
03:29:15
Mistydoesn't really matter same thing with this conversation like it doesn't really matter at the end of the day like if you're chubby you're not chubby it's really your perception so it's like are you okay with it or not okay
03:29:26
MistyI would like to add my preferences when you're done are you what what kind of bone am I what kind of bone you're white am I a bone no green what does it mean a bone so you have to be some sort of like
03:29:37
Brian Atlaslike mixed color complexion can I be like you're pink can I be White Bones
03:29:47
MistyI consider myself golden what's Madison I'm yellow she's Asian so she is like your undertone right well yes but you don't even consider to be yellow bone they would just call you yellow if
03:30:00
Mistywe're doing that can I be ghost bone yeah we're gonna call you Casper from here I'm super pale yeah we'll call you Casper I was gonna say I can see right through Irish bone
03:30:11
Brian AtlasI'm translucent yeah I was like I can see right through your head I know it's crazy just mouth and teeth but at least they look nice it's weird um cool uh okay where oh the video okay
03:30:22
Jasminewe reacted to the video I think um I think not on preferences sure quickly yeah so uh it's exactly what she's saying like a preference is something that I will like if everything was my way but
03:30:35
Jasminewe can always compromise it right and for me for example me as someone who's a virgin I would love to marry someone else who is a virgin kind of like the way the standards you have with someone
03:30:45
Jasmineelse however however me as someone who's a Christian I am willing to I wanted it whoever God has for me so if God wants me to date someone who's not original if God wants me to be someone who maybe
03:30:56
Jasmineeven has kids even though me and my flesh I don't want it I'm willing to surrender that and trust the Lord on what he wants for me so that's where I make some room for my preferences to be
03:31:08
Jasminelike mess around with it's only if I know it's from from the Lord for me to date this person even if they come with kids whatever it is what I really want that no but if it's his purpose I'm gonna do it how do you know it's God's
03:31:21
Gabbypurpose when you have a relationship with him it's you know you you know because I I mean I'm a Christian too I go to church as well and I feel like um for a long time I used to have that
03:31:33
Gabbymindset because that's what I was taught in my church but what I feel like the the disconnect is when you're in an environment of church where they don't really um like give you a an atmosphere of you
03:31:46
Gabbyknow dating and mating and getting to know people on a romantic level it feels like you have to look at everybody as like a brother and sister in Christ and things like that which I understand but like how do you move from that kind of sibling relationship because you want to
03:31:58
Gabbykeep it pure to a romantic one and and I don't feel like uh in general churches really support those kinds of relationships so then you're kind of stuck in this kind of thing where you want to please God you want to have that
03:32:10
Gabbyrelationship with God but you're kind of stuck in this idea ideology that we all get from churches that it's just like well I don't really know how to go about you know getting to that person I guess so that's why because like you have your
03:32:22
Gabbyvalues and your standards but you said that if God told you that this person was right for you even though that person had was not like your list of what you had you would say yes to him but that's why I want to know because like I feel like you know God meets the
03:32:34
Gabbydesires of your heart and you and you have this desire to be with a man that is in this preference or whatever so to go completely left left out of that preference I wonder if like if you like
03:32:45
Gabbyhow would you feel comfortable going with someone so outside of that zone if you know if you if that wasn't on your part sorry
03:32:56
Brian Atlasyeah hold on let's let's try to keep things moving a little bit I will let you do you want to respond or try to keep it quick um yeah quickly okay so
03:33:07
Jasmineum yes it's all about surrendering so I have my preferences and obviously I would like forgot to check all of them do it on my way but the end of the day he has the last thing I Surrender everything to him including my love life
03:33:18
Jasmineand I believe you know someone who might not be a virgin or has kids they have a past they have a testimony I'm willing to send Grace to them just a reflection of like the church and like to us and marriage I'm willing to extend Grace to them and look at them as a human being
03:33:31
Jasminein their testimony and start something new because they're a new person and not condemn them because they had a kid because of this and that I'm willing to be a reflection of God's love towards that person and yeah having a relationship with God um hopefully I'll be able to get
03:33:43
Brian Atlasconfirmation that this is a guy yeah okay just to bring it back Nick do you still have the calculator pulled up or did you did you close down or so in addition to all the things you
03:33:56
Brian Atlaswant you also want the guy who's a virgin correct so not married black at least five foot the height thing that's perfectly reasonable not obese earning at least 95 000 a year and has to be a virgin
03:34:08
Mistywhat are your thoughts about that it's zero no I know guys that are birds I know a lot of guys I just need one hook you up girls not obese also over than that also black also they think I mean maybe in other states well yeah so when
03:34:21
Brian Atlasit comes when it comes to the calculator right and when it comes to what we all want this is for both men and women so you know what you want right but then you also have to think about well what
03:34:32
Mistydoes the guy that I want want what is he looking for is he looking for you for me I had to do a reset actually that's a good question yeah because the
03:34:43
Mistykind of man that I wanted um wasn't attracted to Old Misty I was a little bit more promiscuous I dressed it addressed a little bit more um provocative because I was in this era of
03:34:55
Mistyhating my body for so long that when I learned to love it I was ready to flaunt it and so I went through that phase but now I realize that the kind of man that I want to attract is more attracted to a woman who's going to be a little bit more
03:35:08
Mistyum definitely submissive but she's gonna probably be a little more modest a little more modest excuse me um and so I actually had to do a revamp about a year and a half ago where I literally changed myself and things I was doing and saying and posting Etc
03:35:20
Mistyplaces I would go and be to attract the type of man that I want so that being said for sure like that that's something to take into account but that's that's something that you decide to do like word it wasn't hard to do we have a
03:35:32
Brian Atlascouple chats here we have fdg she says obesity is not an opinion not an opinion excuse me please calculate your BMI can you calculate it on screen please who does that help though that's the Western
03:35:43
MistyStandard of what I thought you should be that's ridiculous I'm half black half white in the tribe the black side of my tribe we were a little thick bottom like that's just what it is like the BMI who does that who does that send me can I explain what
03:35:57
Jasminethe closest body mass index is a Formula it was invented by a mathematician right but um and yeah and it's it's basically weighing kilometers over height in
03:36:09
Jasminemeters square so it only measures your weight and and it doesn't separate your weight from how much of it is muscle how much of it is fat um but people still use it but again there's missing specific factors so
03:36:21
Jasmineusually what's best recommended to do is I think it's called the dexa scan and that is like measures everything so that would be the best thing to get if you really want to personalize see how
03:36:33
Jasminehealthy you are but BMI that was basically made from a mathematician and a researcher who studied obesity he used that formula in the research and that
03:36:43
Brian Atlascaught on within the health and like who was he also well I I fdg will be pleased to know that we actually have a dexa scanner in studio right now so we're gonna actually get up and okay just
03:36:55
Brian Atlaskidding okay let's go all right Bend to the offender I don't see I don't see how the term fat phobia came to be I highly doubt anyone is fleeing in Terror from a walking
03:37:06
Mistyblob of lover yes you are you're in my DMs you're in my comments like you are obsessed with me it became like when you watch TV like if you watch old reruns of Television any the one of the biggest
03:37:18
Mistyinsults you could ever have was to be fast like I rewatched girlfriends I re-watched um Golden Girls I rewatched a bunch of old shows and the way and remember we were just talking about how we don't have a name for fat but we don't have a name the n-word and we've
03:37:31
Mistygot a name for like but we don't have a name for that the worst thing you could be in any one of those shows was bad oh my God you're getting fat oh you're looking fat your boyfriend dumped you because you're a fat and like so as a child that's all I'm being reiterated the worst thing I could be was fat yeah
03:37:43
Gabbymeanwhile I'm literally living and surviving the doctor is like well I can't really tell anything wrong with you but you are overweight exactly catching Strays left and right just because you don't like my body type that's what it is
03:37:55
Brian Atlaswe have some more videos we need to react to let's do it Nick if you were able to pull up the next video from Gabby here I think finally we got a lot we're gonna just go through all of them we got we got a lot to go
03:38:07
Brian Atlasthrough you have time to go through my videos oh my gosh this is like a commitment I love it oh look at your hair yeah that's when I was blind just to be confirmed Nick this is the
03:38:18
Brian Atlasthird one from Gabby just confirm make sure you're true that you're on what because okay we did the first one then we did the what you bring to the table and then so this should be the third one I just
03:38:32
Gabbywant to make sure we're not missing I was blonde guys we're good okay we're just gonna watch a whole bunch uh let's see uh-oh I just went on the world's cheapest date when I tell you I'm so
03:38:45
Gabbysick of the brokies that are coming through my DMs but I just gotta get into the story time so this guy asked me out for a date today and you know I pick a spot near me because what do I look like
03:38:56
Gabbytraveling on public transportation for the state right so he come the place happens to be closed so we're walking trying to find another restaurant which is like my pet peeve he rolls up in a
03:39:07
Gabbybicycle not a car a bicycle so I'm looking at him like I'm in a skirt I'm dressed up he's in sneaker shorts and a bicycle but trying to work out so of course I try to find the other restaurants every restaurant we go to on the street he looks at the menu if it
03:39:21
Gabbylooks a little bit too expensive or too bougie he's making excuses like oh you know I'm not really feeling Pizza you know right now maybe a food truck let's try a food truck where are we gonna sit in a food truck sir where are we gonna
03:39:32
Gabbysit like a part two because I I have a lot to say about this this today so that he pulled up on a bike he pulled up on a bike with like bike shorts and dirty sneakers and I was in
03:39:44
Gabbyheels and like a long skirt and makeup and hair and everything I was like are we going on a date where are we going I was so confused was it like one of those bikes with the little pegs on the back where you could kind of hop on or like a
03:39:56
Gabbycool bike like a regular bike so cool features so did that date end there no it should have I should have but I I don't know I was like let's see where this goes so I'm walking all around the
03:40:07
Gabbycity in heels so you're walking and he's biking next to you he's like walking his bike oh my god oh he's walking the bike he's walking his bike next to me and every place he went to he was just like making excuses which I know obviously he didn't come prepared to pay for date
03:40:20
Gabbyclearly or even to pay for himself because we went to like reasonable we just like walked around the neighborhood wants a reasonable spot we even sat down the waiter like gave us our um our menus and walked away like I'll be back with
03:40:31
Gabbyyour drinks and he's like twenty percent gratuity added let's get out of here I'm not paying 20 gratuity added I was like okay so then we walk around the corner he's like oh there's like a milkshake shop let's go in there
03:40:42
Gabbyget a milkshake so we're in line for the milkshake and he's like oh stay in line I have to go to the bathroom and I was like okay as soon as he went to the bathroom I ran I ran like a half a mile away from there
03:40:54
Gabbybecause I was like terrified of like trying to tell him I'm not feeling this like I can't do I had so much like anxiety that moment I just ran that's all I can imagine I ran away I physically
03:41:12
Gabbyand then he and then I was like sorry I had an emergency I had to go and then he was like oh it's all good and then like I don't know 20 minutes later he sends me um like a video of him at a fancy
03:41:24
Gabbyrestaurant like as if oh he just skipped the milkshakes and went to a fancy restaurant by himself but quick tips ladies and gents if you save the video that someone sends you it'll tell you the date that it was taken it was taken
03:41:37
Gabbylike three months prior so he tried to be slick saying oh yeah I paid this money today no that was three months ago you probably didn't pay it but anyways yeah that was a really awful date how do
03:41:45
Gabbyyou wow get into these situations hinge yeah yeah I just I don't know like you that's what I mean like that's why I'm so particular about dates and my
03:41:57
Gabbydating standards because I'm running into foolish and men and I just I don't cookies I think was the term broker boys sometimes brokies are like the sweetest
03:42:08
Madisonthe sweetest that's what they got if I wanted to just like they would do anything to just except for take you on a date I mean that but like for friends they can't pick you up
03:42:20
Brian Atlasquestion for you so I mean you're 27 obviously look you're looking for something serious you're looking for something long-term I don't think it's abnormal to want to find a guy who's I mean that was the traditional order of things the guys the provider get it right
03:42:34
Brian Atlasum when you were in college though for example did you go to college I did um were you a bit more flexible when because obviously guys in college if I were to find someone if I found my
03:42:46
Gabbyhusband in college for example I would be uh more than happy to deal with to yes yeah because we're both in college we're both starting our lives at the same level so he might be going to
03:42:57
Gabbycollege to be a lawyer Doctrine engineer and I have an education too and so it's very different when you're talking about and you're in college because you're both starting at the same level and you're both on the path to success because you both are you know getting
03:43:10
Gabbyyour education to further your goals in your life and your career but I didn't find anyone in college and so my dating preferences had to change with the times because now I'm an adult and I pay my own bills and things are a lot different
03:43:22
Brian Atlasso I'm expecting a little bit more than I would if I was a college student so for sure if you're in college I I would have different standards for that although I'm sure there's probably even women in college that even then they don't want to deal with for sure they'll
03:43:35
Brian Atlasdate an older guy oh yeah of course I mean that preference yeah sure if we were smart that would have been what I would have done earlier in the show you you said your uh I don't know if you said super traditional but you said so
03:43:47
Brian Atlastraditional you're very traditional yeah gotcha I guess here from the guy's perspective right so when it comes and I said and we didn't really get too much into it but like for example and I think she mentioned it before I
03:44:01
Brian Atlasdon't really I don't like to pay on the first date obviously look I'll split the bill I know a lot of women don't like that that's fine although I'm starting to kind of slightly shift my view on it and I look I don't recommend men do it because a
03:44:14
Brian Atlaslot of women you're going to lose a lot of women yeah and for me it's not even the money thing for me it comes to more a principal thing and this is why I brought up the traditional thing so you know you earlier in the show and look I get it you live in LA this is the
03:44:26
Brian Atlasway a lot of people move nowadays you said you have five guys on your roster so me if I went on a date with a girl and I knew that she was entertaining like four or five other men I would not feel particularly inclined
03:44:38
Brian Atlasto fall into my traditional gender roles like I don't I would be like okay you're talking to five other guys like I don't I don't feel like being a gentleman in those circumstances he
03:44:51
Mistydoesn't know that your testosterone he doesn't know that I have five of them yeah because that what do you mean like a competitive thing yeah well biologically like I mean obviously there's gonna be it's gonna be a spectrum but biologically like that's
03:45:03
Mistywhat you guys are do you guys go you compete you just you you scavenge you find you solve like by Nature that's what you do you may not do that that's very much you but I think you're
03:45:14
Brian Atlasmisunderstanding a little bit but okay but it's to me it's not like if I find out or I learn that a girl is uh dating a bunch of other men or she's I don't know what your situation is but if
03:45:27
Brian Atlascertainly if a woman is sleeping with other men oh no no no well but you so you're dating Five Guys I mean I don't know if you're open to sharing this but there you said there's a one month guy there's a three-month
03:45:39
Brian Atlasguy are you hooking up with nope no three months
03:45:50
Gabbyunderneath the bleachers no I I I feel like um even though it's been three months I've only seen them a handful of times so it's not like I'm seeing them every day like I'm on date three with one guy and I've been single
03:46:03
Gabbythe three months three months the three-month guy maybe five six times like it's still no uh bedroom fun no nothing no you don't want it he doesn't want it I mean I feel like I at this
03:46:15
Gabbypoint I'm really is that too soon I think it's for me I like I'm not saying that obviously do what you want I'm not really into being frivolous with my body when it comes to sex so I feel like I really do need to be in like a serious
03:46:26
Gabbycommitment like committed relationship for before I would even like go into that direction I guess um so I feel like for me it just yeah I want to be in like a solid relationship
03:46:36
Brian Atlasbefore I like do all that kind of stuff let me ask you a question if uh the three-month guy you said what you're on date five or six or something yeah
03:46:46
Brian Atlasif he came to you he was like Gabby I really like you you're awesome I love spending time with you I feel like we have a good connection here this is day three right and he's like listen I I
03:46:59
Gabbywant to be exclusive I want to be boyfriend girlfriend would you would you go for that or is that you you're still feel or are you still I guess I guess it depends on like how how true that statement is how honest this guy is like
03:47:12
Gabbylike I said because I've been through I've like dated so many different types of men I know that like I don't always believe what they say like what kind of watch their actions so like if I really believed him and he's shown and proven
03:47:25
Gabbyhimself to me that he is like consistent and he's serious about being exclusive with me I don't need to date any other guys it's really up to the guy and like if I haven't seen you more than five times in three months that's not really on me I'm available when you're
03:47:37
Gabbyavailable but that's like you know we're we're working we're you know we're doing things I get it like people are busy so I feel like it's just really up to him when we get to that point the the
03:47:46
Brian Atlasthree-month guy though has he asked you on dates and you haven't been available um yes and is that because you're dating five other men because I mean earlier on
03:47:58
Brian Atlasin the conversation though you did say that you like you'll schedule out dates you know so I'm wondering like could the fact that you're dating
03:48:09
Brian Atlasmultiple people impact the ability for anyone because if a girl's busy and you don't have as much free time to like have a more consistent Meetup and you
03:48:21
Brian Atlasare dating multiple people I feel it it can while you are keeping your options open and potentially trying to get the best guy that you can get I feel like when you are dating multiple people it
03:48:31
Brian Atlascan make it difficult for any one situation to move forward because you're not able you're not like giving as much time to that one guy because you're going on
03:48:42
Gabbyother dates you're busy yes I agree and that is um that is a con or a dilemma to a roster when you do get too busy for a
03:48:52
Gabbyguy that may be serious about you but I don't feel like I've really um I don't feel like a guy's been that serious about me to where um I feel like I need to give all him all my time and energy a couple of times
03:49:04
GabbyI feel like a guy has you know swindled me into like not talking to the other guys as much because he's talking to me every day FaceTiming every day making me feel like you know he's putting in all
03:49:15
Gabbyof his eggs in in my basket and in that case I do kind of like neglect the other guys on my roster because this guy's giving me some attention so much attention but so much attention only goes so far because if you're not taking me out on dates and you're not trying to
03:49:28
Gabbysee me in person spend time with me in person then I'm back to the roster life because this isn't going anywhere it's just all talk like when are we actually gonna do some action so I think that's why I kind of just okay well I'm going
03:49:39
Gabbysomebody else because like this isn't consistent I'm I'm available for you and I'll make time for you and back to your question when you're like oh well what if you know you're too busy to see this guy who's really interested
03:49:51
Gabbyum I tend I I'm a very like organized person because you know I run my own business I have my own brand I'm doing a lot of things so I don't really like same day days like of course I'll make
03:50:01
Gabbyexceptions if I can so typically I like to have at least 24 to 48 hours notice that you want to spend time with me so that I can give you my undivided attention you know yeah I mean I agree
03:50:12
Brian Atlaswith you there I definitely think some people are very spontaneous which in some times that's fine if you're available but I do think it's best to try to at least have a bit of a plan you
03:50:24
Brian Atlasknow because if you have a busy life which it sounds like you do then it's helpful to hey are you on the Monday are you free this weekend are you free Friday type of thing so and I'll make
03:50:36
Brian Atlastime for sure but as far just to go back to like our little back and forth kind of why one of my hesitations with paying for the first date is I I don't want to
03:50:46
Brian Atlasfall into my traditional gender roles if a girl is like entertaining a whole bunch of options I I think it's it's not that hard to date one person at a time
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Brian Atlasand I think while there may be some negatives to that I certainly think the positives outweigh it I think it's more likely to actually lead to a
03:51:06
Brian Atlasrelationship if you are you might you might feel a bit more upset when it when if you're just dating one guy and it doesn't work out whereas if you've got three or four or five other guys
03:51:18
Brian Atlasor girls if the same with men oh okay it didn't work out with her cool I'm already talking Three Chicks I see what you mean I think but I do think it does restrict things from proceeding to more
03:51:29
Brian Atlasserious places um I almost feel like you can uh this isn't exact but you can almost you can you can't smell it you can't smell it
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Mistybut like if somebody's attention is divided it just you you feel that and it like I don't know there's like a I think there's something to be said about trial and error though so you've you've
03:51:52
Mistyreached something that works for you works for you to date just one person um I don't know how these ladies feel but normally women because the way that we are biologically made we will date one person at a time and dating coaches now are telling us as women that we
03:52:05
Mistyshouldn't be dating just one at the one time we're putting all our baskets because the way our time clocks biologically are different than yours so us giving you just like she had said earlier in the episode giving three to six months to this guy three to six months this guy three to six months of
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Mistythe guy that's now a year two years three years that our uterus is just getting older we have to protect ourselves and if you want babies and you want a family the old uterus problem yeah I mean that I mean but that's something we have to take into account you know what I'm saying and so I just
03:52:31
Mistythat was the way I used to date was wonderful time but then what happens is I then I'm head over heels for this guy I'm giving him my attention that's not how men normally date men don't normally date one person they normally date many so now I'm head over heels for you I like you a lot you're dating a lot of
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Mistygirls and now I'm giving you too much attention so now you back off because you already know you got me you're not really interested in me anymore and now I'm stuck really liking you and I have to pull myself back to you then when other people I'm not I'm not even thinking about them because I'm focused sorry I'm focusing I'm trying to make
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Mistysomething work it's like if I pull myself out of it a little bit and really allow people who are interested in me to step up and show me that they're interested then no matter what I'm I the way I am I'm very monogamous I'm going to be drawn to one
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Mistyno matter what that's why I said that I'm slightly different to having a roster I'll let someone I'll entertain someone for in a certain amount of time but once they reach a point like there's a guy that I actually was really interested in um and he just stays in my DMs and he never wants to ask me out and the one
03:53:23
Mistytime he ever asked me out he asked me out to a general place it was a bar with a lot of people I come and actually was bringing Gabby he is on me like white on rice white on rice he's like now I'm his girlfriend no one else can talk to me no one else can holler at me he's basically
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Mistyand I even told him I was like why are you doing this like this is literally our first time hanging out did you not get numbers before you rise here he's like yeah I got some Instagram okay so why are you doing this and I literally told him I was like you do all this talking talking talking in my Instagram you never asked me out on a single date
03:53:49
Mistybut the minute you get me out in public for people that I know okay and La is very small I know people I know that from left and right you're hanging on me like a freaking what what Rag and now would look like I had a boyfriend from someone who literally can't even take me
03:54:01
Mistyon a date and I had to restrict him you can keep talking to yourself and my DMs because you ain't about respectfully you want to waste my time good mornings love this ice skating video looking sexy here you know I really like you I just saw him when he
03:54:12
Mistywas walking he was going into the gym an hour away from anyways he's going to the gym I'm leaving oh misty I can't believe it's you you blocked me didn't you I have you unrestricted why'd you do that because you don't talk about I told him that to his face I told you you don't talk about you're literally
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Mistymy DM saying hey how are you doing uh Jazz night uh love that video that's not getting you one I even told him ask me on a date let's get to know each other let's get to know each other I'm actually attracted to you too you're not about I got it I gotta let it go
03:54:38
Jasmineyou're wasting my time that's not a roster that's an annoyance Brian I think I think you need to be willing to take that risk and also it can easily be fixed not easily but it can you can work all of that out if you communicate with them we're like hey these are kind of