Obese Girl Would NOT Date Obese Man?! PLUS SIZE BBW PANEL! | Dating Talk #103
Date: 2023-09-25
Duration: 5h 25m
Brian AtlasIdentified Speakers
SPEAKER_01Brian Atlas(host)
SPEAKER_02TTS Reader(audience)
SPEAKER_03Music/SFX(audience)
SPEAKER_04Madison(guest)
SPEAKER_06Jasmine(guest)
SPEAKER_07Misty(guest)
SPEAKER_08Marshall(audience)
SPEAKER_09Gabby(guest)
Key Moments
00:29:09
QuoteGabby declares 'I am the table' — refuses to explain what she brings to a relationship beyond her presence.
“I am the table. I show up. I be me. That's what I offer. I'm there.”
01:24:24
QuoteGabby says the only guys who ask 'what do you bring to the table' are broke men who can't afford her.
“The only guys who have ever asked me what I bring to the table are guys who cannot afford me.”
02:05:00
QuoteBrian addresses accusation that he charges $9,500 for male panel spots; explains sponsorship tiers are for brands not individuals.
“We haven't had any guy on the panel paid to be on the panel so far. Every guy that's been on the panel it's either just somebody I know.”
04:12:06
OtherGabby texts all 5 men on her roster asking to be exclusive during the live show.
“I texted four, I'm on the fifth one... I said: do you want to be exclusive with me, boyfriend and girlfriend.”
04:39:00
OtherBrian runs 'delusion calculator' on all guests; all results show <1% of men meet their combined criteria.
“Each of you are under one percent in terms of the men that you're looking for.”
04:39:39
QuoteMisty rates herself 10/10, loudly and confidently.
“I'm a 10. Say louder for the people. I'm a 10.”
04:40:26
QuoteJasmine rates herself 3/10 by European beauty standards — unusually low self-rating.
“If you're judging by beauty standards I am definitely a three.”
05:24:51
OtherBrian asks for body counts at the very end; Gabby says 'zero' then walks it back saying she's not going to say it.
“Body count zero zero... I mean I just mean that I'm not gonna say it.”
Topics Discussed
00:02:48
Guest introductions — plus-size panel
Gabby, Misty, Jasmine, and Madison introduce themselves. Relationship statuses, dating histories discussed.
00:20:00
Dating rosters and modern dating behavior
Gabby's 5-man roster. Frequency of dates per week (~5-10). Jasmine's philosophy on exclusive dating. Gabby texts all 5 roster men asking to be exclusive during the live show.
00:37:00
Obese women dating preferences — would plus-size women date plus-size men?
Discussion of whisper.com article: plus-size women who won't date plus-size men. Jasmine says she wants a fit partner she can admire. Gabby says she's attracted to what she likes. Discussion of feederism phenomenon.
01:24:00
Income and financial requirements in a partner
Brian runs 'delusion calculator' for all guests. Gabby: $300K preferred, $100K minimum. Misty: $200K+ in LA. Jasmine: ~$80K. Discussion of stay-at-home motherhood and financial dependency.
01:32:40
Patriarchy and gender equality debate
Women discuss patriarchy, wage gap, male leadership, power dynamics. Disagreements on whether patriarchy constitutes oppression. Intersectionality: race + gender + size discussed by Gabby and Misty.
02:05:50
Sponsorship allegation and podcast operations
Brian reads DMs from person who accused him of charging $9,500 for male panel spots. Brian explains format (primarily female guests), rejection process, and sponsorship tiers. Stresses importance of not insulting the host when requesting to appear.
02:08:00
Body positivity and fat acceptance movement
Reaction to viewer chat criticizing obesity. Debate on fat phobia vs. genuine health concerns. Jasmine discusses both obesity and anorexia health risks. Adele weight loss discussed. Fat liberation vs. body positivity distinction.
02:50:00
Gabby TikTok video reactions
Multiple Gabby TikTok videos reacted to: 'broke boy anthem' (I am the table), 'train the man from the beginning' (don't split bills), dating men in LA, dating app behaviors. Brian and guests debate each video's premises.
04:39:00
Attractiveness ratings and aging
All guests rate their own attractiveness (1-10 scale). Brian rates himself 6. Gabby: 10. Misty: 10. Jasmine: 3. Brian argues men find women more attractive at 21 vs 31. Discussion of Kristin Kreuk as Brian's celebrity 9/10.
05:18:00
Dating app profiles reviewed
Brian and Misty's Bumble profiles shown and reacted to on-stream. Misty's profile notes she has video of her body for transparency. Brian's profile shows age as 28 (set to match Misty's claimed age).
Transcript
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01:57:03
Gabbybreastfeed your child like wherever you are and people have an issue with that I've seen videos online where people are being like yelling and being aggressive while a woman's breastfeeding their child their baby and what can she do she can't fight you she's literally a woman
01:57:15
Gabbywith a child breastfeeding and you're don't you don't know how to mind your business you don't know how to walk away like you're in her face like you're so aggressively because you're so upset that she pulled out her titty to feed her child it's because you're over
01:57:26
Gabbysexualizing everything that a woman does just like how they say like oh you know if you're bigger if you're a fat woman you shouldn't wear tight clothes you know because it's too sexual instantly okay on Tick Tock I you know you go it goes I don't know if you know this
01:57:40
Gabbybut like like when you're on Tick Tock live they'll like ban you for a week if you did something that they didn't like for example I'm like showing people like my outfits or whatever in my closet I drop something on the floor I just bent over to pick it up and I got banned for
01:57:52
Gabbya week but I see skinny girls shaking their butts in bikinis and they never get banned and I just picked something off the floor like why too much ass for you like what are you trying to say your bodies are sexual you know like that's the reason people hate so much they hate
01:58:05
Mistypeople hate sex like thicker women because our bodies are sexualized instantly if I wear a tank top and if she wears a tank top she's okay I'm busty Madison do you have a response to what's
01:58:17
MadisonI think she says you're flat that's what she said oh no but I I do get that no one was definitely saying that but I was saying like if I were to wear this shirt and if I had like a way I would be like
01:58:29
Mistyholy yeah you know yeah it's like super cute and on me it's like she must be wanting to get paid I can't wear certain things that's all I was saying he's over here yeah so do you guys think
01:58:40
Gabbythat bigger women should be dressed differently I'm going to continue my little crop tops and my little booty shorts and my little mini skirts you're just gonna have the deal okay conservative now yeah
01:58:52
Jasmineyou should be able to wear what you want are you gonna get judged more probably so you have to be okay with that probably but what about what about the woman who don't like to get cut was it cat called listening you have control of what you do if you wear that outside and
01:59:05
Jasmineyou get cats I get cat called and sweaters I can't be mad at someone else yeah you have to be you have to expect a person to happen I agree like if you're gonna be you know flaunted what you have guys I'm gonna Wonder admire it and if
01:59:18
Mistythey can I call you who's that though we shouldn't really be that upset we go as we're walking down the street getting cat called we're going into Starbucks and getting that free cookie yeah that's true I get free stuff all the time yeah all the time all the time so I guess it's a matriarchical society
01:59:31
Mistysince we get free today girls getting free everywhere men have to pay attention keep the money yeah anxiety works for us keep that up it does can you send us some more money
01:59:45
Mistyeven though we don't get it I really liked when you guys wrote us little talk things I was enjoying that oh yeah when they were like my best friends are open don't make fun of the fat girls something something like me a treat
01:59:56
Madisonto go back to what we were saying earlier though I feel like a lot of like skinnier men do like bigger isn't that so funny because I feel like I've seen like it's like a pair right yeah
02:00:08
Mistyexactly it's so funny and like yeah I do I do attract a lot of thinner guys also cut guys what she said but it's so funny and they know it they'll be like well you know it's a skinny guy who's got to be with the thick girl they just have this thing yeah
02:00:20
Gabbyyou guys can like sometimes wow what do you think bigger guys attract more I see them with Pete women my thinner friends like bigger guys yeah because they think safe and secure teddy bear
02:00:32
Gabbylike oh okay a big teddy bear and like you've heard that big boy season is coming you know sza with the big boy like big boy season's coming so like everybody's looking for a big boy to cuddle up with for the months of October
02:00:42
GabbyNovember December yeah so big boys um slide in my DMs
02:00:52
GabbyI'm not because I can read a Vibe so quick so I'm just like yeah I'm not feeling you ooh I'm feeling you and it has nothing to do with looks like it's your energy is there anyone on your roster that you're like this this could
02:01:03
Madisonpotentially be the one oh good question oh two of them yeah two really what do they have to do to be like good enough or like what do they have to do what difference is the time and consistency
02:01:12
Gabbyhuh what differentiates them like a one is here and one is out of state so um I feel like for me it's all about like just the time that I spend with you the consistency into getting to know you
02:01:25
Gabbybecause it can be great in the beginning but like I need to know that your uh effort and you're consistent in like pursuing me over a span of time so that I understand that this isn't just you're just pushing for the cookie you know
02:01:37
Madisonlike I need I need time to get to know you to see what kind of person you are so that's all I mean they're not doing anything wrong with it it's just taking some time especially if there's distance I feel like the guy that is farther away from you has to put more effort you know
02:01:49
Mistythan the guy that is in your area for sure do they know what to do like are they sending you bouquets of flowers and like I don't like that you don't like that I like flowers if like you say you're
02:02:03
Gabbypicking me up for a date and you give me flowers that's nice but to just show up with random flowers at my doorstep I haven't sent to you let's talk about oh it's so romantic what is her love maybe like chocolate yeah we can get we can
02:02:15
Brian Atlasget to that later okay chocolate yeah you can say chocolate I like chocolate wait so you said that two of the guys who are currently uh in your five-man
02:02:26
Gabbyroster there's some potential there yeah how long have you been seeing both of those guys one guy a month the other guy was just my friend for a few years and
02:02:36
Brian Atlasnow he's stepping up his game so you know we'll see it's blossomed into a little more okay and how long has it been kind of bit more romantic would you
02:02:46
Brian Atlassay maybe a couple months oh a couple months okay and are you like for either of these two guys that you're kind of a bit more interested in like would you be ready if one of them was to say hey I want to be exclusive I
02:02:59
Mistywant to just be boyfriend girlfriend are you open to that or yeah I'm open to it so you're waiting for them to initiate that conversation or step up right the other party step up like they're both already at the point where you'd say yes to
02:03:12
Gabbyeither of them or they need to like prove themselves more oh okay I would okay then yeah that's a good that's a really good question no no no I'm not ready for that then because I don't think I don't feel like it's been enough in-person dates and in-person time spent
02:03:24
Gabbyfor me to say I feel comfortable being exclusive and getting rid of all the other guys I feel like it I just need a little more time to spend with you in person to really feel that connection and be like yeah I'll drop my roster for
02:03:34
Brian Atlasyou okay got it got it um so we're gonna do a couple chats then we have a bunch more videos to react to okay so let me get the F let's see here we have actually we'll do that one this has been
02:03:47
Mistyreally fun by the way thanks for having us oh well thank you guys for coming I wish we had a big high chat panel like no it's better unfortunately although you never introduced me to this chick oh that's Kiki Kiki yeah she's Kiki she's
02:03:59
Gabbycool do you love me oh are we allowed to sing on here no yeah you can sing like copyrighted oh you sound just like Drake let me get this off no you're fine just like Drake
02:04:11
Brian AtlasI sound like Adele well I'm Tony Braxton I do I would like to actually run it back like do another plus size please do but like with some more more people you're gonna have to
02:04:24
Mistyfeed us though if you want to stick them all the way down here I gotta feed you guys eat strawberries right here you're worse than our dates right now come come heavily I'm a jerk I'm I'm a jerk how
02:04:35
Mistyabout Hefty hearty meal telling us to go to a buffet before we come here is like you should have said go to the gym like he provided us but thank you for the
02:04:46
Brian Atlassexiest and the water you I do that that message goes out to everybody we tell people hey make sure you have a good meal before you come on we don't want people getting too hungry I think he would offend a little if you had like a
02:04:57
Brian Atlaspanel of little people I think he would have said them you know what I I actually uh a local hot dog chain reached out to me today okay
02:05:12
Brian Atlasif you guys come back we might have some hot dogs ready to go so I'll bring friends with them there you go all right we have Marshall here Brian huge panel tonight nice beard question
02:05:24
Brian Atlasare you going to address the right contouring allegation of this podcast charging man 9500 for Seawall of girls are platformed for free Yeah so basically
02:05:36
Brian Atlasum yeah basically uh this guy he dm'd me on Instagram and he kind of he requested to be on the show I forget actually let me pull it up just so I don't want to
02:05:48
Brian Atlasmisquote myself or him because I don't know I feel like being accurate with this sort of stuff is kind of important here in any case uh you know look every single I'm gonna try to find it and talk
02:05:59
Brian Atlasat the same time pretty much every single uh week we get over a hundred requests from people to be on the show we get 100 requests for men to be on the show and the format of the show if you guys haven't noticed
02:06:11
Brian Atlaswe've done 100 plus of these it's not really like get an equal amount of men get an equal amount of women on the show it's kind of primarily based at like interviewing women now occasionally we do have guys
02:06:23
Brian Atlaswho come on the show they almost they almost more so fill the role of like kind of co-host versus additional panelists but uh typically the format of the show is bring women on and we're because it's
02:06:36
Brian Atlasinteresting to hear the women's perspective on dating um and you'll notice even the shows where I do bring men on I'm not really directing so many questions towards them uh it's more so again the show the
02:06:48
Brian Atlasformat of the show is interviewing women in the same way if I was to have a fashion show and I had primarily female models and I was making women's clothing
02:07:00
Brian AtlasI would predominantly be hiring women for the thing so the whole format of the show it's not like there's not equality when it comes to the panel like we primarily bring women
02:07:11
Brian Atlason and that's established with the 100 plus shows we've had now we get despite the fact also that we say we're just casting women we're again we get like 100 guys a week
02:07:22
Brian Atlassaying please put me on the show we only do two shows a week we have limited size on the there's a limited amount of seats on the panel it would be impossible for us to accommodate every
02:07:34
Brian Atlassingle individual who requests to be on the show so unfortunately just as a matter of practicality we have to turn down people we have to reject people I don't like to use reject but we cannot again if if we would have to do a show
02:07:46
Brian Atlasevery single day of the week to accommodate every single person's request to be on the show so we have to say no to some people in this guy's case I we we have like just a blanket thing
02:07:58
Brian Atlasthat we send out saying hey we're primarily casting women that's the format of our show what we do offer when it comes to the 9 500 the 9500 thing you you offered or you mentioned
02:08:10
Brian Atlasum first off uh no man we we haven't had any guy on the panel um paid to be on the panel so far every guy that's been on the panel it's either
02:08:21
Brian Atlasjust somebody I know somebody you know Chase or like another content creator right um in our messages when we tell people hey we're primarily casting women
02:08:33
Brian Atlasum we are not really accepting applications at this time that might change in the future we have sponsorship options so the sponsorship option which is
02:08:44
Brian Atlasavailable to people who don't even want to be on the show if you want to sponsor the podcast let's say you have a product we've we've only done like five sponsorships we've done 100 videos so
02:08:56
Brian Atlaswe did something with Bluetooth we did something with uh we've done like five sponsorships not not a lot right so what we say is hey if you want like we can
02:09:07
Brian Atlasoffer a sponsored seed option if you're really really dead set on coming on the podcast let's say you have a product or Okay Madison stop okay you can do it later but
02:09:18
Brian Atlasum let's say you have a product or you want to promote your social media page then that is an option if again if you're dead set on being on the show we extend this opportunity for people who
02:09:29
Brian Atlaswant to sponsor the podcast and then we can get you on the show uh at the end of the day again we have a hundred people every single week who want to be on the show we have to be somewhat selective when it comes to who's going to be on the show and then
02:09:41
Brian Atlasthe other factor I would point out the individual who messaged me here this is where I need to try to find it if I can you got personal um his
02:09:51
Brian Atlasstep one to being invited on the podcast don't insult the person who are you are requesting to be on the podcast his messages were very aggressive
02:10:02
Brian Atlasum this guy's very entitled he feels like my he seemed entitled like he was here's the thing right if I'm reaching out to somebody to do a collab especially like
02:10:14
Brian AtlasI would not blow up Joe Rogan if I reached out to Joe Rogan and I said Hey Joe Rogan can I be on your podcast and he just ignored me or he just didn't respond or he turned me down I would not
02:10:25
Brian Atlaspublicly go proceed to put them on blast that's the name of the game man listen you have a small platform I'm not saying that to insult you but there's just a there's a reality when it comes to
02:10:36
Brian Atlascollaborations if I can't just ever there again a hundred people want to collaborate with me I have to kind of move in a way where okay I'm
02:10:46
Brian Atlasyou might think it's kind of like scummy to do this but obviously people want to collaborate with people who have a commensurate social media following you have a smaller social media following you're not a bad person for
02:11:00
Brian Atlasthat there's nothing wrong with that however it's just the name of the game man you should try to collaborate with people that are around your audience size and at that point start building up
02:11:11
Brian Atlasand then you'll be able to like okay for example it would be great who's like a really bit who's really big on so I would love to collaborate with Aiden Ross Aiden Ross gets 70 000 live viewers
02:11:23
Brian Atlason his live streams I'm a small fish compared to Aiden Aiden Ross he's not going to collaborate with me it's just the it's the name of the game man uh you need to try to find people to collaborate with who are on
02:11:35
Brian Atlasyour level it's not about being a and I've actually given some smaller I've given smaller creators opportunities chances to come on the platform but you gotta it's just the
02:11:45
Brian Atlasreality of uh social media man like and also when you're coming at me aggressively like I don't want you sitting next to me man like you need to have some tact when you're like okay let me actually pull it up do you guys want
02:11:58
Gabbyto talk for a bit while I'm trying to find this so I'm rambling so speaking of aggressive oh I'm gonna I'm okay so maybe I'm not with the times or whatever but you mentioned Aiden Ross and I'm actually going to be on a show
02:12:11
Gabbysoon because I know because apparently there's no plus-sized black women in LA or there's like a really small percentage but he's was specifically looking for plus size black women to be a part of a show because I guess you
02:12:23
Gabbyknow how he does that show where like he hooks up his friends with like girls or whatever the speeding yeah so apparently one of his friends only likes plus size black women I was the only one in La he is cute so um yes but I don't have the
02:12:36
Gabbyonly one in L.A hello foreign I know that so yeah and that I was like well who because I know my my brother my younger brother is like they know about more
02:12:48
Gabbystreamer people or twitch people than I do so I ask them about like yeah like we know him I'm like oh cool right but so really quick on the sponsorship thing so we when people message they want to come
02:13:00
Brian Atlason we mentioned that we do have like a sponsorship tier that like if a company reaches out to us via email and they're like hey we want to sponsor the podcast sometimes people will we haven't set it
02:13:10
Brian Atlasup yet but we offer them hey we can do a 30 to 60 AD 30 to 60 second ad read but if you also have someone that represents your company that you want them to sit like we had to we didn't set it up yet
02:13:23
Brian Atlasbut there's a dating app a conservative con excuse me conservative dating app company and they're like well let's put our foundra on the panel we can sponsor an episode so we have different
02:13:33
Brian Atlassponsorship packages um this isn't me like trying to milk money from people I haven't nobody's taking me up on this yet it's just hey if you're really dead set on coming and
02:13:46
Brian Atlasbeing on the show we offer this as an opportunity again if you're dead set and you want to be on the show um here's an opportunity otherwise it's just that's the that's the option or it's just a flat out we have to we can't
02:13:58
Mistyput you on the show so it is what it is let me pull it up though um don't be modest listen he's got a great show people want to be on it sorry I'm not like just to make something
02:14:09
Brian Atlasclear like if you're a smaller Creator there's nothing like some people like to uh oh you only have 10 000 followers your your lamus it's not it's not that it's just a practicality thing like how
02:14:21
Brian Atlasmany people would love the opportunity to go on Joe Rogan podcast and they have they're not particularly notable and they have 5 000 followers you could line up a million people that would love the opportunity to get that kind of exposure
02:14:34
Brian Atlason Joe Rogan but the sheer fact that like Joe Rogan has probably a screening process not everybody's gonna get to go on a major show who else is really big I don't know who's who's Mr Beast I would
02:14:46
Brian Atlaslove to collaborate with Mr Beast the reality is is that my audience size is nowhere near approaching comparable to his like he would probably want to
02:14:56
Brian Atlascollaborate with somebody who the pull point of collaboration typically is to you know you exchange your audience a little bit um so and also you okay let me find let
02:15:07
Madisonme try to find the DMS okay I'm just because sorry I had a question for you actually so yes oh do you said you were saving yourself till marriage so does
02:15:19
Brian Atlasdoes saving yourself for marriage mean like doing nothing physically intimate at all until you're married or hold on let me just we'll come back to that I'll just read the messages so
02:15:31
Brian Atlashe messaged me back in May saying he debated Destiny and then he says it'd be cool to go on and teach men to date with the intention of marriage and why the
02:15:40
Mistyred pill guys are a bunch of cucks okay I think he sounds great oh but like if you're
02:15:51
Brian Atlasdo you cons if you consider me red pill if you are in your first message you're solicit your solicitation to come be on the show is by calling me or people that
02:16:02
Brian AtlasI associate with cucks my dude like you need to have a bit of Grace when you are soliciting to come
02:16:10
Brian Atlasinto someone's studio and be on their show you like step one of getting onto a podcast do not insult the person who are
02:16:20
Brian Atlasyou who you are asking to let you on the podcast it's it's uh How to Win Friends and Influence People very simple um let me read the rest here
02:16:31
Brian Atlaswe gave you a response by the way we didn't just leave you on red we told you hey man and we give up like when we turn people down it's a very polite hey thank you for your message unfortunately we're just you know we get so many messages we
02:16:44
Brian Atlascan't accommodate everybody um so I said currently we're not accepting accepting applications and then you started arguing with me about my polite rejection brother you
02:16:57
Brian Atlasneed to learn how to handle rejection way better um and then I didn't respond to you and then in August you said I'm a dork who invites on your show for clickbait
02:17:09
Brian Atlasjust continue to affirm these type of women uh excuse me dorks are six feet so you've you've proceeded is it any surprise I didn't give you a heartfelt invitation to the
02:17:22
Brian Atlasstudio when you're calling me you're insulting me at home and then you're calling the women listen I invite women on who I disagree with but bro if you're like come on brother it's
02:17:34
Brian AtlasI don't want to invite a guy on who's just going to sit across from women and call them you know let's see what else um and then you just continue you continue um
02:17:46
Brian Atlaslike these are the receipts this is the T right here let's see what else um drama I think your point is like no look I don't have I don't have any issues with this guy but look at the
02:17:58
Brian Atlasend of the day when it comes to collaboration there needs to they're typically there needs to be comparable level or excuse me comparable audience size and again step one of getting on a
02:18:10
Brian Atlaspodcast don't insult the person who would invite you on the podcast very simple okay moving on sorry I ranted there for way too long um Marshall oh okay this one wait did he send two
02:18:22
Brian Atlasthey sent two okay see and he's like he's publicly um okay we got it cool um Let's see we have fdg obesity is a disease not an opinion the fact how do
02:18:36
Brian Atlasyou justify to yourself not only being obese but also perpetuating the situation you could lose 40 pounds and still be fat enough to be plus size and keep your job are you just too lazy to have a healthier lifestyle if you guys
02:18:46
Gabbywant to respond how do you know that I didn't already know 40 pounds like you don't know my weight how much do I weigh do you know do you know how much I weighed two months ago like I feel like fat phobia is so Insidious in our
02:18:59
Gabbysociety um that people are like they want to say it's about health but you just hate fat people you don't like fat people it's not about it's not about uh what you're talking about like health and things like that you don't give a damn about my
02:19:12
Gabbyhealth you don't care about healthy or not you just hate seeing fat people win you hate seeing fat people love themselves you hate seeing fat people have confidence and it's that's your problem not mine it's giving a little Obsession because for you to sit there
02:19:24
Mistyand say that I'm not healthy I mean respectfully I was a competitive figure skater for 13 years at 212 pounds and that mean that I was getting gold medals this entire time competing against girls who were half my weight just meant I was twice as strong as they were we were
02:19:37
Mistydoing the same jumps we were doing the same spin people weren't considering me to be an athlete even though I was I still daily work out I hit the gym regularly um I observe a healthy healthy lifestyle I I've intermittent fast so the problem
02:19:50
MistyI think what you're reaching at is assuming that just because the way you look equals to what your health is and I feel like that's where we need to get away from it because wherever whatever tribe I was from they just they carry weight just a little differently that's like assuming and I say this all the
02:20:03
Mistytime that someone from Thailand is the same as someone from Samoa those are two different body types and they're both Justified and you're not going to look at someone who's from small and be like well you should be smaller why because someone no we each respectfully are just
02:20:15
Jasminea little different and I would love to see what you look like you I would like to reply mine's a little bit different so obesity is a disease that is a fact
02:20:26
Jasmineum I truly believe that your size in your body is a symptom of what is going on inside and other factors that kind of she said there's genetic factors there's also influencing influencing factors or the factors that influence and maybe
02:20:39
Jasminemake the condition worse so I truly believe that obesity is not just a cosmetic topic it is also a health topic and I also believe that we should
02:20:49
Jasminesupport and respect people who are obese but I truly believe that we shouldn't necessarily advocate for people to become obese and big and big and big and have that be something that's like super
02:21:00
Jasminesuper celebrated but we also shouldn't disrespect people who are big because there's a lot to their story there's a lot of factors um but yeah that's my take into it I disagree because uh we are all so
02:21:14
Gabbyfocused that's what I mean it stems from fat phobia and people hating fat people because if people care about health the people who are dying of anorexia dying of bulimia having all these uh Eating Disorders are so thin they're celebrated
02:21:27
Gabbyfor their sickness they're literally dying because they're starving um and people are congratulating them because of how much weight they lost how thin they look oh they're doing great like even doctors like our medical
02:21:38
Gabbysystem is fat phobic like every time I'll go in for I don't know and I
02:21:46
Gabbybut like but they don't say that to thin people who are literally dying of being too thin they just assume but that doesn't mean that being obese cannot put you in a higher risk only because they don't concern the
02:21:58
Jasmineother end of the spectrum so me like I've I've had on anorexia before I've been sick and I've been in a recovery and when I lost a lot of when I was 13.
02:22:07
Jasmineand uh me being obese has cost me a lot of symptoms a lot of stomach issues so I'm not going to be here and say that being obese is doesn't mean that you're not a higher risk you are in a higher
02:22:18
Jasminerisk to put have joint pains have asthma stretch marks you know those are symptoms that your skin is going through trauma those are like there's facts there's signs behind it um fat phobia that's a different topic right that's
02:22:31
Jasminethat is true there are people who treat you different because you're fat I've or I've had people treat me different because I'm fat themselves different because they're true exactly and so there is like some discrimination because of how we look
02:22:43
Jasmineum but again you were right like being anorexic is not healthy I just how I feel like being more more bullied obese is not healthy both of them are not healthy but only because they celebrate
02:22:54
Jasminethose who are Alexa doesn't mean that you know doesn't give us the wave room or like people who are struggling with a lot of severe issues for being obese doesn't mean that hey we're we should be
02:23:06
Jasminecelebrated too in that way we should be celebrated for who we are not just because we're fat you should celebrate me no there's there's a lot more than our size do you have a quick response to her or
02:23:18
Gabbyum I I hear what you're saying but unfortunately the world that we live in uh it it's really not about health people are not talking about your health because they don't care about you they care about how you look and they're
02:23:30
Gabbyoffended that you look that way they're feeling good about yourself and feel good about so if you're a fat person with confidence who loves yourself people are offended because you shouldn't love yourself well yeah but
02:23:40
Gabbysorry about the curse but like what I'm saying is like like people um fat phobia is really ingrained in our society um it's Insidious it's destroying lives and it's people want to hide it under
02:23:52
Gabbythis disguise of you need to be healthy you're a stranger on the internet you do not care about my health let's cut that cut the you're just trying to justify your hatred towards fat people and I feel like our society and like yes
02:24:05
Gabbysome people may have good intentions like oh you you know you should lose weight for your health fine but why is it that nobody is even get paying attention to people who are literally wasting away in silence like there are women men talking like anorexia yes
02:24:18
Gabbythey're wasting away in silence because nobody's giving them any attention because their looks don't severely offend Society they don't care who's that girl she's like a YouTuber oh yeah
02:24:29
Mistywhat's her name no she's like crop or anorexic and she has to like eat she like does a journal of what she's gonna eat that day I don't I don't know but I saw a video recently
02:24:41
Brian Atlasand like she got she was like yo the people were definitely not in favor of yes anorexia like people I don't think anorexia like
02:24:51
Brian Atlasyou look people are pretty harsh on that too I think they are I think but just to move keep things moving a little bit um we have a response to you guys she
02:25:01
Mistysays no I'm a doctor I care you're not my doctor so you don't care about me that's the thing though she just said that like we'll go into a doctor for something that's completely not related to anything and they'll just
02:25:12
Mistyassume by looking at you like I went to a doctor to become legal and he was like to become legal to carry my medical card oh cannabis and um he was like it was like you know he was like well have you
02:25:26
Mistyconsidered diet have you considered exercise um yes sir I hit the gym every day like I eat I'm a pescetarian so like him just looking at me he would make an assumption based on my whole thing is like I don't promote obesity I think
02:25:39
Mistythat you should be working out I think you should be definitely trying to eat healthy and live a healthy Health lifestyle that being said what you are today why hate yourself why can't you love yourself as you are right now no matter if it's obese no matter if it's
02:25:51
Mistysuper skinny and continue to work to be a better person in general because that's what we're here to do anyways on Earth why don't we not work to be a better person but still love who we are right now like I cannot sit here and hate myself because you guys don't like
02:26:03
Mistythe way I look and hate how I'm dressed and hate everything about myself now so you guys can be happy about a future me I could die tomorrow and then what I hated myself I agree I feel like people need to like
02:26:13
Gabbylet people have the space to live their life as they are now like yeah I may not be the ideal size for you to like what how I look or whatever but that doesn't mean that I need to be bombarded every single day about oh you need to lose
02:26:26
Gabbyweight you need to lose weight like what kind of life is that when everybody has an unsolicited opinion about how your body looks and how you your body should be just because they think it's not right like and it usually has to do with
02:26:38
Mistyself-hatred just like when people like when guys are not like cool with gay guys it's usually underlying facet like maybe you're actually attracted to it and I usually think it's a projection they don't like it in themselves so they're going to sit there and make you feel bad about it and I don't feel bad
02:26:50
Brian Atlasand I don't either all right we have a chat here Austin Smith Brian you should do the same show in Thailand for a special episode you could easily get girls on Tinder there what's stopping you also that boo hat is hilarious
02:27:00
MistyMadison turn to the side so they can see this it's so cute other way Dragon Ball Z reference Majin Buu this is Madison Vu
02:27:10
Brian Atlasokay that's Kia there you go cool thank you man uh Thailand I I mean I would love to I've always thought about taking the show on on the road on tour
02:27:21
Brian Atlashit different cities whether that's in the U.S take it to Europe take it to uh what southeast Asia but uh I mean that's uh I don't know maybe in
02:27:32
Brian Atlasthe future but it's it's already enough work and difficult enough doing it locally here it'd be cool to do a tour bus though at different cities get different perspectives
02:27:42
Brian Atlasum also I mean do it in Thailand specifically do they do Thai women are they fluent in English I suspect not I mean most countries they have to
02:27:54
Brian Atlaslearn English though so they might know a little bit more than we would know Thai language of money language oh Matty over here is Ty right oh I know
02:28:06
Madisondo you speak it also I don't speak it oh okay I don't like really understand I think somebody that means I think I like literally English is my only you're 100 Thai I'm full Asian
02:28:18
Brian Atlasyeah a good times all right we have Brandon Mills what's up guys to the lady in front of Brian if a man is going to financially support you completely what exactly do you bring to the table I love
02:28:29
Brian Atlasthat feminism that's what I want to pay for your life well we actually have a video of you that may play first and then you can uh go Gabby uh let it uh hold on let's just wait okay go ahead go ahead
02:28:44
Gabbyoh Nick can you move us up I love the natural they just make sure they oh yeah I do all my videos in bed this is the broke boy Anthem so what do
02:28:56
Gabbyyou bring to the table babe if you're a grown man and you're asking me what I bring to the table yeah you're broke you're a bomb and you
02:29:08
Gabbyclearly are saying that's like another way of saying but I need you to pay half the bills Gabby I need you to pull your weight around here but my thing is I
02:29:18
Gabbyonly date providers I only date Men Who Um can and is able to provide for me so a real man a man that I would be interested in he wouldn't be asking me
02:29:29
Gabbyall that he wouldn't be asking me what I bring to the table I am the table I show up I be me right this that's what I offer I'm there that's how you know I'm interested I don't need to show interest
02:29:41
Brian Atlasby paying for half the date I just need to show up for you to know that I'm interested okay and I'll know when you're interested when you're paying
02:29:52
Brian Atlaswhen you're paying yeah do you want to add anything to the video or does that pretty much I mean I just feel like the only guys who have ever asked me
02:30:03
Gabbywhat I bring to the table are guys who cannot afford me and that's okay because guys when I date guys that can't afford me I never ever ever hear them question
02:30:12
Brian Atlaswhat I bring to the table they just do and I like that sure I guess aside from dismissing you know let's say these all these men that are asking you what you bring to
02:30:24
Brian Atlasthe table they are they're they're broke they can't afford you but I mean let's let's say the questions in good faith right what what would you say you do bring together I can answer that if it's in good faith but I'm used to
02:30:36
Gabbyanswering so this is not for the brook boys not for the brook boys yeah so okay I I bring femininity I bring support I I
02:30:46
Gabbyam I make a house at home I'm a real Renaissance woman I cook I clean I love kids and babies I want to have a bunch of them I am I will make your life
02:30:57
Gabbybetter I will multiply which you bring like you multiply your money multiply your funds multi like you know have things together so that you feel more supported as a man like as you're going
02:31:08
Gabbyout and breadwinning and taking care of our family financially I'm gonna make you feel better about yourself and about your mission and what you're doing because we're together as a family we're
02:31:18
Gabbytogether as a team and I'm supporting it my 50 is my support as your woman your wife and I feel like that you get so much more than just what you're giving like you're you're maybe giving like the
02:31:32
Gabbymoney part of the finances Financial part you may be taking care of us in that way well I'm taking care of our family in another way and I feel like that is in a sense in a sense 50 50 because we're working as a team we're getting all our needs done we're getting
02:31:43
Gabbyeverything taken care of together but you have to come with something I can't work with nothing so okay
02:31:54
Brian Atlasokay so she said she is the table I am the table you are the table yep and we're sturdy too solid foundation
02:32:05
Brian Atlasuh so we have so many more videos to get to and so I'm gonna try to run through it quickly are you guys familiar with the delusion calculator have you heard about
02:32:16
Brian Atlasthis tell me more later so Nick are you able to pull up the calculator so it's a calculator you input and I'd be really curious to see what what you put what all of you put in
02:32:28
Brian Atlasso uh yeah let me read this really quick from plan life what does what does the panel think about the toxicity of the body positive movement example number one Adele lost a great deal of weight and
02:32:39
Brian Atlaswas subsequently labeled fatphobic by some of her fans uh your I guess your reaction to the whole Adele losing weight thing and then people are going to say what they're gonna say I'm pretty sure like personally I don't mind it like whatever
02:32:51
Mistylike you're gonna you're gonna not like me because I'm this you're not gonna like me because of that there's always going to be someone and not like you that her real fans are not gonna sit there and not like her because she lost weight they're gonna care about her vocals and their songs I was just worried about her vocals to be honest
02:33:04
Gabbybecause you know they say it ain't over to the fat lady sings I was just worried about oh my gosh can she say can she still sing can she still carry that baritone Vibes and like her voice that's all I was worried about I honestly didn't have a problem with her losing weight she's doing what's best for her I
02:33:17
Gabbydon't think it's an issue I just think that people should not have like such an outrageous opinion on others bodies like if you do what you want with your body like who am I to tell you how to live your life you want to be fat do that you
02:33:30
Gabbywant to be thin do that as long as you're healthy you're not harming you're taking care of yourself that's fine you want to be broke do that but he he asked about the toxicity and the body positivity movement and I would say yeah
02:33:41
Brian Atlaswould you guys consider yourselves like uh part of the body pot like do you I do do you think being plus size or being overweight that's kind of part of body
02:33:53
Gabbypositivity or no it's loving yourself as well yeah I think it relates a lot to fatter people because you know body because like again fat phobic fat phobia is ingrained in our society so body
02:34:04
Gabbypositivity came up so that you know we can accept and love our fat bodies when Society has rejected us for Generations so it came in a point where we're like done feeling bad about our bodies and we
02:34:15
Gabbywanted something for ourselves and that's why the body positivity movement started so that we can have that support group and I know when I first became a model first of all I didn't know that I could be a model like I didn't know that there was some such thing as a plus size
02:34:27
Gabbymodel so when that was uh like that opportunity was afforded to me that's when I feel like I've joined a group of beautiful you know big plus-sized fat women where I felt supported in my uh
02:34:40
Gabbybody type without feeling bad about myself and I feel like the body positivity movement has evil called into a point where it's now a fat acceptance
02:34:51
Gabbymovement and uh you know people want to be you know fat liberated versus just body positivity because again we're trying to get rid of this I this fat phobia that's been ingrained in our
02:35:02
Gabbysociety so the fat acceptance Liberation movement is now we're coming where we're like being Unapologetic about our bodies that's what it's called the fat acceptance Liberation movement fat acceptance Liberation abbreviation
02:35:13
Gabbyliberate liberate what's being liberate from the oppression from yeah from the oppression of the the diet liberated diet culture
02:35:23
Mistyliberated from salads well no like they Society they deem what you can wear what you can say where you can go like you don't even you can't go certain places like for
02:35:35
Brian Atlasinstance on certain rides yeah or in the planes that might be uncomfortable like you mean like Carnival roller coasters you can't you can't be past like what 250 or something like that well I think that's like it's probably for safety and
02:35:51
Brian AtlasI don't want to go on any of that either I've seen some crazy ass videos but I know but that's probably don't you think that's just like a physics thing like it's not I mean they can make it bigger there are bigger people they
02:36:02
Gabbyshould just redo the why not the right America is getting fatter by the day adjust to the times it's just like when I go to Old theaters on Broadway in New York the seats are like child size I'm
02:36:15
Gabbylike there's no way a regular thin person could fit this like it's like child size and it was made back in like the 20s or something so like you know people have gotten bigger maybe you should make the seats bigger and especially on planes and it's not for me
02:36:27
GabbyI don't have an issue with like plane seats but I'm tall so my knees if you're a tall person on the plane that sucks because your knees are like in the next person's chair you're really uncomfortable and it's like it's you
02:36:37
Brian Atlasknow height too so well I think we can all agree plus size or not uh airplane seats suck yeah yeah they suck that's not a lot of space and they
02:36:48
Gabbydo over the years they've gotten smaller and smaller so the service has gotten they see giving meals they don't give you water anymore for free that's six dollars for water no yeah six dollars
02:36:58
Gabbyfor a water bottle on a flight Highway rides yeah right well it's okay all of them have been on that that they charge no you got to get some water well I do so but when it comes to the body
02:37:11
Brian Atlaspositive positivity movement I'm pretty sure the origins of that movement were it wasn't about people who are overweight or plus size or it was about people who had like body
02:37:22
Brian Atlasdeformities and that were uh not in their control disabled I didn't hear about it until like if you had a scar or something or you had like a uh you're an amputee that was body positivity but I
02:37:34
Brian Atlasmean when it I don't that's my understanding of the origins of body positivity but then my understanding it kind of got co-opted by
02:37:45
Mistybecause I was around plus size people so I didn't know that that wasn't a thing I think that was the origin it was so liberating though the moment that you were taught the moment that I was what I got to learn that like I am beautiful as
02:37:56
Mistyis like that was like such an amazing feeling to know that like as I am I'm good enough for somebody you know what I mean and before like no matter how much it worked out didn't matter what I did I didn't feel like I was good enough
02:38:08
Mistybecause of what everyone else had opinion about what I was doing never mind the fact that I was competitive as an ice skater ain't never mind that I was actually physically an athlete didn't look do we have videos are there videos oh yeah go to my go to my um
02:38:19
MistyInstagram Nick if you're able to pull that up go ahead and pull it up I just went like to what last week I go all the time thank you yeah you were professional ice skater I was professional well professional you mean to get paid actually I was on Old Navy
02:38:31
Brian Atlasyou were very good ice skater I mean I was a professional as well because I got paid I'll leave it too yeah so I was there chubby T-Mobile I did Tinder at what point do you guys think there was this shift where these come news were
02:38:43
Gabbymore open to working with plus size people was it like the demand 2016 the demand I think when Ashley Graham hit the covers of um Sports Illustrated she's one of the most famous plus size
02:38:55
Gabbymodels and she hit um sorry I'm not she's the most famous like not the most she's one of the most famous plus size models um and she hit the cover of Sports
02:39:07
GabbyIllustrated which is has been known for like as a men's magazine for like decades and they only feature size zero women and she's a size 16 18. yeah and so Sports Illustrated my friend Veronica
02:39:20
GabbyPalm is also on it shout out to Veronica you did so good you're on Sports Illustrated too she's also pleased well Ashley Graham opened the doors so they feature a lot of plus-sized women but I don't know about the bankruptcy we have your ice skating video let's pull
02:39:33
Brian Atlasit up I've got a bunch of them what you want uh there's one right there that third one right there that of me following yeah I like I like the one indoor let's do both we'll do both yeah we'll do indoor and then the fall go ahead this is for Dojo I love you baby
02:39:45
Mistyif you can move it wait you got to play the music X Out X Out X out oh my God move us over move us over and let's get some music going this is
02:39:53
Mistyfor Dojo I love you you're doing we love Dojo Dojo cat make Mama Proud to my head don't mute it mute it mute it oh
02:40:04
MistyNick oh just joking so this is me doing a tick tock so obviously I'm not skating as much there but if you go to the one above you can see it's impressive still okay all right what do you call that what movie that's
02:40:16
Mistya scratch spin a scratch what a scratch spin oh scratch spin okay Nick play the play the one above yeah that one that one's fun you can't play the music of this one no we can't well they say um this is why they don't let me play at
02:40:28
Mistyweddings anymore and then it's like romantic music sometimes get in the way just wanna show convenient for you Ding and then it goes where is this
02:40:49
Mistythat was downtown Los Angeles at the Pike at the um at the Pike it's um Metro the metro station downtown I don't know it's the one they have Outdoors not the
02:41:00
MistyLA Live one and actually on New Year's this last year in the middle of the night I took my skates because I've got obviously my own skates and I went skating for new years that's also on my page but I went
02:41:13
Brian Atlasskating in the middle of the night on New Year's because I saw some ice time okay good good times you're good you're very talented uh ice skater I can dance
02:41:22
Brian AtlasToo Nick if you're able to pull up the video one of the First videos from the uh trying to I've do you know what I'm talking about Nick
02:41:34
Mistythis went viral like two years ago so this is a little hated but I think no no no no no no no no oh I had a video go viral as well for ice skating they were also it's like the first video they were all surprised I'm surprised
02:41:46
Brian Atlaswhen fat people do anything they get like 600 000 views on Tick Tock amazing they thought it pushed down Green yeah have you guys seen this video no okay
02:41:58
Music/SFXgo ahead hey bestie you're wrong I think it's time for another adult Pre-K lesson what do you think all right
02:42:08
Music/SFXturn your listening ears on you catch a bubble in your mouth good job okay here's the thing having a preference is something like
02:42:19
Music/SFXI'm looking for a partner who likes kayaking or wakes up early in the morning or loves pizza but when your preferences exclude an
02:42:31
Music/SFXentire group of marginalized people that's problematic okay that's not nice that's not a preference if you lump all fat people in one group together as though they are not very different
02:42:42
Music/SFXindividuals that's that phobic just like lumping all black people in one group and saying I don't like black people is racist and lumping all disabled people in one group and saying I don't think people in wheelchairs are hot is ableist
02:42:55
Gabbydo you understand what I'm saying foreign I disagree I disagree no I don't think it's fair to to kind of get down on people when it
02:43:08
Gabbycomes to their preference in dating because this is a person that you have to live with you have to sleep with you have to make meals with like if you're gonna have to ingrain this person into your personal life they should be of the same mindset or same values of you are
02:43:21
Gabbyyou gonna have problems like how are you gonna be with someone that you're not attracted to that you don't get along with that you have different uh religious beliefs things like that and I feel like it's okay to have a preference or to discriminate when it comes to your
02:43:33
Gabbydating preferences because you're ingraining your whole life you're giving up your life pretty much to be with this person to create a life with this person so no I disagree when it comes to dating when it comes to other things jobs you
02:43:45
Gabbyknow things like that yeah that's messed up you shouldn't discriminate when it comes to other things but your personal relationship yes you can have a preference I agree gotcha so do you think for example someone who didn't
02:43:57
Brian Atlaswant to date somebody who was uh plus size or overweight you disagree that uh you disagree that it's not discriminatory it's not fat
02:44:08
Gabbyphobic no because I if like I've had guys tell me that I am uh that they're not sexually attracted to me and they wouldn't date me or be with me and that
02:44:18
Gabbymakes me so happy because I can avoid them and I can use my time and my energy to guys that actually like my body type and how I look and you don't have to change yourself just yeah and then I waste less time like again I'm a Time
02:44:30
Gabbyperson don't waste my time so if you if you told me up front I'm not your type and you don't like the way I look great thank you so much for being honest upfront and not wasting my time I'll go on to the news so I would like to talk about this so um
02:44:42
Jasminethere's there's a way I organize attractiveness so think about a triangle right and there's three corners the first one is appearances this is basically what is visible to the eye this includes your body shape how you
02:44:55
Jasminelook your clothing um your mannerism the other point is basically your character involves who you are as an individual your personality intro expert you know your attitude stuff like that and then the
02:45:08
Jasminethird one is basically social status that that basically means what is the amount of value you add to society and that includes a career how much money you make the influences and then this
02:45:19
Jasminecircle this triangle of of attractiveness is within a circle in that circle is called preferences within preferences there's the norm right like the beauty standards the majority of the
02:45:30
Jasminepeople would say thumbs UPS too and then there's those like exceptions or outliers and this is kind of like how I view attractiveness and you need to score high on all three of them within the
02:45:43
Jasmineperson's preferences in order for them to see as attractive and for them to want to pursue something with you and everyone has a right to choose who they want to be because you're going to have intimate intercourse with someone so how
02:45:54
Jasminethey look matters you know some people like people who are more like chocolate some people don't like you know so I feel like everyone deserves to have that preference and that's my taking it can
02:46:05
Mistyask what is there to be said with like I've had this happen where I fell in love with a guy who I wasn't necessarily attracted to when I first met and then over time getting to know him and his personality and whatnot I found him to
02:46:18
Mistybe the most attractive guy because I fell in love with him yeah you know what I mean like maybe they're so I don't honestly all the time look for if I find them to be physically attractive there's going to be things that obviously I'm gonna be it's going
02:46:30
Mistyto be a no-go but they're just like where men you've got a wider range I'm gonna have a range of unattractive and attractiveness level based on how you treat me because if you have a gorgeous guy who acts like a dick he's not going to be attractive if you have a guy that's mediocre and acts
02:46:44
Jasmineamazing he's going to be fine as yeah like that's just and that's how I yeah yeah it's kind of like going back to those three things right your appearances your character and your Social Status some people care more about the social studies do you make
02:46:56
Jasminethis amount of money okay then I can you know you're kind of ugly but whatever the money the money takes the money covers that right so everyone has their preferences and everyone kind of within those three they kind of choose which
02:47:08
Jasmineone is more important for them you know and some people compromise some people choose not to some people are pickier some people are not they're very open to anything so okay yeah we let's see so
02:47:20
MistyI would categorize it a preference though to what she said I think that it is a preference and I think that that's okay right um I think what that sounded like to me is I'm sad because I'm not in your preference yeah which is that's a
02:47:31
Gabbygood point that I mean that's okay but you have to stop stop running after the person who doesn't want you and stop so the people who want you can catch up and there's so many people who want you I don't care how you look there is people who want you focus on them and I tell
02:47:44
Gabbywomen on my Tick Tock all the time date men who like you yes don't stop wasting your time with guys that don't text you back don't call you back like just stringing you up for what you look good
02:47:56
JasmineAmanda likes you and I will say only because you don't see yourself dating them you still need to respect them as a human being right that's where fat phobia comes in and all the other stuff come in racism and all that stuff just respect them yeah they're not your type
02:48:07
Brian Atlasto move on yeah don't waste my time yeah I think kind of where she's kind of getting at the the video we just reacted to it's kind of it almost felt like a defense mechanism for trying to justify
02:48:19
Mistywhy she's lonely yeah like it's she had some good points you know what I mean but the thing is is that it still came from a place where it seemed like it was hurt and that's the problem was if once we get to a point where I don't need to be hurt by this outside outliers
02:48:32
Brian AtlasI won't have to necessarily care if anyone's judging me right yeah of course I think you were saying I don't know if it was if it was Gabby or you but um of course I think treating people who
02:48:43
Brian Atlasare overweight with either hate or disgust or calling names shaming them um I think that's highly inappropriate um but on the other hand I don't think
02:48:54
Jasminelike obesity should be glorified I agree yeah and that's the thing problem to have with like self-love or kind of like the what you said is like is your body do whatever you want I totally disagree with that because there is a limit like
02:49:07
Jasmineif I truly love one of my like my siblings and I see that she's doing things to her body that might cause her a lot of risk um or something would be like you know what let's talk let's have this conversation out of love so no I don't believe that oh it's your body do
02:49:20
Jasminewhatever you want can you yeah you have the free will but with the people that I love close to me that does not like if you want to cut yourself no don't do that like we're not gonna do that you know there's a limit to that and we want
02:49:31
Jasmineto come in a place of like you need help let's talk about it um but I feel like saying hey you know you're big keep eating more keep eating more when you know that they're that they're struggling with that probably telling them oh keep doing it might not be the
02:49:44
Jasminebest way to show them love it's like hey let's talk who's hurting you what's going on what's going inside your heart your mind and and everything just kind of care about them go to the root of the issue instead of just putting a beautiful Band-Aid on it and saying oh yeah you look beautiful we'll do
02:49:57
Jasminewhatever you want or something like that but also don't think I think it's beneficial to hate yourself you shouldn't hate yourself because you're big you need to be yeah there's a balance you need to be like love yourself I want to say something on that
02:50:07
Brian Atlasthough as somebody who currently needs to lose like 20 pounds I kind of want to be body shamed like I want my chat I want the people in my chat me too to be like pudgy Brian Brian
02:50:39
Gabbythat's my siblings yeah some random doctor I don't know in the chat who are you but no why does your opinion oh fdg she can ftg you can shame me anybody you
02:50:52
Jasminecan't shame me after you show me I don't recognize you Brian I want to see pudgy Brian in the chat I do want to say something about this I'm sorry I didn't mean to cut you off but I was a
02:51:03
Jasmineobese child I'm not sure you guys were too and sometimes I do look back and I tell like my parents I'm like you saw me this big like didn't you kind
02:51:14
Jasmineof like you know teach me about how to eat better like I wish you could have done something when I was younger um I wish I couldn't learn more I you know and I was like I felt like you just
02:51:23
Jasminedidn't care and I felt like I wish there was people to tell you hey like you're not this is this people didn't do healthy over and over again go as a kid
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Mistyyeah literally that was my entire life I was on Slim Fast at age 11. I was an athlete they only call me fast who puts an 11 year old on Slim Fast yes what is
02:51:44
Mistyit Jenny Craig Weight Watchers Weight Watchers they're like 10. I mean I ended up trying to go like on pills and having shots in my ass trying to meet this standard because that's that phobia and my teacher it's Insidious my teacher
02:51:57
Mistyliterally in college and I love him he's dear but he told me your face works against your body your face says ingenue and your body says character so for you to be able to make it or do anything in Hollywood you're gonna have to make them match up so either I have to get uglier I'd have to get thinner so at that point
02:52:09
Mistyhe was like ask one of the you know the one of the girls in your class what she's doing she's lost a lot of weight I asked her she said I stopped eating so I was like okay I'll stop eating so I stopped eating and I lost some weight then the first time I ate I gorged and I
02:52:22
Mistycould not throw up okay so I'm over here and now I'm gorgeous your bed can't throw up yes I'm binging and so that didn't work for me I wasn't able to be anorexic because bulimia doesn't work and that's what they lead to so I wasn't allowed to do this but still negating the fact that I'm in dance class every
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Mistyday I can do the splits like I'm dancing I've got more athleticism than the next person that I'm being compared to how wide or should I chase that I'm not saying that you should not try to be healthy but in today
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Mistyyou need to learn how to love yourself in the day you know what I mean and people who are coming they're not your family who are telling you hey look at your weight hey look at what you're doing these people are sitting there telling me these things they have no idea what I'm doing day to day and just
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Jasmineto assume that that's already a problem well that's what I said from the beginning they were they wanted you to lose weight for cosmetic reasons but that's the thing it's always a good way it's not just about how you know they what it has to be about your health
02:53:11
Mistythat's why it's Health meanwhile on one leg I can go down and go oh yeah that's what they would say all my whole entire life so it's like it doesn't matter at the end of the day someone's still going to judge you based on your look no matter what you actually do physically
02:53:22
Mistyso I'm not promoting anything I'm just saying I as I am want to love who I am today that's what yes I want to work towards getting better yes I want to see where that goes but I just want to love who I that I want to love who I am today
02:53:33
JasmineI don't want to love who I am because my self-love is living yourself with things you cannot control and the flaws you have but also self-love is not going into myself yeah not going into bad
02:53:45
Jasminehabits that can have consequences whether that looks like gaining weight whatever that looks like because everyone's situation is different that's self-love to me I would date a travisian woman yeah we
02:53:58
Mistyknow you said that is there any traffic Asian women on here
02:54:04
Brian Atlasyeah we'll do the calculator oh before calculator do twitch then we'll do calculator guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever drops to follow in a prime sub if you have one twitch.tv slash whatever
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Brian Atlasmods if you could spam and then the chat uh yo Wiley one thing for the prime wall Z think for the prime revitz think for the tier one malloc thing for the prime Zephyrs thing for the prime Pub test
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Brian Atlasthink for the tier one Pub test think for the five Community Subs man appreciate it uh Pub test is the homie man thank you so much uh spirited Panda thank you for the resub with the prime
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Brian Atlasreally appreciate it three months thank you man uh okay so let's do the calculator this is the delusional calculator okay all right
02:54:51
Brian Atlasuh so what are the chances to find the man of my dreams so we're gonna scroll down here so we're gonna start with actually I think we need can you
02:55:04
Brian Atlasput it on the other side yeah yeah perfect uh age for you 27 uh age range can you give us an age range man like the men you want that I want yeah yeah like right now right
02:55:16
Gabbyfrom what age to what age I typically typically try not to date under 30 so I would say 30 to 46 45 okay yeah I assume
02:55:27
Brian Atlasexclude marriage I don't want them to be married okay I don't know why that's even an option because some women don't care just like some men don't care yet I just feel like most women listen karma's
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Gabbya thing say exclude married um race I don't really care I mean I I care if we get into the nitty-gritty and if you're like you have racist roots or something I can't deal but like I'm not gonna judge you in the beginning if I get to
02:55:50
Gabbyknow that you can't handle being with a black woman then it's over anyways but we'll just say any color or shade in terms of what you want right yeah your preference yeah this is your preference oh who am I more attracted to like you