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00:02:08Brian AtlasAdo we're going to have the guests introduce themselves so please tell us your name name age and occupation go ahead I'm ke I'm 23 and I model and do only fans and some
00:02:19Lindaacting all right welcome my name is Linda I'm an intuitive mindset coach and I'm 36 um I'm also studying to be a marriage and family
00:02:30Jenna Foxtherapist all right welcome hi my name is Jenna Fox I'm 26 years old and I'm a mattress actress
00:02:39Jenna Foxare you actually 26 yes cuz you kind of I forget the years every no 26 27 um oh wait oh oh you're 27 27 I forgot okay
00:02:50Camilathere we go what about you um my name is Camila I'm 21 and I do only fans all right welcome my name is Caitlyn I also do only fans and I'm
00:03:01Karissaokay my name is Karissa I'm 21 and I'm a nursing student F my name is Kira I am
00:03:12Madison28 and any oh I'm an accounting manager all right my name is Madison I'm 18 I'm a student studying econ and on
00:03:23Brian Atlasguys lag we're getting some lag um it's pretty bad okay I'm going to fix that hold tight here just a sec guys
00:03:35Brian Atlaswhen you say lag is it the FPS is it the frame rate hold on is it the FPS is it the frame
00:03:44Madisonrate no sounds on guest one testing testing oh she wasn't close to the mic oh sorry I might have been nervous yeah no no no you're good I like
00:03:55Brian Atlasnoticed I was going to tell you but you like ended already anxious uh barely any lag some buffering Jesus frame rate let's see Good Times W welcome to the
00:04:06Brian Atlaswhatever podcast there there was always something uh I'm gonna I'm G to try to uh fix it really quick give me one second guys uh what we are going to do and Madison keep
00:04:18Brian Atlasmaybe keep tabs on it um current relationship status single talking stage situationship actually [ __ ] let's wait until I get back Madison take it away
00:04:29Madisonokay I didn't finish but I'm a student studying econ and accounting I do the whatever podcast and I'm a host at a
00:04:41Keep (Kiki)bar um I guess if you didn't hear me I'm keep yeah weo because you weren't close enough to the mic so reintroduce yourself okay hi again I'm keep I'm 23
00:04:51Keep (Kiki)and I model do only fans and some acting can you wait is it keep keep like the verb oh okay my mom was a hippie so oh
00:05:01Madisonis that like your full name yeah keep Chambers oh that's cute thanks come on Madison what fix your fix your
00:05:13Madisonstream should I just do the relationship thing have a conversation hello um hello okay what was your guys sorry there was
00:05:24Madisonlike one OCC wait you said you stream what do you do on Twitch do you do on Twitch uh games like GTA Halo scary games and you do it with like other people mostly
00:05:35Jenna Foxmyself but I had a friend coming on tonight when did you start like um doing that uh maybe middle of last year nice and you guys said you were filming
00:05:49Camila (2)earlier what what did you what do you guys film we film like interviews like with public interviews we'll ask like questions that promote our only fans so
00:05:59Madisonjust like basic public opinion too like what kind of questions you be
00:06:07Camila (2)asking like who do you believe has a hard in society men or men or women uh the freakiest thing you've ever done are you sub to girls only fans if
00:06:18Camila (2)who if yes who would you ever sub to my only fans things like that you guys do that together yeah there's like a group of girls we like separate platforms but
00:06:28Jenna Foxwe go together team yeah do you fix it it's like I don't want to talk they
00:06:39Brian Atlassaid all right I've got some real [ __ ] conversationalists here with me tonight okay um so current relationship status single talking stage
00:06:49Brian Atlassituationship Friends with Benefits relationship married polycule sex cult uh how long have you been single if you're single and your longest
00:06:58Keep (Kiki)relationship go ahead my longest relationship was 4 years and I've only had long-term relationships I haven't really had many situationships but I've tried and it's
00:07:11Keep (Kiki)just a hard dating pool out there I live on Hawaii so like there's not many people you just see the same people every time you're on an app you see them in the store if you scrolled past them or whatever so yeah I've been trying but
00:07:23Keep (Kiki)I'm moving so not trying too hard you're currently single correct yeah how long have you been single um for like 3 years since
00:07:34Keep (Kiki)2020 3 years okay I'm going to Texas soon so I don't really want to start dating someone in Hawaii if I'm going to be moving aren't you moving to La no I'm moving to Texas oh you're moving to
00:07:44Keep (Kiki)Texas okay when you do when you moving I'm aiming for fall but I want to experience all of Hawaii that I haven't experienced yet do all the hikes I haven't done do like ofv out there and
00:07:57Brian Atlasstuff and show people great restaurants and beautiful views what's your longest relationship four years four years okay when did when did you guys break up well you said you were single for three years and your 20 so was this like a high
00:08:09Lindaschool relationship partially started in high school and then went on so yeah okay what about you I am single um my longest relationship is was about 4 and
00:08:22Lindaa half years um I've been single really I've been single for about 3 years I did have a really shortterm relationship a few months ago but all of
00:08:35Lindamy relationships have been pretty long so it's hard to count that one um yeah all right what about you uh
00:08:43Jenna Foxsingle Pringle longest relationship two two years and that was in
00:08:52Jenna Fox20 18 how long have you been single since
00:09:01Camila (2)2018 okay so I think four or five years I believe so yeah all right uh what about you single uh longest relationship
00:09:11Camila (2)was 2 years and I've been single for like a year now so why did he dump you why did he dump me I think I ended up I ended it I ended
00:09:23Caitlynthat oh you ended oh okay excuse me I did uh you ended it okay um what about currently single my longest relationship
00:09:34Caitlynwas about almost 2 years and that was about a year ago almost a year ago so it's been about a year in February okay
00:09:44Camilayeah um I am in a relationship and it is also my longest relationship of so far
00:09:52Karissatwo years and going all right got it I am currently single um I have been single for 9 years and my longest
00:10:04Madisonrelationship was 8 months longest relationship eight months Okay gandit Madison what about you I'm currently not single I am taken uh my
00:10:14Brian Atlascurrent relationship is my longest relationship it's been 11 months all right got it okay so besides Madison and you over there uh everyone here is
00:10:26Brian Atlassingle uh so what is that what is being single really mean though cuz I mean come on for some of you who are single there's a guy in the picture no right come
00:10:37Caitlynon yeah you got a guy in the picture right now and what do you mean by in the picture what do you mean by in the picture yeah I mean yeah it's not a situationship because it's
00:10:51Caitlynlike we're just like I think it's like pretty understood wait hold on just let her finish we're like just hanging out whatever but it's like I don't know
00:11:03Caitlynyou're just hanging out yeah how long have you been just hanging out with said individual probably like month so like I don't know if I can take it seriously
00:11:15Caitlynyet it's not been that long that's why it's like not even made it to the situationship it's not even the situation what is it that like it would you consider it talking stage or I
00:11:26Camila (2)guess okay I don't like labels is he the only guy you're seeing yes what about you uh yeah no uh no no guys right now don't really feel like I just
00:11:39TTS Readerdon't want to answer the pH oh Brandon thank you man Brandon mels donated $200 it's your boy champagne papy let's start the donos and get some W's in the
00:11:51Brian Atlaschat for Brian also can I have a whatever t-shirt hey Brandon thank you man um by the way Brandon is in Santa Barbara so we're going to we were going
00:12:00Brian Atlasto try to have him come by today but just uh didn't work out so Brandon will right I think he'll be here on the Tuesday show and yes when you come by the studio you can have uh a whatever
00:12:12Camila (2)t-shirt so uh we'll see you on Tuesday man thank you Brandon for that uh TTS sorry uh go ahead um yeah no I just don't feel like entertaining anyone
00:12:23Camila (2)right now I just feel like I'm pretty content content yeah there's nobody like no nothing not at all cuz you said that you've been single for like a year about
00:12:35Camila (2)yeah I mean but has in that year mean you go out with people I mean you go on a date but doesn't mean you're going to do anything they just just kind of like a dinner okay you know just it's not that big of a deal it's just kind of like
00:12:46Camila (2)yeah I want to socialize today you kind of can pick and choose that's okay all right so
00:12:55Unknownnothing Z zero nope okay all right what about you no no men or women in my life no
00:13:04Keep (Kiki)okay nobody I'm finally taking a step for myself cuz I feel like my whole life I've always been like a very relationship oriented person so I had
00:13:17Keep (Kiki)the four-year relationship and then after a year went by I had another three-year relationship so I'm finally like okay let me settle down and just not try to find myself more so I'm taking myself on trips and going on a
00:13:29Keep (Kiki)lot of girls trips out the country seeing more cultures and not focusing on guys right now focusing on my work okay um I what
00:13:40Brian Atlaslag Nick can you pull up the uh regular chat what about you um you said you've been single for nine years can you tell us what what what's
00:13:49Karissaup um ultimately I'm waiting um I've had two situationships
00:13:58Karissayou could call them in between uh but as of the past four years um I am not sexually active and I do not intend to be and I'm ultimately going to be
00:14:10Karissawaiting for my husband so 9 years seems like a long time but um I have an ultimate goal at the end of it so Nick can you get the popup chat yeah and
00:14:21Madisonthose like two situationships that you had were um they just ended because it wasn't what you were looking for in a husband or was it more casual ultimately
00:14:31Karissayeah um I'd say none of them were casual I'd say that with the two situationships that I had I
00:14:40Karissadefinitely was in love with I either man um but ultimately it was not God's plan and uh the first one ended up getting
00:14:50Karissasick and passed away uh the second one um he was insecure and uh I think we liked each other I loved him him I don't
00:14:59Karissaknow if he loved me back but overall um it would have not worked out and uh um yeah so that was
00:15:10Karissauh that's so you're a born again virgin yes correct I am I am a born again virgin but you said um and when did you make this decision
00:15:21Karissato be a born again virgin um you could say officially four years ago um prior to one incident one
00:15:30Karissanight um I was not not active like two or 3 years prior to the incident four years ago so it's been it's been a long
00:15:39Brian Atlastime okay um so you were born again virgin like seven years ago pretty much okay not technically but pretty much
00:15:49Brian Atlasyeah okay and so you want to wait until marriage yes I do okay and and I'm not backing down this time so you're not backing down no what do you mean you're
00:16:02Karissanot backing down this time are you talking about the the situation four years ago just a really hot dude um so the one night that I messed up the seven
00:16:13Karissayears and now it's technically four um that was a very weak moment in my faith and now my faith is much stronger and I
00:16:22Karissaam ultimately waiting okay so there's a commitment behind it this time that's actually
00:16:31Brian Atlasreal so but was so it was like a one night stand that one indiscretion yes okay so Cancun or what what was the
00:16:42Brian Atlassituation it was in Australia okay the Australian gentlemen they're very strapping and charismatic okay so was it an Australian guy I will
00:16:52Karissasay though I was pressured into it and I did not want to do it um but ultim Ely it was consent so I have full
00:17:02Karissaresponsibility for that but um yeah I did not want to do it but ultimately it was my fault because I said yes in the
00:17:14Brian Atlasend I don't know if that's a rabbit hole I really want to go down but you said okay so you you you consented you said yes yes I yes I have but could this be a
00:17:23Brian Atlasretrospect retrospective thing like you in the moment you said yes but obviously you faltered when it came to your commitment to waiting to being a born
00:17:35Brian Atlasagain virgin so I'm just trying to can you phrase that in a different way well what are you trying to get at you were pressur you said you were
00:17:48Karissapressured but you said you also consented so I'm just yes he kept asking like I mean we were always we were obviously getting heated but at the same time um I said said no that's for my
00:17:59Karissahusband we're not doing anything else um and I had a weak moment um my faith was not strong at that point in time and um and I said yes
00:18:11Brian Atlasso there's not much more to it than that there it's just okay yeah got it um okay so couple you said
00:18:22Brian Atlassingle no guy in the picture I'll take your words for it sort of kind of is um I'm trying to think where we
00:18:32Brian Atlaswere you uh you're like a coach correct mhm okay and uh so you coach women um is that correct yes I coach mostly women I
00:18:43Lindawould say about 80% of my clients are women 20% men okay um do you have kids by chance you have kids correct I do I have a son you have one son okay um oh yeah in your
00:18:55Brian AtlasInstagram bios it says a woman putting other women on game what do you mean yeah so [Music]
00:19:03Lindathere there are a lot of women who aren't aware of the Mind Games that
00:19:14Lindaa lot of men play and this isn't Like a Man versus women and I'm like all anti-men or anything but because largely my clients come to
00:19:25Lindame to be put on game um I just go down the rabbit hole of what red flags to avoid what green flags to
00:19:34Lindalook out to look out for um that's a huge conversation um but essentially that's what I do I would say I
00:19:45Lindado for my male clients I do somewhat the same um I can coach women really deeply because I am a woman and I do have that experience but I can't
00:19:55Lindago full-blown with a guy at a certain point I can maybe get him 70% of the way um at a certain point I send him off to
00:20:06Lindaa male coach who can actually has that lived experience to take him deeper um I specialized in relationship coaching um people who are healing from narcissistic
00:20:17Lindaabuse uh healing trauma releasing um obsessive overthinking patterns essentially in short what I do is I help people release low vibrational life circumstances
00:20:29Lindawhich is a huge range of things um to transform their life and sure to put them in a higher frequency so that they can essentially have stronger dis
00:20:39Brian Atlasdiscernment to attract better whether it's purpose whether it's relationships whether it's so is it General life coaching or kind of more framed from
00:20:50Lindalike dating related coaching it's everything um I do Rel relationships and regular life is
00:21:01Lindaso synced um and everything affects everything else so um largely what I go really deeply with is people releasing low habits obsessive
00:21:13Lindaoverthinking patterns um strengthening their confidence and really ultimately strengthening their discernment which naturally Segways into
00:21:24Lindarelationships um so it's not just relationships but it's mind set which is okay we we'll come back to a couple of those things here so a few of you have uh so kindly provided me
00:21:38Brian Atlassome pre-show uh information so I'm just going to ask a couple questions here
00:21:44Brian Atlaskeep you say You Wish dating was more honest yeah yeah so what about dating or relationships or whatever do you find to
00:21:56Keep (Kiki)be dishonest is it on the men part the women's part both what what's kind of your stance right there it might be on both I only know women's from my point of view and what friends tell me so I don't really know how honest they are
00:22:07Keep (Kiki)but I know from my point of view I try to be very honest and I'll end up in not anymore cuz I'm trying to take a break from the apps and going out and meeting people but um when I was trying and
00:22:18Keep (Kiki)seeking someone that I could be with I'd be on the apps or I'd be meeting people in person and they would act like oh you're the only person I'm talking to and I just want to be with you you and
00:22:29Keep (Kiki)dropped all my all my hose I don't know if I can say I can say on here but they dropped all my hose for you and everything and then the next minute they wouldn't talk to me for a week and then I would be like okay I'm going to go on
00:22:42Keep (Kiki)another date and then they'd see I was on a date and they'd get mad like well you ghosted me for a week I didn't think you were really into me and they're like no I am and then they would ghost again and then find out they were hooking up with like other people in the town and
00:22:53Keep (Kiki)it's just too messy and would rather people just be honest if you just want to hook up with someone just say you want to hook up if you want more than that say you want more than that but was this in Hawaii yeahuh okay uh so
00:23:05Brian Atlasprimarily dishonesty when it came to intentions yeah yeah in okay so these guys would say I'm only talking to you only got eyes for you but in reality they weren't yeah and then if it was
00:23:18Keep (Kiki)like okay if you want to date other people I can too and then I would try and then they'd get really mad at me and like how could you how would you date someone else it's like you're dating three other people I just went on one
00:23:27Brian Atlasdate and and you said that you'd prefer if people were more upfront with their so I think you said something along the lines of they if they just want to hook
00:23:38Lindaup they should say that and if they want something serious they should say that yeah okay okay that would be ideal but that's not reality I know but it would be so easy if but don't most I feel like
00:23:49Brian Atlasmost relationships start a bit more casual and then you continue seeing each other in a casual sort of way and then eventually you end up you figure out oh we both kind of like each other then you
00:24:01Keep (Kiki)end up in a relationship I guess but all my relationships that started that way didn't really end well so for the next one I want to start as friends and then make them wait and wait and then see if they actually really want me and see if
00:24:12Keep (Kiki)we really get along before I have casual relations with them wait so start as friends yeah yeah or even start with like a crush but I'm still not going to jump into any romantic feelings right
00:24:24Brian Atlasaway I think people I think people naturally just like to play games with people minut and women that's true it's like a cat and mouse game okay so you when you say wait do you mean wait to
00:24:34Madisonhave sex kiss have sex okay I could cuddle but cuddle but wait to do okay yeah um it could work it could work I also feel like it's just like harder to
00:24:47Madisonjust be friends with people especially if you're finding them off of dating apps because the intention is not to just be friends you know oh I'm not just talking about dating app I'm talking about like meeting people in person friends of friends or I don't know I did
00:25:00Keep (Kiki)fire dancing so I'd meet some fire dancers sometimes that never really liked him enough to even considered casual before dating or anything you know okay so I mean there's a couple things there
00:25:15Brian Atlasso you said in your past relationships though that you didn't you typically wouldn't wait like you'd pretty early on um get intimate kiss have sex whatever it may be yeah maybe within like I still would make him wa wait like
00:25:28Keep (Kiki)a week or so but I feel like that might not have been long enough I mean I did date them for a long time but the attachment I think happened a little bit too quickly than it should have and I ended up on your end or on the guy's end
00:25:40Keep (Kiki)on both ends I think I ended up breaking up with the relationships I was in because I eventually was just over it and one relationship I was um being like
00:25:51Keep (Kiki)the mother to someone basically like I paid for their paid for their um that sounds great rent all their food clothes but I not your mom like get your own job like so you were you were a sugar mama
00:26:03Keep (Kiki)kind of I didn't want to and he would make jokes about it be at at dinner with friends you'd be like I love having a sugar mama when I'd have to pay for his meal cuz he was broke I was like that's not funny it's not a a joke I'm just helping you out but you do only fans
00:26:14Brian Atlasthough right I do how much oh a couple of you do kind of do you guys o traditional content um you you can make some pretty good money doing that
00:26:26Brian Atlasright and you how old how old was the guy that at the time when you were dating him he was the same age as me okay yeah how well were you out earning
00:26:36Keep (Kiki)him well yeah well yeah but that's okay I mean I can out earn someone but I don't want to pay for your entire life you know like he had a job and then he quit his job to party and he would go
00:26:48Keep (Kiki)out and drink with his friends while okay it was just kind of gross I didn't how long were you dating him for that one was 2 years I had the four year and then I had one year and then two years
00:27:00Keep (Kiki)so how long were you paying the rent and everything for we moved in he moved into my place cuz he got kicked out cuz he was living at a frat house and they threw a party and they got in trouble and I was like fine you can come live
00:27:10Keep (Kiki)with me so I let him live with me for free when I was in this one condo which was 5,000 a month for a one bedroom one bath cuz Hawaii is ridiculous and so I let him live there
00:27:22Keep (Kiki)with me for free at first and then we went to go rent another place rented a house together and he said he was going to pay for some of the rent or at least like maybe cook some food or do
00:27:32Brian Atlassomething and didn't do anything just played video games made a mess didn't it was sounds like a legend sounds like a [ __ ] Legend okay so um out of
00:27:43Brian Atlascuriosity for those of you who do o uh how much do you guys make I think it varies let's say if you had that monthly average if you have to
00:27:53Brian Atlasaverage it over a year per month or per year you make six figures a year yeah seven figures a year no not seven figures a year mid M mid six I don't
00:28:03Brian Atlasknow if I should say it's fine IRS isn't watching or anything well they know how much I make yeah they know you pay your taxes um what's the most you made in one month
00:28:16Brian Atlassix figures uh have you had the six figure month no but close close Okay up to it all right uh what about you how much you making on o I'm not going to discuss top zero
00:28:28Brian Atlas001 whatever the [ __ ] it is um what about you yeah I'm not not disclosing that I'm legally not allowed to disclose that you're legally not allowed I'm
00:28:39Brian Atlaslegally bound so I give you permission to well okay um that's fine but in any case uh I mean it sounds like you're
00:28:48Keep (Kiki)probably out out earning this guy yeah it's okay I mean I don't mind doing that in
00:28:56TTS Readerrelation oh bro too too soon donated $1,000 that's anyways who else do you know that drops this back to back to
00:29:06TTS Readerback to back to back Tuesday is going to be lit I said let's get some W's in the chat for brickson #p the CH # instate
00:29:17Brian Atlasgoing to drop a Bitcoin next thank you man appreciate it um damn that's thank you so much Brandon for your patronage that does trigger the champagne so we'll do the champagne um here if you can
00:29:27Brian Atlasbring it over to me here um very nice does thatan we can drink some what's that does that mean we can drink some champagne yes oh did you un you
00:29:36Brian Atlasunscrewed it you got to pop it I took to okay I'm trying to remember how nervous can I do it I I know how to do take an eye out I [ __ ] watched a YouTube video on
00:29:48Keep (Kiki)how to do it don't give me a black eye you like it
00:30:01Brian Atlasjust wrecks the screen scary dude what are you doing Nick move what the [ __ ] are you [ __ ] why would you stand directly in the line Jesus Christ my life okay you
00:30:13Brian Atlashave to know how it feels once I guess uh Brandon mels thank you for the uh champagne bottle pop here um I don't know we'll we'll let the the people
00:30:24Brian Atlasserve as they'd like if you guys want any oh [ __ ] I poured it pretty shittily sh sh sh [ __ ] I'm gonna take that word all right poor if you're above the age of 21 feel free to uh no I think
00:30:39Brian AtlasI'm thank you Brandon appreciate it oh did I did I drop the r word okay [ __ ] Nick you were standing right there bro I was trying to open the
00:30:51Karissashiters I watched a YouTube instructional on how to open it so I got to figured out okay so thanks question hold it the right way what's your question um so while you were dating this man did
00:31:04Keep (Kiki)you find that it was hard for you to respect him at first I respected him but then it became like turned into resentment and more yeah I started to not respect him as much yeah and it felt
00:31:16Keep (Kiki)like I was like a caregiver or a mother and I'm not old enough to be a caregiver or mother I should be doing that on my own taking care of myself before I'm taking care of someone else yet so at first it was like no I understand like he was still in college but then he
00:31:29Keep (Kiki)dropped out of college he had a job but then he quit his job so at first I was like you're still trying so it's okay I'll help you out like help you meet ends and whatever you need but then it just became like he wasn't trying
00:31:42Karissaanymore and was just backpacking off of whatever he could get from me and what I would provide so comfortable do you think that with you having you know kind of the upper hand on a lot of things
00:31:51Karissathat it changed like maybe the attraction or like probably d DCS of your relationship yeah he got way clingier more dominant in it yeah he got
00:32:03Keep (Kiki)way clingier than he was beforehand um cuz I think he saw me kind of drifting away and yeah not feeling fulfilled as much and so he got extra clingy and I was more distant and not really sure if
00:32:15Keep (Kiki)I was feeling the same anymore so it just kind of like kept pushing and pushing away till it was like I no longer have love for you at least like I right you're not the same person that I
00:32:25Brian Atlaswas dating you know so okay to go back you said that in your previous situations you didn't really wait maybe you'd wait like a week or something but now you you want to wait longer periods
00:32:38Keep (Kiki)of time when you say like wait longer what do you mean like 3 months 6 months what do we start out as friends whatever um I mean if it starts off like with the attraction and the idea of I could date
00:32:49Keep (Kiki)this person then I want to go on multiple dates maybe after a month or so month or two but that depends on how much time you spend together like if you're only hanging out like once a week then that time will be longer but if
00:33:01Brian Atlaswe're hanging out like every single day it's going to feel like a lot longer you get to know someone way quicker if you're spending every moment with them okay what if I told you that
00:33:11Brian Atlasguys would feel uh I don't know if disrespected is the right word but a lot of guys would take
00:33:19Brian Atlasissue with like for example say two weeks ago you hooked up with a guy the first night you met him and then you meet the guy and you're like oh I want to have a relationship
00:33:31Brian Atlaswith this guy and then you're like I'm going to make him wait three months but I a lot of guys are going to like see that if they know that you've had a different standard beforehand they're going to be like they're going to have
00:33:43Keep (Kiki)an issue with it my standard was not that far off I think I mean also not just like sleep right away I also mean like I moved in with the people I was with like a month into dating two months into dating my new rule is like let me
00:33:54Keep (Kiki)date you for like a year before we get a place together because sure it's just too much too soon I wouldn't just say just sleeping with someone also I wouldn't be in that situation because I do not have one night stands and haven't
00:34:07Brian Atlashad one night stand since maybe high school so I don't think that situation would ever come up anyway but okay well let's go around the table on this um how long do you guys think you should wait
00:34:18Keep (Kiki)before having sex with somebody new we'll just start with you if you want to reiterate um I'm down to wait like 3 weeks 3 four depending on how often
00:34:28Lindawe're hanging out and how much I'm Into You okay I don't like a a blanket exact time frame or date I really think it's
00:34:38Lindaabout feeling out the person but um I do not encourage any of my clients to have sex too early or if they're not ready or they're not feeling comfortable
00:34:49Lindaum as far as like actually getting into a relationship um one thing I do know as far as like time frames that seem to work out uh pretty close in line across
00:34:59Lindathe board is like if he's not committed into a relationship within like 2 3 months maximum he's just not going to there are always exceptions to the rule but never assume that you're one so as
00:35:11Lindafar as like having sex I can't put a time frame on it it's really how often are you communicating with them is this man consistent is he
00:35:20Lindaclearly initiating is he clearly pursuing um just properly vetting him um is the best advice that I could give it's really hard to just give a blanket
00:35:32Lindastatement without knowing the person knowing how much they're talking and knowing what that woman specifically is really dealing with okay um kind of like
00:35:43Jenna Foxshe said I don't put a time frame on it if I'm really into you and I want to have sex we're going to have sex basically and if you [ __ ] me and then leave and you weren't ready for a relationship that's fine too you weren't
00:35:55Camila (2)ready for it so I'm not going to pressure you into anything yeah I kind of feel that I feel like it's just about the connection I don't think you necessarily have to put like a time stamp on it because even if it's like 3 months down the line you're not feeling it you're just not feeling
00:36:07Caitlynit so it's just kind of whenever the sexual tension and things like that so sure that's what I was going to say was it depends on the tension I like to wait until the tension really really builds
00:36:19Caitlynthat could be a month that can be two months that can be 3 months whenever that tension is is you can't ignore it then that's what do you guys mean by tension like wait till you can't wait anymore where
00:36:31Keep (Kiki)you're like begging you're like oh my gosh it's been too long just kiss me take me right now like sometimes it's just like yeah like you get teased with cuddles and whatever and nice dates and flowers or whatever for so long till
00:36:43Karissayou're like please so like Temptation type thing yeah basically sure I guess want say it like that so with the uh current guy that you're seeing now how
00:36:55Brian Atlaslong did you wait with him we haven't had sex yet oh you guys haven't had sex it's been about a month yeah we're going on a month a month how how many times have you hung out though pretty often cuz it can vary like you know you could
00:37:08Brian Atlasbe seeing someone for a month and hang out two times or you could be seeing someone for two weeks and hung out like three or four times a week you know yeah I'd say three four times a week three or four times a week mhm and has he just
00:37:19Caitlynnot gone for it or you're kind of I kind of yeah I I make it kind of hard so it's like um it's if he really does Nick can you boost the audio a
00:37:30Caitlynlittle bit um if he really does pursue that then then I'm like okay you know so he wants it but you said no like you guys are just waiting yeah you're waiting yeah I'm waiting well we're both
00:37:41Keep (Kiki)waiting till like I know that he's sure and then I know that I'm sure as well that makes it sounds like he's respecting you too and like your decision which is really beautiful and not always that common you know some guys might be like I'm not going to get
00:37:53Brian Atlasit then buy but if they can actually wait and respect like if you want to wait that's just kind of show character is that disrespectful for a guy to say well if you don't want to have sex with me then we're on a different timeline
00:38:05Brian Atlasgoodbye if that's if that's not what they want because earlier well earlier you said well you wish that guys could be upfront about what they want isn't that a guy being upfront about what yeah yeah but if it's like come to a time and he's like okay it's been too long and
00:38:18Caitlynshe said well I told you already I wanted to wait and if he's already had it then that's still him if he it and I've had don't be pushy tell me like I'm like I'm just a very touchy person I'm a
00:38:31Caitlynsexually active person and I'm like okay well then you're just not a person for me if that makes sense okay mhm so is it you've been seeing him a
00:38:41Brian Atlasmonth mhm almost a month okay uh what about you um till marriage you're waiting till marriage yeah are you uh have you had anything before or no okay so you're you and your
00:38:54Karissaboyfriend you're waiting till marriage correct okay got it what about you um I'm waiting till marriage as well so I think that the best thing to do is to wait till marriage I think that when
00:39:06Karissawhen you have it too soon you kind of risk the relationship I think there's you know like a certain certain amount of respect you know that comes with having to wait um I think that as a
00:39:17Karissawoman one thing for me if if I can know that he he is willing to wait for me and not just wait for me but wait till our wedding night then I know that he is in
00:39:26Karissafor the long haul and I know how how he feels about me um so I mean it's not even just you know like about my faith
00:39:34Karissait's ultimately about if if I want to give this relationship the absolute best chance that I can then I think that we have to establish some kind of
00:39:46Karissafoundation and I think that um ultimately I think that waiting to marriage is what people should do it's obviously not what I actually did um but
00:39:58Camila (2)of course there's always you know there's always regrets and um so yeah I have a question that's my stance on it are do you expect the man
00:40:07Camila (2)to be to have the same mentality like to wait for marriage as well yes I do okay and I will not pursue anyone who so will you pursue someone that has that has had
00:40:19Camila (2)sex before yes okay so they don't have to be a virgin yeah M Okay no Okay yeah and how long are you waiting to like like if there was a time frame like
00:40:33Karissayou're going to be engaged for a year you want to date for for three years like what does that look like I think that's a good question um to be honest I'm not entirely sure um It ultimately kind of just depends
00:40:45Karissaon I think the person um I don't know if I have met him yet uh but when I meet him I know that I'll know because of how
00:40:54Karissayou know how he respects me and how um how ultimately you know his faith comes first and if his faith comes first as well if he is
00:41:05Karissaultimately submitted to God then I'm able to submit to him and we're able to wait for each other go ahead question oh go ahead so do you think if he wants to have sex with you it's kind of like disrespectful would you like would you
00:41:17Karissatake that the wrong way no no I mean I would want himor you know I would want him to want to have sex with me but I would want him to wait I would want him to have the self you
00:41:29Karissaknow control and you know the willpower to be able to hold off because I think there's a certain amount of respect there's a certain amount of you know like value in something that you have to
00:41:41Karissawait for it you know it's like a pearl you know it takes it takes a long time for that Pearl you know to become something and it's inside of a clam and it's it's not until you open it sorry no
00:41:52Camila (2)you're good so is it is it like a very Priceless thing is it penetration that you would consider sex or is oral sex still on the table I always wonder that
00:42:04Camila (2)that's a very good question like like would you you know like go down on him before you married him or let him go down I've thought about you thought no no I have thought about that question in
00:42:14Karissamy mind would or would I not allow that and at one point I might have and at this point I do not think I would I have
00:42:22Jenna Foxa twofer did you in fact no I would not okay oh sorry did you come to this conclusion like did you find God after
00:42:32Jenna Foxthe situation happened in with the Australian guy or did you already have this in like is it your religion or did you just find God and decide this is the path you want to go down very good
00:42:44Karissaquestion um so I have always been a Christian um it's you know there's been certain points in my in my life where my
00:42:53Karissafaith has very much slacked um and then there's been times when it's picked up but overall God has always been constant in my life and he is the number one thing
00:43:06Karissathere's nothing else that I would ever do that I think like I at this point in my life I'm not going to choose just any
00:43:15Karissaman I can't um because I know exactly what it is who I want um and whether or not I find him is not really up to me
00:43:25Madisonit's ultimately up to to God and um can you repeat your question I just want to make sure I'm like targeting you can move on I an additional like question though like
00:43:37Madisonabout like the like would you consider oral sex like also saving yourself from Marriage something but like you said you're saving yourself from Marriage too right like what would the definition of
00:43:47Keep (Kiki)that be like just nothing sexual at all about soaking Mormons can do that right is that the thing I don't even know what that is it's a thing but like oh you used to be no but I just would do it for fun I'd
00:43:59Keep (Kiki)have an ex and I'd be like can you just put it in we can fall asleep like that fun like it didn't always end up working but like maybe twice it was just
00:44:09Keep (Kiki)what position peaceful cudd cudding no just like spoting cuddling now could we just fall asleep with it in you got to try it really it's like super intimate
00:44:20Keep (Kiki)no it's start hard and then it slowly gets but imagine it just like falls out sorry it's really intimate and kind of cute but it honestly doesn't always last
00:44:30Madisonlike that cute spooning with a dick in cute like okay good night but then it doesn't always end up as just soaking but feel like it's like Keo kind of like trying to is like putting it in and
00:44:43Madisonletting it sit there while someone else is like shaking the bed to like do the ACT I feel like that's a little bit different it's different I don't know about that it's different and then we would just use soaking as a term for
00:44:54Madisonwhen we wanted to do it be like should we soak or joking is [ __ ] though I think it's still having sex count it's still having sex count loopholes on loopholes it's
00:45:05Brian Atlaskind of silly I don't know that it let them have it they need a win let them have that win definitely counts um did you had a question for M yeah well I already asked her I just wanted to know
00:45:15Camilawhat it meant to how it feels um yeah it's just anything that that involves like lust and so I would I would include anything that's like sexually immoral and so that would
00:45:26Brian Atlasinclude like oral sex anal sex like all of that oh God damn back door all right there you have it folks so just going back to the whole like how long should you wait thing um who here has had a one
00:45:37Brian Atlasnight stand or excuse me let me let me clarify because one night stand means something kind of very specific have you ever slept with someone maybe the first time ever
00:45:48Brian Atlasmeeting them show up hands bro you guys are full of [ __ ] come on I mean on set well yeah but I mean that like more like uh with a
00:45:59Keep (Kiki)civilian let's say absolutely not first first time absolutely not I'm too scared of I get tested yeah too scared STDs or they could be a serial killer they could be I know as a woman it's kind of scary
00:46:11Brian AtlasI don't want to take None Of You' been like at a party or a club and you met out my friends won't let me but no not I'm always with my girlfriends when they would stop the cap I'm calling cap on
00:46:23Brian Atlasall of you but okay all right fair enough um the other thing keep that you had I wish I could just meet someone in the park or coffee shop like a fairy tale but I know real life isn't like
00:46:34Keep (Kiki)that yeah don't we all just the idea of like sitting there like studying or like on a video or doing something on your phone drinking a coffee and someone
00:46:44Keep (Kiki)comes by and just like starts up some banter like that's just like the classic movie Trope that of course like a hmark movie you know that is ideal but I know it's not real
00:46:57Brian Atlasbut show of hands who here would prefer to meet someone organically like in person instead of like a dating app or social media Instagram you know the meet cute or whatever the [ __ ] it's called
00:47:07Caitlynthey come to you up up to you at Trader Joe or you know at the park or the beach Trader Joe's I love Trader Joe's Trad is
00:47:16Brian Atlasthat where you met your C Guy where did I no oh okay all right um well just a okay I'm going to come back to that really quick I do want to ask because I
00:47:25Brian Atlasforgot to me ask this earlier those of you who do of you uu youu uh what kind what you don't have to be specific but
00:47:34Keep (Kiki)do you do solo content GG BG so girl girl boy girl I do solo content and I've
00:47:42Keep (Kiki)done a video with an ex before I just one okay and if I do ones with girls it's not like girl girl content it's more like jump around with their boobies
00:47:53Brian Atlasor something like sure not like hardcore intense stuff right but you have done one or some BG content within next yeah
00:48:01Camila (2)I've done a couple about um I'm full on full lot okay all right yeah SOLO girl girl I haven't done boy girl but girl
00:48:11Brian Atlasgirl for sure um solo completely solo any BG no BG no okay coming back to you so you uh you were given quite a a head
00:48:22Brian Atlasnod there uh so what are we talking about well I come from from the porn world so but I mean were you doing one-on-one scenes with men were you doing group like or typ stuff everybody
00:48:34Jenna Foxwhat's what's the biggest group scene you've done I've blown 15 guys nice all right in one sitting it was really that's crazy is that is that what they
00:48:46Brian Atlascall aake yes blowbang [ __ ] yeah okay all right so 15 is the most yes okay DP 15
00:48:56Jenna Foxis the most guys but I've done 16 in an orgy as far as like men and women okay DP no oh okay it's only use one
00:49:06Keep (Kiki)hole huh only use two holes actually mouth and puss good to know um I've been on a 156 girl orgy before I forgot I did all girls all girls a bunch of girls
00:49:19Brian Atlasvery fun we've done it twice um the first time was only a few was 15 okay um and so just to bring it back to your thing you and maybe show of hens also from the girls you said that I wish I could just meet someone in the park or
00:49:30Brian Atlascoffee shop like a fairy tale but I know real life isn't like that um show of hands who agrees with that I think most of you said wait what was the question would you prefer to meet someone
00:49:39Brian Atlasorganically kind of more like meet cute meet in a park coffee shop whatever yeah okay okay well for you guys specifically
00:49:49Jenna Foxdon't you think that the fairy tale thing would be for a guy to not meet a girl who's done work no this isn't like Cinderella or anything it's real life like at least if you're honest about it
00:50:02Jenna Foxand they have a problem with it then that's fine too they have a problem with it but if they don't what kind of man do you think would want that I'm just curious
00:50:13Jenna Foxum I haven't dated a man since freshman year in high school and countless of them in my DMs asking to take me out they know what I do but
00:50:23Karissado you think that they would want to marry someone like that I want to marry anybody I don't want to marry anybody okay yeah I don't even want
00:50:33Keep (Kiki)children if that was like the next part of that I've never met a single person who didn't didn't like who cared I guess I've never met a single man who's cared
00:50:45Keep (Kiki)about it none of my exes cared the people that I've tried dating before or gone on dates before none of them cared they all supported it they had no issues with it whatsoever they said if it empowers you and if you're making money
00:50:58Keep (Kiki)and you're supporting your family which I do with my money um I have very struggling parents so I support my parents with my money very upfront about can I ask you a question very upfront too has a guy ever lied to you to get
00:51:09Brian Atlaslaid or do you think men have ever lied to you to get laid in what way cuz I don't let just anyone have I mean I'm a guy and I know men frequently will lie
00:51:19Keep (Kiki)to get laid so um they'll they'll gas you up no babe it doesn't matter no I really strongly don't think so so I've honestly never had those questions
00:51:30Keep (Kiki)either I've never questioned it yeah once because if I did and I could tell that they weren't being honest I feel like I have a pretty good radar and I just wouldn't let them I wouldn't sure
00:51:41Brian Atlasokay before I continue on with that thread for a little bit um why can't you know you often I mean you said that you'd like to meet someone in a park or coffee shop what is
00:51:53Keep (Kiki)stopping you from going up to a guy um um I'm shy I guess okay and I also I'm like I'm like submissive and shy so sure I would if I could and sometimes I'll
00:52:05Keep (Kiki)like have a couple drinks or like I'll have a cocktail and I'll be like go up to someone say they're cute get their number talk on Instagram for a little bit and then I won't really follow through because I don't know things come up or whatever but I'm more shy that's
00:52:17Keep (Kiki)the only reason so if I have someone that can come up and talk to me and start some banter and chat with me and I enjoy it and they get my number then and even better because then in the future
00:52:28Brian Atlasif I'm too shy to make a move or whatever then they can take the reins I guess okay it's just me anybody else here would you maybe you want someone to
00:52:40Brian Atlasapproach you in the Trader Joe's Park coffee shop would you go up have you gone up to a guy yes you're come on come on it's not that hard these days no it's
00:52:51Caitlynreally not it's it's as simple as just it's simply just you're really attractive and that's it like it doesn't have to be like a lot of guys will specifically guys will come up and be like you're really attractive like can I
00:53:04Caitlynget your number it doesn't have to be like that it has to be I have more respect for a guy if he's just like I just want to let you know you're really pretty I'm like okay thank you and they walk away that says so much more yeah
00:53:15Brian Atlasthan a guy being like let me get your snap like that's so ugly cuz guys can be creep at least that's my name like come on if they talk wait hold on so you want to meet a guy in public organically but
00:53:27Brian Atlasyou also want him to just compliment you and walk away and never talk to you again that leads to something oh I see what you're saying have you ever been in the major city you never see like yeah
00:53:38Jenna Foxit happens and it also doesn't happen it could lead to like in LA and I approach a girl somewhere like I'm never seeing her again unless I get her contact info yeah I would say that's so disappointing
00:53:51Keep (Kiki)when like a really attractive guy where you even know if they're cool or not comes over and they compliment you and then you don't hear from them and it's like wait didn't get your information I'll never see that person again it's kind of a bummer it feels good you're
00:54:04Camila (2)like oh I just got to compliment but then you like look back and you're like what if they were really cool and we could have hit it off or that's true I mean there are also situations where like the only time I've really hit on a
00:54:13Camila (2)guy is if like he's my waiter and I just leave my number or like it doesn't need to be super in your face like it can just be like hey like I thought you were really good-looking MH like here's my
00:54:25Brian Atlasnumber text me sure yeah simple as that it doesn't need to be some women do it but it's pretty rare like coup women are more confident
00:54:33Lindanow that I've definitely done it a couple times okay so I don't do it and I I don't advise that people do it if they if you're looking for so it can go deep
00:54:45Lindafor me personally and a lot of the women that I coach like we all have masculine and feminine energy within us um but me personally like I'm more of a core feminine energy especially in
00:54:57Lindarelationship so essentially masculine energy is more of the initiator and at most I would like look in a guy's Direction and
00:55:08Lindasmile um and if he doesn't initiate and come Converse then that's okay then it's nothing's going to come of it but I personally don't initiate it's not that