Lauren Harkins
33yo (at DT#108) / 34yo (at DT#192), Portland ME. Asexual-spectrum secular virgin featured in New York Post article. Background in corrections (residential re-entry center for federal inmates). Transitioning to GBI (Georgia Bureau of Investigation) special agent / criminal investigator at time of DT#108. Attended University of Southern Maine. Has never been on a date; identifies somewhere on asexual spectrum but hesitates to use the label due to political connotations. Would only pursue a relationship with an undeniable soul connection. Ideal type: tall (5'9"+), white, muscular/fit, ambivert. Does not want children. Does not drink. Self-rated: 7 (DT#108). Rates herself a 6 under the lights (DT#192). Pushes cats in a stroller (DT#192).
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34-year-old secular virgin — never been on a date, never been in a relationship. Has been asked out hundreds of times; rejected all. Featured in New York Post article about being a secular virgin. Previous appearance on Whatever podcast (at least once before). Not religious; virginity not based on virtue but on lack of attraction/connection. Would consider having sex ~2 months into the right relationship. Has sexual thoughts but is 'vanilla' in fantasy. Andrew Wilson argued her virginity is identity-based (attention/empowerment), not virtuous — she partially agreed. Rates herself a 6 (under harsh studio lights, feels pale). Would rather die a virgin than settle (her great-aunt died a 100yo virgin). Pushes cats in a stroller.
33-year-old secular virgin. Has never been on a date, never had a crush in person, never experienced in-person sexual attraction. Could acknowledge celebrity attractiveness (Paul Walker). Somewhere on asexual spectrum but avoids the label. Does not want children; open to long-term relationship without marriage. Divorced parents (she was 6). Attended University of Southern Maine (~big commuter school). Former corrections background; transitioning to GBI special agent role. Does not drink or use drugs. In her "let go and let God era." Would rather die a virgin than be with the wrong person.