She Is TOO Hot To Get A Boyfriend?! | Dating Talk #64

Date: 2023-03-20

Duration: 4h 18m

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SPEAKER_09have the guests introduce themselves so please tell us your name age and occupation go ahead I'm

SPEAKER_09talking what else do you do oh and I do adult film okay uh and when you say your dancer at a club are you yeah stripper okay

SPEAKER_13okay oh my honor I'm 21 I'm a singer Bud tender model and I also go to school full time where did you go to school uh sbcc what are you studying marketing so you're a

SPEAKER_13singer yeah I'm a singer let's let's hear something okay okay got you oh [ __ ]

SPEAKER_13and last my love has come along

SPEAKER_13my lonely days are over and life is

SPEAKER_09[Music] wow thank you impressive well done well done you put a little flare on it too oh yeah there you go okay what about you

SPEAKER_03I'm hope Schwing I'm 24 and I'm a social media comedian okay yeah there you go I'm Shania I'm 25 and I work for a hotel

SPEAKER_12my name is Ava I'm 22 and I'm a dancer at a studio and a student when you say you're a dancer at a studio what what do you mean by that at a dance studio what do you teach I teach what kind of

SPEAKER_09dance are we gonna see maybe a little demonstration maybe if you come to a class that would be all right

SPEAKER_10what about you my name is Angela Knight I'm 28 years old and I'm a relationship coach okay yeah I'm Natasha I'm 20 and I'm a content creator

SPEAKER_08all right my name is Sterling Cooper I'm 36 I'm a retired porn star and now I teach guys all around the world how to please a woman in the bedroom and how to make sure their Dick's working properly

SPEAKER_09basically best Legends cool cool all right so oh one thing Shania so it's come to our attention and we so we we're not going to say any names but you

SPEAKER_09have a famous dad yep now you you said maybe we won't give the details but he's in he was in an 80s

SPEAKER_09metal band is that correct yep and he played the guitar he did so do should we challenge the chat to try to guess try to do a little digging and

SPEAKER_09see who that could potentially be best of luck y'all okay guys by the end of this stream her father keep in mind look at her hair that's a

SPEAKER_09clue famous dad 80s metal band guitarist let us know in the chat throughout the show who you think it might be okay so

SPEAKER_09we're gonna go around the table once more what is your current relationship status so are you single do you have a Friends with Benefits talking stage situationship full-blown relationship

SPEAKER_11married and what is your longest relationship go ahead I'm engaged my longest relationship is my current one it's five years

SPEAKER_03single my longest relationship was five years as well I'm single and I haven't been in a legitimate relationship never had a relationship no I had like

SPEAKER_03puppy love in like seventh grade for a month and we maybe looked at each other in the hallway twice and that's probably the closest thing I've had to a boyfriend so yeah and then College like like oh not boyfriends so but yeah there were

SPEAKER_09boys in college but not boyfriends correct okay and you said no legitimate relationships correct so I've had illegitimate illegitimate relationships um I just mean I haven't had a boyfriend

SPEAKER_09so period period yeah yeah gotcha what's the longest stretch of time that you've continued to see one guy I had a friends with benefits for like a few months

SPEAKER_03he wasn't the only friends with benefits so yeah okay so you had multiple like guys at that same time correct but there was no like exclusivity so I wasn't like

SPEAKER_04quote-unquote cheating or anything there was no commitment involved sure I'll I'll come back to that I'll just want to give everyone's answers on this um I am in the talking stage and my longest relationship was about seven

SPEAKER_12months stage new developments cool cool I'm in a situationship I would call it and my longest relationship was three years

SPEAKER_09how long has your situationship been going on oh like months I'd say seven months seven months okay and

SPEAKER_09um do you want it to be more does he want it to be more what's going on there no we're just chilling right now you're just chilling is it exclusive or are you guys seeing other people it's exclusive

SPEAKER_12so you guys have had a conversation about keeping it closed even though it's a situationship yes exactly are you guys in Love no I don't know

SPEAKER_12it's a guy correct I don't think so it's a guy though right yes can I just have you push that cup to the center of the table sure do you want it to be more not right now

SPEAKER_04okay I'm not in the right place oh and Shania how long have you been in the talking stage with uh uh guy

SPEAKER_04um I think maybe three weeks maybe three weeks okay how did you guys meet on bumble on bumble

SPEAKER_05yikes okay um Angela what about you uh I'm engaged and my longest relationship is four years is that who you're currently engaged to okay yeah engaged got it I'm

SPEAKER_08single and my longest relationship was a year and a half roughly and then Sterling I'm currently in a few relationships that are long-term serious ones and the longest relationship I've probably ever

SPEAKER_09been in I think it was before five issues yeah you said a couple how many relationships are you oh I currently have three girlfriends three girlfriends and you have

SPEAKER_08any side hoes I mean yeah uh you know that they yeah I mean I guess yes I don't like I don't really count them in the ecosystem

SPEAKER_08though okay I don't really take them that seriously okay are you trying to bump it up to four girlfriends or are you happy with three uh um I would say I'm still recruiting yes okay still recruiting yeah okay a tasteful way of saying it yeah and do you remember you

SPEAKER_09said you're retired from the adult industry correct okay okay um so you're no longer like shooting scenes no I haven't I haven't seen in like two years okay and they all know about each other the three girlfriends they know they're not

SPEAKER_09exclusive yes they know are they exclusive to you yes okay Chad Good Times um so okay I want to come back to you here really

SPEAKER_09quick so you said you've never the longest period of time you said it was a couple months you see the guy but but there were multiple yeah like there was like the one that

SPEAKER_03was like a few months but there was like it was like one night stands like in between like I wasn't seeing like multiple people for a long period of time it was just that one and because we weren't exclusive I didn't want to like

SPEAKER_09hold myself down for no reason so okay so while you were seeing the couple month guy there were occasionally other guys that kind of came into the picture or yeah it would be just a one-time

SPEAKER_09thing yeah and he would have other girls too okay gotcha has anybody else here at the table had kind of similar uh situation is that where you know you're seeing one guy but then there's some

SPEAKER_09other guys involved too and uh or been dating multiple people at the same time

SPEAKER_13always always never any crossover never fair enough what about you only if they like like if we would participate it all together but like as far as like doing it with

SPEAKER_09multiple people I want to know happen unless we're doing it all together oh you're talking about threesomes yeah have you had more than a threesome

SPEAKER_09foursome yeah five some no you've had foursome though yeah how many what was the breakdown one guy three girls bass okay

SPEAKER_09okay but you've never had a situation where you're dating one guy but it was a talking stage or a situationship or whatever and there were kind of other guys you're seeing have you had that

SPEAKER_13going on dates yeah but like as far as if I'm [ __ ] one person I'm gonna be [ __ ] in that one person okay thank you for putting it bluntly so you you were dating a couple guys at the

SPEAKER_03same time sort of or I wouldn't even say dating like just hooking up yeah and honestly like normally it wasn't with the same person more than once or twice

SPEAKER_09because I don't know I just I didn't really want to see them again so yeah yeah one night stands or pretty yeah

SPEAKER_09first audition you ain't seen him again yeah so okay a couple questions on that so what was the uh and you said you're 24 correct okay and

SPEAKER_09the longest period of time is you said three months right yeah something like that okay three months Okay so what's the because I just I guess I wanted to get a bit

SPEAKER_09more clear you weren't dating multiple guys at the same time as more so there was one guy and then these other guys were just one time maybe two-time things yeah and the guy that I was repeatedly seeing we

SPEAKER_03didn't exactly say that we were exclusive but it was like a common like knowledge that we both knew right but but we still weren't exclusive you know like we were just disclose if we saw somebody else that way like we could

SPEAKER_03keep each other safe all that stuff too but did yeah did you want it to be more or you were just happy situation I think I was like excited by like the idea of it turning into a relationship but like

SPEAKER_03off the grounds that it was started it would not have been a good one so I knew that like I didn't genuinely want that so yeah okay all right so you're seeing the one guy there are a couple guys

SPEAKER_09coming in here and there um we'll we'll talk a bit more about that later on what about you yes the question is um have you ever been dating one guy but

SPEAKER_09then also seeing a guy here a guy there multiple guys at the same time hooking up with multiple guys and and say in the Fortnight 14 day period

SPEAKER_04not really I mean I if I'm talking to someone I'm usually only focusing on them and then there might be like a little spillover like being like okay

SPEAKER_04this one's not working now move on to the next of course of course but yeah usually usually I'm focusing on just one

SPEAKER_12what about you no never never I my lie detector went off okay because talking to someone is different than

SPEAKER_12like seeing them so I have not seen several guys at the same what's the difference between talking and seeing just conversating versus actually being with them in person we're talking sex

SPEAKER_09here um are we talking sex no because when I if someone says I'm talking to somebody I'm me I'm thinking they're [ __ ] oh no no no okay so you've never lighthearted okay so you are one person

SPEAKER_10at a time yes oh yeah definitely okay Angela what about you no I've always always been in a relationship so it was just sort of always study always been in a relationship okay Natasha yeah I've never been with multiple people at a

SPEAKER_09time okay all right um so oh [ __ ] dropping [ __ ] okay I want to bring it back to you again so you said you had one guy and then there

SPEAKER_03would be these other guys that come in um how frequently would like other guys come in um I don't really know there wasn't like a repetitive pattern also I feel like I need to disclose that the only reason

SPEAKER_03why there were multiple guys is because the guys that I was seeing they didn't like stop seeing other people for me so I was like well why should I do that for you so like if like if he had wanted me

SPEAKER_03to stop seeing people I probably would I like actually would have but there was no point but I'd say like um like I don't know I don't know it was pretty

SPEAKER_09like frequent but like okay you know yeah sure okay okay so hold on I gotta get to a couple chats here um let me just pull this oops hold on yo we

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SPEAKER_09likes to 1 000 let's get to one thousand likes but thank you guys 3 500 people watching the chat is on fire by the way did anybody guess who uh shania's

SPEAKER_09dad is besides her current boyfriend I feel like I'm on Maury have you been have you been track of the chat

SPEAKER_04I haven't seen any guesses on who the dad is there no no if somebody guesses it do you say or

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SPEAKER_09I get that a lot so while we while we wait for that I don't know why it's not hold on let me see what's going on here with the [ __ ] thing um how many uh scenes have you done

SPEAKER_08Sterling uh over 300. somewhere between 300 and 400 scenes yeah over the course of like five years so what's your body count uh like in excess of 600 700 something like that

SPEAKER_08the only reason I don't even know the rough numbers because like I literally kept track of all the scenes I did because right how much money am I making sure yeah I think kind of tracking that shit's a bit dorky if I'm being honest right yeah

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SPEAKER_09yo slid 404c okay thank you for the 100 man ladies need to quit saying talking stage when you're either sleeping or not with that guy happy I am witnessing a funny female comedian The Joke is on her

SPEAKER_09about sleeping around that will work out for her future leftover nice guy that finished last your response to slid 404

SPEAKER_03C2 df61e six four three eight one six what part do I respond to um The Joke is on her about sleeping around that will work out okay wait what part am I actually

SPEAKER_03responding to there was like seven sentences

SPEAKER_03because it wasn't a question it was more of a statement word so I mean I think that are they saying that nice guys finished last that's what they're saying

SPEAKER_09so then that's uh that your future leftover nice guy that you're PR I assume that you're gonna he's saying that you're gonna settle with he finished last

SPEAKER_09okay there's some assumptions being made there yeah I mean I guess that Dave Mustaine

SPEAKER_03I am having brain issues right now uh I know that it I mean it's working for me now because I'm not even that upset about it you know like not ever I

SPEAKER_03mean it would be fun to get into a relationship and stuff like that but being I haven't really gotten in one I'm not that eager to get into one because I'm really good at being single and I'm

SPEAKER_03really really independent and honestly like if a nice guy settles for me that's okay because if he's settling that means that I had to settle too because I'm not going anywhere I don't want to

SPEAKER_08um yeah just really quickly so why I mean you mentioned a couple of times before like if they had been exclusive to you first then you would have been exclusive to them and it could have turned into

SPEAKER_08something right why why is it his responsibility to be exclusive first um I think it's just something that we both mutually have to say first not

SPEAKER_03necessarily like he has to do it first I actually like when I'm like when I actually like like somebody at first I I am quite loyal to them especially emotionally like physically and like not

SPEAKER_03so much because I think that nowadays like physical relationships are so like easy to come across like they're not that meaningful they're easy to come across for women they're not they're not easy to come across for the average guy it

SPEAKER_03does go to the Tango so I I don't know completely but um I think me I'm more emotionally loyal than I am physically at the beginning of a talking phase with somebody wrong wait

SPEAKER_03can you say wait can you can you just repeat what said I'm I'm loyal if I see that there

SPEAKER_03is potential like I okay what I said was I am more loyal emotionally in the beginning of when I first meet somebody and see like there could be like something possibly there but

SPEAKER_03not so much physically because the physical stuff doesn't mean as much to me as like the emotional stuff because I mean it's 2023 like people do sleep around they do and I think like the emotional investment is more important

SPEAKER_10than the physical one obviously if I'm like seeing a guy and he like like has sex with another girl like that's gonna make me mad but from the get-go like in the beginning of meeting somebody it's just what do you think that's detrimental for

SPEAKER_10you that you're saying that it's more emotional that that's what matters for you but what about for the guys part like you're saying physical does it matter but for him that does matter I don't see anybody else physically if I

SPEAKER_13think that he is also not why do you have to think it why can't you like talk about it if you were the first to initiate this conversation and get the answer then you could just stop it right

SPEAKER_03there instead of so I think my issue like or not even my issue it's hard to talk to a guy to tell him to stop seeing other girls straight off the bat because then they're gonna get

SPEAKER_03scared away that's like what I've noticed because do you think that's something you have to tell a guy or does he know when he just has to do it um I don't know I feel like it's more like 50 50 because he could bring it up if it's like a concern to him and then I can bring it up if it's a concern to me

SPEAKER_10but when we're getting to know each other like it's hard to tell what will be receptive to him do you think I'd like that on your end because he does that on purpose or just that's just how it is does one on purpose the fact that it's confusing most of the time if

SPEAKER_10you're confused is because he wants it to be confusing a guy actually knows when they want to be with a girl don't you think so yeah and that's generally when I'm not like super physically invested in him and I'll see other people what are you showing interest when you

SPEAKER_10lose interest in like that's what I sounded like to me uh she said that like if he isn't showing interest right because when you would do anything you're playing like a cat Mouse game then it's almost like saying I want to be fit for the summer but like

SPEAKER_10springtime winter time you're eating like [ __ ] so by the time you want a relationship that guy's gonna be like you should you showed me that you're never going to be relationship material because you're just like having fun yeah

SPEAKER_08I'm having fun until I see that there's no reason not to anymore there's also something holding me back so I cut you off yeah there's also something here where just by going on what you've told us

SPEAKER_08about the guys that you are seeing you are proactively picking men who have options you're not settling you're not picking the guy who would commit to you because he ain't got a bunch of other

SPEAKER_08women he wants to [ __ ] if but you see what I'm trying to say here like you're you're actually the guys you're picking they're not committing to you because the guys you're picking are guys that have a ton of options you're picking guys yeah what

SPEAKER_13if you set your intentions like if you told them like oh I want it this way and I'm gonna I'm gonna do it this way I Wanna [ __ ] you so you're gonna [ __ ] me and if that's not what you want to do you decide then it's like okay well then I'm gonna sleep around

SPEAKER_13with other people as well like I understand what you're saying but like if there was a if you are just sleeping around because you think that this person doesn't want to be with you then it kind of like defeats the purpose because now we both don't trust each

SPEAKER_13other instead of we could have just established a situation where we did understand that we both wanted to [ __ ] each other and other people or we just wanted to do it with each other or whatever the case may be I know that

SPEAKER_13talking about is really scary but at the same time it might be necessary to break a pattern or stop a cycle of doing the same things over and over yeah that's that's kind of what I was trying to get yeah like break the pattern and I agree

SPEAKER_03and I think I shouldn't I think I just said think again I shouldn't have used the word thinking but they aren't seeing anyone it's like you're showing they're showing it like I've had guys I took them like two we went on multiple dates

SPEAKER_08together and the next time him out and he showed up with his ex-girlfriend and I'm like what the heck I was like what in the world yeah but also my next my next question to you would be

SPEAKER_08what are you doing to try to keep these guys around what do you do apart from sex take sex off the table for like one second what what are you showing this

SPEAKER_03guy or the any of these guys hey this makes me go for material um I feel like that I withhold what I actually want to say when I do like somebody because I just feel like so

SPEAKER_03many guys nowadays are so scared of relationships as well and whenever like a girl like may show interest or like girlfriend material every time I've shown myself like as like a girlfriend

SPEAKER_03material woman they just run away isn't he stopped sleeping with you or they say I don't want to be exclusive sexually to you um they'll like knows me

SPEAKER_03it's like weird because I'll just be like oh do you want to FaceTime or how was your day and then they're like goodbye I miss leave and I'm just like what so it's on but again I don't have

SPEAKER_08relationship experience so like I'm not good at this you know so it makes sense if you've never ridden to Bosco before it's like really hard to learn it doesn't have a lot of bike you know like yeah it's I I do feel for your situation it's it sounds like it's a bit

SPEAKER_08rough um but yeah on it just just being just being brutally honest I'm trying to help the girl um but just being brutally honest you gotta you're picking

SPEAKER_08like it's if if you want to keep doing what you're doing fine it's your life you're right but if you want something different you gotta stop you're picking the wrong guys you're attracted you know you know you are but you still keep

SPEAKER_03doing it you're attracted to these guys for a reason you're attractive yeah and it's like I think the reason why I have like not kept like one around for a long time is because like I just have this awful like self-sabotaging mindset I'm

SPEAKER_03just like well we're gonna leave anyways so I might as well get over with you know so and like I feel like other people can relate to that too like I know that I'm not like crazy by thinking this but yeah I don't I don't know if I made any

SPEAKER_08sense or not what about just hypothetically just consider this as a possibility what if you ever went up to one of these guys and said hey I will be exclusive to you and I'll be your girlfriend but you're allowed to have sex with other women

SPEAKER_08have you ever contemplated that as an option I have not because I haven't talked to them long enough I haven't even gotten to know them even if I would want to it works extremely well I'm just telling you it works extremely well yes especially the kind of guys the guys

SPEAKER_08you're actually attracted to clearly have options otherwise they wouldn't near the top of the rank in it okay and I'll tell you exactly how to guarantee you're the top just talk about it

SPEAKER_08oh yeah I want you to be with me and you can still do what you want like that's not something that usually happens yep correct but also that gives you a lot of room to be taken advantage of no but it also look if a guy like I don't see like where they're taking advantage of is

SPEAKER_08happening if he's being honored if you're both being honest he starts taking these other girls on what about me I'm in the house waiting for you I'll tell you I'll tell you I'll tell you how you guarantee your places Queen like that is by saying that for a start being

SPEAKER_08open and honest about it being like hey I want to be exclusive to you sexually and you are allowed to have some strange on the side quote a man Patrice O'Neal over here uh rest in peace rest in peace

SPEAKER_08but the way you the way you guarantee your place is Queen is you bring your mother girls to [ __ ] together sorry yeah swear on your podcast tell me if I'm wrong like if if your

SPEAKER_10girlfriend brings you another girl to have sex with she is immediately beaten any other girl that he has ever dated instantly Angela you're you're looking a little I just I think it's just a toxic mindset

SPEAKER_08but I guess that's just the culture that we're in nowadays I think it's a happy mindset I guarant like that that dude's happy she's happy if she's got she's keeping him around like threesomes are fun no one's having a bad time during a

SPEAKER_09threesome well I would have wanted to bring him over with me but but Sterling so you are talking about like high status high value men because most of that like average guy can't pull

SPEAKER_08it off right well I'm I'm just by the way she's describing the guys she's uh attracting like they are clearly guys that have options on the table are they they sound like it to me well yeah yeah

SPEAKER_08so they seem to have other girls they're talking so I think that those kind of guys could totally pull that off just just be honest you know did you want to respond no I mean again like that's

SPEAKER_08that's for like what the top five ten percent of guys in that I don't know that was my point where I'm saying like she ain't settling for the average guy clearly not because because what you just described in your

SPEAKER_08you know uh what you were saying a second ago is like most guys most guys these days something to this affect most guys these days like don't want to commit and have like a bunch of options and stuff I better tell you right now as

SPEAKER_08a guy who talks to lots of men most guys do not have options most guys are like 30 something like this 30 of men today are either virgins or have not had sex in the last year what's that thing where

SPEAKER_13like when you get in a relationship then all those people start jumping in your DMs or trying to talk to you all right never heard of that yeah I'm not I'm not sure what the phrase for that is but uh I don't know the phrase either but she's saying like once you get a girlfriend

SPEAKER_09then you start then you start or you get married then you start getting attention from oh yeah because women want women are attracted to guys that have options exactly and then also about um I'm gonna say it in a rude way like guys don't

SPEAKER_08have no control so that's why they can't just stay with one woman and that's what they're saying like oh Tilly respectfully why because for a man to even have Choice

SPEAKER_08with women in the first place he has to build himself up he has to either I mean most guys it has to be Charming make a bunch of money have some status have some swag about them like that's to even

SPEAKER_08have more than one woman interested in the first place so if I've spent my entire life as a guy building up my status or learning how to be a smooth talker or making money or whatever why

SPEAKER_08should I settle for one woman why why honestly honestly why because I spent my whole life the one man settle for one man because it's easy for a woman I have to work to get access to vagina

SPEAKER_05let's say right you don't have to sorry to cut yourself you don't have to work to get access to the average guy Natasha you go ahead and then we'll have them respond I do have a question so the idea that you are um not sexually

SPEAKER_05exclusive to your woman and she is sexually exclusive to you that you believe that that's a loving relationship right there absolutely because I love my woman I love them all and all three of them yeah I do I truly I truly do I truly love them yeah I can

SPEAKER_05completely there might be a fourth coming in is there a fourth in the word uh there was there was four and I fired one okay so okay however sorry go ahead Natasha I mean to me as a woman I would feel very threatened by that I would not

SPEAKER_05want my man seeing other women right and that's partly because I feel like love it's a selfless thing to love someone right and so when you're doing something selfish like going and you know fulfilling your immediate desires by

SPEAKER_05going to other women for that that's an that's a selfish thing to do you could say it's selfish for her to want to keep me all to herself too but it's not because if you're both committed to each other then it's you're both selfless to each other and that is

SPEAKER_13oh well I I I show I I show I think men show their love very differently to the way that women show love have you ever been in a situation where like it felt like you and that person you were with were the only people around or like

SPEAKER_13there you know what I'm saying have you ever felt that you mean like in terms of like a monogamous exclusivity no like say you went on a date and it was like your first day and y'all had a kiss and it felt like everyone around you disappeared you know like those those

SPEAKER_13movies that yeah like she's the only one like oh my gosh she's the only one for me so are you saying that like it doesn't last and that's why you should have I'm saying I've definitely had that experience so then if you've had that experience why do you need to find the other people why are you looking for the other people if you felt because like it

SPEAKER_08was like to just be I can have that experience with multiple women sure it's true I mean it's honest to God honestly I'm not trying to pull anyone's leg I I genuinely am in love with the women that I'm dating and they're in love with me and they're

SPEAKER_08very happy you know and it works everyone's happy like I don't see the problem here like if everyone's happy I don't see why we shouldn't be doing it you know I have a question so you coach men on relationships and stuff right I don't really quote you on relationships

SPEAKER_12as such I coach them more specifically in the bedroom oh okay got it nevermind I I want to say something because it's a weird situation how when I'm in love I

SPEAKER_12only want that person and then your type of love is like you can still love these other people and still yeah men and women love very differently very differently amen we're saying that women

SPEAKER_08are we the only ones taking the compromise what's the compromise I make the compromise I make is I have to look after all of them financially no I'm serious

SPEAKER_09Am I Wrong come on wait what you just said he got you I am [ __ ] oh all right I'll take the W cool

SPEAKER_08point of clarification so you are fully financially responsible for your three girlfriends when they're whenever they're around a year so until the moment they have well so right now I'm trying to get a couple of them pregnant um and that means that will that will be no that will that will mean okay like

SPEAKER_08here's the house you don't you don't work anymore like everything's taken care of you don't work well I would much rather I don't I don't date girls who would want to work if they had a child with me go on I want mothers I date mothers I

SPEAKER_09date women who want to be mothers that's that's quite a reactions

SPEAKER_04no um I'm just that's not at all what I'm used to so I'm like wow do they all live together are you open to this kind of arrangement so I have a question the relationship with the three girls you

SPEAKER_10have you seem like you work a lot you travel and all that stuff so when you come home do you have like a in-depth conversation with them yeah I love I love my cuddle time I'm like I'll sit there and cuddle on the couch and net

SPEAKER_10with Netflix and just just sit there and give a my undivided attention but like in depth so I'm comparing it to like my relationship for example like he works a lot so when I do see him oh hold on just a second Super chatted

SPEAKER_0099.99 ladies get over it if a man worked hard to be the top owner you really do not have leverage to tell him what to do in

SPEAKER_00relationships men with abundance are not afraid to lose girls respectfully you're not that special I think you had to I had the last part yeah

SPEAKER_03the previous sentence was a good point do you have a response to Alvin Sam you seemed a bit irked or was it irked I do is it oh you're going yeah so does the same go like if a woman is the breadwinner in the relationship a man

SPEAKER_10can't say [ __ ] Yeah she wouldn't be happy so it's pointless to talk about true good point no girl wants to lead a relationship very good point so that's like no girl wants to what lead a relationship yep why not you'd be happy with going home like working all day

SPEAKER_10long feeding him taking care of him all that [ __ ] like and he just don't have a son you you want your man to be in the kitchen and raising your kids just I don't know I'm in California do you think that sisters are young

SPEAKER_09wait but Angela this is your first time in California right like you're from Florida this is interesting okay yeah yeah welcome yeah so do you think the way you 24 or 34

SPEAKER_03you'd feel the same way I might would you rather like be like in I don't know in the construction wait wait change your kid's diaper um I wouldn't be doing construction well I have a degree so like I can use that I

SPEAKER_03went to college and like I am I am educated it may not look like it or sound like it right now but um I can get a job and I can what though I have a business degree in a Spanish minor and also I have my own business already so

SPEAKER_10you would be okay with dating a guy and he was just at home and you took care majority of the bills like when the bills had to be paid all like all the majority like the bills I feel like as a woman the only thing I'm willing to settle for is the equal

SPEAKER_10but like as a man they will they can pay for you and you could just do whatever you want right I mean you I could do that but I could I'm a control freak so I could you do it changing the tires oil change paint the wall I would pay someone to go

SPEAKER_10do it that's my friend those are different stuff because if I had to pay another man to come to my house to fix the wall when there's a man at home that could do it I would not respect that no not at all some men don't grow up learning those

SPEAKER_10skills though but do you think you enable that what you enabled that there's YouTube there's Home Depot well okay okay in that case go have sex with a plumber

SPEAKER_08okay cool if you go if you want that in a guy then go sleep with a guy who's a plumber go sleep with a guy who's a mechanic but you're not sleeping with guys who are plumbers and mechanics are you you're sleeping you're probably sleeping with guys who have a bit a bit more like high status or have a big social media who are in a band or

SPEAKER_10something like this is the culture now nobody actually grows with their partner anymore like nobody actually wants to start a relationship ship from the ground with anybody anymore everybody wants to finish at the finish line that's why we have these crazy standards of like dating a guy that has created his status and now you have to submit to

SPEAKER_10the ideas that we've created this is this is his metrics you kind of have to submit to it but if you're a date like for me I met mine who's dead broke so for me it's like we don't have that type of like relationship where I have to submit to these crazy I was there when there was nothing I was there when there was like no idea what the future is

SPEAKER_10going to be and that's like unconditional in my mind so it's it's more traditional but I think that is good you had you had faith in the guy oh hold on just a sec guys 100 thank you man I

SPEAKER_00considered myself a high value man I make seven figures and would be considered a seven why would I choose you over a traditional woman

SPEAKER_11I feel like everyone wants a different type of relationship so what's traditional to you might be someone else's different traditional you know so no

SPEAKER_13I mean like yeah everyone thinks differently what would make uh a seven that has some money what would I be worthwhile to them uh I don't know I feel like you would just

SPEAKER_12see it if you don't see it you don't see it not everyone's for everyone exactly what if you're a woman who doesn't care about money then what value do you have if you've based everything off money you don't care about money I'm not saying me

SPEAKER_12I'm saying in general if you're a woman who doesn't there is people out there who care and this is this is me as well I could say I'm I'm including myself in this if you don't think that money is

SPEAKER_13the biggest thing ever then what status are you at but in other ways I think that's when you enjoy someone's company and you love them and you want to be away with being happy and in love with your partner how dare you

SPEAKER_13if he struggling and he can't pay the bills he can't pay him this month I'll pay him yeah

SPEAKER_08tolerant of that at a younger age than when you say it again you can make things work when you're young you gotta find people on your same level what can I ask what what age could you meet your your husband four years ago so when I

SPEAKER_08was 24 yeah good age yeah yeah but but that's like you you found a good horse and you back that horse and you stuck by it depends on the culture like I come from like poverty so I didn't have much

SPEAKER_10to bargain with so I mean a lot of I'm in Miami now and I see a lot of the girls who are you're born with status value as women they get really hot you have boobs you have ass social media really glorifies how you look so therefore we already feel like we're tense but the problem is that

SPEAKER_10deteriorates when the guy meets you and you're not smart or like you're not intellectually like there emotionally connected with anyone you don't have common sense you don't have wits that slowly dwindles down like the looks go away because there's other girls that are going to be hotter who match and

SPEAKER_10who's willing to do more for Less so that's why I'm saying that it's a corrupted culture when it comes to dating because everyone's just kind of devaluing their self at this point because you don't realize they're not offering much in the relationship you're not willing to start when he's [ __ ] you don't want to date the potential but

SPEAKER_10then you also don't want to submit to dating three girls one time with a guy so you're kind of [ __ ] is what I'm saying you're spitting I'm just saying it sucks and being here in California like I'm seeing it I'm just like whoa

SPEAKER_11this is wild like is there hope no there's not I feel like hold on so I feel like if you go into it with honesty like a lot of people on their

SPEAKER_11dating profiles they'll put like oh I watched this this or this there you go um so I have scoliosis really yeah it's all good so I just don't want the mic to block your face but go ahead so um I feel like if you're honest like

SPEAKER_11completely open a lot of people will put whatever the hell they want on their bio be like oh I want this I'm looking for this this and this you know and then when you talk to them I feel like how do these people not know like boundaries and stuff and they're like oh I don't

SPEAKER_11feel comfortable talking about this this and this what if he doesn't like this just be straight up and tell them what you're looking for in a relationship and if that's not them move on to somebody else fair enough and also just to kind of circle this back to our previous conversation where we were kind of

SPEAKER_09talking about I think someone was mentioning something about well the woman being the breadwinner I think it stemmed from you taking care of all your three girlfriends uh so Keely you would you say you're the breadwinner in

SPEAKER_11your relationship definitely yeah but uh my boyfriend does make money too like he sells pedals and guitars and so we both make money but obviously like I make a lot more just

SPEAKER_09because my industry and he's not in that industry so right and just so just to recap you're engaged you've been seeing your boyfriend for five years uh but you

SPEAKER_09you are you're a stripper yep and you do only fans and then you do a traditional adult content too okay um and so because of because uh of your

SPEAKER_09work in the adult industry you are the breadwinner in your relationship yes and you're okay and you're fine with it I'm okay with that yeah okay for how long uh well when we first met like I know it's unconditional and we love each

SPEAKER_11other because we're so comfortable around each other like we literally fart around each other sometimes like when you're so comfortable like for real though okay like when you live with somebody you're so comfortable like if that's important to be comfortable don't live

SPEAKER_10with your girl she's gonna start farting and [ __ ] I'm just saying like the relationship getting complacent from there like if you're doing things like that I think there's some things that you just shouldn't well because like we met when we when we first met we were both like

SPEAKER_11so like when we first met we were both doing like retail he was a lifeguard I was working at like you know waitressing and grocery stores and all that so like when we both met we were like dead broke

SPEAKER_11and we knew like our situations when we first met like I would have like when I first met him I was never like I was very goody goody you know very shy and I never thought I would be doing the work that I'm doing today but I'm glad I did

SPEAKER_11because [ __ ] when covet happened I was like what am I gonna do everyone's losing their jobs and so that's actually how I got into the adult entertainment because like someone actually reached out to me online on Instagram and they're like hey do you want to do porn

SPEAKER_11at first I was like No And then I asked my boyfriend you know like we're really struggling right now would you be comfortable if I did this you can totally say no but like we need money right now and then like yeah and he was

SPEAKER_11okay with it but like I wouldn't be doing what I was doing I don't you know so sure how much are you making from only fans if you don't mind me asking um 2 000 or 3 000 a month just from only

SPEAKER_11times though how about like your total income related to making adult content and stripping so I haven't been doing films a lot lately but um like maybe if months and months ago

SPEAKER_11months and some but um I'd say I coverage with all my incomes together I'd say look I make like sometimes on a crappy month I can make like 4 000 a month or three thousand a month and then

SPEAKER_11sometimes it could be like seven thousand but then I spend a lot so I don't spend a lot well not a lot but like food is expensive and I don't have like a traditional living situation

SPEAKER_11because we're like van lifers so oh you're a band Live yeah like we like to travel and stuff huh nothing so wait are you guys uh we eat out every day we go to like grocery stores and like Whole

SPEAKER_11Foods and we get like steak every day we spend like 50 24 yeah like carnivore yeah like um but like I have fruit um I'm an animal based diet so like I'll have like 50 bucks or 100 bucks a day

SPEAKER_11sometimes on food but food is expensive though wait but where's home base for you is it Santa Barbara yeah okay okay wait so would you say you love him I love them of course

SPEAKER_10no we're together I'm not worried about it you know if somebody offered you an entire lifestyle like they would pay for everything and more what you're making you said you're making like four or three someone said I'm gonna give you 10 grand every month you don't have to work

SPEAKER_08well I can be with them and just have my boyfriend like be like well obviously I have sugar daddies and my boyfriend's totally cool so how is it how is that any different to what I'm doing you're

SPEAKER_08okay you're all getting outraged the fact that I am free happy loving girlfriends and she has a sugar daddy and you ain't getting pissed about that because I'm not in love with them I'm just in love with my man

SPEAKER_13how is you having another girl contributing to the other girls that you have I that's right how is you having separate girls contributing to them each other like her if she has a sugar daddy

SPEAKER_08because I'm happier that's why oh yeah they get a they get a infinitely happier boyfriend who also works his ass off

SPEAKER_08harder because he has to look after multiple chicks I don't care it's true I gotta work three times as hard hey every relationship has its own things you know

SPEAKER_09whatever works for you works for you you know so just I want to touch on the you said you had a couple sugar daddies yeah how much do is it like a monthly allowance so I have this thing can I

SPEAKER_11mention the website or no is it thinking yeah yeah I have like multiple sugar daddies I have I have a lot of fun though like sometimes my boyfriend and I hang out with the sugar daddies just like we go out to the bar or something

SPEAKER_11and I've met some really cool people it's like a swingers yeah no not swingers I would say like no no yes but like like one time so we have like we've actually made friends with some of them

SPEAKER_09because some of them are just chill wait I have a question for you Eric can you pull up the chat chat wait does is your boyfriend down to come on the show he's totally down

SPEAKER_09do you want to see have us bring her fiancee Jesus what are you doing over there okay yo yo

SPEAKER_09oh my God all right we'll get oh oh oh whoa okay one more time maybe one more time okay all right um free fit check there guys you're welcome

SPEAKER_09um yeah one in the chat if we should have her boyfriend come on the show two in the chat or fiance rather two in the

SPEAKER_09chat if uh no for the boyfriend fiancee they're definitely gonna say yes but he's gonna like I I'm you're probably already hold on you probably

SPEAKER_11already know this like he's gonna get roasted part of being online is you're gonna get hated it is what it is you know he's gonna get destroyed but like if he's down like he's totally because he's aware of it so it could be he's

SPEAKER_09thick skinned yeah we're both kind of based so that's cool it could be cool to have him like uh share his perspective obviously and you seem very open-minded very open open about sharing some of these he would love to be on here too he's talking and release oh awesome yeah

SPEAKER_08well and you know what's interesting podcast is that your your relationship situation is actually incredibly common in the adult industry yeah super super like your your exact story that you just described like

SPEAKER_09do you think Sterling when it comes to kind of these adult uh relationships that occur in the adult entertainment industry you often hear from a lot of people in the space that uh well a girl who's done sex work never gonna get find

SPEAKER_08a guy do you think that's kind of cool oh that's do you think it's cope they will find a guy like that instantly I guarantee you because there's always a guy hmm like he might not be a first

SPEAKER_08pick sure but there's always a guy somewhere in the bushes waiting to jump in somebody out there everyone's got their soul mates most people it's always there I wouldn't I look I don't believe

SPEAKER_08in the whole I don't believe in soulmates but I will say that you know what the situation actually is is it's act like does your boyfriend I don't know if does your boyfriend do like help you out with any of the business stuff

SPEAKER_11um he's not really into the sex workers he doesn't do like video editing or social media content but yeah sometimes he does go on seeking and text the sugar daddies but hey babe get up get ready we got this guy he's gonna pay you a

SPEAKER_11thousand bucks to go meet him and okay so he does a little bit of admin yeah he's kind of my manager I do it myself just because I'm lazy he'll like text people for me okay I'm glad you said hold on just a second guys

SPEAKER_00yo Devon thank you man dollars one in the chatty Feud rather have multiple relationships like Sterling 2 in the chat if you'd rather be like this chick's Future Husband yeah let's pull

SPEAKER_09up the chat here uh okay oh my God he's gonna yeah he's gonna get dragged but he's he's a good sport it sounds like yo Devon thank you for the 100 man appreciate thinking about it lately I mean open relationship can't be too bad

SPEAKER_13yeah I mean it could be horrible depending on what type of person you are if you're the main person though I know closed on the girls side yeah boo yeah if it's closer no I don't like that I

SPEAKER_08mean what if the girl likes girls and she just wants to bring all those girls home oh that's totally fine that's code but I thought it was close you know exactly what I mean though stop pretending like you don't know what we're talking about so you're telling me

SPEAKER_13I can't bring 50 [ __ ] home in one day of gold two [ __ ] no no extra penises allowed in the bedroom zero penis okay how about I go no penis allowed we don't like the penis

SPEAKER_09happiness what strap-on for you yeah sure

SPEAKER_09your girl got Kings [Laughter] I do have yeah go ahead I'll touch on some of the flavor with the sugar daddy gross no

SPEAKER_09by the way guys we did get the TTS worked out so I'm gonna I'm gonna trigger these uh here really quick let's see I'll just do this one again right now I'm okay [Music]

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SPEAKER_00talking stage when you were either sleeping or not with that guy I am witnessing a funny female comedian The Joke is on her about sleeping around

SPEAKER_09that will work out for her future leftover nice guy that finished last hey thank you for that man appreciate it thank you

SPEAKER_00you guys know that no did this I don't know if this one came in but I'm gonna [Music] thank you connected 100 thank you man that was me I was letting the fake

SPEAKER_00comedian know that no real man will submit to her demands men lead women follow your issue is you need to just go with the flow stop telling men what they

SPEAKER_00can or can't do a man will lead you to the promised land your response to cheeks

SPEAKER_03yes he will okay men have submitted to my demands I just haven't really demanded what you think I did and that was a relationship and I've never demanded a relationship from anyone but they do what I say

SPEAKER_03because I have been actually the power like House of these phases or talking phases or hook-up phases and all that stuff like I have been the one like

SPEAKER_03that gives more like I don't know we'll like eat we'll like order doordash because we don't really leave much but like I would pay I would do whatever and he was happy as hell I think like the issue like before like our issue with me

SPEAKER_03saying that I'm okay with being the breadwinner was that it was like misconstrued like I simply just meant that like I think it pushes us backwards if we're just expecting men to be the breadwinner

SPEAKER_03all the time like women can be the breadwinner and also not every woman wants to be a stay-at-home mom if she's making that making bread you know like and if the husband's like fine with it there's so many stay-at-home dads nowadays too and yeah but that's not

SPEAKER_08happen I don't think that's a very fulfilling and happy relationship for those two it's not the ideal scenario like what should I pretend like the arrogance we have and I'm not saying you specifically I mean I mean our society right the arrogance that we have

SPEAKER_08in this generation to think that what's worked for humans for thousands of years we somehow know better because we have an iPhone and we have Instagram oh we're better than our grandparents and our

SPEAKER_08great grandparents and our great great grandparents who works who lived and strived through much harder living conditions than we could ever possibly imagine and they did it successfully because the mother stayed at home and raised the kids and the man went out and

SPEAKER_03brought home the bacon the divorce rate is 50 now yeah yeah and look what we're doing we're doing exactly what you just describe there are people who are married and like where the male is the breadwinner and they still get divorces

SPEAKER_10that's also because the Barons also [ __ ] up here women initiate the door

SPEAKER_03there are so many women like I see stories also like they have nothing because they like put all their faith in the breadwinning man and because they vet them poorly I think women vet men poorly now I completely agree with that

SPEAKER_08I would like to ask you a question and then being being uh you know someone's very opinionated in relationship coach and then I'd like to hear your opinions on this too how would you no no because it's specifically no because especially right how would you feel let's

SPEAKER_08hypothetically let's say you weren't already you know married to your guy right how would you feel about your father vetting your dating choices no problem with that are you Vietnamese by the way okay yeah